I'm living on a boat and only have internet access when I sail into a port to stock up on provisions so I'm not keeping up on things like RU-vid. Mostly I don't miss it, but damn, you're getting better and better all the time. You're becoming a 21st century Terrence McKenna.
Yes from Dysney's beauties to the Hollywood ones we are sold "the look" the problem is we all believe it at some point of our lives or another and you said it, we fetishise it. We are sold the image of big white houses/palaces, fast cars, hot people that are supposed to be our models to follow so that we can feel loved and happy....That is why our parents, teachers, governments, song writers & singers or any celebrities religiously bend over those "ideals", they believe and expect us to achieve the so called "STANDART" of a "happy life". All of them are telling us that we must be attractive, clever, rich, so on and so forth, if not what?... Do you not have a chance to be happy? Really!?! Would you never be loved? Or what? ... not be noticed by hundreds and thousands, who don't even care about you?.... Is it true that rich people are happy and genuinely loved? Many of them are scared to death not to be scammed by some pretty hot bimboes ... Yes they attract a lot more attention, but is it really the type of attention anyone wants? Are only the hottest men and women in the world loved? They are well desired by some, given...but how many of them are abused over that? How many of them you think are really happy or truly loved? Not all of them in my personal observations...we all see many dramas. What are we doing now? Trying to measure up against those "standards"? No thank you, I don't want to be a blonde bimbo with plastic claws, bleaching my hair every month to keep up the Barbie look, tickling my forehead with stuck up eye lashes carrying as much silicone around my bones as my own flesh, freezing my muscles so the skin doesn't move... and all for what? To have a few more "admirers" of the artificial look, a group of professionals or amateurs can achieve on a human body, that are only going to treat you as a trophy... as they can say Gosh it is sooo expensive to look that ....cheap... (Pardon me good 🤭) No thank you, I know our parents believe in that and hope that if they couldn't achieve this, you might or will... they only told us the same lie everyone believed, that this is the way to happiness and love. Sadly we all try to compare with that standard and seeing how far from it we are every time makes us feel miserable and not enough... Not enough for what? Let's stop numbing ourselves of real us...if I have to work hard and change my entire look for love, how likely is that to be love? Whilst we are measuring how close we are to the standards we can see how far we are from ourselves. I would rather stay in my own zone, do what I love doing, following my own nose and relying on my own blessings... might not be perfect by some, but I don't need it to be...
Yes we have created a strange society where people work jobs that they hate, to buy crap that they don't need to impress people that they don't like! (Fight club ;)
I think I have the pack rat gene, I've had anxiety about throwing stuff out my whole life, but when I do, and realize I can survive with out all that distracting mess weighing me down, I also feel much lighter. There's a dilemma for me though. I like making stuff and fixing stuff, rather than buying stuff, and I always need things for my projects. I often throw something out and then need it the next week. My goal is to be more minimalist, but I don't think its going to happen until the day I stop doing things.
So now it’s call “ minimalist “ in my day it was called being poor. I’m grateful I have a roof over my head, food to eat, and hand me down clothed on my back.
Ad Block. It’s cheap or even free. This is all so true. Makes me glad I’ve got very little money to buy stuff I don’t need. And older. When it became fashionable in the 80’s to wear ‘label’ on t shirts I thought it was absurd - if I am expected to be a walking advertisement for their company they should be paying ME!
There’s nothing left in mainstream society that is desirous for me anymore… I’m basically over it, I would rather return to the land and farm. As long as I have money to live comfortably and meet basic needs, I’ll be fine with it…
Dont be a bounded Slave - be an Explorer with childlike curious eye. If i want to be influenced/manipulated i ask others. (Read twice) I dont watch TV since many years - If i want information i search specifically. So the Algorithmen of search engine feeds my proactive and conscious doing. Let the system work for you.
Devolution is rapidly occurring, we are in for tough times in the future, but this couldn’t have happened any other way. This is a cycle and it’s supposed to happen. Hopefully humanity deals with it in the best way possible.
Does that mean you have a small house? No iphone? asic car? what have you given upto make his money need less? have you ever celebrated Him just for being him? My life became vastly simpler when I decided to ignore what women say.
My husband swapped our 2 litre Capri for a beamer in 1988. I was horrified Divorced 6 months later He got into beak at the same time. The 2 went together well. No need for me to hang around Hate printer jumpers 🤣🤣
...how’s that working for you? He is enough and I constantly tell him this. I don’t spend his money, we have separate bank accounts, I have my own and contribute to all we have thank you. Sick to death of the pissing competition is all.
I discovered this in the world around me almost 10 years ago. I saw it as a concerted effort by all around me to keep me in my designated box. Back then there wasn't a name for my revelation, now it's called the red pill. I was shocked by how much it angered those around me when I didn't conform with their expectations of me, regardless if it had any effect on them. At the time I thought I was moving counter to my predetermined destiny. For the longest time I felt like I was causing a disruption in the universe and it was very empowering
I think you hit a solid nail. Narcissists are very easy to control. You only have to "feed" the illusioned identity. Narcissistic behavior feeds imaginary identity and therefore can never be sated. Perfect customer...always needing more
Thank you very much for offering up your time as well. Love this ,love your work 🙏🏾❤️🔥 buying things we don’t need with money we don’t have, to impress people we don’t even like!!
The rich often bought for status in past times. The lower classes did not let themselves as they would have been " getting above their station". Authenticity was to be found in the dignity and simplicity of daily life. The status of a trusted member of the community. Status that was truly earned. Now " we can all buy trainers for status" we have lost that authenticity.and sense of dignity in the " ordinary". Thank you Richard.
I remember a world where it didn’t matter what you believe or where your from. Just having a place free of heavy religious pressure was all anyone knew to want as we gathered to celebrate our freedom. We were all there to find out who we were and meet people. It was brief and existed in the perceptions of naive idiots. But we made that a reality, that was part of the bigger picture. We are already a part of something bigger and we don’t need another’s image to matter. We just need to be with each other more without the right stuff.
This made me cry. Not just because it's true but because IT IS true, how the hell can a damaged person such as myself ever hope to have a healthy relationship? Some days it feels futile.
I’ve been trying for years to tell myself I don’t NEED something I find myself tempted to buy just because I’m attracted to it. I’ve never been into status stuff like designer this and that but I am an artist and a visual person and I LIKE the look of things so therefore I tell myself it would FEEL good to HAVE this THING in my environment. What I need to realize is that I can feel good in an empty room just by being ok with me, I don’t need to be surrounded by pretty stuff. Thank you Richard for yet another inspirational message, well done. 🙏🏻
I had a friend she would shop at a shop called “ hit or miss” she’d push her cart around picking out clothing she liked only to then leave the cart in some isle and walk out of the store not purchasing a thing.
Ouch !! So THAT’s what I’ve been doing all my life ? ! My dad trying to straighten me out - but I just wasn’t gonna listen to him !! ( sigh ) Well - better late than never !!
I have been working on this idea since many years. I recognized it manifesting into my 'showoff' behavior. Show off is against my values of being humble, simple, and content so i stopped buying unnecessary things. I set many other boundaries to save myself from this propagandist system. In my humble opinion it all starts with you being sincere to your own values/self. I have stopped using social media except one messaging app to connect with my friends and it has paid me off. I mean i have never been so peaceful, emotionally regulated, calm, and hapoy with myself. Now i have time to invest it in things that are necessary. I have energy to think clearly. It really make me feel sad when i see people chasing after a mirage. "The life of this world is but comfort of an illusion" -Holy Quran chapter 3 verse185.
Why I'm not making $120k a year selling solar panels. Its all a scam. You'd think it would be legit. Everything. Sales are made by lies of omission ,dishonesty and either making people feel accomplished for or stupid or left out for not purchasing. I was so pissed my dad is paying 20k for a solar system so his electric provider can profit off his roof. A complete solar system for his house that would give him all he needs off grid is $15k. And the extra energy is in his own storage banks not being sold by the electric company. Bullshitting people not who i am. It does harm. When I walk on a car lot...do not bullshit me. You are not selling me a car on any terms but mine and I know all the bs. And on and on. These days when you call sales sharks out especially those who make money by recruiting others (mlm) you get cancelled,blocked negative ,bad attitude ,etc. They separate you from the sheep. Herd might get wrong ideas.
Such profound wisdom Sir Richard , the more we think like u the more humanity will he salvaged. I invite u to Lebanon My beautiful Pheonician land of innovation and glory drowning into the abyss of insignificance whete a human life has become irrelevant. We are regressing back in time ,in contrast the neanderthals were more civilized in nurturing and caring for the tibe's survival. Love you Sir Richard thank u for all you share 💚
I’ve been recognizing this within myself lately, especially regarding consumption. I think I need to buy something that will improve my condition. I feel weak-willed, so I NEED to buy this “solar plexus tea.” I NEED to buy an orange crystal to help me feel more connected to my body. How does that make sense?
Their psyop agenda no longer works on me. I buy healthy, good quality food for myself, high quality food for my dogs. I fix or replace my things when they break. My clothes are comfortable and functional and I tend to wear things until they disintegrate. I don't care about brand image, and prefer brands that are value for money, good quality., and that do what they're supposed to do. I buy things to make my life easier and more comfortable. If I see something on the side of the road that's being thrown out, and I need it, I will pick it up, I don't care what anyone else thinks about me or my stuff. I value myself and I value what I have because of the way it makes me feel, not because of how it represents me. I'm grateful to be alive, in spite of all the insanity which surrounds me. I wasn't always this way.
We have no self, only an externalized sense of self drawn from the feedback of others. You’ve given words to what I’ve felt to be at the core of what is hampering my healing - I almost feel I never formed a self. I’ve been who I was expected to be. There are many great things about that person, but it’s almost like things were forced in rather than chosen. A disconcerting feeling. I now have to just keep refocusing on right understanding, thought, word, action. Actively creating who I am.
I love your insights Richard, and how subtly you approach our current situation. Disconnecting from the narrative, however we do so, is the ultimate freedom! Sorry, not keen on the visuals, just sit there and talk to us please!!
You kind of just described the book "American Psycho" and made me wonder if that's not the real reason it was banned (as much as possible.) Earl Shorrus wrote the nonfiction book "A Nation of Salesmen" warning that we would become this.
Deep deep message my friend, loved it. We can only hope that these truths will continue to wake people from their walking sleep and ghost like existence they have slipped into. 🙏
Well presented and valuable insight, thanks to Richard G. ...I see the more empty people feel, the more they seek to grapple for and consume anything which promises a given image of 'success'; works like a drug, addictive. ...Most likely living with generational, traumatic memories of dark medieval times, war upon war, poverty, slavery, displacement, etc, etc...
Best video of yours that I have seen to date. In fact, I am going to use it in the beginning and end of my Modern Sociological Theories class this semester. Thank you.
Richard I did it!I actually asked myself how did this situation make me feel?and I was honest and realized I was afraid and needed to deal with the problem. The very next day I called for support,and got myself into therapy for this addiction. It was the first time I just let myself feel and actually believed the emotion. I feel so much lighter and I have no desire to play games it is time to get on with this and I am grateful your course helped me get here,so thank you for getting me here I will do the work.
Really brilliant! I’ve come to appreciate your knowledge more and more over the last two years. It’s changed my life. And just smart enough to know you’re vastly more knowledgeable than me. And for that I’m truly grateful you share it! Haha!
i could tell you a lot about individual psycho agendas... RG brilliant narration ... nice time too .. morning .... this isn't negative ... your work is essential to those of us trying to repair brain damage .. understanding the damage .. the defamed and fixated on ...rat in a cage .. i realised the bars were the people/recruited flying monkeys around me .. the truman show ... well i kicked the fn cameraman in the balls .. the most painful and mentally damaging is the bystanders that spread lies .. and worse join in ... narcissism is a lot to do with people who grew up with no love and fixate on those who had love .. even dysfunctional... but love not contempt ..its why i believe grandparents and old people are essential for children...the fixated .. their/our former ... true state is hate ... because they are acting ... many lives just for show ... to the external ,,, the shop window ... they latch on ... fixate ... feed and dump their hate in you ... then you become toxic in the sequestering ... the true reason mental health collapses .. is our primal human empathy and thirst for fairness .. the fact you did nothing ... thats what destroys you within
