Tbh I don't think gatekeeping clothes should be such a big thing. Half the time we don't remember, second, we buy sometimes from cheap markets which are seasonal, third, nowadays you can literally just take a pic of the garment and search something similar on the internet.
I tend to thrift a lot and honestly don't know if the things i thrift are still in production. If i know that the thrift shop has multiple of the thing i bought I'll tell someone (unless they gave me a weird look the last time i told them that something was thrifted) where i got it. Though if I know that the place I thrifted the item from doesn't have duplicates I'll tell them the thrift store but let them know that I grabbed the last one.
Literally same. Like bestie, this shirt was bought 10 years ago by some American guy and I bought it for 2 dollars. The brand tag had disappeared into the void
@@deathwave8375 Yeah, I sometimes get asked about my shoes and even if they're not thrifted, they're probably over 10 years old and not in production anymore, because it's hard to get my size so I wear my shoes until they're falling apart. Like, I can tell you where they're from if I remember, but it's likely that they're no longer avaliable
Gate keeping is knowing where it’s from and choosing not to tell them, especially if the reason is bc u want to feel unique or sum like that. So this doesn’t apply to u
The fact my friend knows I have a crush on a guy in my class and a week later she kept asking me if the guy was staring at her and kept body shaming me and calling me ugly in front of him 😐
That’s no friend. I’m afraid she is your former friend and now your current bully. She is bullying you and I hope she listens to you when you ask her to please stop.
Girl dump her rn, u seriously wanna be friends w someone who puts you down? Most insecure ppl in my experiences project their insecurities onto others in Hope's it makes themselves feel "better" and when it does, it leaves YOU with their problem of insecurity. She sounds like a real pick me tbh, but don't try doing the same thing w her for 'revenge' the best revenge you can get is her noticing your success and WISHING she stayed. Work hard and keep your head up.
I don't tell people where i got most of my clothes from, cuz that was when i was unaware of fast fashion, and i don't want them to think i'm cheap or i don't care about fast fashion or stuff like that. I'm scared of being judged 😢
In my senior year of high school I “adopted” an underclassman. This was really common in my school befriend an underclassman, show them around, give them tips about certain teachers, help them get settled. When I graduated we stayed in contact. Mind you I graduated at 17 and he was 15-16 and we were completely platonic nothing weird happening. But I let people get into my head about being a graduate with a friend still in high school. I started cutting him out of plans and hanging out with our mutual friends without him, making dumb excuses about why we couldn’t talk. A month went by where we didn’t talk to eachother and he got into a car accident and died. I’m going to spend the rest of my life regretting that the last memories he has of me I was being a bad friend. If you have an issue with your friend, talk it out. Don’t be the coward who slowly pulls away for stupid ass reasons.
okay but my literal best friend started talking and snapping a guy like as soon as I mentioned that I kind of like him... so we met him at the same place and I just like immediately thought he was so cute and so nice and like at first she was like oh yeah he's just a really cool guy, he's like hella friendly and I really bought it. then as we were leaving the occation we met him at I asked him his snap and homegirl joined in and added him too and I was like okay sure whatever. tell me why now that I've been hanging out with him, she is ALWAYS tryna be there. and then after we see him she's gushing about how she might be getting a crush on him and I'm like?? girl you better not.
Yeah I've had friends like those. They don't run after guys, they run after desirability. Since you showed interest in the guy in her eyes, he is a good enough candidate to date and show off to other girls. These type of people aren't friends, they just want attention, chances are they don't even like the guy too much, just want to date him cause he is desirable. Pro tip, next time don't tell her you find a guy cute or like him.
@@sparkyblue7016 yeah, I won't. I'm like trying to act aloof about him with her now, like she knows I like him but I don't obsess about him, at least to her, so I'm not giving her a chance to talk about him. This is why I like having friends with an opposite type than I
haha, yeah, about this comment... we were at a bar with a few friends yesterday and the way this friend was *all over* the guy was driving me nuts, but there were mostly people she knew so I didn't want to be a bitch about it and acted like I didn't care. I feel a bit bad though cause the guy seemed a bit uncomfortable, especially as she got more drunk
First of all, DISTANCE YOURSELF AWAY FROM THIS BITCH, SISTER. hang out with Another close friend more often and if she questions it just say "we got pretty close" or sm like that. MAKE.HER.MISS.YOU. and same with your crush but DO NOT. hang out with another guy. Instead, focus on yourself and wait for HIM to start the conversation. IF HE WANTED TO.HE WOULD. I cannot stress this enough. Focus on YOURSELF more. Put more effort into your looks, your grades,yourental health,your peace and ANYTHING that makes you more happy and fulfilled
Girll so I found out that my friend group got all matching pants and they never told me and they all wore the pants at six flags and I was there with jeans 😭🤚🏽
The only good gate keeping is keeping thrift stores quiet so resellers don’t flood them and prevent actual low income people getting the things they need / causing shops to up their prices intensely, again, causing low income people to get what they need. That’s what thrift shops are for. Other than things like that? Gate keeping has become the worst. I remember asking someone for hair tips to fix my damage and she just laughed at me because she didn’t want someone else having “hair as good as hers”. Like girl I don’t care about looking good or whatever you can have the points, I just wanna fix 10+ years of box bleach & dye damage
Soap Dove, Caress Daily Silk, Lirio or Zote (last two are from México). If your hair is damaged I recommend that you get a cut to a leng that feels confortable for you, don't use the heat of hairdryer, only air. To comb your hair search for hair brushes for your type of hair and when you comb it use a water atomizer to wet it, you could get a treatment but for the best go to a dermatologist with this.
I had a friend who got mad at me (because I finally said yes to hanging out with another friend and didn’t hang out with her for a few hours that week) and she actively pursued the 2 people I had told her I was interested in. Then, she seemed to have an issue when I, for very good reasons like racism and bad communication , lost interest in one of them.
Omg so story time bc it’s late and my whole family’s asleep and im bored 😍 So last year we had an out of state school field trip to a pretty populated area, so the teachers told us to coordinate our group so we’d all wear the same colors. Now, my group I had some friends in but it was mostly those toxic girls who think they’re better than everyone else. Even tho we were TOLD to match, a group chat was made and the girl that made it purposely left me out and told me the wrong color. Thank God for my bsf who took screenshots of the gc and showed me and then when I showed up matching im like “yeah I had a hunch yall were wearing pink” it felt so good to show them but im ngl it was pretty depressing being purposely left out
honestly yeah, you shouldn't buy from places like that unless you literally cannot afford anything else - it's a known fact that shein and temu trash come from child slavery, and yet people buy from them anyways because they want to have more things
Tbh I just forget it, I buy my clothes from cheap market where the shops don't really have specific names, they're just vendors who sell on specific days and don't on others. So even if I want to tell them, they probably won't be able to find the same thing or pinpoint the vendor, best i can do is tell the market name 😂 or the name of the vendor.
i gatekeep sometimes (i usually wouldnt but i have a reason to) because this girl tends to get her personality from other people (i’m not the only one she does this too, ive seen it and people have talked about it) and it brings us all down so im not rlly sure if thats bad or not
I had a friend that kept going after the boys I thought were cute so when I actually got a crush she was mad that I didn’t tell her who. I finally told and she tried to sleep with him. It didn’t work and he ended up leaving the school because she was so aggressive with her advances.
That last one actually happened to me at a group sleepover, I was one of the girls out of 5 to not get a shirt (I think my cousin also didn’t get one but her and another one of the girls left early). I ended up walking home because the one who was the birthday girl started getting too crazy (play pushing and hitting me and the other girl). We’re neighbors so it wasn’t that bad, so I called my mom so she could let me in the house at like 3-4 in the morning. So basically what happened was that friend and I started to get mad at each other & she said I could go home, so I did & she had the audacity to start calling me and texting and saying that I freaked her out since I just disappeared. That whole night she had been having a attitude towards my cousin (they stopped being friends shortly after), and chose one of the girls to specifically hang out with (which happens at EVERY one of her sleepovers).
it’s actually so sad bc i’m terrified of accidentally gate keeping like i don’t remember where half my clothes are from so i literally have ppl check the tag bc i don’t want to be bullied for “gate keeping”
The last one... One of the people i know always keep ignoring me like purposefully For example (small one) like think i asked her something but she's pretending not to hear me even the most important stuff i HAVE to ask but if someone else asks she s like telling them evrything like the ignoring is pretty obvious. Its hurtful on soany levels i 😢
The gatekeeping one is so true😭 Like, I had this one girl and she had a cute shirt on. I asked where it was from and she was like: "Oh I dont know wheres its from, my grandmother got it for me" so I asked if I could check the tag. SHE LITERALLY MOVED AWAY FROM ME TALKING ABOUT "I dont like people looking at my back". Then, she kept on dodging my questions, I was so done with her.
Bro, the second fact is so real. Like my bsf is so delusional that she thinks everyone is copying her, so when i asked sm like "oh, where did you get that app. It looks amazing!" She didnt want to tell me bc 'its her original idea'. (It was clock countdown, it was pretty popular back then for laptops do it can be aesthetic)
The one about about competition for a guy happened with my ex bsf she went for a boy that I told her about and we were already dating but then “he texted” her flirting but is was one of her friends acting like him so we would break up but then when I told him he said they’ve never even met before 😅
I have gotten left out when my old friends would match together and it sucks, and it gets even worst when everyone knows that they are friends bc of the matching then not knowing that your friends with them too. plus none of your friends stand up for u (i stopped being friends with them) 😭👍
I always had tp thrift when i was younger, so (my parents didnt want me to get bullied) i never told people where i got my stuff. Its not always about gate keeping something becauss you dont want people to get it too
If you purposely tell a girl something really embarrassing like your mascara is smeared really loudly in a big group of people or in front of guys, you’re not a girls girl. That’s just plain out rude no matter who you are.
The only reason i may not be able to tell you where something is from is because all my clothes are either thrifted, i've made them, gifts or hand me downs
Somehow I hate telling people were my stuff is from (I don't gatekeep I'm just autistic and struggle with being perceived) but I love to gush about my clothes being hand made. Like: "This is my crochet top! Do you like it? Do you want one?" or once I was doing a uni class and the guest asked us to tell her where our clothes were made and the material I believe. It was for a class of sustainability of products and processes (I'm a design student). I told her my pants were 90% virgin wool and 10% cachemire but I had no clue where the fabric was from because I made these. I mostly buy fabrics from a store that sells dead stock (pre cut fabrics and clothes) from more well known designer-ish brands like guess, Max Mara and others at a lower price. The guest was surprised that she met someone who makes their own clothes and some girl I saw many times (she was super nice) complimented me. Sewing and handmaking things (crochet and knitting) have been my biggest passion since I was a wee little kid.
girl if you ask me where my top is frpm i'll tell you exactly where and when I bought it, if i bought it on sale or not, how much it was and if you can find it anywhere now of if it is not on the current collection (if I didnt buy it at the market stalls and so on, and i will also tell you that)
i hate when people gatekeep some of my friends accused me of doing this w my clothes. A lot of my clothes my aunt sold to me. She has a small business as a stylist and she literally travels all over the world to get her pieces. Her business pays for her to be able to travel. So she always sends me pictures of the different stores/boutiques she goes. I sometimes forget where she gets them from and my friends get annoyed In always tell them to talk to my aunt, and ask but ofc they don’t it’s too many steps.
OMG THE LAST ONE HIT SO HARD These two ex friends of mine(the kicked me out long ass story) they would make plans then “cancel” the continue with the plans just without the girl they didn’t want there
The only piece of clothing I own that I remember or even knew in the first place where it came from is this one black running jacket I used to wear all the time. It came from soem random Kmart down in the nearest big city 😂 I lost it tho. I was very distraught
the thing is I used to not gatekeep until I had a girl ask me where I got my fit from I told her to my necklace to my shoes and the next week she's wearing my whole ass outfit I started gatekeeping LOL
isn’t that the point though?? if i ask someone where they got something it’s because i want it too. now if this is someone notorious for copying you, that’s understandable. but clearly that girl liked your outfit a lot, y’all need to stop being weird
@@morighani nobody’s being weird I don’t mind people copying my outfits I honestly dgf but I started having girls copy EVERYTHING at some point u have people talking walking and acting like you that’s the only downside of not gatekeeping I don’t gatekeep a lot and I don’t have the same girls notoriously copy me but its hard not to run into girls constantly that just blatantly copy you or girls who envy or feel threatened by you🤷🏻♀️ my point is gatekeep to a limit js talking from experience 🤦🏻♀️
I gate keep stuff from people who aren't my friends and actively don't like me but have decided to strike up a conversation only for their own benefit 😥
This is so true! It pisses me off whenever I watch Tara's videos and in the comments there's someone being like "she's mid" or "she's pretty for a Persian" like?
Admittedly, not a girl but a gay but this person i was friends with- like as in one of my only friends at a new college- started leaving me out clearly on purpose, then tried to steal money from me, and slagged me off to everyone saying im a liar 🙏
The thing with finding a guy attractive... my best friend and I live in different cities and when we meet she almost every time shows me a picture of a new guy she likes and she asks me what I think and I say that I don't think he's good-looking even if I think he is and now she just tries to set me up with any she *doesn't* find attractive bc she has no idea what my type is.
Bro.. I remember when I went to a football game with my friend from a different school and really hit it off with this one guy I found cute, and my friend that went to my current school happened to be there and only saw him to say hi (I was with him the WHOLE. GAME.) and after I expressed to my friend at my school I found him attractive and really liked him, she said she did too. She later texted me saying "We're hanging out and I'm gonna ask him to be my bf". I was obviously upset but I was like "Okay, as long as you're happy." She ended up dating him, BROKE UP WITH HIM, AND SAID SHE WAS LESBIAN. ONLY AFTER I STOPPED LIKING HIM. I still hold that grudge. We're no longer friends.
I don't tell people where my stuff is not because I'm a gatekeeper but because I'm socially anxious. It's the same reason why if somebody asked me what artist am I listening to I just can't tell them. I think when it comes to music it might be because of my fear of being perceived. Which I believe is also why I stopped altogether to listen to italian music in fear of being perceived or judged. Then again I'm autistic and one of the rare people who isn't doing it to be dishonest. I usually say I can't remember or that it was a gift.
No cause i would like guys before my friends then they would like them but I always hide my feelings for my friends and say “y’all would look good together”.
Sometimes people make a huge scene about the Gatekeeping thing! I love to tell people about my stuffs if they like it! But when I sometimes forget about the place I bought my clothes or other things from..they think I am Gatekeeping!! Bro how can you expect someone to remember a place she bought her clothes from two years ago,!
One of my close friends the second I told her who my crush was she dm him on insta and she couldn’t stop talking about him and even myself I was never talking about him And she always says like ow he look fine…
this is similar to the last one but when you take a photo with your friend group which is all girls and you intentionally leave only a half of a girl’s face in the photo or don’t include them at all or you just do them so dirty like😭
NO I FELT SO BAD THE OTHER DAY one of my friends asked me where i got my sports bra and i had no clue where it came from cause it was given to me and it didn’t have a tag 😭
i was on the receiving end of the last one for three years. very difficult it led to a lot of mental issues. pls be nice and try to include people. or at least be up front with them that you don’t like them
My friend did that thing with my crush and then I asked my crush and he said he never talked to her and didn’t know who she was!😂. Still haven’t gotten closer to him though..😭 And my friends said they were busy and then all of them got together and I was the only one left out and they posted a picture together on Instagram and I saw it so I liked the picture and my friend instantly DM’d me saying sorry and got mad at my other friend for lying about me being available to hang out. We’re on good terms now but that was kinda giving me FOMO.
One gril from my class always gatekeeps(to the point we sometimes just ask her since we know she isn't going to say anything) and once she asked my friend where her skirt was from my friend laughed,the next day we all came to school(5 of us friends) with same skirt,she again asked each of us and we all gave her diffrent answers,lol we had a good laugh seeing her get annoyed,we usually won't do that but she deserved it😭
I always try my best not to gatekeep, I’ll tell you where I got it, what brand it is, how much it was but to be fair most of my clothes come from the thrift store or stores like Ross, Marshall’s
I get all my clothes from thrifting (it’s just cheaper and easier for me ) but it sounds like I’m trying to gatekeep like girl if I knew I would tell you 😭🙏
when i was in hs before me & my ex started dating, i thought it'd be cool to tell my friends that i found him cute & my 'bestfriend' at the time rlly said 'yeah he is' GIRL BYEEEE💀
@@slaytallicaFrr she is suck a pick me and since she has blown up she has been lazier w her content and on the dropouts podcast she is constantly getting slvt shamed and she likes it 😬😬 like she’s pretty not gonna lie but she is very out of touch and constantly makes some of her male friends uncomfortable (including Jake Webber) and a lot of her jokes just aren’t funny. for someone in her mid twenties she act like a toddler sometimes. Plus she isn’t the best role model and her fans are mostly tweens/teen who are very impressionable. Soo yea 😔😳
People always think im gate keeping when they ask me where my clothes are from and I say idk. Like I actually dont, half of my clothes are hammy downs 😭
i have the worst memory ever and all my friends know. the other day my friend goes "omg that swimsuit is so cute, do you happen to remember where you got it?" im just standing there, anxiously racking my brain but i cant remember for the life of me. "uh... i think i got the shorts from amazon? i have no ckue where the top is im so sorry 😭" and she just laughs but other people usually just roll their eyes when i apologize and tell them i cant remember
I buy clothes in small local stores from my hometown but I mostly live in a big city because of university, so I always get so embarrased when people ask about my clothes and I'm like 😢they are from a small town you don't even know exists. I've invited my friends home a thousand times and they've never come, so if they wanted they could get the same clothes and meet my town 😂
An ex friend of mine who forced my friends to single me out keeps trying to win them back 💀 my bsf sent me a ss of the person dming her thinking they were still friends like STAY AWAY
