you are not a self improvement project 

The fact that she is posting videos like this is gold cause it is what I am going through rn...

No cap but your "value" is how you are percieved by men in the sexual/dating market place, and to give the advice that you are "enough" is misleading and pandering.

Ofc ur not XD

thanks

needed this. thank you

I'll be a better woman when I lose weight, get a high paid career, buy a car, and buy my own condo. I don't want to date and find a serious partner until I achieve those things. I'm hoping I will by age 30. I only got 5 years left

Amen🙏❤️

Oh you got me tearing up😢

@@se2664 As someone who is 25, it’s good to have goals but your life isn’t over if you don’t achieve all those things by 30. That mentality needs to end.

Whew this was worded perfectly. So good, thank you!

I feel like that what life should be, obviously with a balance. Its like a business, you have a mission statement that is the whole purpose of the business that has no limits and objectives that can be measured that helps you accomplish that bigger mission. Your lifetime should have a purpose and you should have goals that should help you fulfill that purpose. Yes you should enjoy the journey and you enjoy it by seeing you get steps closer to fulfilling your purpose. But sometimes you have to stop and reflect on how far you’ve gone to express gratitude but you still have to chase your destination to feel accomplished. That how I see it

Interesting term. I thought of it as a hedonic treadmill, but destination addiction is a good way to describe the process!

I’m trying to learn how to enjoy the process

destination addiction can be really dangerous, because it can get to the point where constantly thinking about reaching certain destination makes you lose time that you could use to actually work on your goals. I’ve been there

Led me to think

Yesss

In other words just stop and be grateful for what you have instead of always looking at what your friends are buying,stop looking for the best new thing and don't BE afraid to miss ou

Yesss we are these divine beings who have been taught otherwise so we just have to remember this!

Well that all depends on “who” you are otherwise this might be terrible advice 😂

@@sanban6766 im not sure what this comment means exactly but ill take it you mean shitty people, i know my take on this is quite relative and you may read this w a grain of salt (since this entire topic is very widely philosophically debated anyways) but just to open perspective, i honestly think many people who do shitty things/are shitty people dont necessarily come from a place of worthiness or value, and even if they act like it externally, its just a front. imo no one with an inherent sense of worth or value would take the time to take down anothers bc its kinda like filling a void for your own, and why make up the losses for something you already possess? i understand that not everyone's core beliefs are healthy, but making someone's worth a dichotomy of good and evil does not change them one bit, this isnt any sort of justification whatsoever and ofc people need to be held accountable for their shit but that doesnt mean taking down their inherent worth as a human being, realizing you are more than enough doesn't mean you accept the shit youve done but is rather than a self-reminder that you are more than just your actions which are projections of how you are internally/mentally anyways, internal empathy (in conjunction with accountability) is a step towards healing and growth.

@@sanban6766 Exactly. I absolutely agree. And it sounds like an excuse for “I really don’t believe I’ll achieve my desires. We all need to be mindful of what we’re actually co-signing and coming into agreement with. Worth should never be aligned with improvement. That has absolutely nothing to do with improvement and shows a huge lack of comprehension.

@@cannedcondensedmilk ​wow this was so beautifully put. you are so articulate & amazing. i cannot believe how much i love this

Well said, Jasmine! It's all about getting closer to your internal self; that's where peace of mind and contentment comes from. I work myself too hard for other people because I was afraid they would judge me if I ever stopped self improving. Getting closer to my true self has made me realize I can take breaks for myself - and that's okay.

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@@sivialove475 thanks!

Glad that's happening for you! I'm going through similar feelings right now so that's cool

"and the universe said I love you and the universe said you have played the game well and the universe said everything you need is within you and the universe said you are stronger than you know and the universe said you are the daylight and the universe said you are the night and the universe said the darkness you fight is within you and the universe said the light you seek is within you and the universe said you are not alone and the universe said you are not separate from every other thing and the universe said you are the universe tasting itself, talking to itself, reading its own code and the universe said I love you because you are love." A real quote from the end credits of Minecraft that I think you'd enjoy! I actually have the first 4 lines as a tattoo because of the meaning and sentimental value.

you should read alan watts - the book on the taboo against knowing who you are. it explains this thought beautifully

Same! It is such an eye opener.

Society likes to sell many things as the solution for our problems even when they aren't,you Will run,fight and get it but in the end you won't feel/get what you were expecting and then you notice that you made a mistake,what is really important is your Health both physical and mental if you have This then everything else became unnecessary or just a bonus thing.

Same here, I just recently had the revelation that after a year or so of getting comfortable accepting my awakening, I'm starting to feel rooted and secure enough to branch out from my perception of "the spiritual self". I don't know if you have experienced this, but when I was first spiritually awakened it was so terrifying, but it eventually became my safe space; one of self love and acceptance. Then any time I deviated from my "spiritual identity," I felt lost and scared that I would lose that safety. I finally just now am starting to feel safe enough to branch out into other aspects of my personality I had abandoned post-awakening.

@Trinity M I respect your point of view, however, let me respectfully go more in depth for you. I’m not sure who “we” is, but I’m not using the term “energy” to label every single thing. However, energy is in everything and that’s something that can be proven. Honestly if a person wishes to use that term, tell me why they can’t? Is there a rule? What spaces are you referring to? It would make sense if I was completely mislabeling, but that’s not what’s being done here. I was more directly discussing positives and negatives outcomes to which a situation can bring. “Energy”, can take a positive or negative form, depending on what you do. Let’s use anxiety as you stated in your reply. What type of impact does anxiety have? Well, that depends on the situation; as anxiety can be a good and bad thing. Let’s just say one’s anxiety causes them to stop progressing in life. What do you think will come if this person decides to not deal with it? It would continue to bring more negativity in to one’s life. Therefore that’s negative “energy”. Now let’s take a look at the grounding stones you discussed. Obviously this is not something negative you gave energy to, so what do you think that is? It’s positive “energy”. I stated the word “energy” since it can be seen, so I thought, that I’m implying positives and negatives. I agree, that we should learn ourselves as humans. However in the rate at which we “get stuff” isn’t something that’s necessarily supposed to be fast all the time. There are lessons that are completely avoidable and things that we may need to work through a bit more. That’s like saying you can quickly master or avoid depression by having mental health hygiene, when that’s not how it works. Don’t trick yourself into thinking you can figure everything out faster by just doing that; that can be detrimental. These are my thoughts though, and we can chat more if you wish, I love stuff like this.

I think what she meant is even improving yoursef will come naturaly i mean you will feel the ease to be more disciplned without beating yourself UP, doing it with love

@@cyrineabid3446 I see your point, or the clarification of her view point respectively. To me it seems like our opinions on this topic are very close, it is just that we phrase it differently and slight differences in the approach.

agree!

ouch

I felt same

i love u so much thank u for this

im stuck in that stage right now, i feel like im not worthy of any romantic experiences. it sucks

Absolutely

Yessss! And thank you for the book suggestion, I'm adding this to my list!

Thanks Lynette ❤

Great observation! I totally agree. Spirituality is the greatest self improvement because it makes you centered and grounded more than external achievements

thx! gonna watch some twerking videos now :D

@@davidvillacrez lol

I never comment but yours hit home I’m trying to get away from that I was so obsessed

I’m wishing you the best in that journey! You are inherently valuable!

yesss🥺

this, life is a balance. I feel this is a good mindset when the improvement is hindering you

Good point

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Agreed! I needed to hear this message today. I have been working myself to the brink trying to prove myself and others wrong. I'm so exhausted