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You Can’t Shame A Gay Boy Straight | Gareth Patterson | TEDxStormontStudio 

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Can our sexual identity be altered through psycho-therapeutic interventions, or even prayer? And what would drive someone to want to change this deeply personal and very natural side of them? In some parts of the world it is still legal to offer specialist therapy in an attempt to re-orientate someone’s same-sex attraction. General Practitioner Dr Gareth Patterson shares his own personal story of growing up gay within an evangelical Christian community, the shame he experienced, and the circumstances that led him into Conversion Therapy (and out the other side). #NoMoreShame Gareth is a qualified medical doctor and member of the Royal College of General Practitioners. In 2019 he took up a GP Partnership post in East Belfast. Outside of his clinical job, Gareth is a proud advocate for the city he lives in and the country he loves. In 2017 he launched his own business, NI Coffee Maps, producing a series of pocket guides promoting the best local independent specialty coffee shops in Northern Ireland which is the first of its kind in the UK and Ireland. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@musicdirector8661
@musicdirector8661 10 месяцев назад
It breaks my heart that this is even an issue for our youth. I am 58 years old and I listen to this man like it was back in the 1980’s with all the hate and prejudice that I grew up with. These so called “fake Christians” have no idea how much pain they have inflicted on our children because of their backward and uneducated views. I am so happy to see that you are moving forward with your life with no more shame and fear and challenging those around you.
@bherrin67
@bherrin67 10 месяцев назад
Same 🤚🏻💔
@AndrewtateIsinjail
@AndrewtateIsinjail 9 месяцев назад
Thank you queen or king for supporting 🏳️‍🌈 🏳️‍⚧️
@selispeks
@selispeks 10 месяцев назад
The world needs YOUR memoir. If you wrote this script yourself, your talent is IMMENSE, and your story can help millions. Thank you so much for telling your story ❤
@desfrancis2543
@desfrancis2543 9 месяцев назад
At 63 I'm only just Starting the process of accepting that my evangelical Christian upbringing led me to shut down and hide from myself and be overcome by the shame that haunted me all my life.. No more shame is my goal. Thank you so much for sharing xx
@hansherrmannshausen9669
@hansherrmannshausen9669 4 месяца назад
i prayed to god to be changed, too. in the 70ties. The brilliance of Gareth's talk is, that he shares how deeply hurtfull and painfull this feeling of shame is, which was imposed to us. But that alone can be re-traumatizing to hear, depressing. Instead, he shows how far he got in transforming the impact of the unhealthy power structures over him, and to reconstruct a healthy self. He speaks so breautifully, his voice sounds form the depth of his heart and soul. Thank you so much, Gareth.
@juliancoulden1753
@juliancoulden1753 Год назад
What a beautiful man.
@nesa2000
@nesa2000 Год назад
Beautifully and articulately spoken. Thank you.
@leeboriack8054
@leeboriack8054 2 года назад
Hope he has a life filled with happiness and finds the love of his life!
@roberthernandez4975
@roberthernandez4975 10 месяцев назад
God loves you and does NOT judge you. We are our own worst enemies. God accepts and loves you exactly as you arenas beyond your wildest dreams. People judge not God
@chnalvr
@chnalvr 10 месяцев назад
Spot on, 100%! Living openly and authentically will not waste so much human potential that we really need in our world.
@denniscampeau6577
@denniscampeau6577 10 месяцев назад
Brilliant young man! Love is always the best answer.
@mikevale3620
@mikevale3620 Год назад
Very powerful and uplifting. I'm so pleased you found your path Gareth.
@dbona4445
@dbona4445 9 месяцев назад
Love Yourself. That says it all. Just love yourself.
@stephendavidbailey2743
@stephendavidbailey2743 10 месяцев назад
At age 77, I still have the struggle I had at age 7.
@steelcrown7130
@steelcrown7130 10 месяцев назад
That is appalling. I was also 7, but it was 1967, so I am a little younger than you. I hope the struggle passes, and peace takes its place. It did eventually with me.
@auguststudio2707
@auguststudio2707 9 месяцев назад
Hmm, I'd love to hear all about your journey.
@auguststudio2707
@auguststudio2707 9 месяцев назад
Hmm, I'd love to hear all about your journey.
@Ravisingh-hm2kx
@Ravisingh-hm2kx 7 месяцев назад
Why God has made us ,better I would have died in my young only 😭😭😭😭.
@rahil5989
@rahil5989 4 месяца назад
​@@Ravisingh-hm2kxwe can connect, I am from india.
@oliverlondon5246
@oliverlondon5246 10 месяцев назад
Incredibly powerful and impactful. Thanks for sharing. No more shame!
@roberthutchens7004
@roberthutchens7004 10 месяцев назад
Beautifully chosen words expressing a profound message in just about the most beautiful spoken English I’ve ever heard.
@nexty2
@nexty2 10 месяцев назад
Thank you for sharing your story. As someone who has had a similar experience this speaks to me.
@judesharvin4238
@judesharvin4238 2 года назад
Illuminating, Intelligent and moving. Gareth, you’re exceptional
@laidbackbeau
@laidbackbeau 10 месяцев назад
Similar to my own teen years. This breaks my heart. I hate that children still have to live in silent fear, shame. 😢
@GrotrianSeiler
@GrotrianSeiler 10 месяцев назад
People don’t understand it’s not a choice. Just like it’s not a choice to be straight. Someday maybe this won’t be an issue.
@upsupeter
@upsupeter Год назад
God made you just the way you are. There is no shame in that remember this life in not a choice. Your perfect go live your life and be happy. ❤
@LemarSipes
@LemarSipes 9 месяцев назад
This is true. God mage me a pyrimaniac, I love to burn things down. I was born this way, always loved matches as a kid then explosives. I go to church and feel no guilt, I didn't choose to be this way
@ludovicleprinceroyal8721
@ludovicleprinceroyal8721 9 месяцев назад
@@LemarSipes proud of you....as long as you're not Irish
@franklinshouse8719
@franklinshouse8719 10 месяцев назад
Very well said. A great story. The shame you feel is the direct result of religion. Religion poisons everything. Coming out is hard enough, but adding religious shame to it makes it all the more difficult. I hope you can continue down the path you are on, with or without religion. Btw, I'm an MD from the US.
@LemarSipes
@LemarSipes 9 месяцев назад
Well one of the worst religions of the world is Humanism of which you embrace. Human nature is the most vile since it is separation & rebellion from the Creator. It is just as bad as those who believe they are religious yet live as humanists
@garymagruder7154
@garymagruder7154 9 месяцев назад
My male partner (husband) now in the U.S. have been faithfully together for sixty years . We are now in our eighties. Together forever, EDLOVESGARY
@Pk-wu9tl
@Pk-wu9tl 5 месяцев назад
@@garymagruder7154we need people like this ❤
@xzavierhamlet265
@xzavierhamlet265 2 года назад
Thank you for the beautiful message and story ❤️
@dennissmallwood9082
@dennissmallwood9082 10 месяцев назад
You have a beautiful story. I hope you are happy and loved.
@wendyshannon789
@wendyshannon789 7 месяцев назад
Gareth, your story is powerful and impactful. My nephew came out 15 years ago, and he had the same struggles with his church and Christianity. Thank you for sharing and will be sharing this with my wonderful nephew!
@YananoBere
@YananoBere 2 года назад
This is so beautiful and illuminating ❤️
@MiKe_Az2
@MiKe_Az2 9 месяцев назад
Accepting ourselves is the best way to live fulfulling life!❤ I hope your message reaches to every person out there 🙏
@ozfritz69
@ozfritz69 11 месяцев назад
Thank you Gareth, for your story, for the pain you experienced growing up. In my case, it was easier to remove myself from the situation (I.e. the church and sadly family as well). As you eloquently state we lived with shame. I will never lose sight of your closing words about self-love, don’t let anyone put you down so one day this shame we endured and unfortunately has left us damaged will be no more and living is living regardless of who you love. Thank you!!!🤗
@martiansonmaui1749
@martiansonmaui1749 Год назад
Thank you for sharing your experiences, Gareth. I hope you are finding happiness on your own terms.
@thestickgatherer
@thestickgatherer 11 месяцев назад
Wow! Incredibly powerful. Relatable. Thank you for sharing. Very appreciated.
@carolbell4811
@carolbell4811 3 года назад
No, you can't, nor should you. I would accept my child and love him or her.
@FinianSeaberg
@FinianSeaberg Год назад
Thank you so much for sharing that! As a side note, I have always loved the Irish accent and I could listen to you talk all day!
@charlesjohnston1506
@charlesjohnston1506 10 месяцев назад
Thank you for your beautiful testimony. I hope you will share again.
@selispeks
@selispeks 10 месяцев назад
My exact thought after finishing this: "That was beautiful. Thank you ❤" I couldn't say more. Just so beautiful. Thank you ❤
@alanthompson9871
@alanthompson9871 9 месяцев назад
Thank you so much for your words. I am grateful for them and I know they will help many (including those of us who have already gone through what you have)
@chuckvaughn
@chuckvaughn Год назад
I'm sorry you had this path to travel. I hope you are doing well today. God loves you. Exudes international hurt too many. Hugs to you.
@crisvelundertale2159
@crisvelundertale2159 10 месяцев назад
i really like the musicality of his voice
@roysmallian2889
@roysmallian2889 10 месяцев назад
What a Wonderfully spoken understanding of his life condition. He speaks poetry.
@cantstopthefeed
@cantstopthefeed 10 месяцев назад
Awesome talk man!
@lesperonis1146
@lesperonis1146 Год назад
Well done Gareth ! You spoke the truth from your "Heart" ❤ not the interlect from the head ! Thank you for sharing this with world ,I can only imagine the massive amount of people that you have helped by telling this spiritual truth. 🙂👏
@shaunkilpatrick2113
@shaunkilpatrick2113 10 месяцев назад
Thank you! ♥May we all live in love ♥
@sweetbb125
@sweetbb125 11 месяцев назад
Thank you for telling your story, it could easily have been me talking for the most part. It is a more universal story than what society would like to believe or admit.
@tolstoy431
@tolstoy431 11 месяцев назад
Indeed beautiful spoken...NO more shame....you of all people should be Happy....because you struggled far to long....I hope you will find Your Man as soon as possible....Let your SOULS be Free FINALLY....And DON,T let anyone Hurt your PRECIOUS SOUL AGAIN.....EVER....❤❤❤
@tenorchazz4274
@tenorchazz4274 2 года назад
BEAUTIFUL!!! 🙏🏾👏🏾
@gmcm7432
@gmcm7432 3 года назад
Proud of you for this, Gareth
@marknewport8151
@marknewport8151 10 месяцев назад
The word "Homosexuality" was NOT in the Bible until 1946. It was an "Editorial Decision". Consider the hatred that that "Editorial Decision" has fed and the lives destroyed. The Bible is NOT inerrant, but a highly edited and modified collection of books (some discarded from the collection when they didn't fit the chosen narrative) and stories from "pre-history". "Pre-history" is a period prior to written history. How have those "Pre-history" stories changed when only communicated verbally? Consider the familiar parlor game of "Chain of Whispers". Take ten people and begin with a whisper in one ear to be shared with the next and the next. After only 10 whispers, the message is entirely different. Now take that chain of whispers and multiply its repetition over years and generations. Hate is a terrible thing and hurts millions of people, yet there is nothing more satisfying to the righteous than to Hate in the name of God.
@jakejackson8238
@jakejackson8238 10 месяцев назад
They so enjoy putting on that ghastly, fools-no one grin as they express their “love and concern “.
@johndurham1633
@johndurham1633 10 месяцев назад
Thank you for shining light & hope
@johnpresley4108
@johnpresley4108 Год назад
You seem like such a good dude, wish you were my friend. Cheers from the Us, Oklahoma City to be exact. Hof bless you for your courage man. Seem like a wonderful dude.👍❤️
@johnpresley4108
@johnpresley4108 Год назад
God bless, can't type!:)
@johnpresley4108
@johnpresley4108 Год назад
Love you so much man, my lifes been a lot like that mate, thank you for your story/sharing
@cainen6355
@cainen6355 10 месяцев назад
Intense, with a very inspiring and uplifting conclusion.
@davidjaslow6458
@davidjaslow6458 10 месяцев назад
A breathtaking presentation. You are amazing. You would be a perfect partner for some lucky guy. Dave
@davidolien2828
@davidolien2828 10 месяцев назад
You are an incredibly gifted human being
@danielwilda8167
@danielwilda8167 10 месяцев назад
What a brave beautiful strong MAN you are! Best wishes for a joyful life and t freedom from shame that is yours to enjoy who you were created by God to be! Much love to you my Brother 🌈👍🙋‍♂️⭐️💪🏳️‍🌈💜🇺🇸✝️❤️
@gsxrcharlie
@gsxrcharlie 8 месяцев назад
Thank you so much for sharing your story and powerful message. I also grew up in a N Irish evangelical church and could identify with everything you said. Thankfully, I eventually saw the light and freed myself of the shackles of their loveless dogma and judgement. Keep living in the light Gareth, the light that is you and your kindness to yourself and to those around you.
@mnarmstrongii
@mnarmstrongii 10 месяцев назад
I love and respect you, my friend ❤
@tuneaddicted
@tuneaddicted 10 месяцев назад
Gorgeous man. So brave too
@jakebe4915
@jakebe4915 10 месяцев назад
Find your own God and find your true SELF....You will be happy at the end, trust me. BRAVO PRESENTATION.
@sandrew255
@sandrew255 9 месяцев назад
Just fantastic. I’m in awe of you. ❤
@billligon4005
@billligon4005 9 месяцев назад
You are so well spoken, your talents lie in teaching/writing/acting and YES loving someone special. It all gets better - much better just you wait in see.
@user-nt8ph1ot5j
@user-nt8ph1ot5j 10 месяцев назад
I like this handsome cute boy, and I hope I have a boyfriend like him❤
@auguststudio2707
@auguststudio2707 9 месяцев назад
Thank you!
@alasdairmacmillan5359
@alasdairmacmillan5359 Год назад
Bravo
@rickgelb2213
@rickgelb2213 10 месяцев назад
This man is amazing ❤😊😊😊❤
@philiplovings9810
@philiplovings9810 10 месяцев назад
People NEED TO REALIZE that NOT ALL PRIZES WON are MADE OF GOLD ( etc ) !
@geronarhu3107
@geronarhu3107 Год назад
bless your heart
@alexandreweber1024
@alexandreweber1024 Год назад
God bless you man ❤
@user-kc2oy4qp1v
@user-kc2oy4qp1v 10 месяцев назад
That someone should go through this journey of shame is the real son. I was raised Roman Catholic and as soon as as I was 18 and went off to college I turned by back on all the nonsense of the church and all religions, as they are all cults. You can be an evolved human without all their manipulative nonsense.
@lorenzobianchini4415
@lorenzobianchini4415 10 месяцев назад
Very well said ❤
@blinkburrito7101
@blinkburrito7101 8 месяцев назад
resonated so deeply to his story
@campbelllloyd6520
@campbelllloyd6520 10 месяцев назад
Well done you.
@PeBoVision
@PeBoVision 10 месяцев назад
By the teachings of your own faith, you are exactly as god wished you to be.
@DaRyteJuan
@DaRyteJuan 10 месяцев назад
Learn to meditate and you will discover you stop seeking love and approval from the outside. Love yourself first to set the example. Shame is self-generated.
@johncollins3560
@johncollins3560 Год назад
This!! ❤❤❤
@brittneyhaggerty762
@brittneyhaggerty762 2 месяца назад
Thank you for sharing your story.
@randywatts6969
@randywatts6969 4 месяца назад
None of us chose it!
@bonsaijimmy
@bonsaijimmy 9 месяцев назад
I applaud your courage , sympathise with your trauma & congratulate you for being true to yourself. If you were born in Southern Ireland , you will be Catholic. If you were born in Thailand you most probably be Buddhist. I don't believe that you have to be baptised a Christian to go to Heaven. Pope Francisdeclared recently" Homosexuality is NOT a crime". If you were born in Uganda or Zimbabwe, you will be jailed or killed. God loves me & you too !
@David-xm3ph
@David-xm3ph 9 месяцев назад
First off, you must know that in your faith belief, that God is the creator of life. He created you the way you are. And God is described as perfection. Therefore, the way you are is perfection. Believe in your purity and authentic self and embrace those ideals. Love is love and whom you love is ideal.
@willembissett7223
@willembissett7223 10 месяцев назад
🙏
@noopinionslikeswitzerland6966
@noopinionslikeswitzerland6966 2 года назад
I love the Scottish accent, as an American. Such a beautiful voice.
@edheal3246
@edheal3246 2 года назад
It is an Irish accent BTW
@PS-ru2ov
@PS-ru2ov 2 года назад
@@edheal3246 its Northern Irish
@harrycoplin8414
@harrycoplin8414 2 года назад
PLSSSSSS😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@wardenblack9734
@wardenblack9734 Год назад
He is not Scottish! He tells us that he comes from Northern Ireland.
@robertcaley2671
@robertcaley2671 Год назад
The accent is Northern Irish, actually
@BERTONI704
@BERTONI704 8 месяцев назад
Fantastico ❤❤❤❤❤❤
@David-ho6mu
@David-ho6mu Месяц назад
Silence serves no one. ☝️ very true. We have to be “out” …. And they ask why we still need Pride…
@brucass93
@brucass93 2 года назад
💙
@Spinksreptiles
@Spinksreptiles 2 месяца назад
You can shame them into being heart broken and pretend there less them… like me… I think I’ll die alone
@BERTONI704
@BERTONI704 8 месяцев назад
You are so nice man so beautiful ❤❤❤ Un hombre hermoso 😍😍💖
@mattmas32
@mattmas32 10 месяцев назад
❤🧡💛💚💙💜
@psychiatristsarecriminals332
@psychiatristsarecriminals332 2 года назад
The idea is to get you to get rid of yourself so straight alpha chad had more room. Get to getting.
@truthhurts986
@truthhurts986 6 месяцев назад
Is he still single?
@corgiowner436
@corgiowner436 11 месяцев назад
Thank you for sharing your very poignant story.
@samuelgalea7679
@samuelgalea7679 Месяц назад
😔
@rajaknowles2287
@rajaknowles2287 2 месяца назад
Deny your self take up your cross and follow me. JESUS JESUS BORE YOUR SHAME. adultery, fornication, are also sins. Dont try to justify sin or expect people to validate it. Confess and ask Hod to free you. Jesus came to set the captives free not to endorse bondage. He who trust in himself is a.fool. The road to life is.Narrow. Stop blaming christians Read the bible. GODS WORD
@coolfix948
@coolfix948 3 года назад
ನನ್ನಿಗಳು ಕರ್ನಾಟಕ ದಿಂದ
@markreid9499
@markreid9499 2 года назад
Awesome. So uplifting
@markreid9499
@markreid9499 2 года назад
Awesome...so uplifting
@coolfix948
@coolfix948 Год назад
@Alexander thanks , from Karnataka
@andrewaway
@andrewaway 9 месяцев назад
❤❤
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