The "pretty people can do no harm" effect is literally what helped tedy bundy from being caught for so long because no one could believe he was a literal murderer.
@@myaren0101 it's so sad that I know exactly who you're talking about. He some 19 year that ran down a mother and her child in a illegal car race and some femcels are petitioning for him to be released bc he's too young and he "didn't mean it".. ridiculous 💀
Yess such a good example! And this tattoo face dude now who killed one woman I think and tried to kill his ex, maybe that's who the other commentator was talking about
I used to be insecure about my hip dips, but then I realized why do I have to get rid of something that just… exists? It’s not harming me or risking my life in any way. People just don’t like it, that’s it, they think it’s ugly and apparently that’s supposed to be enough reason to remove them. I stopped exercising to be pretty and now I do it to be healthy 🤷♀️
This is literally my first time hearing about hip dips being a thing with a name that gets hate. I just always thought that's how some people are built because everyone is built differently. How does one tell if they have hip dips themselves? The hip area looks different on everyone.
The first time I even saw the term hip dips was on a recommended youtube video about how to get rid of them. I immediately hit the button to not recommend it again without watching it while thinking to myself "Nope! I don't need another insecurity"
"only bad witches are ugly" is a good example of, the term is escaping my mind but basically, only bad witches are ugly but not all ugly people are bad. I also find it strange that attractiveness is inherently associated with moral fiber, considering it's been a trope since FOREVER that evil and wickedness prefers to hide behind or mask itself in beauty, as a way of "hiding in plain sight"
I think that would be a subset? As in, bad witches are a subset of ugly people but not all ugly people are bad (witches) lmao. You might also have been thinking of syllogism, but thats more "if bad witches are ugly and ugly people are assholes then all bad witches are assholes", there's a third thing involved. Terrible example but hopefully you get what I'm saying lmao But yeah, even though pretty people are supposedly seen as all those good traits you still constantly hear about how women in makeup are lying, or assumptions that pretty people are full of themselves, high maintenance, or just straight up a threat. Recent research suggests there's actually bias against pretty people when the people involved are the same sex. And maybe I'm biased as a lesbian but I do not want to be held to the ridiculous standards of mid, average dudes because it'll get me ahead in life; that's just another form of misogyny lol. I'm probably a bit cynical but I don't think a lot of them find pretty women more moral or kind or whatever, they're just trying to justify finding them more fuckable 💀
Guy pretty is more like feminine, naive, very sweet angelic-looking. Girl pretty is more like seductive, sexy, bold, confident, hot-kinda-intimidating. Albeit beauty lies in the eye of the beholder, everyone's preferences are diff so this isn't set in stone. But it is generally kinda true.
But that in of itself is wrong, there are plenty of guys that like bold seductive, and even unconventional looking women. I think it's proof that putting people into these ridiculous boxes isn't really helping anyone.
Hey guys this video is inspired by seeing the amount of people that go down a dark path trying to be an influencer. And even though I am a "content creator" and not an influencer, I can tell you that: 1) Being pretty is not a "get out of free jail card" - pretty privilege WILL give you a head start, but most people that go viral for being pretty fail because at the end of the day, it's a job that requires you to make good content for a long period of time (its not a sprint, its a marathon). Going viral one time WILL NOT make you Kim Kardashian I can promise you that lol 2) Pretty Privilege is not as powerful as you think! - Don't let ANYONE tell you that you can't be a content creator/influencer because you aren't "pretty enough". If I can carve out a career for myself you can too! This career is more about making consistent good content than going viral for being pretty. For my BBs that want to be content creators, I hope this helps! You can do it🥰 PS I know youre hot stop playing
hi missy!! at the end of the video you mentioned feedback, and I think I looove this style of video :) your humor is still there, but you still talk seriously and honestly. i love these videos and ur channel :)!! ❤❤
I really enjoyed this type of video and I think it would be awesome if you sprinkled some more serious commentary along with your comedy. As far as video essays go you pack a lot of punch so it's definitely still on brand. Great job and I hope you enjoy branching out and trying new things as much as I enjoy watching you do that! 🥰
I loved this video style! I still love the unhinged videos, especially with your husband, but I think a mix would work wonderfully going forward! PS Whenever I watch you I feel like I'm watching someone who's gonna grow to be a really huge RU-vidr in a few years 🥹
Imo this style of content could easily go viral for being both entertaining and of substantial quality. I'm a sucker for a well done video essay and some of those 5 hr long ones have millions and millions of views. So you definitely slay this genre. Also the skits were flawless and reminded me of another of my favorite content creators, Jaime French. The goat.
Been feeling insecure that Im not super hot because of these trends. But like, I really have no reason to be super hot?? Like, I have no desire to be famous, I have a loving relationship, good friends, my dream career doesn't involve looks at all. They want girls to feel insecure and feel like they're not enough when being pretty isn't the only thing in life
As a 12 year old girl, this really did show me the truth about society and pretty privilege and I feel like I kinda needed this. I guess I just wanna look good for myself but not worry about anyone else’s opinion because beauty standards change like every 5 years. Thanks Big sis
About Cinderella Anastasia got a character arc and she got a makeover but it didn’t make her conventionally atrecive she just was like…herself and it was really sweet moment between Cinderella and Anastasia. But that’s in another movie. But it’s good!!
A lot of this feels like very young people going through the standard insecurities that you go through at that age, but everything is heightened due to tiktok and the internet in general. I used to care more about my looks, until I became very ill for a long time. Now I am just so grateful my body is functioning properly after getting better, and I can do things that I love. I look in the mirror less and kiss my dog more, go outside more, laugh with my friends more. When you're young and chronically online you get sucked into spaces where it feels like being pretty is a barrier that holds you back from happiness. But once people get out of that bubble and sever the connection of being beautiful = being happy, it changes everything. I'm not saying the insecurity goes away completely, but it doesn't have a chokehold on you anymore.
Yup 100% - I'm 29 now, but spent my teen years on pro-Eating Disorder Tumblr and it was a very unhealthy time for me. I started out on just the fitness part of Tumblr because I wanted to "get in shape" (even though I was a healthy 16 year-old-girl who was just insecure) and whatever their algorithm was at the time eventually led me to the "thinspiration"/"pro-anorexia" part of Tumblr where girls were sharing their diets, weights and results from starving. I grew to obsess over my body so much during that time. Part of recovery for me was deleting that Tumblr account. Edit to add: I have a cousin who's 16 now and who I've always seen a lot of my younger-self in (we had similar issues with friends around the same ages, both have ADHD, both very talkative/loud people, both queer etc.). Lately I've noticed she's lost a noticeable amount of weight that she didn't need to lose and it just breaks my heart to think she might be going through the same thing as me.
I lost it at the planking 😭 Also, I agree 100% with pretty privilege being a thing but also overrated. When I worked at a summer camp, I had a fellow counselor who'd stick post-it notes to the mirror saying things like "You're beautiful," for any girl that read it. While she was sweet for doing that, I also thought it wasn't telling the whole story. Like, you can be worthwhile without being "beautiful." E.g. I don't think I'm super hot (or super ugly, I'm in between) but that doesn't mean I have low self-esteem for saying that. Plus beauty is always somewhat subjective and trend-dependent!
Pretty privilege does exist, but I will add that when I was like "hotter" in my 20s, I got harassed way tf more by guys. Relieved to be in my thirties, trying less hard, and for harassment to have slowed down. Having had pretty privilege, I don't think it's worth it. Being pretty requires work, time, and money. It's a crutch and investing in it can take away from investing in developing skills in other areas. Fighting against aging is a losing battle anyway.
It really is! I used to do that too until I really listened to girls/women _I_ personally found incredibly beautiful, often because of things they themselves found ugly. Most of the times, we’re so insecure about the things that make us (look AND be) special, and personally I’ve been lucky enough to now be in a place where I love how “unique” I look. It feels like me
@@thatgirlinautumn5995that’s so true, I hate my own unique features but find them so charming on others, like Lady Gaga’s sculpted nose or Billie Lourd’s lips.
I used to be bullied about my appearance so yeah, I'm hella obsessed now lmao I hate humanity tho cause people started treating me so differently once I had a "glow-up"
@@solus8685You can try to use this for your own benefit or/and benefit of others. Remember that « Humanity » can show altruism, genuineness and humility. In fact, basically, if you act like what you hate at first, you just become like this part of humanity that you hate. So, do your part for influence others to act with genuine altruism and not like a political correct behavior.
I still think it is absolutely HILARIOUS that in The Wizard of Oz, Glenda asks Dorothy it she's "a good witch or a bad witch..." And then hits her with, "only bad witches are ugly..." Like, did no one think, "then why is she asking? Does she think Dorothy is ugly?" 😂
In my teens and 20’s I had severe body dysmorphia and EDs. Absolutely hated looking in a mirror. If I had been wealthy, the amount of plastic surgery I would’ve had is unfathomable. I can’t imagine being a young woman today. Of course, there has always been a time where something beyond our control was either in or out of “fashion” and considered beautiful or ugly. But to be bombarded by instagram and TikTok and the constant minuscule trends of beauty is insane. There’s something that happened to me in my mid 30’s and especially now at 40 where I stopped giving a fuck. Who am I being “pretty” for? I’m not trying nor wanting to look like anyone else. I have features of my grandmother and father who have both passed. I share qualities with my sister who I adore. And I think, my god if I would’ve completely changed my face back then, I wouldn’t see all these people who I love and some who are gone when I look at myself now. I don’t know exactly where I’m going with this but the endless barrage of change this change that you can’t be pretty or desirable unless you look like this is so sad and exhausting. I wish it was as simple as saying love yourself! Or beauty standards are subjective, soulless ploys to drive consumerism! Which both are true but I know I’m not going to change the world by just saying all that in a comment. Because I know how tough it is when you’re young and finding yourself and you look in the mirror and hate that you don’t look like what the world is telling you to look like.
She really said "no ugly bs allowed" lmao yikes. I think those she considers ugly are dodging a bullet with that one. Being her friend doesn't seem like a privilege anymore. 💀💀
It's interesting to see how different "pretty privilege" displays online vs. IRL. I see a lot of influncer looking people online but not IRL. I live next to a college. But there are no filters, perfect lighting, and editing IRL.
The thing I've noticed alot with people pushing insecurities and with the boy pretty and girl pretty thing is that they often target poc and them when you call them out for it they get uber defensive or double down in what they ate trying to push.
exactly... eespeecially in the looks maxxing community...they demonize ethnic features like monolids , wide noses , darker skin , e.t.c but praise feature that align with white ideals of beauty
Always universally judging everyone with white beauty standards when there are more kinds of beauty than just the whitest of people kind. That's not fair to poc whose features are ofc going to be different and fit different beauty standards. They know exactly what they are doing and it's so snakeish of them to double down.
To sprinkle some extra positivity on top of Missy's already perfect message 👌 IMHO "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", meaning everyone and everything has its own essence of beauty and attraction. I personally don't think anyone is ugly, its just a way for some people to feel better about what theyre lacking deep inside by staying superficial. Reality check: looks WILL fade, so if you are incapable of looking beyond the veil thats an INADEQUECY within YOURSELF that youre PROJECTING onto who you see as "ugly". Like they say, you can pollish a turd but its still a turd, and I say gold can only stay buried under dirt for so long. Stay beautiful inside people "ugly" is an opinion not a fact.
I remember I was like 12 or 13 when I first heard that hip dips were a “flaw” I needed to fix. It took me many years to love my body and it’s not a straight line to love. I have gotten over the idea of hip dips being a “flaw” and it makes me so sad that girls and women are still dealing with the exact same shill being sold to them almost a decade later.
Nice combination of jokes and thoughtful observation. Putting the jokes more intermittently gave them a chance to land. You are always very funny but often going so fast that about only half of the jokes really register to me. Hope you do more.
I really enjoyed the video. I was engaged in the conversation and I still laughed at some things because you're naturally funny. I would love to see more of this
I loved this video! I just always love your messages. You highlight the ridiculousness of social media/trends/modern first world living and always leave it on such an uplifting note other than “we’re doomed”. Please keep calling it out as it is hun!!! It’s very comforting to us trying so hard out here 💕💕💕
This is anecdotal but I’m not a traditionally attractive person and growing up my best friend was. And let me tell you men treated me terribly but would bend over backwards to be nice to her. I don’t want to pit women against each other because I think there’s way too much of that on the internet but I genuinely think ugly women are treated much worse by men. And before people say “well maybe it’s just personality” I don’t think it was because we were very similar people with a lot of the same interests. I think maybe it’s because men are afraid of ugly women being into them or something because it’s a super common media trope always played for laughs. That’s just my theory but I’d love to hear from the pretty girls what their thoughts are.
I'm not a pretty girl but you're right. And the data supports this. On average, men treat girls/women deemed ugly (including many fat women and disabled women) the worst. This includes far more meanness and cruelty, ignoring both subtle and blatant, exclusion, diminishment, exclusion. This also includes higher rates of abusive behaviour, higher likelihood of violent responses to rejection (because how dare someone not even desirable reject him), higher rates of sexual abuse. This seems to be, firstly, because some men see "ugly" women as having low value. Secondly, because being associated with an "ugly" woman sexually or romantically lowers their status, especially with other men, unless they're just temporarily using her sexually. With the latter, it's less that they're scared of the woman being into them than they're scared of what other men will think (even more so if they secretly like the woman). I think a lot of pretty girls-women and even average-slightly-prettyish women don't really grasp how "ugly" women are treated. And a lot of the pretty girls don't realise that a lot of the good treatment and nice things they get are because they are pretty and that other women get treated very differently. I'd say that the actual downside of pretty privilege - because it's not harassment, average women get plenty of that - it's not knowing whether people (especially men) genuinely like and respect you as a person and rather than just enjoying you as a beauty/sex/status object.
Or they'll be nice to you as a way to get to your hotter best friend.... being a tomgirl my whole life, I notice I got hit on more as I got older and grew more confident. Something about being average looking and a more traditionally masculine woman (also being awkward as hell didn't help lol) really bothered some boys & men. I think they're projecting insecurity with their own masculinity.
Honestly I love your long form videos, I have not laughed SO hard in years so consistently, these are just as fascinating to me as the rest, would love to see more ;D
Being shallow and vain is ugly, for the rest there are makeup and nice clothes if you wish. People using word "ugly" when talk about just average normal looking persons are ridiculous. There are so few really that ugly people out there, and nowadays makeup can make almost anyone pretty if applied correctly, getting dressed nicely helps a lot as well. And beauty can be so subjective. That girl, talking about pretty people and thinking herself one of them, is absolutely average for me and guess what, that's absolutely ok, taste differs. Finally, beauty is not absolute nor eternal. How devastating must be getting old or somehow lose outer beauty for one who is that obsessed with looks.
13:31 SHE SAID "how you know what a pretty girl goes through if you're not in her shoes" WHAAAAAAATTTTT - now i know my girl Celine is not taking that sitting down💀💀💀💀💀💀
Honesetly the strive to be picture perfect is gonna ruin us. Pretty privilage does exist an as someone who would classify herself as not conventionally pretty i dont care . I may have imperfections but i have a boyfriend who loves me as well as good friends and i wish that for everyone and not some insecure bitches who are gonna look for a flaw in everything u do. Great video !
Missy you’re such a comfort youtuber! I’m so glad I found you through shorts and came across your longer videos. Please keep making longer form content with or without jokes (they’re both good!). I love putting on your videos before I eat ahah
I think your funny videos are so good because you're clearly educated about the topics you speak about so the jokes are on topic and say something about your main thesis statement. I really enjoyed this more serious video too. I'll watch both :)
I have only seen your shorts before which are always funny. I saw this video pop up and started watching it and could not stop. You did a great job, I laughed throughout the whole thing. Also, its so sad how pervasive this topic is, yet so hidden from our eyes as we go about our daily lives and forget about the world we live in. Our mental health is not nurtured one bit by these trends and norms as people are consumed into social media and may let other people's opinions rule their life. Stay safe out there everyone. Kindness is powerful ❤
So real about the "finding new reasons to make women insecure"... I recently found out that tight sport bras are a no-no now because they give you a "monoboob" 😂 and i was like I'm SORRY i don't want my tatas to bounce in my face while deadlifting 300 pounds like GIMME A BREAK 😂😂
I loved everything about this more serious video! Definitely something that needs to be said about the whole aspect of something like pretty privilege since it can create massive body issues for anyone. Loved this new format!~ Keep it up!!
Loved this topic! I often try to explain this but people take it as complaining when it's a real thing. Add fat phobia on top of that and there's definitely barriers to getting those 'top spots and privileges' 💯 love your content, you're highly intelligent, funny and creative ❤🎉
In defence of the “iPhone face” thing… it’s not about how pretty or ugly someone is, it’s having such modern features as highly shaped and sculpted brows, lip fillers, veneers, Botox… it started with and I think still is mainly about people noticing actors with extreme plastic surgery trying to star in period pieces and it just ruins the entire movie. If I’m not wrong the discourse kicked off with Dakota Johnson in that one Jane Austen (?) adaptation. She’s pretty, but she does have a face that certainly belongs to someone who knows what an iPhone is (where the name comes from). But say, Rosamund Pike who is also pretty could star in a period piece and would not ruin immersion, because she’d be believable playing someone from the 19th century. Kate Winslet in Titanic is a banging beauty, while still being plausible in her role. She could play (and has done so quite well) someone who would have no idea what an iPhone is. That’s what it’s about. It’s not meant to cause any insecurities, or be about beauty.
Yeah I really liked this. Love the sillier topics, but this was a fun watch. In addition to the sketch bits, I wouldnt mind seeing more references/citations to informational sources, too
I am so here for this style of video! I feel like you have such good insight and your sense of humor just cuts through the bullshit going on in the world. Fantastic 10/10 ❤
I liked this style of video!! And yeah I definitely agree. Just today I was scrolling through reels and pretty much every other one seemed to be some kind of beauty video like “use *this* to make your hair nice” “Pilates moves to get rid of cellulite” etc etc and I’m so sick of it! I feel like I like one video about hair care and the algorithm just throws me more of it + a billion other “self improvement” propaganda videos. I look good enough, I’m healthy, let me be bruh
even if you do go viral from being fucking coconut girl or whatever, is it really just your goal in life to become a model or some ambassador for a makeup or “luxury” brand? might as well say your goal is to work to perpetuate these dumbass standards, over consumerism, and profiting over women’s insecurities. it’s all so shallow and it’s awful to see how sucked in people are to this
I used to work with a person who literally thought that "being pretty means you can do no wrong" she was a literal bully towards me and other members of staff, telling me to kys when I refused to take her shift because I had a final exam for uni. When I first started I was SA'd by a customer and she said that because i was below average i was asking for it. She was also a manager but the difference between our promotions was that she begged for the promotion and due to being understaffed at the time and me being new she was promoted but HR and our area manager agreed I was best suited for the role but she called me useless. When I left they had to hire 4 more people to cover the work i was doing because she was failing to meet deadlines. I had to keep reciepts of all the conversations we had and most of them were abusive. When I left I sent a complaint to HR and an old work colleague informed me that my complaint caused in investigation against her and caused her to fo retraining, my work colleagues hated her and the fact that she was over working them caused half of my original team to quit within a month. 😂
I also don’t even think half the people in Hollywood are pretty. I know so many girls in real life who are breathtaking BRING BACK THE 2000S ADS ABOUT BEING PRETTY ON THE INSIDE WTF
Its just i want to be ugly in peace . people are on my face because of my appearence , criticizing it like babe i cant do nothing about it i was born with average face 😩.
