I was a Mental Health Registered Nurse for 10 years and the advice we get from these writers (ie Emerson, Seneca, Epicurus etc) is better than anything modern psychology has to offer. They tell us timeless truths that once we accept them help us through life. There is a reason why we are still reading them and that they are still in print. Keep making these videos!
They were life changing for me after i found this channel, i didn't know those books, quotes now i am addicted to them and i fully agree they are better than every season i had with my therapist. I am so happy!!
@@mary.j9399 Dont get me wrong..they can be helpfull too, but Ive found that they are just telling people what has already been said for a very long time...Im glad your benefitting! 🙂
You always post such a thought provoking quotes… I feel “Maybe our favorite quotations say more about us than about the stories and people we’re quoting.” ― John Green
I recently came to the realization that not wanting to disappoint others, being a people pleaser, is manipulative. I blamed others for putting me in a position to not rock the boat, but being the nice person who doesn’t disappoint others is a victim’s way of manipulating. You say it much better. Thank you for articulating what I’ve been trying to wrap my head around about myself and my past character, personality, actions, identity. I don’t want to manipulate anymore. I don’t feel I was consciously doing it-I thought I was being nice. Anyway, thank you so much for this video. Perfect title.
Your way of speaking calmly in front of the camera, without any cuts, is just amazing. I think I can certainly say on behalf of others that you have become a mentor to so many people.
Nothing is more powerful than making the decision to liberate you from the opinions and expectations of others. Following your inner voice will energize you and will restore your joy and inner peace. Your greatest life will never manifest without pursuit.
I am one of these people from another country who still has an accent after living here for 50 years. Just today, somebody asked me again where I am from. In order to integrate myself, I started volunteering as soon as we came " off the boat." Volunteering in many different places and going to nursing school later in life helped me not to remain the same. I actually graduated shortly before turning 50 years old. But I believe that deep down we will always stay true to our roots. I won't ever forget where I came from. I am chuckling to myself because I used to read Plato at age 16 on the train in my old country, trying to be different and searching for answers. Now I am old and started to read Seneca's letters. We are never too old to learn and to change.
I love his videos and how he is able to express himself in a way that is accessible to people! I have been struggling a lot recently and philosophy has brought me comfort!
I fully agree, changing is a never ending process of life and it is actually quite beautiful. We can always learn and re-learn things and it will feel like you have unlocked a part of yourself and life each time
the way you have articulated these complex ideas of identity crisis, self-imposed constancy and imposing externalities, into accessible and comprehensible but more relevant chunks of wisdom truly moved me. the sense of clarity with which you speak and conveniently relay the core message doesn't just sound reassuring and promising but also touches us all with validation and comfort. I have struggled with changing myself for as long as i can remember. I know who i wish to be and of all of those values and virtues, I wish to be a good communicator but, every time i meet the ones with whom i have always been awkward and shut, i begin to speak awkwardly and timidly again which throws a wrong impression of me. So i try to remain quiet instead of perpetuating my old way of speaking and giving 'em any more of my old self. I am learning to hold myself together in those situations and to fully rely on myself to carry myself well as I please even if it means emerging with a kind of change which might be mocked or scorned. I have observed that people are way too busy fixing their lives to meet with others' changes bitterly. They will be disappointed for a while, but eventually will they see you for who are and either accept it or reject it. as long as you have a vision for yourself that does not hurt others but only helps you get closer to your higher self, pursue it. all that matters is that you are comfortable in your own skin and values. good luck!
This is all so true, living our life to fit in with what’s expected of us by others. It can be suffocating and limiting but it takes courage to go against the grain. I wonder how many people are actually free enough to be completely themselves in every set of circumstances. Interesting video.
"Won't the others in that country, or in that culture, or in that family welcome us the most if we are kind people, honest people, modest people, just people, won't others benefit if we are people like that?" GREAT question. These are great qualities and yes "most" people want us to have those qualities but NOT if it means we get to be someone they don't approve of. Most cultures, traditions, and families don't want you to change. If being who you are doesn't conform to their ideas and expectations of you, they don't want you to be yourself. They will guilt you, shame you even disown you (as if anyone can be disowned), if you decided to become the person you want to be. Change is hardest thing to do! That's why so few people change. And when the closest people to you don't approve of your change, that is the true test. If you are at that point, ask "Do I want to have them or myself?". 99% of the world is just a copy of someone else. Our thoughts, feelings, behaviours aren't even ours. Emerson said "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment". Thank you for your insights and wisdom 🙏
Nicely said and drawn from Emerson, Seneca, Epicurus. We all need to strive to grow and challenge ourselves daily. Falling back a step or two is ok, we need to be kind to our own mishaps. External perspectives of one's own character is like you said is superficial. We have free choice for our narratives. Thank you as always!!! 🖖🖖🖖
Wonderful channel, excellent speaker reminding everyone of the universal truths available to all who seek personal growth on their journey through life.
Whenever I receive a notification from this channel, my day is made. I'd be very grateful if you uploaded twice a week. Thank you for what you do my friend:)
one of the things i struggle with the most is change, it seems that i can't change and i don't know why. now i know it's because i see myself as the same man i been all my life hope this realisation starts the change i need
Let's have a courage to dissapoint others even if people will change how to treat us I experienced that. Sometimes people say I change but they don't know that they're the one who never change. They don't know how to feel people. It's a not so pleasant some people need boundaries so they can find peace.
Your videos bring me so much peace. I used to read a lot of philosophy but have been struggling to read recently and you make these important ideas accessible in a very humble way.
Married 11 years, stopped wearing my wedding ring after some Covid weight gain. I recently lost the weight and my ring fit again but realized I only wanted to wear it on special occasions. I then encouraged my husband to stop wearing his and he loves it (it just got in the way a lot of the time). Opting out of outdated traditions just for show is liberating.
You are the man and seeing so many people in the comments give me belief that a lot of people also want to build their character, their inner wealth. For everything that can be taken from you is not a worth a thing.
Wednesdays are turning into a new favorite day of the week! 😊 You have given us a lot to think about this week...thank you ✨ I saw this the other day... "You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean, in a drop." - Rumi ♥️
I think the more I try to change the more resistance I feel in doing so, but occasionally I see little things change inside of me that were not there before. Thank you, I have been enjoying your wed's messages, nice way to start the work day during my cup of coffee. 🙂
There is a book I have been reading it , about identification or in the other words “Ego” I would recommend it for anyone wants to know how to deal with identifications. It is called “A new Earth” by Eckart Tolle.
If someone knows who they are they simply try new and if it works for them they keep the knowledge if not, you are correct they don't change and simply view it as an experience.
I took up Seneca when I came across your videos last month. It has got me out of my reading slump as I’m currently a medical student and medical books itself are vast enough to cover, even a single chapter. 😅 But now I’m slowly savouring philosophy and got my copy of Epictetus as well! I think I’d love to read this genre more than others! All thanks to you for sharing your thoughts in a simple and subtle way which can be understood even by beginners in this genre like me. 🩵
Hey man, I signed up for your newsletter but I haven’t been receiving the newsletters. I signed up twice to make sure everything is alright but still haven’t gotten any. Anyways, this is a fantastic video, and it personally resonates. Thanks for yet another gem. Happy to see you grow, and to grow with you.
By disappointing others ~ can this be also the fear of rejection of others (?) and the result of such, having to deal with such and where to from there etc. Edit: Also, the very last sentence you say - that self imposed limitations can be remedied - how can they be remedied? For example, if I can see that I am is a B Grade artist, having examined the Greats and stand no comparison - whether music or painting - is this self imposed limitation or actual limitation? I suppose the question to ask is, how can we know what is truly a limitation of ours vs the self imposed limitation? Thank you,
I’m in graduate school trying to get a research paper approved for gender identity disorder. I would love to hear your thoughts on it. psychology really doesn’t know anything about it so I feel like whatever you say I’ll be more enlightening than what I read in my textbook ❤
I love your content but sometimes I don't have time to watch the entire video. I would really appreciate if you could provide a link where we can find the content in reading format. Thank you!
My father has nosy friends that have an opinion about everything and seem to be super competitive and like to show off (their kids went to university for example) i also know that they gossip. I never like them asking me questions about my life. Where i work, what kind of work, where i studied. I never know what to respond. They make me feel nervous because even when im stingy with personal information, they have the tendency to say "it is just a question", or "i am judt curious" or "what is wrong with these simple questions" Deep down i know its not just a question and that they are judgemental. Also my dad kind off shame for me whenever they ask my situation, as i dont have a university degree. I always had learning disabilities since primary school and i have to accept that, for now, i will have to work a normal job at least for a while. How do i deal with this and do you have any recommendations when it comes to books. How can i help myself in these situations? Thank you very much.
I looked at your name and wondered if your were of middle eastern decent and I think you are. Please correct me if not. I am and I mention this cause this is big in the middle eastern culture. Part of it is not their fault, most come from nothing and put so much pressure on their children, hence, the pride and attention going in on what you speak of and what you are going through. Just know, even myself, no matter what transpires, have gone through similar. It is inescapable, however, how you now respond and handle it, is up to you. Stand in your power. Build a life for you, not others. Even not for our parents. It's hard and I can't say too much here but once you start with not caring what others feel and think, trust, that's the first step. 😊🎉❤
If God is so annoyed by human pride that he would leave his child to perish because of it......then who in their sanity would want to be a servant of such a God other than avoiding the alternative ( hell or what have you)......
Insightful speech. I do have some reservations, or concerns, regarding this: makes me think how many might fall into the trap of atomization. Friendships are important and "no man is an island" - as they say. I would very much like to hear your thoughts on the atomization of men, especially in the modern era, and how it can be staved off whilst remaining true to oneself. Best of wishes.
I am just myself its different from other people that force their views on society it corrupts my belief as an artist because the overrated mainstream is too stressful😂.😂😂😂
My husband is severely hearing impaired. While I do hear his voice very well, I think my husband would have difficulty despite wearing a aid. We do take our senses for granted until they don't work as well anymore.
Imnot perfect i hate perfection i really hate perfection it wreaks of death and I was scared if anyone knew me they would not like and accept me and I survived by keeping a mystery about me because as long as I had a mystery about me I would be accepted. That's the truth. My life is so embarrassing and I saw a camera man when I freaked out that time I was scared I was pushing ny dog in a buggy and then nothing came of it and I hated myself for it. I am sorry
