@@PlaywithDaisy yea why would you want to go backwards in life, it obviously didn't work out for a reason. And in reality people tend to not change all that much. That's like throwing water on a fire then trying to relight wet wood like nothing happened, it never works. It only causes more pain and suffering
@@beaublanton7788forgiveness is love. Forgive but don’t forget. Anything can be rekindled, you can still take an ex back and maintain your self respect. They just have to earn you and recognize and respect your worth. It’s not impossible, but not guaranteed either. Power of faith bruv, faith the size of a mustard seed can move a mountain. But whether the mountain will move or not is gods will not yours. Faith without action is dead. Couple this with the law of attraction, law of assumption, and law of accumulation. And nothing is impossible.
That keith Lee affect analogy is 100% truth. I had an ex hit me up last week after 16 years. I actually forgot all about her. I always tell people, the one major decision is life changing. If you are a good person, I promise you. They will NEVER forget you. Update: I’ll do my best not to make it long. We met up at BJ’s restaurant, we mostly communicated through text messages. I ended up being there first, as she walked. I stood up and greeted her with a hug, she started to cry. As we waited to be seated we chatted a little bit. I didn’t want to get in a deep conversation with people all around us. Once we got the table situated, I told her you have the floor. She thanks me for meeting up with me after 16 years. She gave me a run down of all what transpired in her life over the years we didn’t speak. I won’t go to deep into that conversation. She told me, I remember the things you use to say to me. I use to tell her, why are you SORRY for what you did. You knew exactly what you’re where doing at the time you did it. You told me 16 years ago, where in the Bible does it say sorry? You taught me to ask for Forgiveness. I’m asking you tonight to Forgive me for what I put you threw. I didn’t realize how good I had it, the men after you didn’t compare. She has 2 kids, same dad. They never really got along. I asked her, you saw the red flags in the beginning with him going out drinking not being a man of his word. Why would you not only have one kid, you turn around and have a 2nd. I thought having a 2nd kid would change things. I just looked at her and just SMH. She, asked me if I had kids. I told her no! Your 55, great man with no kids. Now, before everyone starts putting me on blast, of why I don’t have kids. I did a tour in Desert storm (ARMY)! I have screws in my lower spine, lots of stitches over my body. I average 4 to 6 hr.’s of sleep a night for the last 30 years, with plenty of pain meds next to me bed. I didn’t want to be selfish, and try to raise a kid in so much pain and not be able to play with them. Or just do the simple things in life, how to tie a shoe, ride a bike, fly a kite! Just simple things for me. I remember, it was a night raid. On our way to the object, SGT Mitchell step on some sort land mine. Blew his left leg off, I remember looking over and everything seemed to be in slow motion. Between the return fire and yelling and movement. I made my way over to him and carried him behind a wall. No, he didn’t make it. For the one’s on here reading this. My heart goes out to the people who have had loves ones that didn’t make it back. Let me stay on track! She just wanted to meet up and ask for my forgiveness. As soon as I told her I forgave her. I could see whatever had a hold of her on the inside, gave her peace within. I didn’t this about 10 years ago or so. I got in contact with some of the women I hurt in the past, some cursed me, some never returned my email or calls. Some actually said, thank you for reaching out and asking for forgiveness. I tell people all the time, we are never promised tomorrow. So why do I watch Coach Blac or a few other ones. Trying to help the younger generation. My nieces and nephews mostly, or anybody that is willing to listen without rolling their eyes. What brother’s me the most, so I can end this. I saw a few months ago, young lady gets on social media and tell the young gentlemen. I look to good for the cheesecake factory! What’s wrong with going to Baskin and Robins for some Chocolate almond Ice cream. Of course, it’s my favorite, you can have anything you want. My dad said to me May 18 1988, Son don’t hang your hat high enough to where you can’t reach it. Meaning, if you start off at high end place you have set the standard. Bottom line, choose someone that chooses you, Its make life a lot more enjoyable with each other. Gentlemen, don’t lead with your wallet. I’ve done that in the past, it doesn’t end well. Last thing, I don’t not recommend going to back to the ex. They are a Ex for a reason. They hardest time for me during my journey of battling my ex’s in my mind was at night when my head hit that pillow. That’s when those Mind monsters will get you. Everyone stay the course, be safe, be blessed! My best advice to give to anyone, you will know when you had enough!
Facts. We poured into every aspect of their life and they will search for us in everyone else they meet. Meanwhile we’ve learned what not to accept from a so called romantic partner. Our future is so bright we need sunglasses. 😎 Shalom.
Nice Video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can't stop thinking about him, l've tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I'm frustrated, I don't see my life as anyone else. I've done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can't, I don't know why I'm saying this here, I really miss him and just can't stop thinking about him.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but I could not let him go, so I had to do all I could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back, now we are back together, and I must say I am enjoying every moment...
People need to really be aware of these type of demons labeled as “people”. Those demons people called “narcissists” even if you never reach out they will reach out and try to “Hoover” you. Meaning try to pull you back into your life… don’t fall for it!
No contact teaches you self restraint, self respect, dignity, patience and self reliance. By the end of no contact, you should feel like getting your ex back is less of a priority or victory, and more of a debate on whether or not you even want them back.
That's what I'm learning. You also realize all the valuable things you did. It helps you recover from a point of worthlessness. No Contact has a positive effect of getting yourself back
@@Missy-d9q You can be. Just believe that the most high God is preparing your KING for you as we speak! So, please do not settle for these losers out here who are trying to sponge off of you for their livelihood! Stop being their doormat, comebuckt, therapist, and place holder! You are wayyy better and worthy of much more than what you're getting frim these men who have nothing of value to offer you. You never lose your value, my beautiful sista...you just to know you have it and protect it from thieves who want to see you with nothing. More than likely, these men are broken... Spiritually, mentally, psychologically and physically... Pass anyone male or female by if they will not respect you, love you or value you! 🙏🏿Much love and success to you...🌻 You can do it!🥰
It always surprises me how negative people on this platform are. If you still love the person who broke up with you and are willing to forgive them, than go ahead and be with them. This is especially true if you've both done the work to improve yourselves. The grass is not always greener on the other side.
Exactly and sometimes people have to fall apart to be able to fall back together! But only if both people have worked on themselves so they don’t repeat the same patterns
There’s one thing people doesn’t understand. When someone beg you to stay with you, especially the one you took them for granted. Being patient with you all their life. And you left them when they still loved you. Those kind of people, once they closed their hearts. It’s over. By the time you came to your senses. They have gone to far.
No that's way too much doubt. If you can't be in a door and work on the issues at that time.Why bother coming together later in life?Especially if you were regrets to the first time
My ex came back after 4 years. We have known each other 18 years. We started dating and he just ghosted me out of nowhwre. Hadnt heard from him in four years and honestly had healed and moved on from the heart break. To be honest he hadnt even crossed my mind in a couple years...pops up apologizing...we started to date again and while i had hoped he had changed....he didnt. Just realized he wasnt gonna find anything better....even admitted that... That was the moment i decided...nah... I dont want my husband saying to me "well...i went and searched far and wide for something better and decided you were the best i was gonna fine".... I wany my husband saying "I knew it was you from the start and i never want to lose you" period.
You got hit by the Hoover! All narcissists circle back ex’s it’s called hoovering. They have supply and go from one to another as they get bored easily.
Exes always come to see if can start something. Even start a friendship or see if there still something still there. This guy I stop talk like 2 years ago, keeps sending friend request I'm not interested In talking too him.
My ex did exactly what you said. Took him less than 3 weeks to come back begging for my forgiveness. Week later I learned of a woman he had been screwing the whole 4 we were together. I learned where she lives. I went there and sure enough he was there. You can imagine his surprise when he saw me pull up in her driveway. She had no idea of me like I didn't her. I was dumb enough to even considered working it out.... yes my family was there for me but they did not want me with him cause of the lies. I'm so glad I learned the true person he is..
If someone is being okay without talking to you for more than 3 months and you still expect them to reach out to you. Nah man even if you love them so much. It’s time to move on.
true 💯 my covert ghosting me now for the 3rd time within 1 3/4 yrs. 7th week now ..😢 when he comes back this time there is no going back, I am no contact
@@ritapeters1330im on month 4, do they always come back? Do they ever forget about us? I cannot believe this behaviour he is severe dismissive avoidant
@@georgiasellers183 it hurts so much, incredible pain of disbelief about their cruelty ... , I feel for you, mine came back twice ..now I hope he won't for my peace, not get weak again and take him back ..yes, yours may come back ..does he ghost without discarding you? Did he block you? My fearful avoidant/covert narcissist, 7th week of ghosting, did not block me. Important for your healing is: no contact, only then he can miss you. No, he'll never forget about you. They are damaged souls.
It’s been 18 months since my wife left. She showed up around July last year and said she missed me and still loved me. We started dating again and out the blue she said she can’t do it. We were getting on so well as well. I knew there was someone else, the person she left me for. Yet, I wanted to salvage my marriage. I went full no contact in November and she went straight back to him. Ultimately, it’s been this man the whole time. I’ve no idea what she’s doing in life now. Fact is people, they don’t always come back. However, IF they do, it’s because whoever they left you for wasn’t as good as they thought. If they’ve been with someone else after your break up, you can NEVER take them back. It’s so hard to accept that but taking them back shows weakness. They left for “better”….let them have it. Stay strong to you. You’re worth so much more.
My ex of 11 years destroyed our family n tore it apart this past year so she could see if she was missing out, we been in no contact since December, this fucked my brain up but I will never take her back cus I know she’s sleeping around tryna fill the void, in due time I expect her to come back taking accountability and apologizing but like you said, they think they gone find better so ill make sure she stands on it, we have a child so she’ll always be in my life but never will she get my love again
My ex of 15 years destroyed our family last year and i know i would not take her back. She even know it as i told her to contact only for kids and dog as i dont want to hear from and see her. Now i have standards. It takes only 3 words to explain m6 stndards. "Soft guy era". Drizzle drizzle baby 😅
@slaven Your post does hold some truth. My husb and I separated for 3 years about 10 years ago. It wasn't due to an affair. Long story, less long, we reconciled. We both needed that break. We celebrated 40 years of marriage this year. However, depending on why you separated, I would not recommend reconciling, not unless you both do the work and bring your healed selves back to the relationship. I have no regrets. I've done a great deal of internal transformation. Pricesless!!❤ We both agreed that if we separate again, there's no coming back. I'm not sure if he meant it, but I did. And I'm sure he knows I meant it.
Once someone leaves your life don’t hold on to them. That’s the only way they will be able to come back. Let that ex energy go. Take on a new you. New love. New life. They left for a reason. And why would I take someone back that had to leave my life for me to elevate and find myself. That’s means they were holding me back.
Not necessarily true.. you could be holding yourself back depending on the situation. Most relationships end do to a person past trauma. If one is holding onto past trauma they will bring that into a relationship that has nothing to do with the new person and ruin everything. If it’s meant for you to be with that new person you work on yourself and God will bring you two back together.
Once a person shows you who they are... please believe them. They are not going to change. They are going to take advantage of you if you let them. Deuces.
This man is spot on. It took my ex-wife 16 years to reach out with regret... by then, I was 13 years married to a good woman, with which I have 2 children. Rebuild your life. If (when) she tries to come back... remember, she abandoned you once, she'll do it again.
My ex is reaching out after 27years. I always tell people be the best you are to them, don't abuse them when they leave. It doesn't matter how they try they can't replace you and will always regret leaving you.
If a person is dating and being with someone in only a week or so after a break up they been talking to that new person while in a relationship with you
I’ve been dumped like a piece of trash after almost 3 years of planning my life with my ex. Every day I go through turmoil of emotions. One moment I’m ok and the next I’m crying in the corner. I want to thank you for your videos and wisdom. I cannot tell you how many times I watched your video and was validated and chose not to reach out to my ex to preserve the little dignity and self respect I have left. Please Keep on guiding us. I’ll keep on watching. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
@user-tb8re4yz1n, I had to let mine go for almost three years. He kept being inconsistent, everything can first and kept cancelling on me. He wasn't a person of his word. I went no contact and just gave up..His words never matched his actions. The lack of actions told me everything...
Hey..I am going through the exact same right now…its 4 months ago now but I feel like Im getting worse. The turmoil like you describe it, every damn day. And the suicidal thoughts did return harder. Im so devastated, I feel like I can‘t do it anymore.
I wont though. I dont even see him the same way anymore. Thats kind of what usually happens when a dude runs off. Distance makes women lose feelings 99% of the time.
My ex-husband has been asking for us to be reunited for the past 10yrs. We were married for 8yrs and have been divorced for 22yrs. During our marriage, he was mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive, a notorious cheater, and had a mistress whom he had 2 children with during our marriage. I forgave him 22yrs ago so that I could live my life in peace with no hatred or grudge towards him, and all is forgiven. I look forward to God blessing me with my Boaz someday.
1 Corinthians 7: 10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
No need to look for that, cause God will not send u a second husband just to send u to hell for adultry, God can’t not be tempted with sin …..look out for satan he will answer ur prayers.
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
I know how you feel. My partner ended things 3 weeks ago after 10 years. I had communication issues (I would shut down in conflict) and she would cringe if I touched her because she wasn’t happy with how she looked but I wanted to be by her side forever, through thick and thin but she wanted out. You do start to think more about yourself but I still have dreams of her coming back or when looking through photos of us and realising it’s all gone. It’s heartbreaking. Find a project for yourself and therapy helps.
My ex and I had a great relationship but after he broke up and rebounded he started to contact me again but he repeatedly told me he just wants to be friends and to not wait for him. Even though he tells me he enjoys the time we spent together I cannot wait around for someone who talks like that. I want someone who will do anything to keep me.
I'm fairly sure my ex has moved on, she left me for someone else. It's been three months now and there has been zero reach out. I'm learning to see how I will be okay. Though there is always so much uncertainty felt every single day, I know I deserved better than how she left me and that I deserve better today than to think about someone so dearly that likely does not reciprocate that on her end. I don't know if I will ever be as hurt as I was and still am to some degree from this breakup, but I won't let her get the best of me. It might not be obvious to see today, or tomorrow, or even a year from now, but I will be the kind of person she will in fact miss and regret losing. To all the people who has had their heart broken from someone you loved dearly and thought would be your future, you are never alone and I wish you all the love that you deserve to have. Take the time that you need to heal from this and cherish your life for how valuable it truly is ❤
Everything he’s saying in all his videos is 100% on point. I’ve watched all of coach’s videos. Today makes 6 months since I got T-boned. I did everything he advised. No contact works I promise you it does. Even though I was dying on the inside I never showed her that I was suffering. She calls me today and tells me she misses me and needs to see me. I played the hard to get role and told her I have plans. She then said she would come by tomorrow. I told her I will see if I’m not busy. We have been together for more than 20yrs. I’m super excited about this chance. I understand the hopelessness and gut wrenching emotions that we go through. I promise you watch coach’s videos. It helps trust me. Coach thank you sir
I love his videos, they give us hope, so thankful for him. And good job staying in no contact even though it was really tough, I'm very happy for you. Thanks for the advice too.
Once my ex leaves me and gets with another man. Congratulations cause now you got that second place prize. Better raise that trophy pretty high cause you ain’t coming back to me. I’m not on the back burner for nobody. I played that game once , and I learned my lessons of why you don’t do that to yourself. It’s called self respect.
Where i am with a relationship of 9, im okay with giving space & rebuilding cause we have alot of healing but if she engages sexually with another man the line is crossed and i could no longer be with her. Women always think its better when speed bumps come along all to get done shiesty by someone she though could replace you then come back. But if it gets that far its gone for good. Talking or sparing time or dates to get your mind off shit idgaf but swapping dna nogo
My ex just told me he still has feelings for me..had the most intimacy he's ever had with me, the best most loving physical relationship and he thinks I'm an amazing woman and he walked. He's leaving the relationship. I'm in shock. It makes no sense. The pain is excruciating.
My girl of 3 years left me for a guy she met the week before. She even told me I didn't need to worry about him, then invited him out with us, and made me watch as she paid less attention to me and more attention to him as the night went on, until by the end of the night, she was completely ignoring me and completely focused on him.
Hi Coach! I have decided, in my situation, that I no longer desire the relationship. It’s over and I have moved on. Life is too short. Better horizons on the way. Enjoy your stories. Loving the new look.🌟
exactly. these videos are so enlightening and so true but i will not do any of these things in the hope that the ex comes back but rather to take my power back, nurse back to health and never look back
Ever since i chose therapy and pouring into me, life became so much better. Next month makes it 1 year and since I finally chose me and just put it to the universe.....it's legit, "it is what is it." I know all my exs are suffering and paying for their consequences. I don't wish ill on them because in the end. I'm not going to block my blessings.
You are so right….my ex husband left me. I did no contact for months. During no contact I refocused my energy back into me and advanced in my career. During our one year of separation he got nastier because he could not get a reaction from me. I ended up in court with him several times trying to get my personal real estate. We went through a nasty divorce. I was able to keep my property BUT I ONLY communicated with him in a courtroom through an attorney and judge. He would often come around after court asking can we talk. NOPE, I kept it moving. Fast forward I heard my ex had remarried, had a baby and went through another divorce. About 4 years later guess who I ran into at a football game asking “can we talk” NOPE, I kept it moving. A few weeks later guess who knocking on my door wanting to apologize for everything he did. I’m good brother and I advised him to NEVER knock on my door again…one word ….Karma
No contact will not make her want you again. It's just the only option you have. She might feel lonely at some point at contact you again for validation when her new guy is treating her poorly but it's not even worth it talking to her again. Just move on. When a woman loses genuine desire for you it's because you were too available and lost your leverage at some point. Getting a woman to have genuine attraction for you again is very difficult and unlikely.
Every woman I’ve ever dated has always came back later on. It’s always heartfelt conversations, and getting true closure. We all remain friends from a distance.
my ex - my first love broke up with me and just abandoned me. said he lost feelings and didn't even care for me after the break up. my anxiety and my health has been so bad, its so upsetting to resent someone you once spent years of your life loving :/ i hope i get through this
He had been gone about a month and although it was heart breaking he did me a favour. I was too good for him. He was broke and had only love to offer and he withdrew that aswell. So i am now gona find a real man who will be provider and protector as God intended . Losers will always be losers.
Same happened to me, I worked my ass off & he didn’t. I was paying his bills & my own. Feeding his kids & my own. He has Tourette’s and claims he can’t work. He left me out the blue for a childhood friend he said was like a sister & got a job & is trying to build a life with her now. Oh & she states out loud on her social media how much she doesn’t like kids & doesn’t want kids. He’s got 3 SMH.
I've been single & and had no contact with my ex for almost 3 years. When we dated the 2nd time, he showed me the writing on the wall in all capital letters. I will tell anyone if you break up 1 time, keep it moving forward. A true relationship you don't break up. You work through things. Things will not ever be the same, plus when it comes to healing from the break up a 2nd time around for me, it felt tripple times worse to start the healing process all over again. I stay in prayer. i'm thankful that i actually saw the truth and some things i admit i overlooked. However, i know the next time, don't overlook anything. Actually, believe what they tell you don't try to change their mind keep it pushing. It will save you your time later on down the road. I can't change my past, but i sure do regret dateing him, that's for sure!!
I regret dating mine too. My fault for ignoring the red flags in the beginning. I’ve been single for a year and a half now. I’m still devastated but I’m starting to realize he never loved me, someone who puts you down and belittles you everyday for no reason doesn’t deserve you
@@IvanaGirl you know,I'm pretty sure you passed up ALOT of Good Men who would have loved you and treated you well.......if that's actually what you want????........why did you choose this particular man in the 1st place? Maybe you need to evaluate the criteria you use to select men????
@@jonthomson9262that I am just so stupid otherwise I would have a high paying job like him etc etc. he punched a hole in the wall because I took too long to come back home from the store and it made him angry. He is out of control. I think I tend to choose damaged men because I guess I am damaged myself because I grew up in a pretty abusive household
This time she’s the one blocked on everything during NC. Tired of seeing her fake on social media and try to piss me off just so she can get a reaction out of me! If she really loved me or cares she will find a way to reach out and apologize and communicate w me like I did for her the first time we broke up! Now I can finally have no setbacks bc I break no contact after a week or see her stories!
Broke no contact multiple times.. first time we actually hooked up.. ended poorly. Now 3 months post break up. Back in NC for two weeks. Anxiety is wearing off. Been leveling up in life but still left with sadness. Realizing my worth but wondering if she’ll find greener grass. End of the day we have to remember we’re him!
I broke NC after 2 months , she was cold and told me to move on , I got rejected twice now🙂 , now I started again with NC day 2 but this time I'm doing it permanently, I'm done being treated like I'm nothing to her anymore, plus she's been texting some new guy friends she met during her internship she told me that soo idk...im doing NC permanently now
Let's hope that she does find greener grass and that she is happy,so that you dont carry grudges and negative energy......she doesn't belong your grass anymore dude. CHANGE YOUR NUMBER, BLOCK HER ON EVERYTHING, AND STAY IN NO CONTACT FOR LIFE.......TIME WILL HEAL THESE WOUNDS,BUT IT WILL BE A LONG,PAINFUL PROCESS THAT WILL PROBABLY TAKE YEARS. BE PATIENT.
@@doubleJJ01 yeah,she made it clear......by breaking no contact you only delayed your own healing process. It will probably take a few years, but you will make a full and complete recovery.
@@jonthomson9262 thank you bro , I'm feeling better each day , now I'm just at a point where my thoughts are like " how will I trust again" I'm having difficulties in trusting again I feel like girls only gona cheat and flirt behind their bfs back , idk man I'm having this issue now...I don't mind losing her now since I did my best , but how will I trust again is a bigger question bcuz now my mind feels like I got to check my future gf phone which I know is not a good idea..idk I'm going crazy
I finally spoke to my ex and found out I didn’t do anything wrong to make him want to break up with me, he just wanted to take a step back to focus on his relationship with God. I can call him any time and we decide to stay friends, going to the movies soon too. SO STOP OVERTHINKING AND REST KNOWING THAT THE BREAK UP MAY NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU!! ❤❤
We have been married almost 21 years and been together 22 years and he tells me he can’t do this anymore out of the blue. Then after 4 kids and 22 years together he leaves me for his ex wife of 1 and half years. He moves out and leaves the state without even telling his kids just abandons while I’m in the hospital. I can’t believe he’s so selfish to break his kids hearts without even having a conversation. He could have talked about whatever was bothering him before he left. At this point I put him on child support and he’s mad about that. Why he got what he wanted he still has kids that need support pay your support and do you Noal Madden. I hope you are happy!!!
That’s extremely narcissistic. Go no contact. Educate yourself on this disorder and it will fall into place. He did you and the children a favor. Be Strong🙏🏾you got this👏👏❤️
I blocked my ex so you can’t contact me. I think this applies to NORMAL break ups. I’m not taking anyone back that LIED about having a WIFE and still being in relationship with their children’s mother. TOXIC!!
The Keith Lee analogy was truly powerful! Such a true example of how we need to be careful of what we ask for, do we really have the capacity or character to maintain, receive or keep our hearts truest desire. Very deep! I pray that if me and my ex re-unite (NC 7 days) that we can truly make it work and involve God deeply with what we got.
That was great wisdom regarding the lady who was blessed with a huge tip. She wasn't prepared to handle what she asked for. My motto is, if you ask for it, pray for it, or manifest it, be prepared to receive it. That's why it's imperative to work on inner-self.❤❤
I told him too much. Deepest feelings i have ever shared. Now he walked away. I feel like i am standing in front of him naked and vulnerable. Its awful that i have to see him everyday at work.
I don't think my ex will ever come back. It's been 6 months since the breakup. And 3 months into no contact. She had many problems regarding the relationship. And the last time we met she told me she doesn't love me anymore. She never sees us getting back. So, I told her I cannot be friends with her. That was it. I haven't contacted her since. Haven't heard from her since.
He broke up with me today. I also just lost my job, and a few years back I havent even healed from losing my previous husband to Covid, and miscarriage. I have no friends, and I don't talk to my family. But at least I have RU-vid to at least tell people that no one should judge me if I decide to end my life today.
Hey there, I think ur situation is really hard, I totally get it, the other day I had to call the help line … I have noticed things have gotten better after 2 weeks, it’s still bad but better.. I think it’s worth seeing if the feeling goes away ur a sweetheart
@@Luke-gs6kz Thank you. I can't believe I've isolated myself to the point that I get more support from strangers than the people around me. I still have intrusive thoughts and I really think I'm losing the battle.
He was telling me I’m a good woman, he told me “I’m loving you” days before he broke up with me. I allowed him to quit his jobs and steal money from me because his gambling problem. After we were “ trying again” he he needed to show consistency… he lied to me again. We both have complex ptsd and we didn’t seek for help to keep our love safe. We weee living together and we had a lot of good times he won’t be able to forget… the cooking, goin out for sushi, walking the dog. May be he finds someone better in bed who knows!! One thing for sure I know it wasn’t easy for him neither. It’s the deepest cut for me and it’s helping to fix everything I needed to fix if he returns we are going to have a totally different dynamic. At least I know I’m changing. I won’t ever stop loving him and he deserves all the love on earth.
Everyone deserves love when they show love, reciprocally. He sounds like he put you thru a lot of not loving situations. You sound like a good person, but that often sets you up to be used and abused by not so good people. You deserve to be loved with actions, not just words. ❤
@@godsown4683 it's not sad. It's choosing to never be hurt again. I'm single and it's staying that way. Relationships are nothing but more crap you don't need.
All the things you said are so true, but for the people who go no contact for life and change our number. We’ll never know, and it doesn’t matter. Most times they don’t change!
Dang - Wish I would have watched your videos the beginning of this week. I truly settled into the decision to go No Contact yesterday. But it was after weeks of not knowing my worth and behaving desperately. So embarrassing.
I notice that since i act like i dont care he gets out of his way to see me. Because of our child i cant go zero contact but i do the minimum and only about the child. Two days ago he forgot something for our child and i wrote him that it is fine, he can bring it next time he gets her but nono he was like " i can bring it over...we can meet in one hour" and then i just took what he had forgoten and said thank you, have a good day. His Mother told me that he startet to ask how im doing and if she knows what im doing....so i give it more time
I w been in no contact for almost a week, it’s been hard for sure. If he doesn’t contact me with a sincere apology and own up to his exact faults and don’t try to put blame on me, we may have a chance to something stronger. If not I’m Prepared to keep moving forward and doing things differently in my next relationship.
My Ex came back after 14years apart though we are both married but I was happy to see him,he told me he was sick and needed to tell me about it,but I was shocked cos the way we parted was painful we didn't talk about it,it just happened that he got someone pregnant so I had to let him go now he is pleading for forgiveness
I just broke up with my ex. I loved him more than anyone, but he was moody in a bad way and brought major chaos. It was hard to put my foot down with him. I took it back, but he didn’t bite. May just be a good thing. But it wasn’t the best relationship. We both need healing.
Let them go, just let them go. I know it hurts. Everybody plays the fool sometimes , u can not make someone love u. Please. Ladies. Stop. Fightin 0:02 g over the men , please stop. I dont care if she knew about u, a woman can not make a man have sex with her. Think about it. I know it hurts. Take your lesson andd learn from it amd make bettrr choiced the next time. Learn to love yourself, so u wii not be used and abused by other men or women.
If you’re a stand up guy, with a good career, in shape, have a solid friend group, people like being around you, you have hobbies and passions that you are good at (music instrument, art, gym, sports, anything) they will ALWAYS COME BACK. It has never failed once. Even 2-3 times I’ve had them come back over the years
My wife divorced me when she gave birth to our child. 2 years tried stayinf corporative to grow the child but she wanted me gone. 3 years more depressed and figuring life and covid came and lock downs. I worked out at home, covid opnwd up i paid a gym. Today im 10 years younger, competing for Amateur bodybuilding competitions. She now calling me back telling me i shluld come visit our child be there. Shes unhealthy too, shes calling me twice a day. Asked me hows my love life. She tore my heart, i was abandoned yet i moved on. I felt peace, pity for her at same time respect and kindness for woman i shared body with. They come back when you move on. She likes this version of me. Im done now, she lost a man who was ready to five uo life for her. I wouldve been a greta fathdr a husband but she turned me to a guy near 40 living modern hookup life. . Sad end to both our lives.
@@BmoreBetterNOW nah, i made moneu, traveled, saved, haf sex with enfless beautiful women. Life is amazing, i can pay to abuse even Its a transaction and a fool would take in a grown adukt to feed and smash. I do it put the cash leave. My advise to men, smash and throw, get your money right get your crib right, The scam of taking women in is so earpy 2000s. You would be stupid to think women will be married again, nope. Im glad within 10 years it wikl be a norm to remain single and smashing everything which 70% is done already. Sing this to broke guys who betaing their meat and wishing a free women take it in. To live in major urban city and making great high end 5 figure salary, i can literally pooop on women and leave that kuch cheap yhr world gotton. Thank you and good luck
AMEN 🙏🏾 I take up my ex in a slippers two pants three shirts and two shorts and he didn’t have anything to give me I take care of his child and his sick mother I was so happy to know I could help them, I help him to get a job and as soon as he starts working he dumps me yes he did the same man that cried to me day and night to be there for him and promise that he would never leave or disrespect me, now he’s boasting about how many females he has and how he can change clothes and shoes, I cried day and night am so depressed and don’t know what to do, am so hurt but am here trusting god!
Sadly, if she cares later, I can't accept it. In marriage, you are supposed to work through tough times. If she leaves for greener grass, she wasn't willing to do the real work marriage is about. Why should i trust her ever again? We are divorced now, I'm still hurt, however i would say no if she came back today. My pain stems from the fact everything she said and all promises weren't real. It was a huge waste of time.
Thank you for explaining simply and kindly. It hurts so bad - the kind, wonderful man he was, the one who was my best friend and my true love, became cold, non-caring and disrespectful. Now he's with another woman. I think the man I loved is gone.
I think blacademic might have one of the best Dating tips. Because he tells you the truth. And its great because TRUTH HELPS YOU HEAL AND GROW. This man needs a TV special. On GOD 🛐
Thank you for explaining it so well! I've listened to many on the no-contact process and yours makes the most sense! Yes, my ex bf did me exactly the way to described, & yes, I reacted in shock and tears trying to change his mind. I broke the no-contact 2 times until I finally texted him that I agree with the NC. I've been pouring into myself and have made it to day 8. Yay! I will make it to the 30 day mark & even more. I do love him deeply, & when he comes back, he'll have to be a changed person. ❤
They say you don't know someone till you live with them True I was staying over the holidays and saw many things that led me to break the engagement I am glad I did better now than 5 yrs in. I thought I loved him was very wrong Thanks
The combination of that voice, the way to talk and that background music totally calms me down every single time. Could be talking about trashcans, it would still be my kind of therapy.
I have been in no contact for a month. I have worked on myself and also enjoying my life as much as I can, I have never talked to my ex since the night she broke up with me and I’m doing great. The weird thing is that now 2 other exes from the past have reached out to me and are chasing me 😂
They always realize when it's to late..been almost 9 months and now my feelings have changed ..Moved on and realized it was for the best 😢The version I was holding onto was just what I wanted her to be ..In a better place and have a relationship I always wanted and deserved.
Coach Blac, first of all, I respect how candid and unbiased you drove yourself. You were not attacking women or making provocative statements. Great video.
I feel like this video is perfect if your the one who messed up in the relationship and your the reason your ex left. Or maybe they didn’t necessarily leave you but just withdrew. The space gives you a reset. And in the meantime you can rebuild your life.
My ex can stay where at i gave him a second chance to make it right from the first time i left he did the same thing this second time and i left again i aint never going back to that he broke my heart once again im soo good on him never go back keep it moving
My ex blocked me after I told him I didn’t want to be friends after the break up. He was the one who broke up with me but kept texting me after he broke up. I miss him
I'm in it at the moment. He has violated everything sacred of mind. My mental, emotional and spiritual state of mind. I have begged, cried and even though I'm the one being cheated on and abused, I still think it's gonna work. 😢😢
How exactly do you think it's gonna work? Surely not by you being happy. Some people are really not worth it. He has a dark mind. I know it may be hard to realize he's not a good person just by reading some comments on RU-vid, but (from my opinion) you should not look back. I just broke a 2 yr situationship. It's not the same, but I'm very slowly starting to realize that it was and will be for the better. I somewhere found a comment saying >>would you treated yourself the same way if you were that person?
This comment meant a lot to me I'm still hurt 4 months clean no contact well once but I hung up the phone and never called again. She really did hurt me good thank you for listening.
Hey man thank you for your inspiring videos. I really have been working on my self after my devastating break up!!! And I have decided not to pursue the relationship, but your videos helped me learn deep down what I truly need to do for myself. And this inspired me to focus on my purpose driven life!!!! Thank you man you saved my life bro!!!! FACTZZZZ!!!!
Thank you my ex is always sending emails and text messages but not responding. Am slowly detaching from him after a 2 year breakup. No contact really worked for me.
Absolutely love your platform. What a blessing that I found it… I this particular video truly lifted me up. John my ex is and was the love of my life. I grieve for him way too much and he takes up way too much of my brain. Space. He falls under the category of dismissive avoidant. I would love to hear your perspective on the dismissive avoidance and how to deal with break ups with such a strong personality type you again Rebecca K
8 year relationship just gone down the drain, out the blue. 8 years of love & loyalty cut off over night. Im 2 months down the line following no contact & i hear from a mutual friend she is engaged to a rich business man and getting married this year. Ive managed to just about get back to my feet & working towards improving myself, been going gym, in the best shape of my life, seen her there a few times, see her looking but no communication. I can't see how she could come back now.
Literally my same story man. I believe she left me for more of a successful man. We where together for 9 years. It was hard getting though it but I did with self improvement.
@beaublanton7788 you're right I couldn't take her back. I can't give all that healing I've gone through to the same person responsible for bringing me to my knees in the place .
Keep on your grind fella. Don’t look back and improve yourself more and more each day. Time will come where you won’t want her back and you’ll be in abundance of women 👍
I know he will come my ex..he really kicked me out so badly i didnt ever seen this side of him.but for whats worth,am here doing the most in self development and living life.i am soo certain in my being that he will text and misses me and all that..i know he will come around..no hard feelings.learning to let him go and detach from him.
He broke up with me one month ago, to date his boss. We have to be roommates until he can leave. I’m trying not to be in contact as much as possible and he’s gone 16 hours a day to not see me. When he does walk in, he puts his head next to mine and does this hug type thing. I don’t respond. It’s tough. We were hitting 7 years together, we were supposed to get married this year. I told him he did me a favor.
My boyfriend of 1 year broke up with me a week ago and he already has a fling and has kissed this other girl. I was his first kiss, first love, first cuddle first everything so it’s really saddening to me but he is very narcissistic and always blames/ed me for everything during and after the relationship. I begged and cried for a while but no more. I’m already moving countries and we were bound to break up anyways. His new fling can never be on my level, no one will ever love that boy like I did and when he finally realizes how bad he messed up and how bad he misses me, I’ll be over him and will turn that manipulative toxic b down.
