Your Kids Are Exactly Who They Think They Are... Right. 

When my daughter was three, she wanted to grow up to be a mermaid. We said Ok, but we did not have her legs surgically modified and keep her in fish tank. She's 33 now, married with kids and works in marketing. I think she's glad we kept her a human till she was old enough to make an informed mature decision.

When I was 8, I was diagnosed with Autism back in the 90s. While all the kids were playing sports at Recess and Lunch, I stayed in the library, reading novels, playing computer games or trading through comic books. This was perfectly normal behaviour, but because I wasn't doing what all the other were doing, I was branded as different and treated as if I was a problem. That was the identity that was given to me. I was apparently stupid, and lazy, and irresponsible, because that's how all people with Autism were supposedly. I was so confused. It wasn't until my early 20s when I realised I had no real idea about who I was - and partly with Peterson's help, transformed my life. I found jobs, completed two Degrees, bought a house and even got engaged last week (yay). And with some therapy, I realised my parents and teachers had really no honest to God idea about what they were doing. Any deviation from the norm, and they'd just start randomly throwing labels around. And like I said, this was the 90s. Life is seriously a mediation between your wants and the environment. And now I see countless friends and family members my age labelling themselves with virtually every acronym under the sun - ASD, ADHD, ADD, PTSD, OCD. It's trendy now, it's the new thing. We have a generation of Millennials, and some Gen Z, absolutely clueless about how to operate in wide society because they were never permitted to introspect in their youth. Parents wanted children smart enough to get by, but dumb enough to do what they said. That's not a child. That's a pet.

As a woman who was deceived by the career mantra, I approve this message. Just gave birth last week at 41 years of age. The last thing I want to do is return to work. I want to stay at home and have more kids. Trying to see how to make that happen by cutting down expenses and encouraging my hubby to pursue his career goals . I’ve loved Peterson’s message for a long time but now it’s actually a necessary voice in my home.

Recently, I've noticed that a lot of my peers on social media have been accusing Peterson of being a horrible person. As someone who has watched and been tremendously helped by Peterson's lectures in the past 3-4 years, there's no way I'm ever going to believe that. I am grateful with my life, and I hope to live one that is sufficient of the mercy that has been given to me.

Jordon is a breath of fresh air for living in this world that I no longer understand

As a fellow kid, I am incredibly grateful for my parents. They have taught me many things I cherish and look up to. :]

One thing I have learned about adults in the care of children, they need us more than I ever realized. Not to be overbearing or indoctrinating. Just to love, mentor, guide and support. A sharing of wisdom, more important than I previously thought.

Imagine spending decades becoming a genius in several fields, just to have to argue with someone about gender

I'm a substitute teacher. I see a lot. I dearly appreciate children at all ages. What I see is a need for importance or difference for their autonomy and significance. Weekly, with older children in general, they want to pull me in to respond to their Identify specifications. Today, a young man said, "Hey ,I'm gay." I said , "ok, good for you." Then trying to gaslight me, he says, "Don't you want to know my other pronouns?" I said, "No, just your name because I won't be talking about you, so what name do you prefer?" He said, "Oh, you don't care about my pronouns? I'm putting you on Twitter. I said, sounds like you are very important. He said , "I am...over 1,000 followers. Good for you. I said , "You are who you think you are. Why should I care? Are you more upset about that I don't care and I believe you can live the life you want and Identify the way you want and that's good for you, but I don't have to care either way how you live your life? Isn't that what you want? Why should I care? So what name would you like me to use? Kinda sad

Im not a mom yet but I am a housewife, and although I hated my office job, I also hated being at home. And then my husband atarted his own business and started taking me to work with him, and I loved it! And I realized that working in the office and staying home (as i had experienced those things) was the same - being alone all day in a poorly lit space, doing tasks that don't mean a lot, loosing your mind. Going to work with my husband has helped us get closer because we see each other working and help each other accomplish things, and we're together and he expresses his appreciation that I'm there. I still do house stuff and that's fine, but im so glad I get to look forward to being with him and being helpful to him on days when we work together. It gives me a lot of purpose and joy to be outside, working with my hands, being next to him, and knowing that he appreciates what i do. And i can appreciate him more, having awareness of his workload that I previously didn't have.

The point that Dr. Peterson makes about poverty keeping people from having a broader perspective is profound. I've witnessed an effect of it: visiting Mexico years ago, I was dismayed by the litter - plastic bags were drifting everywhere. My own home state of WA had for years the slogan "Keep Washington Green" and it was rare to see roadside litter. But that was then and this is now: as more people, whether they are migrants or not, fall into despair, the litter level has also increased. It's probably a barometer of not just disregard, but desperation.

My wife, 44, has been in a professional career since college. Successful career, makes 6 figures, three kids in their teens. The last few years she has been asking me more and more “can I quit my job I don’t want to do this anymore”. I’m of course like of course you can, we need to make adjustments to life style and that’s ok I’m all for your happiness and I am happy to keep working and make money for us to live and you can stay home and change to a new life style. It’s just been interesting to watch her view point change from the 90s you must have a competitive job as a woman and now she is realizing it’s not important.

JP is a father to us all. God bless him

Thank you, Dr. Peterson. I am still amased at how good it is to see you up and fighting again. I wish you the best

I was very unhappy for many years when I held down jobs outside the home. My husband made pretty good money but I felt like I had to bring in money too. When I finally had had enough of jackass employers and quit... what a relief. Come to find out my husband liked me being at home and feeling better. I like having a nice home and gardening and doing all the woman things. I do not like dealing with the crap out there today.

Out of the thousands of JP videos I've seen, this one is top ten. Wow. You precisely crystallized ideas I've had bouncing around in my head for years. I had put the connections together, but I was still knee-deep in refining it enough to explain them.

Changing your identity based on your current feelings, is called "a personality disorder"

The MySpace “about me” section was my generation’s first introduction to identity, it was difficult for me to fill in and to this day I cringe at the thought of putting labels on myself. Today kids wear their “about me” section on their sleeves; as their pronouns, ever changing - experimenting - and revising based on the reaction of their target audience. But they’ll come to the conclusion later: how others perceive you is your true identity …not what you declare yourself to be.

"all social relations are negotiations about identity" "identity is not subjective" i agree wholeheartedly.

This man is a blessing on the world

If I took seriously all the whimsical considerations my daughter could be, she wouldn't be standing with us today. From one moment to the next she is: A cat A dog A cow A bird A BOY A pirate A nurse A doctor Hell... It's like she's ROLEPLAYING, which is INTEGRAL TO HER DEVELOPMENT as a human being, taking all these roles gives her context and she willingly puts herself in the shoes of the animals and those who work, I feel that's a good way to built empathy and appreciation for life. I seriously don't understand why some parents take the words of their children so literally. Our jobs is to teach them lots of stuff, and one of those teachings is loving themselves and the body they came into this world.

There has to be a balance found between feeling/emotion & thinking/logic. Both are necessary just like both the fathers & the mothers influence is needed to properly raise a child.

Exactly. How do they know how they feel when the initial premise is they are confused by what they feel.

Grateful we get to hear out your wisdom in trying times. You offer us much inspiration !

Dr. Peterson’s answer makes sense.

Oh! Thank you so much. I just found you. This was so spot on. Thank you - just what I needed to hear. We’re doing it, collectively, communally. Let’s keep on with the mission. We know what it is.

Thank you, Dr. Peterson. I am gonna implement your wisdom into raising my son and since we are now expecting another one, I hope we can help our kids navigate through the BS.

so good and so needed.

Thanks for all you do Jordan, I love that your wife is there with you. I learn so much listening to you. I’m praying for a better world and that things will change for the better and that it happens sooner than later our planet is so messed up it makes me so sad.

This all has me so down. People are in such a chaotic state they cant even make a decision so they call it fluidity as if that is a good thing. My heart aches for everything.

Don't apologize, Jordan! Thank you for speaking up! ❤️

Knowledge applied for the wellbeing of people is so rare these days

At the school where I teach, kids arrive and register their presence on the “Zones of Regulation” poster, which includes magnets marked Bored, Silly, Angry, etc. Kids are to identify their feelings and have others accommodate them. They’re not taught to identify their emotions AND THEN HOW TO WORK THROUGH THEM within the social contract; they’re only taught to identify their FEELINGS at the moment. As a new teacher to the school, but a veteran of 35 years, I am nauseated.

It is always a pleasure to listen to Dr. Peterson!

I am so thankful for these videos of Dr. Jordan Peterson . I live in the middle of Appalachia and don't have easy access to live events. Keep up the good work! Thank you for ALL you do.

Wow! Excellent commentary! Everyone should listen to this! Thank you Dr Peterson for always giving us the facts and wonderful analysis of these important topics.

Grazie Dottor Jordan. Un'analisi limpida precisa e ricca di suggerimenti molto importanti!

Banger! Keep 'em coming!

Thank you for the inspiration Dr. Peterson 😊

This is one of the best videos from Jordan Peterson. So enlightening in so many ways. Im saving to re-play.

I always do enjoy when the good doctor gets into lecturing on what the data is, what the research has found

These are my notes for the children identity part. Hope it helps. Much of what we do to children is confuse them in relation to identity. If identity is about temporary feeling, when meaning are not precise, subjectively define, it's equivalent to misbehaving 2 years old. All social relations are negotiation of identity. A 2 year old do not have the maturity to orient themselves, they are impulsive, and unable to engage in social play. A social relationship is an invitation to play, if it's a tyranical approach, then it's antisocial and doesn't lead to development of social skills. Children can engage in pretend play(role playing), to play, to experiment a chosen identity over a span of time with playmates. A game is played with assigned rules that is negotiated.

Thanks for telling all this thoughts aloud.

Incredibly well, said Dr. Peterson!

Thank you for your service, Dr Peterson!

Loving this recent JBP content

The first fifteen years of a child's life is the most important, you can't get those years back. if you want any chance of your child or children being a productive citizen you have to put the time in. if you know your child is in school for hours a day you need to know the curriculum that is being taught. What ideologies are being put in their mind? wherever they go you need to know what they are learning and who they are learning it from.

This is why Sunday School is beneficial! As a child, I believed that I couldn’t stand going. yet, as an adult now. I know I could be struggling with this difficult life far worse, and have less understanding about what to expect and how to handle the unknown factors in this world.

Its the job of adults to offer roles to children - its called role models - whether as parents, teachers or random adults who interact - people will try different roles and eventually take one with minor modifications based on their uniqueness - but it still fits a role - positive to society - or unfortunately negative to society. Your new role as an adult can offer a new model for other newer children.

God bless you and your family Jordan!

JP you are the best! ❤🙏🤗

I love you so much. Thank you for your service to humanity.

Well said 😎👍

YOU are so much more than a feeling...

I love these kinds of videos with Jordan Peterson. The host asked one question at the beginning and just sat back and listened for the rest of the video. Very refreshing change from the constant bickering I see in most political videos on RU-vid.

All the best, Jordan!

Thank you Jordan!! I would love to be in hia audience.

I remember when I was about 7, and Revenge of the Sith had just come out. My best mate and I would spend entire weekends having massive Star Wars battles where I would be Obi Wan and he was Anakin, culminating the giant, backyard forest based imaginary war by a day long stick based lightsaber duel between us, with lemonade breaks throughout. God I miss being a kid. Imagine how shit it must be nowadays.

I love you so much Dr Jordan Perterson❤❤

thank you 💯...

I approcoaye your stance, and apriciate your work to stay focused on Canadian challenges.

He had great rants before. But this one was a masterpiece!

I can’t think of many things more destructive to kids than confusing them over the most fundamental distinction among people; boy/girl, man/woman, mommy/daddy.

Brilliant.

Indeed some operator that peterson lad. Id vote for him for sure🦁🎩⌚

Thank you Dr. Peterson for being willing to explain the truth to people. Your role is so valuable to the human race! Thank you for sharing, sir.

Pescador de Hombres, I so wanted to hear you today! Gracias!!!! Today is "Emancipation Day", and there is no school for some here in Puerto Rico. As I have mentioned before, I was a teacher. My child is considered to be of special education. I love him so much. I often feel sad though, as if I were forced to live in the Matrix. I can see teachers, people-both men and women- happily eating filet mignon, and making deals, with Agents. My boy will be a great man one day. The best gift I can give him, is to STAY AWAKE. Society, seems to be in trouble, but it always is. It's different now, but it's still trouble. The real problem, in my opinion, of course, is the NARCISSISM of teachers and school administrators. It's ALL ABOUT social media. I am, DISGUSTED, BECAUSE I am awake. Thank you so much. I feel like Ariel, shaking her head to Sebastian..."If we could get that Witch...to give you back your voice...you can go home, with all the normal fish... and just be...and just be..."

I really appreciate Jordan's perspective as someone who's lived longer and researched and studied on these matters at the crossroads of psychology, sociology, philosophy, religion and politics. And of course his courage to say, no, this is delusional and here's why.

My 2 year old's standard answer to any "how are you" "who are you" or "what are you" question is "I'm a daddy dinosaur" 😂 Mom: "are you OK sweetie?" Kid: "I'm OK. I'm a daddy dinosaur."

I am so grateful for Dr. Peterson. He is a huge part of the reason why I'm remotely sane in this society.

Where do I watch the full video of this?

Identity has many component, some are objective, some are interpersonal, some are subjective, others are probably missing - since I am not an psychologist. - "I am a doctor" (objective) - "I get a long well with others" (interpersonal) - "I am someone who loves to eat raw butter" (subjective) These components typically are directly or indirectly influence by personality, genetics, skills, profession, social context, etc. Over some of these we have arbitrary control (subjective), but most of them are how we conduct ourselves / are seen by other / or what role we play. So most of these components of identity are not just purely subjective, but emerge from the relations to others. Ideally your self assigned identities are the same as what others would ascribe to you and also what objectively fits. But if any of these 3 (or more?) identities deviate from the others, there is some form of a crisis.

I did not realize mine own identity until my twenties. I realized that, "I am I. I am not just my father's son, but he is also my father." I am not just an adjunct to this or that person, they also have a responsibility of relationship to me. That made me realize that I was not an expendable buffer, useful only for dying at the right moment to save someone in the family that was actually valuable. I, too, was (and am) valuable! Some people won't understand, but for me, this was discovering fire!!!

Imagine making drugs to castrate sex offenders and losing your moral compass so hard you pull a 180 and start using it on children to fulfill their whims.

may I have the link to the complete dialogue?🙏🏻 couldn’t find it in the description box. 😅

A lot of this honestly feels like basic common sense. And I do still feel like most people still think with common sense similarly, in their own unique ways. But it is truly without a doubt that social media amplifies the voices of those that are tainted with these new 'ideas', if you can call them that. Point is, it feels a little sad as well about hearing simple virtues being heard again and most people, again, don't remember being taught as a child. If those child's were blessed enough for a basic decent education

I can barely hear this. I don't know why this happens on RU-vid. I can hear fine on Rumble. Too bad. I'd like to hear Jordan Peterson.

Dr Peterson's digressions are one of the reasons I like him so much

Thank you Jordan ✝️❤️

Well that was an important video.

So where is the link to the full interview??

I am SAHM now with our third and I am so happy. I don’t want to get back to work and I am so thankful for my husband that he provides so I can be at home with my children. It’s so precious to me ❤

You hear enough thank yous, but add it again for I know who I am and have a family who as decent middle aged men have to live in this backwards world so when I listen to you I pass on your right minded reasons of common sense. Blessings & strength

I love this man. He’s everything a man should be

Omg! We did EXACTLY this with our first son 28 years ago! Steps and all! Lol IT WORKED! We have 8 kiddos and he’s the only one that needed to “frow a fit” on the steps until he was ready to join the family again! Jordan Peterson was speaking to us even before we knew he existed! 🙌

I'm sick of this touchy feely garbage. God bless Dr Peterson, and your lovely wife 🙏

Peterson is brilliant

❤ 😍 💖 ❣ love him, genius, you do better than anyone else on the planet

Is there a video of the whole lecture?

Or just look up the interview with Bjørn Lomborg on the book mentioned towards the end of this.

I Admire this man! He is amazing. The world needs what he has to say.

Thank you DOCTOR Peterson for being a light in the darkness! God’s blessings you, your lovely wife and family!🙏✝️🙏✝️❤️

Over spoilt kids become anti social, some parents are extra indulgent because they do not love enough, they can't love because they have a big limitation not because they won't. Caring for such kids could profit from agency support. A right self image at an early image is what expresses itself through adolscence and youth.

I would NEVER tell a child “how you feel is a fact” There is no bigger responsibility than mentoring and guiding children regardless of your privilege.

Key word here is think, the process of thought is not accurate to any degree. Its important to determine the difference between thinking and feeling. And the different levels of feeling. The English language is not the best descriptor of these internal processes. We often muddle thinking and feeling, but first is feeling, then comes thought as a descriptor of feeling. Dysphoria comes from a feeling of discomfort within one's skin, which requires an embracing of oneself and their being in its expressions physically and mentally. To rely on others for your sense of identity is also a huge fault, when we think we are what we're told we are, we feel that our own sense of being is invalid, and we must push it away. There's a middle ground, i think this idea could be more fleshed out in its nuances.

💔 God please grant us the courage to heal.

Yes

Peterson is just so cute

It is instructive (and hilarious) to watch a malthusian movie from the seventies - like "Soylent Green". In the movie the last book was published in like 2006 because there were no more trees to make paper. Information is hard to come by... exactly like the 2022 we all experienced in reality... or something.

As a bi man I hate that they took LGB which was for rights of people and ADULTS AND TEENS who were able to make the sexual decision to be free to do so and changed it into this horrific monster of what it was