This Is How You Prepare Your Children for the World 

100% this.

Even if one is not particularly religious, I think that church would be an excellent place to meet other parents with good morals and values, and whose children would mirror the same

I love this💕

Yes!

@@big_red_machine3547 church? for morals and values? what planet do you live on? Not interested in having any children tell my kids they're burning for eternity for not believing in their god

Yep... Specially who you marry.

Everyone is gonna have to contend with the social world 🌎, so we all have the responsibility to teach our children

that was your choice i grew up alone taking care of my sisters the house without feeling the need for any addiction, i cared loved my parents they worked hard long hours to provide for us. Family works together and the love without using words means we assume certain respons😅blities without bring asked or nit. It is selfish to blame others for self destruction by being weak and following trends or wrong doing

@@misamisa2677 it sounds like you grew up with a family and that you experienced love, so I'm not sure why you say you grew up alone. But that's not the point I want to make. I didn't blame anyone, but I made a causal connection between growing up totally alone (with NO socialisation & no family or friends) and substance abuse. This is not something I made up: we know the connection between childhood rejection/abandonment and substance abuse exists. Since you have so little information with which to form a judgement about me, ie that I was weak , speaks more to what kind of person you are than it says about me.

@@misamisa2677 You had a great childhood if you lived with your siblings. Trauma whether mental or physical does lead to a higher possibility of substance abuse.

You literally described me. From the second my son could walk I was playing with him in the community circle. By now he’s a neighborhood favorite and all the older kids and some of the same age kids flock to him the second he steps outside with me. And before I know it the older kids have me playing with them too. But their parents seem very distant for the most part. I have no problem joining in with the games, but they tend to watch from a distance.

Maybe we are just basic animals and think to hard on this. Literally play with your kids as in like monkeys in good way. We are not aliens

Play with kids is usually football sign up or camp

Sir you are psychlops #924 stop it ! 😂

@@weaponson3-158 so... to stay in the subject at hand: you are the dad they want to play with, but is your kid the kid they want to play with or is your kid the gateway to you? It seems to me that you should be carefull to not steal your kids momentum. I would go as far is saying that you werent a popular kid when you were young and now you get that validation through your kid and by that outshining your own kid in the process. Before you say anything: im projecting at this point because i found myself in your situation a while ago and stopped myself.. Curious to see if this true or im wrong?

My mom hated my friends and she was only right about one of the 5 she thought were bad influences

@@Pikawarps In my religion, we've been instructed to be the home where your kids' friends want to hang out. We aren't cool enough to get huge quantities of kids, but I make sure we always have snacks in case.

​@@Cocoisagordonsetter love this comment!

This kills me because feel like my standards are too high or something. Also I have ASD and come off strange, I know, and am working on that. It's sadly an issue of the people I see that seem genuinely fun to be around but also reasonable- reject us (gently but they still do), especially for my child's bad habits we've been trying to adjust for almost 6 years now!!! 🙈 The few kids and parents that seem to have potential are negligent and have cruel behavior even. So of course tif careless they don't mind what habits my child has. Lol I guess I just have to keep working those bad habits out and hope we can find understanding people. ❤

@@ari3lz3pp What is ASD?

Love this, thanks.

This is wonderful advice

I like this advice, thank you

Poignant!!

Don’t include pets in this serious theme. Pets are commercialized.

Good summary - very useful.

Ditto. Great summary

Interesting that this was created from an AI.

@@Rich_WagnerMore interesting is how someone thinks that the AI summary is better than anything the human mind itself could have summarized it by brain power. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Yes I felt this when he said “Sanity is something that is an emergent consequence of a well constituted social hierarchy” 🤯

I like this, I agree. But you have a good point

So true!

He isn't being funny, people just have to laugh. Laughing is also a sign of helplessness (caused by being overwhelmed), which is why you show your teeth (which is normally a threatening gesture). He just knows that people have to laugh because he hit a bad spot. It's like the reaction "Haha, too true". Most comedians are basing their jokes on this. Often by overstatements, but sometimes the truth as it is is already enough to overwhelm you. Just wanted to add this. I totally agree with you!

I mean that’s where democracy fails, we are told about free will, but we stay in information warfare laden societies. So it’s actually not about our views, but how well one side manipulates people better than other. There are very few absolute truth. Patriotism as foundation is one among them. Third gender is not as common as in American society, infact it’s not natural the way it is there. Also it’s not some abomination.

The hardest part is not looking down on others and treating them poorly for falling for the bull crap. Treat people right and you will attract them to consider your views.

I think Koolaid starts with a K. That was a good lesson from your dad

My mum taught me to think for myself. My dad to know what crime is..

never drank the kooliad 😂 i haven’t hear that in a minute

well said, where do you find like minded ppl tho?

the thing is, the guy asked a question, but the question wasnt what he really wanted an answer to. there was a fundamental misunderstanding that had to be clarified. thus he answered the question he actually needed the answer to

Jordan Peterson is talking about this too in the context of the perfect match/partner. In short, he advices to have enough similarities to live together (f.e. similar levels of agreeableness), but also to admire the differences. And these differences should tackle weaknesses of your/your partner, so you can learn from your partner and reverse. I forgot what personality traits his wife has, but as far as I remember one big point was that he is very emotional expressed by agreeableness and she is more logical expressed by disagreeableness. And he learned from her to negotiate. I know the example doesn't fit to Jordans case. typical case of "the world isn't black and white". The key essence is, differences will let you grow, as long as they are not too big and therefor tear you apart. But in my experience both partners need to want to grow (what many people don't).

I'm not going to make a joke..... It would be ....what do they call it..... mmm.....unsomethi......no, inappropriate... Lol

There are many good women that love being a woman and support their husband, those women are mostly turned away by men or not appreciated today. These women do not mind being a housewife. That woman will flow with their mate from beginning both will accept each others flaws and just flow together, it only stops flowing if one lies, disrespects, abuses the trust, or a huge conflict

Your message warmed my heart. Thank you for realizing what a gem Dr. Peterson’s wife is but also the importance of good partnership.

Yes. Her and their relationship is our #1 indicator that he walks his talk.

Totally agree

Nicely put. I couldn’t agree more.

Yes and no: B'cause from what I know on one hand you're right but on the other that's why you select yo friends VERY carefully and also why you shouldn't be so yo know TRUSTING also did they steal money did they break your bones do major propraty damage to your house or home did they beat you so badly you lost consciousness for a while throw you into or further into dept use Nero toxins on you or something like that oh or just maybe severely injer you in anyway cause if not toghen up you'll be fine

Me too!

Hello mister Penguin, what do you mean with "fleshed out advance courses" ? Ive never read that term before

@@boerbeun more thought out, in-depth, and overall better iteration. Something that's had more effort put into it. They're are "advanced" learning tracts at most schools, but they can vary widely in quality and structure. The previous school would simply give additional work loads while on the same coarse as standard students. When instead the "advanced" students are out pacing others in their comprehension of the subject, not just the speed of assignment completion. So the entire class is given elevated levels of work at and proceeds through subject matter at a faster pace.

@@africanpenguin3282 my son is in one of those. I couldnt help but notice that teachers find him "exceptional" but i find him average, though highly encouraged. Im an technical and outdoors guy and i bring my boys with me everywhere. So he is being exposed to a lot. In that regard im curious to see if the other kids are also being encouraged or just given tablets. That would make our boys more streetsmart but not overall higher intelligent then others. Have you seen similar things in your situation?

@@boerbeun I would agree for the most part. Most parents simply act as chauffeurs, taking their children from one form of entertainment or monitoring to another so they can work or go out. They end up being hardly involved in their children's lives who are only being interacted with en mass with teachers, coaches, or Videos. They are receiving little one on one attention and interaction with a mentor/parent. I would say my daughter is clever in her own right naturally, but we also heavily enforced reading on your own over screentime. Just talking with her and trying to reasons through things about life as my father and grandfather did to me. I believe in Americans and our school systems greatly underestimate children's abilities to learn and give them mediocre lesson plans that leave most children bored to death because they can grasp the topic easily enough but they're being held in place to ensure that the slowest kids are picking it up. I remember often being bored to tears in literature because of how agonizingly slow we would "read" through the selected books, often having completed far early on and would get chided for reading my own books instead.

@@africanpenguin3282 that would implie that knowledge is the goal of education. 2020 showed that obedience is the goal overal and not critical thinking. Therefor i guess that school isnt the correct place to gain that knowledge. At least.. not merely there. I went back to school when i was 23yrs old. Learned much more and got straight A's as i knew what i was learning for.

You could have helped instead of thinking that way out loud. This is terrible behavior. You seem not to care actually. SAD

@@not-even-german4892 I speak in direct correlation to the point of the video in regards to “ discouraging your kids to do things that make you dislike them.” These are not my own kids, and I wasn’t allowed to discipline them, influence them or even teach them. I was a good example to them when I could, but they moved to the opposite side of the country and I only got to visit about once a year. Most parents don’t take kindly to other people dictating how they should raise their own kids

@@big_red_machine3547 Your relationship with their parents would have been destroyed by trying to discipline them.

@@Cocoisagordonsetter You’re absolutely correct

I have a whole host of nieces & nephews on both sides of our family like this. We have no contact with any of them. I am an aunt to 10 kids total & most I haven't seen in years. We live in a small town & here stories about their trajectories - not good. They are not well liked by adults or kids. Some have had run ins with the law. Most are just obnoxious to the point that they are quietly left of the guest list. there is nothing you CAN do about it. We tried. It makes YOU the pariah of the family. so we just detached & worried about our own kids. My husband & siblings were like this as children. He said that as a kid he could FEEL the disdain from adults, who never wanted them around due to their horrific behavior. He made a vow that we would raise our kids to not be "the kids that everyone hates to see coming." It was only thru outside interaction with a neighbor family that he wised up as a teen to why people did not want him around as a child. When you allow your children to behave with no self control it hurts them & you & makes your social circle so small that there is little hope for an epiphany on the kids' parts.

This is very true! Just because people age numerically, doesn't mean they do psychologically.

You mean poor or ideologically bottom of the barrel?

When it came to grades, I was average, but the worst in my friend group, but probably because I didn't put in the work (I'm not very conscientious). At university, I really excelled. The only friend with a higher education is one I met after school, in university, he got a doctoral degree in maths recently. My brother, on the other hand, always had idiots as friends, it's really sad. He's friends with almost everyone who became my friend, but the reverse is almost the opposite. My brother's friends at school were idiots and losers, some outright assholes, one turned out to be a thief, and some became drug addicts later. I could respect some of them, but they're still not really great people, and with 1 exception never became my friends. He had more problems with grades at school, got switched, then did better, put in some effort and now has a master's degree in engineering. He was never dumb or unskilled, he just had a bad peer group throughout school. Don't be like my parents and just hope their kids find friends like I did. I was lucky, I guess. Because the first friend I made turned out to be a really good choice and all the others I met through him, with one exception. My brother's bad choices haunt him to this day (he's 27), for example, he has his driving license suspended for DUI (not actual influence, he said, but they found remnants of stuff in his blood) and maybe he would have never gotten into that, were it not for his friends at school back then.

​@@Kathakathan11 I am guessing he means intellectualy and in term of attitude towards adversity.

So true! Teaching your kids how to lose is what teaches them how to win! Teach them to not be afraid to fail because then nothing will stop them on their larger life goals. I love this!

Its ok to feel disappointed etc. but it’s how we channel those feelings that can empower us or disempower us.

He makes me less stupid with each of his words.

That's a good one, yeah!

@@Sophia. telling them is one thing. Them doing it is another.

@@wolfthequarrelsome504 well, obviously...🤔

I told my kid that drugs will never be offered from a monster, it will always be from a friend or family.

​@@jessbridges564i had passed that phase. I need to grow. My mum died of severe depression because of my father depletes his retirement money while i finishing my degree. After i had finished my degree, i subsconciously follow "best friends" who do drugs.

Same man. Same. I just went online to get out of my social anxiety but now looking back i was bitching out. I had the same situation leading up to highschool, made my final permenant move, and made a good few friends as i got attention for being the new kid. I wish i knew how to use that leverage, because 3 years in i now have no friends again. Maybe its cus im intolerable. Idk. Working on it

@@mookibois9784 well, I'm an old lady now lol so that was many years ago for me, but here's some advice. Get out of your head. Find something that helps other people and that you enjoy and are good at. Takes time to find the right fit for each person, but find your purpose. When you are talking to new people, don't be in your head wondering if they think your clothes look stupid or if you put too much smelly goods on or whatever and try to actively listen to what they say and try to relate. Spending time and energy out of your own head and in service of others has a way of really giving you better perspective onyourown problems and life. And if you plan on having a family, don't follow the fad and wait til you are old like me lol. I'm 40 with 2 toddlers and my life's regret is that I didn't have them younger. I'm sorry and tired and just old now I wish I was young while they were so I could do as many of the things as a family as I could when I felt better. Also, get and/or stay in shape. Bc it's hell trying to get there in your late 30's and now 40's! I pray you find your people! I'm so grateful to finally have found (and helped make) mine! 😅😀

@@mookibois9784 I dont know you so I can't give you an opinion if you're intolerable or not. But you have found yourself without friends and you are thinking about your situation and wondering if you are the problem. Maybe you are a large part of the problem, but don't jump to the conclusion that you're intolerable and a lost cause. Maybe there are other things happening in your life that makes it harder for you to make friends than it is for other people. As you said, you have social anxiety - that can be crippling for people, and very hard to deal with, whether you have mild, moderate or severe social anxiety. Without knowing your circumstances or age or anything else about you, I can't be very helpful I'm afraid. But I just want to congratulate you for thinking about your situation, and acknowledging that this is a problem. That's the first step to getting over it. I do recommend you find someone you respect and look up to and talk about it with them. There are councillors at schools, universities and at Tafe, your GP may help you or recommend you see a specialist, and there are community centres that can offer you free advice. I am 60 now, and have been to so many places and people for help. Some people have helped me, many have not, but I didn't give up: if you have the same experience, please keep looking for someone who can. The other thing that can be very helpful is to read books on social anxiety, and any other problems/symptoms you have. Google can be helpful when you search your symptoms to see what it comes up with, but use caution, as you don't want to misdiagnose yourself. I've received some of the most helpful advice from church pastors and youth leaders, although again, not all will be of help. Persevere. I know this isn't popular today, but reading the Bible has helped me more than I can possibly say, so I'm including that. God bless you on your journey through this life, it's not an easy journey but it's possible to transform your life into one where you don't think you are intolerable, and other people will not think you are either. Sending you a hug and a prayer that you'll overcome your present problems and make friends 💗

Take that feeling and embrace it. Get comfortable with it but never truly become content. As someone who's been through something similar nothing made sense until I truly became comfortable being alone. Use that time to really understand yourself then when you do socialize it'll be a whole lot easier seeing who's genuine and who's not.

I have to disagree, I preferred being around adults, more to learn. My favorite person was my grandfather, could not care less if I had no friends I had more joy from spending time with select few people and they were rarely children. I was the kid who didn't want to make friends just because. Dumb people make a lot of dumb kids, which I have seen en masse since I was a child, so sometimes not making friends with others you end up better off and the landscape in the adult world has not changed, you can see who had shit parents and morals and they just pass that mentality along. Be joyous with your own company instead of fearing loneliness and accepting just anyone who gives you a crumb of attention. Same reason people make poor choices in life partners, too, desperation and fear of being alone.

Thats truly reflective parenting. Lovely to read!

That’s interesting. I have one kid who struggles with outbursts of anger. We often have him remove himself for a time from the group, not to repress his anger but to give it time to cool so that he is not “acting in anger.” We tell him his anger is not bad, nor something to be afraid of as he expressed fear that it comes suddenly “like a train.” We’ve taught him that it’s something that is powerful and can be useful but needs to be put in the right place. And it doesn’t have to be sneaky and scare you, it can be controlled. Time on the stair for us gives him space to familiarize himself with the “feeling” of anger and then to “think” through how he wants to respond after a situation happens. Wonder if it is the same for Peterson. I do imagine if a child is banished for their anger and left to figure things out on their own that could be repressive, but maybe asking how something is done and what is accomplished is more valuable that what is actually be done. If that makes sense! So maybe they would strive for the same result, but one views one form of discipline as an aid to their desired result and the other applies it differently or sees it applied differently and doesn’t find it a useful disciplinary tool. I enjoy thinking about things like this!

Integration is not repression.

@@JordanBPeterson thank you for your response! I admit I’m confused by your answer to this question. Do you mind elaborating please?

I listened to Dr. Mate speak about this. And yes, it'd be interesting to see the two of them discuss this.

@cassidy745 what a wonderful response

What was causing your loneliness? Were you not allowed to socialize?

You're so lucky. Your childhood sounds wonderful. I was a terribly lonely child and an even lonelier teen and at 41 I am still a lonely adult who struggles to make friends and finds it extremely hard to let anyone get close to me.

Must feel terrible for the kids to be judged by your mother. I remember being judged this way myself and I will never forgive those people.

She did the right thing. I wish my mother did the same.

@@jimj2683 yeah, we all want friends full of decades of unforgiving resentment. Good riddance.

Depends the age. I have a 5 year old and told her she’s not allowed to sit at lunch next to a bratty little girl she’s hanging around too much.

Sometimes you can’t do that. My kids have autism and other health issues & generally either did not enjoy sports or lost interest very fast. I gave up on extracurricular activities because of their complete lack of enthusiasm. But I definitely tried - ballet, gymnastics, swimming, hockey, netball, rugby, art, guitar, piano, hip hop, skateboarding- none of them wanted to continue doing anything.

Our daughter did competitive dance. Nobody is really anyone’s friend in that environment due to jealousy & intimidation - especially if a child is talented. It also tends to attract “broken” people, mostly the staff. I have to push away thoughts of regret about what could have been & focus on all she gained (it wasn’t friends)….

Our daughter did competitive dance. Nobody is really anyone’s friend in that environment due to jealousy & intimidation - especially if a child is talented. It also tends to attract “broken” people, mostly the staff. I have to push away thoughts of regret about what could have been & focus on all she gained (it wasn’t friends)….

Our daughter did competitive dance. Nobody is really anyone’s friend in that environment due to jealousy & intimidation - especially if a child is talented. It also tends to attract “broken” people, mostly the staff. I have to push away thoughts of regret about what could have been & focus on all she gained (it wasn’t friends)….

Most kids aren't introverts. Most introverts are not good at handling social isolation. Social isolation is not the same as having few friends or spending little time socializing. There's a difference between people not hanging out with you and people actively disliking you and making fun of you. You should clearly spend 5 hours thinking before you make statements, because that one was stupid in about 7 different ways

@@LegoGirl1990 Or to make some friends

​​@@immanuelcunt7296 We can just take the positivity in their message without being pushy. And you DO realize how many bad habits are popular? Sometimes the "more friends" arent the best influences in that area.

That’s not necessarily a good thing

It's nothing new whenever I claim I'm introverted, which by the way, is not by choice. But I'll tell you what that label means for me personally. I made the most of the hand of cards I'm dealt with in my limited understanding of social interaction. The only comforting intro to such things are books for me. Namely, the Harry Potter series. What I lacked in my personal life, I lived vicariously in fictional characters in utterly compelling stories. The memories I've had reading books and movies like that, is mostly what bittersweet nostalgia is for me, when it came to my formative years. Imagining the scene in your head from text is like a simulation. I never went as far as fanfiction, but I've had plenty of practice of "what if" scenarios, to get some semblance of, what amounts to my own personal theory of psychology, as best as a teenager growing up can manage. When an interaction between two real or fictional characters gets compelling, it's our instinctual primal sense of social interaction that affect our perception of of ourselves and each other, as if there is some real undercurrent of processes during negotions and other social interactions. Give it a decade or so, and I'm more informed than some other peers who had bad examples of friendships as their baseline with no upward trajectory or barely any going along. I stopped feeling jealous or left out when I know for a fact, nothing positive can come from some people except for cheap thrills and trivial fading memories at the very least.

I just realized that verse is all about trajectory.

Why not quote the source which is proverbs 22:6

I agree. I learned my lesson with the bad ones and cherish the good ones.

@Dave Bach oh wow! I hear ya! I had a couple of psychopaths/sociopaths, and few narcs/histrionics, dark triad. Those folks are for sure dangerous. I'd love to check out your sitcom. Are you gonna publish it here in RU-vid?

@Dave Bach oh ok! My bad! 🙈😂 I took your information literally! 😂😬😅 And definitely! We could write a quite dark humor sitcom. 😬😅

And without having bad friends, diverse friends, disabled friends, smart friends, dumb friends, you're supposed to learn what exactly? It's like a 40-year-old virgin socially. Nonsensical advice from a fool shoehorning people into the same immured bias progress has helped break

How old was your kid? From what age I could try that with my kid?

Lucky you. Lol My child has a mental disability and it's not as easy. But we have had minimal tantrums, especially once we weeded out the few caretakers we had but that enabled bad behavior and wouldn't listen to us. But I agree with that concept. With puberty our child has started to act up again sometimes and we ask if that's helping...the bad behavior. And mention that that's not how to get what you want etc, that it will take longer to reach her goals for what she wants if she acts up. I think that's why even with a learning disability she seems to be much better behaved than her NT peers, and she also rebounds quickly from disappointment. But we pay attention and homeschool. That helps also of course. ❤ Just difficult to justify some children her age being friends with her when they are so poorly parented (or a lack of).

​​​@@hp9349obably depends on your child, but around 2-3 this concept can start to be learned for sure. If not sooner in subtle ways... giving them good examples in behavior at home and building a good early foundation of trust and affection so they will grow to listen to you. My child has a learning disability and we've had to reteach this but she's much better behaved than most of her NT peers. If we hadn't had caretakers that enabled bad behavior and tried public school, I think we'd be even further along. But we had a policy of explaining in age-appropriate ways and even with picture cards, (PECS) that tantrum doesn't equal getting one's way. Simple math. We love her and care for her, that's why undesired behavior will delay reward and perhaps create more work also for her to get what she wants. We have to help teach coping more than for an NT child, but along with those skills reinforced, she's doing pretty good. She rebounds from disappointment faster than her peers, and also seems to cut back any pre-teen sass pretty quick when called out. We just make it clear as possible, asking questions like "is that going to make you feel better?" "Is that helping you?" Etc. And if sometimes she needs to whine or whatever, she can do it in appropriate safe ways. Get privacy and scream into a pillow, etc. Working out...this stuff is important and not always obvious or natural to kids, especially if they have a disorder where they don't pick up on things from observation alone.

Yes. I did this, too. Also left several church functions with my daughter under my arm like a football because she refused to eat the dinner & then wanted dessert & started screaming when I told her no. I took her home immediately. She wanted a real dinner. She got a pb & j sandwich & NO dessert. The next time she stopped her fussing & ate the dinner & got dessert (after being reminded what happened the last church supper). We packed up & left friends' houses, and I cancelled fun activities if she gave me a hard time getting ready. She was a very stubborn child, but she eventually learned to control her emotions. She could could tell us she was upset - but she could not act out of control. the other child went through a crying period to get attention. every time she thought it would get her some attention. So I told her, "you may cry as long as you want. I'm sorry you are feeling bad. But from now on you must cry in "this"room (I would designate a different room at different houses) because you are upsetting things." I would calmly walk her to the room & tell her again to cry as long as she felt like it & to come out as soon as she was done. I'm sure you can guess what the outcome was. about 30 seconds of crying and then out she would come.

They will gain a sense of who they are by looking at your response to them. You are essentially a mirror.

You're doing your best I'm sure and are willing to learn, which is a very good start. I would say apart from the parenting books and videos, you could join a parent association in your neighborhood. It's often possible for example to have planned activities for the parents and children on top of being a place where one can share their experience and tips on parenting. Wishing you and your family all the best!

Agree. The standard norm is not always the best and most ethical. Many people live a life of illusion and delusion.

I wonder if you misunderstand him somewhat? It’s not that your child would be like everyone and thus “acceptable” rather that your child has the character traits and qualities that help him/her thrive in whatever environment he/she is in. I think that’s the greater point. After all, if my child can only thrive with likeminded individuals I’d feel like I failed as a parent to help them develop to be a well-rounded person who could win favor among all sorts of people and rise to leadership if called upon to do so. The most effective peacemakers can be themselves and bridge gaps between parties of opposing viewpoints. My goal: to help my children have strong convictions and values and yet have sympathy, compassion and true love for those around them who think differently. No small feat, but I think this is what he means when he talked about them growing up to be “acceptable” by society. Of course Jesus was crucified and Martin Luther King Jr. was fatally shot, but then we still look back as a majority and say they had strength and character that we would call honorable when society failed.

@@cassidy745 I see your point. To me, though, it all comes down to the question: What do children refer to later on when they navigate society on their own - an abstract set of values that transcend time and place or the momentary societal likes and dislikes with regard to the individual's behaviour? One approach is vertical, if you will, the other is horizontal. One says: "Right is right, even if nobody's doing it. Wrong is wrong, even if everybody's doing it." The other one says: "When in Rome, do as the Romans do." I don't see how you could have both other than by coincidence. Now, that being said, I'm fully aware that both approaches have their downsides: With the first one, you might create self-righteous loners, with the second one useful idiots, susceptible to manipulation. For the time being and with relatively recent examples in history, I'd choose solipsistic fragmentation over a happy lynch mob. However, I remain open to the fundamental change in human interaction that might be underway. I hear that the conditions are good. Let's see what happens next!

@@SevenFields108 I appreciate your thoughtful response! Maybe I’m a hopeless romantic, or helpless optimist, but somehow I believe that not only can both co-exist but that they should. I believe children should grow up with strong values and morals that transcend even their lives and also that somehow they can navigate favor with the most respectable in society. There are time when society, to its own detriment, will miss the best among us and hurt themselves by destroying the best of us. This implies that the peacemakers and respectable men and women with strong morals and values will at times take strong stands and deviate from the mainstream when it goes completely looney. I guess this is how I reason both can and should exist. Sadly it does often mean we lose what we need when society is stubborn and selfish. My hope though, and this is seen time and again, that even if the most self-less, moral groups are small they always win in the end. Every story we write, that’s good anyway, usually has this underlying hope.

@@cassidy745 I agree. You're a hopeless romantic. 😄 And I like your view. Thank you for sharing it. ☝🏻🤓

I think that's part of the parents' roles: to equip their children with coping skills to regulate their emotions and learn to self soothe

voicing coherent discontent is important though. promoting unfocused rage is no good, but neither is burrying anger in yourself

Typical Peterson, tangents for the majority of his speech. I love the guy though XD

Rubbish. Control of emotions develops with the need to supprss anger.

How weird this comment is! Intellect does not equate to ethical behavior and goodwill. I have taught student children who were academically challenged but had hearts of gold. Others were clever but were not of good character. Also, why were you the one chosen to be in a lower academic class. Did your academic ability match this decision?

weird. I'm an orchestra kid. Band kids were all a bit more rowdy than we were, but band turned bad kids good and good kids better. It was small town though so there was NO 5th band class. There was class for the grade you were in or one class up generally if you did private lessons or had played longer.

Musical performance requires faith, diligence, a lot of attention to detail, discerning, and care… and thus likely aligns itself with children of higher character and quality. It’s logically sensible to imagine that the 5th tier class consists of more apathetic, less mindful, less discerning, less diligent, and less faithful people, who certainly carry these attributes into social settings, manners, peer pressure scenarios, drug offerings, moral tests, etc, and therefore raise many many more red flags than the first group. The point is band-skill is different than intelligence by a long shot.

I have a child in my life who loves to go places with me. She has to obey me at all times (as 1 of my children would). She’s no problem for me and will announce how she’s doing as she’s told. “I’m still wearing my seatbelt, (my name)!” - from the backseat. “So I can come next time u go to the library, right?” Lol She’s a hellion for anyone else in her life, but I’m simply consistent in my simple mandate of you do what ur told and you get to have fun. Besides the fact I like to be around her so I talk to her. When she’s been around some friends tho, or goes off to see some family members, lordy. She takes quite a few hours to find her sense again and not be a demanding bratty shrew.

I have 3 out of 5 with adhd and you're right. Also other kids can't keep up with them and ignore them.

Don't you feel your more suited to be friends with hippy liberals because wouldn't conservative values be like... why isn't your boyfriend your husband? Liberals are like "every situation is different".

He will be a better father, after he becomes your husband. ❤ You deserve stability, and marriage is better & more stable for the raising children.

Praying he commits as husband too. God bless your family dear one.

@@kimberlyanderson1916 thank you so much 🙏🏽 and yes, we are already committed for life and plan to get married, we simply don’t have enough money at the moment. But I have no doubt be will become even better as a husband 💗

@@rachelpops9239 thank you so much 🙏🏽💗 yes we both have already mentioned we are committed for life and look forward to a life and family together. We plan to get married but just don’t have the money now, want to get the baby settled first and then look at our finances. But I am so excited for our family together ♥️