Zero Gender Dysphoria!? Gender Therapist Explains! 

I think the feeling of gender euphoria can make you realize that you felt somehow less comfortable, even if it’s a small difference, before. Like being called a girl all your life and don’t think or feel a lot about it, but when someone refers to you as a male or uses they/them pronouns you feel more comfortable and happy with it.

My dysphoria is mild, I usually feel empty when I present as Male and mild discomfort. I try to ignore it and pretend like I'm not experiencing any discomfort but I know I really hate being Male and I'm just trying to mak the best of my situation. When I present as a woman I feel this special feeling that I dont feel anywhere else, i feel free, amazing, euphoric. It's very easy for me to pass my dysphoria off as something else which just makes me feel even worse bc I end up imagining myself as Male for the rest of my life, after that I end up feeling worse bc I really want to be a woman.

I get really happy when people think I'm a girl & I've been questioning for a while. Your videos have been very helpful. Thank you!

I've been questioning if I'm non-binary for a couple of months now. since I don't really have a good memory, I can't remember if I've felt this way since my childhood, because when I was kid I was never really forced into any strict gender roles. However, recently, I've started imagining myself in a body without breasts, and more androgynous features and voice, and it's made me happier then I've felt about myself in in a long time. But, I have anxiety, so I constantly question and second guess what I'm feeling and if I'm just lying to myself. I think I experience mild dysphoria and I have for a while, but the more I thought about changing myself, the stronger it's gotten about my other features (face, to be exact).

since most trans people i know experience really strong dysphoria ( panic attacks / breackdowns being caused by it ) and me experiencing just discomfort (and social dysphoria), it really made me struggle a lot and still does because it causes me to have doubts about if i’m actually trans or if my dysphoria is actually just something else i’m confusing as dysphoria

Hello. I actually didn’t even know that I had dysphoria until very recently... I have been experiencing it for a long time but didn’t know. To me it feels very blank and empty and just like “okay this is me existing and that’s it”. It almost feels like I am infested or “everything feels wrong.” I used to say that to my family/partner a lot in regards to the way I looked and dressed and I didn’t know why “everything felt wrong.” No matter what I would wear (with very few exceptions) I would hate it even though I could see that some outfits looked aesthetically nice; it felt like nothing to me...like the clothing wasn’t mine even though I could objectively see it was an attractive outfit. My hair is probably the biggest distress for me, which is the easiest to adjust, I am just scared to. I also have wished that I could have a penis but also keep my vagina... it’s really hard to explain. Sometimes the feeling of not having a penis would really bother me (this was before I even understood what trans was). It’s so hard to explain. It just feels dull all the time.. almost like I’m dissociating or bottling everything up. I believe I feel more non-binary or genderqueer than binary, but I am still unsure of how that would present itself. I feel all and none of the genders simultaneously. Does any of this make sense or sound familiar based on others you’ve worked with?

I've been questioning my gender for a little more than four years although, it could be argued I've had dysphoria since starting puberty (40 yrs ago... yes, I'm a late bloomer). The thing is, like you discussed, I didn't recognize it. In fact, I still struggle to recognize the dysphoria because mine is so mild and I rationalize it by saying to myself, "well... other guys shave off all the hair on their body. You know like swimmers, cyclists, bodybuilders. Lot's of guys wonder, "when they will feel like a man" It's just that I'm still trying to feel like I've gotten there... at age 52. To answer the question, my dysphoria is very mild so much that I even rationalize it as being normal for other people born with male anatomy. Although *hangs head* I've never really asked other guys if they feel that way as well.

Oh my god I cried. I thought I didn't have any level of dysphoria BUT I DO FEEL DISCOMFORT. About a 6 out of 10 on a good day. I was heartbroken when I heard people without dysphoria cannot transition, when i thought i had none. A weight has been lifted from my chest and i feel so much better and incredibly validated! Thank you so much ❤

This really helped I’m still not sure I’m trans but I do experience discomfort when someone calls me a boy and then my mom corrects them I always hated when she corrected them , I’ve always liked being called sir I’ve just never really thought about it until about 2 years ago , I thought it had something to do with me wanting to be a masculine lesbian but now I’m really not sure

I don’t know how to classify my severity of gender dysphoria, I feel very disconnected from my physical body I’ve tried to explain it to my wife before as “when I look at myself whatever part it is I don’t feel like it’s me I feel like I’m looking at someone else” like my hands are not my hands, looking into mirrors for any long length of time really hurts me as I feel like there is a different person there like I know there is a woman in there but I only see a man who is definitely not me. As far a dressing and outward appearance goes I feel like I put on my “man uniform” all the time and I just go though all my days disconnected from my physical body because if I think about it for too long I begin to feel hurt inside because nothing matches who I really am inside myself

I'd say mild dysphoria. I know that it's not as severe as some other people but it's definitely there. I started identifying as a woman only one week ago after a thorough reflection about my life that I started about 2 weeks ago. It was not a choice. It was a realization. It awakened an urge to change myself and feelings of dysphoria that I didn't feel before. I had a hard time this week identifying if I had dysphoria or not though. Unlike Dr Z, a lot of people oversimplify or only consider severe disphoria when they explain the concept so I thought at first that it didn't apply to me. I would never express my feelings saying that I'm a woman trapped in a man's body for example. Also, what I understood first was that I felt an urge to change many aspects related to my gender. I did not understand how this urge was related to dysphoric feelings. But it's only been a week. I have to give it some time. Maybe it will go away, but I'm still 99% sure that it won't.

Dr. Z, you are some kind of saint for putting this information on YT for free. It’s cutting to the core of me, and helping me see myself in a very different light.

My dysphoria varies between very mild and very distressing. Sometimes I feel discomfort around still being in the closet but other times I find it unbearable. Misha

I have what is probably mild dysphoria mostly about my chest , face and hairline. It only started when I began to question and explore my gender identity. That being said, I knew something was unusual about my behaviour and the ways I liked dressing so "she" has always been in there, quietly saying hello in her own way.

thank you. I've never heard/seen it broken down like this. Usually you hear dysphoria needed, or no dysphoria needed, but this was a very helpful way of teasing out the nuance that I didn't even know was there.

This was really helpful! As someone who has always had a strong need to move my body and has a passion for training and sports, the idea of experiencing extremely strong feelings of hate towards my body (even if it would be on the appearance and gender related aspects) has always been alienating for me. Especially since training and the desire to go pro since I was 13 has given me way more muscle and thus has made me like my body more. But the moment you talked about the spectrum from severe dysphoria to mild discomfort, something clicked with the word discomfort. Suddenly the feelings towards certain body parts (currently my hips are the most common one since not much I can do to that) make sense as well as my actions and feelings back when puberty hit me. What's worth noting in my case though, is that although I experience very mild discomfort about my body relating to my gender, I experience a lot of discomfort/feel very awful possibly anxious just thinking about other people seeing and treating me as a woman. And I've been wondering is that related to dysphoria or is it just something else? 🤔

This is very informative. My dysphoria ranges from mild to moderately severe. My dysphoria centers mostly around my facial features (facial hair, brows, lips, eyes, hair). Something interesting is that my dysphoria drops to mild in relation to the bottom part of my body. I am not in a hurry to have SRS. Is that uncommon?

Oh my gosh you described this perfectly! I never noticed I felt dysphoric about my chest until I felt the euphoria of seeing it flatter.

I think i have mild disphoria, when being a girl, ill suddenly look at my chest and try to flatten it, and I get a knot in my stomach. I dunno, the knot usually goes away after an hour or so.

Honestly most of the time its just a mild "you dont pass" or "your body is wrong" but somtimes it makes me want to die it and it makes it feel like I cant survive in a werid body luckly I've found a way to just kinda chill when it's really bad but during school hours dysforia makes it really hard to act like my normal self

This is something I find very interesting, and appreciate a professional take on. I have very severe dysphoria, but I have had moments in life where I could push things away enough to lessen it. So I can definitely understand there are varying strengths of dysphoria. That said, it was so foreign a concept to me when someone told me that there were trans people who have absolutely none at all. I was like, "I don't understand?" I couldn't comprehend someone feeling the need to change something if they were comfortable the way things were.

As someone who's been questioning and flipping back and forth on it for a while now this and your other videos have been really helpful for trying to figure out who I am. Thank you for that! For me I never really considered myself to have any form of Dysphoria really. I've just always had certain thoughts, even from a young age about wanting to be a girl or what it would be like to be a woman. When I was really young, around 6 or 7 or so, I was jealous of the kinds of outfits girls would be allowed to wear, the things they could do with their hair and stuff, looking pretty etc. I wasn't allowed to do any of that because I was a boy, boys had short hair and wore boys clothes and I just accepted it. I'd go to bed most nights wishing that I'd wake up the next day and I'd be a girl and allowed to do all of those things but it never happened. As I got older I experimented with it a few times when I was a teenager but always just put it down to being a weird sexual thing because that's what it was always painted as in the media and on TV. I'd feel good and comfortable whenever I'd try on female clothing but afterwards I'd just feel this intense shame. I'd always do my best to try and push it out of my mind but I was never really satisfied with the way I looked. I've never really been comfortable with my voice either, whenever I hear it back it never feels like *me* speaking but always assumed that's something everyone experiences. I guess for me it's more like a longing to be seen and become something different and be validated as that. I've just never truly been comfortable with being called a "man" - being referred to as that even now just makes me feel weird and just doesn't seem right. I figured it was just down to me getting older and not coming to terms with what it means to be an adult. I'm now fairly confident that all of this is probably a milder form of Dysphoria. I'm still not sure if I know what the correct answer to all of this is but hey, it's a start!

She explains it so well thank you, I personally experience a lot of dysphoria but I’m really happy their are people like this lady who are sticking up for people and explaining well

Wow I really cried this was so awesome brought so much to light.

Wow this comment ended but being pretty long but thanks for this. Your videos have been pretty eye opening to me. I've been questioning myself for probably 5 years now (I'm 19) and I somehow managed to ignore it for that long. I've felt mild discomfort in being gendered as feminine for a long time, especially when someone refers to me as a "woman." Whenever I see myself in photos or videos something just feels wrong, like there's a disconnect. It's such a strange relationship with my body. I have a conventionally attractive feminine body and I know it looks nice but when I see myself attached to it it's just not right. I feel mildly uncomfortable no matter what it is that I wear, some days it's easy to ignore and other days it's not. I never really thought that it was actually dysphoria that I was experiencing though, since in my experience it has never been so debilitating that I can't go out like others have described it to be. I have to go out and live my life going to school (I'm in college currently) and I can't do anything about it, so I ignore it. But since I've been in quarantine by myself in my apartment it's gotten a lot worse. It's easy to ignore when I know I can't do anything about it in public, but spending this last month by myself has made me realize that maybe this is affecting me more than I gave myself credit for. The worst part is though that I still don't feel like I can do anything about it. I'm on the track team at my university and it's a very gendered sport. It doesn't help that I'm in a more conservative area and if I did do anything the majority of my team would likely be unsupportive and that hurts a lot. I think that knowledge only pushes me further into this denial that I've been experiencing for years. I'm hoping though that, even if I can't do anything until after I graduate, at the very least I can find a gender therapist nearby and hopefully try to understand myself better. Anyway, thanks for making these videos and helping me recognize that my mild dysphoria is still dysphoria :)

I'm glad I found your channel. I don't know how to rate or want to think about how I rate it. When I was younger it was chronic to severe. I explored transitioning when I was 20 but money, support and just fear stopped me. The next decade I planned on it and would try to identify as a gay man and just gave up and learned to repress it and tried (and struggled alot) to be a gay man. The repression and struggling to find social validation just subconsciously repressing it led to very unhealthy behaviors: depression, anxiety, suicidal behavior, isolation, and alcohol and drug use. My dysphoria thoughts but I push out but when I actually thought about it a few weeks ago it led to binge drug use and suicidal behavior over money and passing was a question. I am in a good place today. My primary needs to refer me to therapist and I have that appointment set and just practicing alot of self care. So I'm relatively okay. I'm not sure if I can even consider transition right now but addressing my dysphoria with a professional and others is a good step. :) and I have other work I need to do then looking at transition and I can only do it one day at a time.

I think i'm just dysphoric with the fact that i'm not masculine as enough to the pattern, i always think i was too female to the masculine standard, i remember in the begin of my puberty, of me crying of dont being tall as my friends or, spending 3 years on exercises to get a muscular body, theese days ago this trans possibility was in my head, but i never felt that way with my gender, i always considered myself as he/him, i sincerly can't imagine myself being treated as she/her

This video was a relief to see after watching the one about what gender dysphoria is. When watching that video or hearing a lot of more severe accounts of gender dysphoria, it gives the impression that what I experience isn't really dysphoria. I'm not really someone who feels like it's outright painful to be a man. I don't look in the mirror and feel distressed or disgusted. It doesn't eat away at me on a daily basis and leave me absolutely miserable. At the same time, I feel like, on some instinctive, subconscious level, I always would've preferred to be a woman had I been given the choice. I've had fantasies about it on and off from a very young age. I have a voice in my head that instinctively wishes I had a more feminine body or that I could dress in certain feminine clothing or that I could experience sex as a woman or that society treated me more like a woman in certain ways. Often times, that's followed by another voice in my head trying to "talk sense into me" and remind me of all the things that would suck about being a woman, but the instinctive reaction is still there. Although I wouldn't say I view being a man as completely miserable, I also can't say I've ever really enjoyed it. In fact, I've sometimes been genuinely frustrated at the gender roles that go along with it, which often feel like a bad fit for my personality. I don't HATE looking at myself in the mirror, but I don't LIKE it, either, and I strongly dislike having to deal with body and facial hair, for example. Overall, I feel like my experience being a man is one of disappointment and frustration rather than outright misery. I've spent most of my life reluctantly accepting it even though it has often felt disappointing. It's like that ugly sweater that someone gives you for Christmas that you don't dare to tell them you don't like. I would've much rather gotten a different gift, but I guess I can still wear it to keep me warm. I used to think that these gut feelings were just a case of "the grass is greener on the other side," but I'm beginning to think maybe those reactions mean something about me even if my gender doesn't cause me a lot of noticeable distress. Granted, I HAVE had noticeable distress, but I usually don't see any obvious connection to gender.

I never had words to express the happy/excited feeling I felt when people ‘mistook’ me for a sir and how happy I was to be misgendered as male. My dysphoria isn’t awful or constant and unbearable which triggers doubt. Although I’m 27 I feel more comfortable identifying as a boy or a femme/soft boy rather than a man as I fear losing my looks from transition. I can look at my body and say Aww cute/nice body but at the same time feel weird/disconnected or as though something is wrong when I can see it’s not a bad body. I felt horrible presenting as female, an almost constant discomfort and as though I was wearing drag but wearing men’s clothes has eliminated that

I really appreciate these videos because its affirmed what Ive already felt about myself for so long! Thank you’

I had to hear the message (multiple times!) that it is not required to identify as trans to have dysphoria, before I could really acknowledge that I am indeed trans. And after that, the strong realizations of dysphoria kicked in...We cannot stress enough, that dysphoria is not required. Gate-keeping regarding this question is hurtful. Thank you for your work.

It's also good to point out, that dysphoria can range from mild to severe, depending on the day. I realized, that my dysphoria can peak when I go outside (and I accidentally wear clothes that don't hide my chest very well for example) and I have a lot of people around me. Again, thanks for making all these videos. They are so useful for our community! And they are also great for cis people, who seek to educate themselves.

Thank you so much for this video! I'm in my 40s and have finally come out and starting to transition. Discomfort is exactly what I feel and what I've always felt, but couldn't put my finger on it. Just couldn't look in the mirror. I've only known my own body though, it's the one I've grown up with, so you get used to it. I hope to one day be comfortable in my own skin.

My dysphoria is mostly just OK, I'm almost a year out of a very controlling relationship where I pushed my feelings aside, that lasted 8 years. At that time a had many reoccurring dreams of being a woman, and I was disappointed when I woke from those dreams. I feel like I would be sad if it turned out I was not trans... which feels weird to say because people mostly don't want to be trans. So I'm not sure what I am, but I do know if looked like a woman i would be happier about myself.

To begin with I need to say that I don't know whether what I feel actually qualifies as disphoria. So I hope sharing my experience here is fine. Another thing is that my memory is really fuzzy to non existent, especially in terms of what I felt, if not triggered by something. So I can't even say for sure that I don't have any prior experiences with discomfort and incongruence. As much as I can remember - which isn't much - I never had any strong feelings towards my gender before. Quite the oppsite according to my brother I never really made a difference between the two genders from a young age on - which might be why have so much trouble discerning whether I actually experience disphoria. I was obviously born with a male body and that was good enough for me most of my life. As far as I can remember, I didn't question my gender. In my mid to late teens I started to wish I had a female body. Often in relation to sexual thoughts, but also aside from that. It was never more than a side note, but it was consistently there over the last years, although not present all the time. Still, aside from not caring about my body at all, I didn't experience discomfort with my gender - just wishing my body was different. So I dismissed that as some sort of weird kink. I also was mocked and/or it was noted by people that I wasn't very manly neither in appearance nor behavior. I didn't act stereotypical male or female nor did I have to many typically female asociated interests, but it still was brought up fairly often. Aside from the discomfort of being mocked, I didn't have any strong feelings towards my gender being questioned. In my early twenties things changed a bit. My depression got a lot better and I had the energy to focus on other aspects of my life instead of just feeling miserable all the time. While developing some sense for my style, I noted that while not being interested in male clothing or body styles, I got interested in what females wear. I spent a lot of time watching what they wear and how I liked that. At this point I still thought it was just me being a shallow socially and sexually underdeveloped boy. But it was always more from the view of how I would like it if I wore that or if I would like looking like that. During the last year I discovered a strong dislike for my body hair and that I liked my finger nails fairly long. I also got even more interested in how I would look in female clothing until I tried it out like three weeks ago - starting with undergarnments over stockings to my first skirt and top. I really feel comfortable in it - way more than I ever did in male clothing to which I felt indifferent But then the incongruence started. While I enjoyed the way how I felt wearing female clothing, my male body structure suddenly felt completely out of place. I shaved my beard and that eliviated the discomfort a bit. This feeling only got stronger the more things I tried, like nail polish today. I like the way it looks and feels, but the rest of the body just doesn't matches up. When this started after crossdressing I started asking myself if I might be trans. I tried to research, but I find more questions than answers. And it's really confusing and challenging, especially since my discomfort with my body increases the more things I try out. So after watching your videos, I have no doubt I am experience increasing body disphoria. Come to think of it, not caring about my body at all before could be mild signs of body disphoria. But I am don't know if I experience gender disphoria though. A lot of things speak against it: - I don't care about pronouns as they are just an outsiders perception on what I look like and have no impact on how I feel - I know I was biologically born male and while I am really discontent with my body, I still don't think I am female. If I could change that magically, I would, but I don't think I am a woman. I don't really differentiate between the genders other than biologically and corresponding experiences. So I have a hard time grasping the concept of feeling like a woman. And I think that matters in terms of gender dysphoria. To sum it up, I feel like a man who would rather have been born a woman, but I don't feel like I am one. If that makes sense. - I have no strong discomfort about having a male genital. Again, if I had the choice I'd like to be physically completely female. But it's a "would rather" instead of a "don't like it". Sorry for the stream of thought and hopefully it didn't blow the intended framework of sharing experiences with mild dysphoria. It's 5 AM here and I didn't sleep, I really hope it's atleast somewhat coherent to read. And summing it up, helped a bit in terms of clarity although leading to more questions regarding the implications of having body but not gender dysphoria. Thanks to everyone made it though that slog of a wall of text. I hope this reading might help someone who experiences something similar , because while reading and listening to dysphoric experiences, I never read something that closely resembelled this. And that made me feel pretty desperate in the beginning as I doubted my feelings harshly. To anyone struggling atm: Whatever you are experiencing and feeling, it's valid and there is no wrong way here. It's a very individual experience and the challenge is simply figuring out what these feelings mean to you and how you wanna proceed going forward :) Take all the time you need to figure it out, you can do it

Found Your Vidos today. Great! Rarely felt someone so much speaking from my heart. Cried a lot of healthy tears. Still i was a little surprised not having found a mentioning of the fact, that one way (granted - an unhealthy one) of coping with dysphoria is: ignoring it; or better: denying it to myself - suppression. Especially older trans persons like me, having been in the closet for decades have some experience with this one. And of course: If Your strategies of denying "work nicely", you can absolutely come to the point of saying: I don´t experience any gender dysphoria. Indeed, i remember myself telling this just like that in one of the first meetings with the support group i visited. Still later i felt like wanting so swallow my words again, after i found where it is and how it affects me. Also granted: i found some hints pointing in this direction - and yes, supression and their later consequences might make another video topic. Thank You again!

I really like this video :) If i had to say, i think my gender Dysphoria is pretty mild :). I really want to identity as a women, but its not that i feel nearly as much pain as other trans that ive talked to. This has caused alot of confusion for me ( even if ive been exploring my gender identity for nearly 12+ years ) Thank you :). This makes me feel better,, as Ive wondering if i should transition even if im not going under as much discomfort as those around me. At the end of the day, it doesn't make me any less of a women, it just means i get to live a happier life xD! I really do appreciate the advice :)

I would be a transgender person with as close to having zero dysphoria as you could get. As a cis, straight, male I was happy with my body, my looks, the size of my genitalia etc... In short, I was a handsome, well-endowed man who recieved plenty of female attention. Indeed, I would be only to happy to parade around my house naked in front of my girlfriend or wife. But... I also used to love presenting female. Any opportunity I got to shave my legs, paint my nails, dress in drag etc... gave me immense happiness (sometimes alone, sometimes in the company of others). This was not just a sexual thing, as this started in my very early childhood and often as an adult, had nothing to do with any type of sexual act. Also, the vast majority of my friends were female and I always felt happier socialising with females. I felt I could develop deeper and more intimate friendships with females. Finally, the tipping point for me was getting out of an extremely abusive relationship with my second wife. She would often tell me; you are a man so you need to do this, you are not acting like a man, men don't cry, a man's job is to pay for this, do this etc, etc... (She was Russian, probably narcissistic and had a very set view of how men should behave). She cheated on me constantly, despite me trying to be the best "man" I could for her and in the end I just decided... well, maybe it would be better for me to be a woman. So, I transitioned. It is now 8 months on HRT and this has been the happiest year of my life. I have zero libido, can no longer maintain an erection but experience a euphoria that I could never have imagined. I just adore being female. I am completely happy with my choice to transition and could never imagine going back. My only regret is that I didn't do this decades ago. So, I don't think that I experienced any type of dysphoria as far as my body was concerned (although maybe I experienced dysphoria in terms of what I felt were societal expectations of me as a man). I may have got here via an unusual path, but I am so glad that I am finally here. In short, I am just happier as a woman than as man. Oh, I should add however, that I do now experience dysphoria! I now hate having any facial hair and sometimes shave multiple times per day, I hate that my hair (on my head) is taking so long to grow, I hate the bulge when I try to wear skinny pants, I wish my boobs would grow bigger and faster and I worry constantly about wrinkles and aging (whereas before they didn't bother me at all).

I didn't even know what gender dysphoria was until a few years ago, I would have been 42 or 44 at the time. Usually it seems pretty mild and even to the point of not existing. But every once in a while, be it after months or occasionally years, it'll flare up. Under conditions of severe stress for example. I'm so good at compartmentalizing and rationalizing it away, but every time it comes back it gets harder to ignore. Especially now that I have a name for it. I'm feeling it right now. While I don't hate my body or its parts, as I did for a couple of months after my wife and I separated, I feel edgy and unsettled. Distracted and irritable. The old tricks of appeasing the beast don't seem to be working like they used to.

I have felt discomfort since I was seventeen. I've had problems with not identifying myself in the mirror, I had problems and a lot of anguish when the hair grew on my arms and many other things. I believe it is mild or medium dysphoria. Today, at 28 years old, I still live with my parents and feel tolerable anguish, I recently bought panties and started using them in my daily life and the anguish has become a joy, but I still feel like I'm not completely satisfied, do I need to make a transition? , until you get a female body? This idea of ​​being a woman hasn't left my mind since I was 16 or 17 years old when it all started! Help me, please!

the link to your previous dysphoria video you mention at the start us not in the description box below (or I am blind which could be the case 😅) Much Love, thank you for what youre doing!

I’ve been questioning and this is very helpful. I made new connections with my dysphoria and realized it was just really mild :) along with some other stuffs

Well I’m only just started exploring, and I must say you have been a beautifully clear and well versed guide for me and I am so thankful you have created this channel. The interesting thing is I never had an awareness of any dysphoria but as I have started to make my self look more feminine I have started to feel a discomfort about my more masculine features. Do you have anything you know about this?

Your clips have really been helping me understand and put things into a better perspective. There's so much none sense information about gender dysphoria/Trans that it's hard to form a more neutral opinion about it.

I really love your videos and the work that you do here! I don't experience a lot of body dysphoria, but I think my biggest dysphoria is social. I'm wondering if my disinterest in going out is actually a social dysphoria in itself, but then I have always preferred staying in since young. But when I'm out, I find myself staring longingly at girls, or pretty dresses that I can't wear. I also dislike how as the guy in a relationship, I am expected to fulfill certain gender obligations like carrying things, paying for meals, making the first moves, etc.

I know this isn't exactly what you're talking about, but as a kid, I called myself a boy (ftm) and didn't really have episodes of dysphoria until I was past puberty and being told I couldn't transition. I was such a clear case of being trans but had to exaggerate and seek second opinions to get diagnosed with GID 15 years ago as a kid. It's why I have a personal vendetta against people who say you need be drowning in dysphoria to transition. And I love your channel by the way. It's very informative, and I've learned stuff I can use to help my other trans friends.

This explains a lot. Beceaus I was confused why I didn’t feel dysphoric but stil wanted to transition. I now understand I feel uncomfortable with my body parts.

I'm so glad there are people out there who know what they're talking about

I experience severe dysphoria, but for a long time I couldn't identify what it is and why it happens (before my realisation it was just discomfort, feeling naked and "fake" in "girly" clothes, feeling very awkward in dressing rooms, dreaming and daydreaming of myself as a man, but also having huge breakdowns over how my body looks, especially the "curvy" parts, that even made me try unhealthy eating patterns and have suicidal thoughts). But it got even more severe when I found the name for it, because then I finally consciously understood how I want to be treated and who I want to be, so every small thing that wasn't "in line" with who I am inside became way more painful. But also I experience a lot of derealization/depersonalization - had episodes of it for a very long time going back to childhood, but I have no idea what could cause them (and what causes them now) besides dysphoria (a lot of times my own voice or feeling what body I have triggers them). And during these episodes I don't know what's real and what's not anymore. I was planning to finally start taking testosterone this year, but somehow I am dissociating a lot and that makes me obsessively question myself. I have no idea if HRT could help me with these feelings, or if I should deal with them first. When I feel myself, I feel "male", I feel comfortable and at peace. But when my "self" is detached from my body and even sometimes from my head (idk how else to explain it), I don't feel like any gender and honestly I don't even feel like a person, so my brain tries to convince me I'm just my birth gender, but this makes my anxiety and discomfort even worse since it puts my dysphoria through some weird "tests" that just trigger it even more. I feel like I'm going crazy and it's so tiring. I already have a psychological opinion (one of many pieces required in my country to start medical transition) and supporting family and friends (well, my mom doesn't always support my desire to medically transition and maybe I have internalized this a little). I was so happy to finally be closer to start hormones but now my mind just does some weird flips and I don't know if it's a good idea to make this decision now (even though I basically made the decision already). I have no idea what to do and where to go now.

hi can dysphoria become stronger? when I was 14 I had a feminine face and body I had a beautiful feminine face. I always knew that I am a girl. and wish to transition. when I get older and grow facial hair I was extremely hate it and feel bad. during puberty I became more look like a boy. specially my face I wanted to cry. my body hair very very very very very make me feel disgusting. I feel like my body is not belong to me now I am 22 and I have painful dysphoria. and I want to transition. for some reason I couldn't transition earlier and I wish I could do it

My gender dysphoria is between okay and bad, and it waxes and wanes with varying intensity. When I look at myself in the mirror, with my hair done and makeup on, I have had euphoric moments. At the end of the day, when I take off my makeup and I see some of those masculine features, dysphoria can really hit hard. The dysphoria with my genitalia is mild, but over time, it has become stronger. Great video! Thank you!

So I a while back I was using that artbreeder website (for those who don’t know artbreeder is an ai website that makes realistic portraits of fake people) to make realistic photos of characters from one of my favorite book series. I had seen it done with anime and cartoon characters and I wanted to take it a step further and try characters from a book since it would be visualizing characters never technically seen before. It was very fun but what I noticed is that where the cartoon characters looked perfect and 100% how they would look in real life, the book characters where off. I followed all the descriptions of them in the book but they all looked wrong, and worse yet, I couldn’t change them to look right. Everything was in place, but it never clicked. This is how my mild dysphoria feels for me. There’s no one thing blatantly wrong or problematic about how I look and feel, but it never clicks, and I don’t know what to change to make myself feel like the cartoon characters/ non dysphoric people would feel.

i’ve never described myself as having gender dysphoria until this year, even though i’ve had a lifelong struggle of feeling like there’s “something wrong”. i have vivid memories from as early as 5 years old, such as being on the playground for the first time and not being able to socialize. i couldn’t put my finger on it at the time, but in hindsight it was directly related to perceptions about my gender and everyone around me. ever since then, i’ve reluctantly socialized with guys, though i also feel like i’ve never had a single friend my entire life. it’s not quite true, but there’s validity to the feeling. i can count on 1 hand the number of good friends i’ve had, and it just feels like i’ve been missing out on true friendships due to my gender dysphoria which i hadn’t associated with until this year. there’s so much i could explain about my struggles with sexuality and gender that i couldn’t type it all into this comment. the feelings have gotten worse over the past year and caused me to radically change how i present myself, who i socialize with, what kind of music i listen to, etc (my youtube account is outdated and doesn’t really represent this). i’m now actively thinking about hormone replacement therapy, but i’m still too afraid to make any significant changes like that. it feels like it needs to happen soon rather than later though, because one thing that causes debilitating episodes of gender dysphoria are my own emotions (or lack thereof) and inability to see myself as a woman and socialize in that way. occasionally, despite dressing and presenting the way i feel most comfortable, my mind still sees itself as part of the men’s “club” and falls into certain social tendencies. it causes me to feel like i betrayed myself.

I think my dysphoria is between moderate and severe, but there are some days where I am just a bit uncomfortable. Just wanted to write this down as an affirmation to myself, I know I'm trans (ftm) but sometimes I doubt myself, so I'm writing this to look back on when I need it! Have a great day!! Remember whatever you are doing, do it safely!!!

Recently ,I am feeling very mild dysphoria . Now I am really feeling comfortable with my hair,eyes,face mostly everything . But when I am told to cut my hair I feel i am losing something but can't really explain . And my most dysphoric feeling comes from my facial hair. But I feel very little discomfort at genitials. So I am just really very confused about what should I do? Should I take hormones or not? In short ,I am trans , thats no doubt but confused about how to express myself and live my life in this state of my mind?. I have discomfort but I don't really feel the necessity of undergoing any physical change.If you have any advice what to do to express in this state who has really mild dysphoria?

OK... I'm crying feeling understood watching this...

I am quite confused about my dysphoria. If I don't focus on my body, my dysphoria is very little. But then I notice my body and get really upset, but it doesn't happen all the time. Though I have a lot of social dysphoria. Am I trans if I don't experience much body dysphoria?

Just found this video and wow it does help and is very affirming to know that the uncomfortable ness that I feel sometimes is actually dysphoria

Hello, I want to ask: is possible to have full symptoms of GD later in life and after exploring the possibility of transition? Like, not very much signs during puberty, but after finding the possibility of change/hide some sexual characteristics develop dysphoria? Like a sort of addiction to "appear more male" for FTMs or "female" for MTFs?

Since yesterday, I’ve started binge watching your videos. I’ve always felt something was wrong with me and my body. Then, I discovered drag which I love doing but when partying I often cried, asking my friends (especially the trans ones) for help and telling them I am lost. The prime reason is than I don’t hate my male body and I thought it was an indication that I’m not trans. However I’ve watched this video and I understand now I experience mild disphoria. When I’m not in drag I feel I’m in drag (like my male presentation is like a costume) and when I’m in drag I feel myself. When people adress to me as « he » or « she » in everyday life, it doesn’t bother me at all but when then adress me as « he » when I’m in drag it hurts and makes me angry. When I’m in drag and they tell me « you don’t look like like a man in drag you just look like a woman » I have butterflies in my stomach. Suddenly, I remember how I use to put my sister’s clothes when I was little, how I cry so hard when I got ken dolls for Christmas because I asked for barbies, how I’ve never ever understood men and felt so much closer from women. Everyday is like acting, I fake a male walk and I force a strong male voice when my voice is kind of sweet. I unconsciously correct my attitude for it to be more male (in the archaic way of seeing it). When I was 14 I used to tell my friends I was a girl in a boy body and I thought that this was what every gay boy feel. My father forced me to be much male, to dress much like one, to act more like one and the more I grew up the more I felt discomfort with person I was. 2 years ago I came out as gender-fluid but I still don’t consider it to be true. I think it’s an feeling like when you realize you are gay but you convince yourself and tell everyone that you are bi. You say it in your videos : deeply we already know who we are. I’m a woman inside and I want it to be seen outside. I don’t want to hide behing drag anymore, I want to be myself all the time. I do have mild disphoria and that’s your video which made me realize it. So thank you so much and Love bless you. 🥰

This explains a lot of the symptoms I had over the years, with it all starting at puberty, especially when I started to have my voice drop. I only really figured that I had a problem after a few select events during my vacation after I had gotten vaccinated. I ended up with an evening and night to wander a casino alone and had a full suite to myself for the night that had been comped to me. I had spent the previous evening alone as well, but had been hitting the bars in the casino and just talking to people to be friendly. The second night, I had decided I was going to use the last of the edible MJ I had and wander the casino high and a little drunk. During it I had been thinking about a few events earlier in the week that had triggered some really intense feelings of anger and jealousy. I had felt that they were unfounded feeling and was trying to rationalize why I had them. I ended up hooking up with a guy that was a closet cross-dresser and he brought some cloths for me to ware as well. It was while I was looking at myself in the gigantic mirror in the bedroom that I realized why I had been feeling the way I had and why it had been a problem for me for so long. I had just kept working past it as just some irrational anger and anxiety, but things made sense after that. When I got home, I went through and did some research and came to the realization that I had been trans this whole time and that I wanted to do something about it. I had wanted to transition before and had put the idea aside as impractical and a whim when I was younger. Then I found out that there were ways for me to afford the treatment and surgeries with my insurance and with any insurance in my state. SO now I have the initial doctor's appointments made and will be seeing a doctor to start HRT at the end of the month.

I am currently struggling with this topic... I have mild disphoria I think... I am mostly uncomfortable with my voice it's really deep and sometimes I get too uncomfortable to speak I'm also uncomfortable with my body.. I don't like how tall I am I don't like that my shoulders are too wide I hate that I have body hair... I've been asking myself if I'm trans for almost 3 years now.. at first I thought it was a phase but I'm still having problems with my gender... I feel really happy when someone sais I look like a girl.... I just don't understand.... If I want to talk to a therapist is there a specific type of therapists to go to or can I go to any therapist ?

for me it varies a lot, ranging from fairly mild and ignorable to mid-high where i feel genuine hate towards my body and can't look in the mirror without wanting to vomit. One thing i've noticed is whenever it feels like my life is better and i got things working ok, the dysphoria gets worse, almost like my brain is holding it back on purpose to better focus on getting my life in order. It got especially bad recently after i met my boyfriend

So I have been transitioning medically for about year and a half and finally came out at work about a year on hormones (best thing iv ever done) now working toward vaginoplasty but it got me thinking, I'm never going to be able to kick my dysphoria of which before I came out at work was about a 5 out of 10 (now around 3 out of 10). Of course being misgendered because of my voice dosent help but it's really depressing knowing there will always be a peice in the back of my brain telling me I'm to masculine.

For most of my life, I never considered myself to have any sort of dysphoria. I just always felt pretty neutral when it came to my agab. Any discomfort I felt, I chalked up to other things, like low self esteem. But, ever since I’ve come to terms with my genderqueer identity, some mild dysphoria has come to my attention, mainly surrounding my chest. I just began to notice that my discomfort about my large chest felt different from my discomfort about my weight, for example. Fortunately, it’s still pretty mild and easy enough to ignore most of the time. I don’t feel the urgent rush to do anything permanent just yet, in terms of transitioning, but I’m definitely looking into my options for top surgery or a significant breast reduction at some point in the future.

Every since about middle school, i would break down about 4-8 times a month about my chest, and not looking like a boy, But other times I would be “fine” I could look at myself with some discomfort but not like the those other days, I feel unforforatble presenting as a female, and others addressing me as female, however I don’t have overwhelming dysporia all the time, I really want to be a boy, and ever since I started binding , using he/him pronouns and wearing the clothes I prefer, and going by my nickname to robin. I’ve been feeling more confident but more discomfort towards my chest, Idk if this is what you would call dysporia idk if I’m trans either, all I know is I hate this feeling,

I'm only just now, at age 29, noticing feelings of discomfort with my assigned gender and trying to figure out whether I'm merely wanting to change some aspects of my gender expression or whether I want to transition. A key thing that kept me pushing these feelings away was a lack of clear feelings of dysphoria. However, as I start to reflect, I realise I do have some discomfort with parts of my facial features that I feel are particularly masculine and that I've much prefered to wear long pants since my leg hair started to darken (I hit puberty late). So while it's not clear to me yet whether I'll resort to any form of medical transition, I am finding that these discomforts are there and that I'm wanting to experiment with ways of alleviating them.

I experience gender dysphoria since middle school (not before or I have no memories of it) most often mild, no bottom dysphoria, sometimes it gives me anguish. But I'm afraid it's the result of my PTSD, depression or anxiety and that it will eventually go away so I don't mention it I just live with it and maybe someday if I stay alive long enough I'll act on it, although the idea of aging as a man is horrific to me. As I'm agoraphobic, I avoid people, when I'm around people I tend to feel self conscious about my gender. If I'm alone, most of the time it's meh. I have a very grim outlook on life and future and my gender is part of it, but not the most of it, it's my sense of worthlessness, my social skills and my apathy if not disgust to everything so... I wish I could just test having a girl body so I could see it clear and figure it out. I do "crossdress" and enjoy it, but it's not the same as the real thing 24/7.

Very helpful video!~

I realized that i am very uncomfortable with people using she/her pronouns and referring to me as a girl. I came out as trans and then realized so many things made sense- like buying baggy clothes on purpose or always playing male characters in school. I got my binder a few days ago and seeing myself flat is very euphoric, but i still don't feel like i have enough dysphoria to be valid

My dysphoria is probably right smack in the middle of mild and severe, but it's weird. Like, I can take a shower and not feel dysporic really (dysphoria is still there but I can distract myself better), but when I'm out in public, I'm panicking because I'm so dysporic. I think it's because I'm in front of people and I know I'll get misgendered whereas in the shower I'm alone and I have music to distract me n' shit

I realized a few days ago that something I thought was just a quirk may have been dysphoria. If I'm seen in a dress and I feel perceived too feminine I freeze up and want to dissappear or to run and hide. The other part of me says this isn't enough to be enby though, and I don't know how to feel.

Hi! You're videos are very helpfull, specially for people who can't consult a especialist at the moment, such as myself. I do have a question, however if my experienced and feeling can be labelled as dysphoria: I grew up in a household where gender wasn't really imposed, (and when it was I spoke against it) and as a girl, I felt very detached from sex and gender, I wouldn't get why people were divided by gender as that, for me, didn't matter, because, in the end, we were all people. As I got older, I quickly got saddened to see that boys developed more strength and height (for example) and started to feel disapointed as my view of gender was proved wrong. As this difference between genders got more evident I started to feel more and more detached from my female body and refused to do any activities or dress clothes that would make evident that I was female and didn't have the male atributes. I got so detached from my body that I sometimes negleted it, as I treated it as I had a non-female body (as I simply almost "forgot" that I had breasts, if that makes sense). So, I came to the conclusion that I could be non-binary, but then, I feel euphoric when people address me as a man or I am seen as one. And then, to top it all off, I started to feel worse and worse as the gap between me and men got larger and larger, and I started to relate less and less with girls, and started to feel anger towards myself for being born female and pride for when I was treated as a guy. Is this reason to consider myself as trans? Since I don't really hate my body and just feel "meh" about it? Sorry, if ranted, but I really am confused. Is this even dysphoria? Once again, I'm really gratefull that you do videos like this and share your knowledge about gender with us!

I have somewhat severe dysphoria. There are some days (rarely) where I feel comfortable in the gender I am. But I think it’s a temporary feeling of remembering past pleasant experience rather than not having the dysphoria in the first place.

I have pretty severe dysphoria around my chest/upper body. Aside from the obvious, I feel like my upper body isn't muscled enough or masculinely shaped. I have only mild dysphoria around my genitals, but it does heighten to moderate when I get my p*riod and when sex comes up. I have a fair amount of voice dysphoria and facial dysphoria too.

My dysphoria in general is probably a 5 out of 10 normally. It's enough to make me think about it constantly but not enough to make life unlivable. I think that is how I managed to suck it up this long. I do however get very dysphoric when I see a female who has traits I wish I had or even just clothes I wish I was wearing. This is true for real-world and fantasy world stuff. One of my earliest signs of being trans as a child was watching cartoons and identifying far more with the female characters than any of the male ones. I didn't really "get it" back then but looking back on it it makes sense.

I totally get some of this. I experienced zero dysphoria around stuff like what pronouns or gendered language people use for me, I almost never considered wearing women's clothes until I came out because I'm just as comfortable in men's, couldn'r care less if I pass as one gender or another unless for safety and that's rare, gender has nothing to do with why I hate my deadname and I was using my middle name, James, almost exclusively online for years when I came out. Which I kept as a 3rd name, the other being Renay. Like I never even thought about this stuff until after I started talking to other trans people online after I decided to transition. For the second time tried in 05 but I wasn't binary enough. Probably for the better I'm in Toronto and I'd have been sent to Blanchard. But it never occurred to me to even think about stuff like this because none of it makes me dysphoric. But I do find I very much like broadening my presentation to be masc, fem, and varying forms of androgyny. Basically it's all good for me. Except agender, that's a no. But my body has caused me large amounts of very bigender dysphoria and euphoria for almost 30 years and that has shaped my priorities. And it very much shows. Overall I'm not nearly as dysphoric as most other trans people I know even at my worst but actually dealing with it is not nearly as easy. Sometimes I envy binary trans people but I wouldn't want to be binary.

I think I have mild dysphoria, I feel discomfort being a boy but it’s not really intense however I feel happy if I imagine myself as a girl. I am still questioning if I am a trans girl or non binary since when people ask me what gender do I imagine myself as in dreams, I would say I don’t know because I don’t see myself as a boy or a girl in my head bur I feel happy when I imagine as a girl. Also I heard that when you feel misgendered as a trans person, you feel very strong emotions of sadness. However, for me, I don’t feel much when people misgender me as a boy even though I don’t really identify as one, is it a sign that I don’t have dysphoria at all?

I didn't think I was experiencing dysphoria at first, probably because my subconscious really suppressed a lot of my trans feelings because of religion. Now that I think about it and have had euphoria (i.e. painting nails, removing hair, wearing a skirt), I think my dysphoria presents as disappointment, I'm disappointed by having male pattern baldness, I'm disappointed in how I look in a dress due to weight distribution. These are all things that can change and get better over time or have some other way of addressing it. Since it is just disappointment and doesn't have a sense of urgency or discomfort, it really gets me doubting myself.

This is like a year late but eh For me I've never been comfortable, I couldn't tell you how severe my discomfort is, when I've never felt comfortable to begin with, it's also why I took so so long to realize something was wrong, I always thought it was normal to feel that way

I'd say my dysphoria is probably a 2 or 3 out of 5. It also shifts and changes along with my gender as I experience genderfluidity. So the type of dysphoria I experience and the severity of it can also change. This is why the topic of medical transition is a difficult one for me, because I know that my current feelings may change in a day, a month, or any amount of time, so I have to think carefully about what I can do for myself to make sure that I don't make decisions that are regretful.

Mine has fluctuated. It was very mild when I was a kid, and I only began to notice it when I hit puberty. It certainly has not been mild ever since. As I get further in my transition, the more dysphoria I feel towards my agab. I don’t regret transitioning at all - I wish I had started sooner. But the more male my body becomes, the more I focus on the things that aren’t going to change without more time or surgery. Hoping that makes sense.

Ftm here. I don’t think I ever realized how disconnected and unattached from my body I felt in the context of gender until I started allowing myself to see myself as a man. In my mind and online, I see myself as a guy, and it makes me so happy and just feels right. In spaces where I don’t feel comfortable, like at home, school, or just out in public in general, I tend to withdraw and daydream or indulge in some solo activity. But, in the presence of my boyfriend of 2 years, who I feel so incredibly comfortable with to be my true self with no filters, shame, etc and where I feel loved and accepted, I feel more present. Although I feel this way around him, these feelings of wishing I had a male body and that people saw me as a guy have never gone away; they just laid dormant for a while while other parts of myself were being nurtured. I recently told my boyfriend about my history of hating my body, my struggle during puberty and my overall disconnection with my body and how presenting as a guy makes me feel happy and more like myself. Although my overall emotions have been very numb for a long time, I started violently sobbing just from discussing this with him, which I was not expecting at all. It was so incredibly hard to even just start talking about it with him (I didn’t have nearly as much difficulty bringing up my childhood emotional/psychological trauma which had consumed my life for so long). The experience and my emotional reaction during it really affirmed how much discomfort I’ve been feeling for so long. I may have only mild dysphoria, but I’m finally starting to accept that the joy I feel from presenting as a man is enough for me to go through with this. Since then, I’ve started letting this part of me show itself in reality, and it feels so amazing. I just ordered my first binder today and I’m about to email some local gender therapists to hopefully set up an appointment :) tysm for making these videos. I’ve been leaving a lot of comments recently on them as I sort out my thoughts haha. I hope it’s not too much. And to anyone else reading, I’d love to know if anyone has had a similar experience

My dyshoria is extremly bad and i dont know What to do sometimes 😞😢

what do you think about autogynephilia theory of ray blanchard? what rule sexual orientation play in transgender people. what is late onset and early onset of gender dysphoria? thank you your channel help me so much.

When the dam first broke for me I really did not experience much dysphoria. That changed after a few weeks. But, those first experiences telling me I must do something took a life their own. Quickly, I knew I could not go on the way I was. If there was dysphoria in those early stages it was the realization that I would have to begin a journey that had difficult pathways which I would need to learn to navigate. Soon I understood that for much of my life I had a sense my body does not match my mind. That was the beginning of gender dysphoria as typically experienced by trans people. Interesting though, the dysphoria was intertwined with euphoria because as I became clearer that my body did not match my mind I knew my authentic self is of female gender. That knowledge is euphoric. Now, I am ten months into transition and know it is the best life choice I have made. Like many trans people, I only wish I had done it earlier. Thankfully, the right time to start transition is when you start it.

I vary greatly from day to day, usually ranging in the mild to moderate range but it depends on the day, what happened during the day and what happened the day before. For example if I had an amazing day the previous day where I could dress and act and look the way I feel then in general the next day I may reduce down from mild to very mild for that next day, where as other days if I say get out of the shower and make the mistake of looking in the mirror then the next say odds are I will go from being mild to being somewhere between moderate and slightly sever (normally only moderate), now it can even change greatly even within the same day if certain things are going on but that is very rare for me generally how I am feeling in the morning is how I am feeling all day and it isn't until the next morning that the previous day's experience impact me. The thing that I find both as extremely lucky and extremely terrible at the same time is the fact that most the time I am only mild to moderate, because on one hand that makes getting through the days a lot easier which I feel so lucky for, but on the other hand I definitely invalidate my feelings as well because I feel like "well I don't feel as bad about myself as X therefore I must not have the problem that I know I have but because my case is not as bad as theirs it makes me super self conscious about how lucky I have it compared to them.

Mine has always been severe. When I look in the mirror, I see the exact opposite of what my brain expects to see. So severe that most times I wish I wasn't even alive. So severe I hurt myself. So severe that I attempted to end it. Now I am getting help, after so long of punishing myself for something I wasn't even responsible for.

Haven't watched the whole video yet, but I can agree with a lot of these comments, I've had experiences that could mean I'm trans but at the same time don't mean anything. I've been thinking I'm nonbinary/genderfluid lately and I really think enbies are cool and sometimes I don't know if I identify as enby myself or just think is some kind of ''trend'', since I'm a teen and in my classes my teacher said some of the normal traits of adolescence are trying to be unique.

Mild but I've only started exploring those feelings

I have lived with depression for most of my life (I'm 32 now). Since I realized that I'm trans recently, I've been feeling much lighter and actually kinda happy with myself, so I decided to analyze why that is. What I learned is that my perception of myself changed in a massive way. I used to think I was doomed to an unsatisfying life due to having been born in a male body, that I would only ever possibly be a woman in a next life, if there even is such a thing. That was subconsciously tied with hating myself, the person that I was, which I thought was only due to my failures in life. I now realize that this feeling was gender dysphoria all along. I thought I didn't feel dysphoric at all because I never atributed it to my depression and because all of my suicidal episodes were actually triggered by unrequited love, therefore my experience was nothing like the ones reported by other trans people. Learning that I am a transgender woman made me realize that I get to be who I want to be in this life, not a next one. I accepted myself for who I am and it feels like a massive weight has been lifted from my chest. I am allowed to love being who I am, and that truly makes me happy. I don't know how severe that puts my dysphoria on the scale. I used to think I had none, then mild, but I guess it was actually more towards the middle, maybe inbetween middle and severe even, I'm not entirely sure. Anyway, I just recently found this channel and it has already become an important part of my journey, so thanks for that Dr Z!

My dysphoria was at level ten at one point. I got in shape & got ripped. Made my Dysphoria was worse not better. I actually thought it'd make me feel better. It didn't, it pushed ne over the edge to get on hrt. On hrt for a month now couldn't be happier.

I remember someone saying they are three different types of gender dysphoria as well. I can only remember body and Social. My dysphoria sometimes doesn’t feel like it’s there and other times it’s severe and I really don’t understand it completely

.So... I've been wrestling with my sense of gender identity and sexuality for almost a year now. From my childhood experiences, and the way I presented and acted (I was very feminine and loved dresses) I thought I was a heterosexual girl. However, this summer everything changed for me. I started feeling mild body dysphoria, name dysphoria, and pronoun dysphoria. At first, I identified as a demigirl (or, a gender identity which is partially female and partially outside the binary) but the more I thought about it the more the term nonbinary stuck with me. I also thought I was pansexual, when in reality it was just my hypersexuality driven my mania running its course. I also have OCD and bipolar, which in turn; makes me question myself even more. Is this real or is it just my mental illness? I also had a traumatic event occur in which I was stalked by someone on campus, which in turn made my dysphoria much much worse to the point where I wanted to start hormones and cut off my boobs (which I never felt the desire to transition beforehand) So, to say the least; it's been hard. Because I don't know what is actually genuine and what's coming from a place of mental illness or trauma.

Hello! your video's help me a lot, but I've been questioning my gender as of recent, and have a question : I feel like I want to me a boy, I don't want to be female, I don't feel comfortable with my gender, I like using male pronouns and such, it makes me feel good, but, does this mean It's possible I'm trans? I don't know if this is an easy question, but it's something I'd like to know. I don't hate my body. I don't mind it, it's just that, I feel like I'd be happier as a boy.

My dysphoria is like waves sometimes. I can go maybe half a day with mild feelings and then all of a sudden it's like a crashing wave. During that time I hate being male, hate when someone treats me as such, as well as hate my private parts. It stays strong for a few hours until I force myself to focus on something totally different. If someone calls me, "Sir or Him," there's this very little voice I've always had since I was little, like a question mark "?" I don't get mad or angry because I'm not presenting myself as a women so I understand but the little question mark is always there. When someone calls me miss or ma'am on the phone I get a huge smile on my face! I've also gone for years and years with low dysphoria that I was able to ignore and suppress it. Now as I'm older (53) it has gotten worse which I don't understand? I was hoping that since it was always low most of my life I would be able to control it, why did it get so strong later?

My dysphoria is from non exsistent to really bad but when it is non exsistent it makes me question if I am trans enough and jump into depressive thoughts that I can`t do what I want because if I don`t suffer 100 % it means I will make mistake with transitioning in my case having TOP surgery despite me feeling euphoria when I imagine having it so I don`t know how to put it as intensity .

Hi , I am a Man who has never felt disphoria or thinks he has not I am confused because I love to feel like a girl but not sure I want to be a girl . It excites me so to dress as a female n feel so feminine and want to express it to people but as you say in videos scared to move forward. I believe its time to explore and even to talk to someone. But don't know how.Anyhow thank you for your video it does help. BTW I'm Jennifer

i get gender euphoria when ppl refer to me by he/him. while im fine wirh being refered to with she/her, and i dont really get gender dysphoria persay, it just feels wrong idk

I have a question. I've been doing a deep dive into you tube GD and trans issues. I have come across the "no dysphoria" and I was thinking that may be they said that may be they were distancing themselves from stigma of mental health diagnosis. Could that be one of the reasons for the no GD reasoning? As someone who struggles with GD can some one explain what the reasoning for transitioning is. When I read no dysphoria I see the were a girl, happy to be a girl, and wake up and I want to be a boy. I read as one without GD thoughts of identifying as the opposite gender just were not there at all. I'm assuming all this. This is a new philosophy to me and the you tubers argue about that they need it or it invalidates me but there's still questions. Or Is as Dr Z the thoughts are there but it's not emotionally overwhelming.