I haven’t watched the video yet but according to the Bible, marriage is a desire according to Paul. Not everyone has that desire and if you do, then honestly just leave it to God because “When the time is right, I the Lord, will make it happen.” 😊 Cuz let’s not forget…the devil can send bad men our way as well.
Also, the church talks about everything NOT just marriage. If a church goes viral from a discussion on marriage then thats one thing but church in general have discussions about a number of issues. People y'all need to get a grip. Why has noone ever accused men of idolizing marriage🙄if you were a male you would be praised for having that perspective and wanting to settle down..smh do you Chizi
Chizi I dont think I've ever commented and I have to say this...Chizi the thought didnt even cross my mind that you are idolizing marriage. I'm a Christian that got saved at age 27. I got married at age 31. People need to stop protecting their insecurities. Please continue to share.
I'm a silent watcher for the most part. But now I need to open my mouth😂 it really is crazy how people will want influencers/creators to be authentic and transparent and then when you guys are they give backlash. Like you said, at the end of the day everyone is human, everyone will have natural desires and we shouldn't get upset at someone for saying it out loud. We love and respect you Chizi and we appreciate your honesty and transparency❤please continue to speak your truth cause some of us are happy to hear it
Sis, I love your content! Don’t let these negative comments get to you :(. But, I respect your decision either way and thank you for sharing your life with us! I’ve been an OG follower from your natural hair days. It sucks that society makes it look as if you were “desperate” for desiring marriage and children. Even worse when you happen to be on your walk with Christ at the same time because some churches put that pressure on women. Heavy on two things can be true simultaneously!! I laughed so hard when you said “I don’t believe that a reward for the Christian faith is marriage”, because exactly! It sounds so silly. Just imagine someone following Christ just to earn the things they want in life, meanwhile, it doesn’t work like that at all. It’s exactly how you said it about finding salvation and spending eternal life with Jesus ❤.
The most relatable video ever!!! I am 28 going on 29 and I am a Christian woman who desires marriage and children. To an onlooker, it might look like I idolise these things but no, I just want them because I see my future as a wife and a mom.
I remember you went to a church where proposals where raining and the teachings could sometimes be very ‘ why don’t you have a men?’ from the pulpit. I think being in that environment could be very toxic and lead to making a husband a idol. I think it’s very important to ask God ‘ what do I need to learn in this season of my life?’ I remember telling God ‘ i’m tired of praying about this because i’m praying for a place of ‘ will it happen ‘ instead of a place of ‘ it has already been settled’. My prayers moved from I want a husband to let there be unity in my marriage when due time comes. I pray we all find peace in our current season. 🤍
chizi, i’m so glad you brought this up. as a woman who is vocal about my desire to be married, i often get branded “desperate” when i’m far from it. why is it a crime to be human? my desire to be with someone doesn’t equate to desperation, and if it did i would’ve settled a long time ago.
It sets an easy target on your back. A man can follow your social media footprint and play right into your ‘ideal man’ that’s why people say don’t idolize the desire to be wifed.
I have been following silently, Weldon for the good job. I think deep down so many women idolizes marriage but are not vocal enough to say it so they are not seen a certain type of way. Well you have been sincere enough in your approach to these issues. You do not need to apologize if you ask me. You can’t please everyone and say exactly what they want to hear. there are so many things that will help differentiate you. I think you stand standout. Cheers!
Hello chizi😊,I have been following you for years,and to say the truth many christain ladies wants marriage😊 and that's not a bad thing.. marriage is a beautiful thing,forget the woke modern system.. marriage was created by God and anything created by him is beautiful.. I pray a good man finds you 🙏... For me I want a good marriage and that's a beautiful thing.. but we christain should not think that marriage is the gift we get from serving him...
It's hard not to think about marriage when it's all over the media. We see previews for shows like Love Is Blind, The Bachelor, and The Bachelorette, and many people sharing their views on marriage, divorce, and how to prepare for marriage. Even as a young girl, watching Disney princess movies, all incorporated talks on "the happily ever after," emphasizing the talk on marriage. I am 31 years old, and I can't help but think about marriage sometimes because I see myself being married to the right man that God has for me in the next few years. Thinking about marriage shouldn't be a topic that people should ignore unless it is not something that you desire. Also, many of these pastors nowadays have sermons and series on all things relationships! You're right when you say being a woman has a lot of nuances!
Okay unpopular opinion but I’ve noticed there’s a difference between Western Christianity and African Christianity. I feel like as African Christians we know that most if not all of us marriage is in the cards. Taking time to prepare no one will say “desire for a husband is an idol”. In the western culture though, doing so most people will say it’s an idol but I think we just see things very differently. IT IS NOT A CRIME TO WANT MARRIAGE. I have heard Western Christians saying “God is your first husband. You don’t need anyone else”. Like I say God ain’t there to cuddle you. Let’s not forget Adam needed someone. If he was meant to be alone, he would’ve been content in God’s presence but he asked for his rib 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ Please continue to seek favour for a husband. No shame. The Bible says you can pray about anything so if He says come to me with everything, who is the neighbor next to me to tell me about my desire is an idol? 😭🥱
I know I don't comment much but naa, the way you've talked about coming to Christ since that first video and IG post a few years ago and watching since, I never thought of you doing it to get married. I actually, think we're in similar seasons in our life, because I've been thinking about marriage myself a lot more this year. and I appreciate you vlogging and chatting about your walk in Christ because it's encouraging as someone around your age. It's not being Christian, and relatively young lol in these worldly streets and internets. that's something I've been praying to God for is providing more media that honors Him and can serve as encouragement as we are what we consume. and I love watching YT so grateful for YTbers like you, Maya Graves, Rianna Janis, Deborah B and more! So just keep going as the Lord leads you and just pray for those commenters that they see His light. side note: literally two videos before I watched this I watched this video that made some really good points about dating and marriage as a Christian with biblical references. It's less than 15 minutes but the channel is Girl Talk and the video is titled Dating As A Christian In 2024 | Girl Talk. I think you would appreciate what they had to share. I'll try to link it too: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-K1uOBifjIG8.htmlsi=5728dL2uYb6bk8nD
This was one of the best, well rounded conversations regarding women and our choices and navigating the things we want. Can’t comment about the Christianity aspect of things. And I don’t think you’ve sounded desperate.
People want to judge people too quickly. The people that complained don’t appreciate being vocal about the truth and exploring yourself out loud. I would LOVE to hear more about your journey. Please don’t allow people to stop you from exploring yourself out loud. There’s so many places where we are not allowed to be all that we are. Please don’t let that be you in a space that YOU created ❤️
If you were desperate you would be trying to lower your standards and make it work with someone who isn't for you. You can get a man, easy. I am sure of that. Desperate people do not have standards, nor do they carry on the way that you do. I appreciate your videos because you are super relatable and I truly believe that is why you started making your videos, to show that we are all in this together and that we are all feeling the same things. Those of us who are in the same boat as you are age-wise, being a Christian and navigating life, healing and who we are. Don't change because those of us who want to be here will continue to be here. You wont lose any followers, trust sis, because you're going to have people who want to be here with you and relate to your content as we always have been and there will ALWAYS be someone to say something negative. That just comes with the territory and I am not saying this to say ignore them, always honor your feelings and keep on keeping on💜
I’m a more silent watcher, but it has been refreshing to see a fellow Nigerian and Christian to share their journey especially one that so many are also navigating. Whatever you decide to is respected but I hope you don’t allow your content to be clouded by those who are projecting their own insecurities and bitterness onto you. We love your content over here!! Sending lots of love ♥️
Hey girlie, it sucks that you have to apologize for your life.... I got exactly what you meant! We are all right there with you 😊 with wanting marriage, kids and family and it's extremely normal
Hallelujah!!!!! Your channel has been a big part of my transformation, God is good. I had a $37,000 loan from the bank for my son's(Bryan) brain surgery. I am now dept free after I invested $8,000 and got my payment of $25,500 each month. God bless Ms Kathleen Mary Vella.
It is the digital market. That's been the secret to this wealth transfer. A lot of folks in the US amd abroad are getting so much from it, God has been good to my household Thank you Jesus
1:23 Chizi you are such an inspiration. Your humility and kindness in this video has really inspired me to check myself and be more intentional about how I respond to "criticism" You are so wise and mature beyond your years 😳 Thank you for sharing your honest journey with us ❤
Chizi I’m so sorry you had to even speak on this. This made my heart hurt. I don’t have words but know that I do understand whatever decision you are making for yourself about not sharing at this time anymore conversations about marriage etc. I am one that gets encouragement and insight about the WHOLE process and not just the beginning and ending. Going through the process of anything is where the greatest lessons and growth comes from. But unfortunately many don’t want the process. Love you Chizi💕🙏🏾❤️
i think the criticism is more so because so many of us have seen God-fearing women be disrespected in their marriages. i’m a pastor’s kid. i grew up in the church with a lot of other church kids. we’ve seen a lot over the years. marriage can be a sore subject, like you said. ofc we all pray to have beautiful and healthy partnerships, but the obsession w marriage feels antiquated to me.
yep I understand that now. I didn't grow up very religious so it's not a sore spot for me but as a public figure it's important to recognize other peoples experiences so I definitely will be more sensitive to it
This, also the worst part about seeing women contort themselves for marriage is that VERY VERY few men (even religious men) are doing the same. They're turning up to marriages broken, traumatised and with little to offer yet there will be a woman desperate for marriage that will GLADLY have them. It's truly sad.
I get why some ppl would say that, because all of the Christian content that ppl post makes relationships and dressing modest trendy. And when something is trendy ppl think it’s just for show. But I totally agree with you the reality of it all is that we are getting older and marriage and kids are things that we all think about regardless of religion.
Blessings Chizi, I don’t comment much but I’ve been watching for years and let me say I love seeing your videos on marriage because as a Christian young married woman who’s husband is 14 years older than her , the holy navigation through disgusted eyes on people and demons is very strategic for us so I want to say I’m glad that you showcase the wanting of love and marriage and make it fun and a sight to see not dreadful and dreary and let’s be real God created marriage so why is it a problem to people that a Christian woman wants love eventually?? And I know you are having fun I guess people think Jesus doesn’t have a sense of humor but created Bernie Mac 😂 , all I want to say is please don’t stop talking about marriage because in a world where sexual sin and baby daddies is appealing , it needs to be done of us beautiful black women talking different for Christ and always remember people will critique you because they living of the world and try to tear you down because they sleeping with whomever and you want love , marriage , then love making first , drown out the noise , slandering , and don’t forget useless demons because they have a social media too and want to bully you to stop talking what’s right , God created union and marriage , the devil advocates for adultry and divorce and lust so if you choose to say less I understand but don’t stop talking for what’s right because as Christians we can’t please everybody but please God , much love to you Chizi , I’m watching and enjoying 🙏🏾💙🤝🏾
Thank you for this video Chizi! The extremes are too much these days. The girlies can be vocal without idolizing and vice versa. It’s very okay to want something and love God all the same.
Girrl you are literally my role models! I just love listening to you speak on marriage because truthfully it something we all want right now. It's nice to see someone who can relate. Like what EXACTLY is wrong with wanting to be married??? Don't let the haters get to you ❤
Chizi, don't let those negative comments get to you. We absolutely respect your space and your right to privacy, however your story is one that many of us are happy to watch as it unfolds. You're right when you say that everyone loves a good before and after, but I also feel that what you share uplifts others who are having similar experiences. Share what you feel comfortable sharing, and withhold whatever is too personal - you get to decide. We are cheering you on in all you do, regardless. Love from Florida ❤
Chizi, don't apologize for being honest about where you are at! I'm glad you are guarding your heart about sharing your journey as a Christian woman, like you said many people are projecting their own experiences. Regardless I appreciate you & your openness 💗
Same. God ordained marriage in the Bible. However, you have to know yourself and who He has called you to be. The husband and children will come when you are a whole person. Keep going Chizi 🎉🎉🎉
Hi Chizi! I so appreciate your openess to talk about all these women topics and your christian walk. God bless you ohhh! I pray that God answers the desires of your heart, according to His will ❤️
