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@@eastsidemark3781 Oh geez. That is not something I’d let go. I had a situation with one of my stepsons where I should have turned him in for something but didn’t because at the time Mike was in Iraq and I wasn’t able to talk to him about it… until it had been too long in my mind. Mike would have supported me in my decision if I had. I really think it would have been a wake up call for him if I had and maybe he would be a better person at this point. Can you talk to the mother and get her to see your point? Or is she just determined that you are being “mean”?
As a stepmom who’s been married for 30 years, I’m going to say I would advise anyone NOT to be a stepmom because it is a total dead end AND a waste of time. My husband‘s disgusting ex, toxically poisoned my two steps sons against me, and as of right now no one cares at all about me. I have distanced myself from them, and I don’t even think at this point I will last much longer in this marriage. I was a kind, loving and generous stepmom. I would not advise any woman to be a stepparent. Stepparents are dumped on and treated like garbage, and it is literally disgusting what an HCBM can get away with in our present society.
@@judysangregorio2787 I am very sorry to hear this. We will be 30 years married next year but we figured out early on how to stay on the same side. What would you do different in your marriage if you could go back (outside of what you mentioned). How can I support & encourage you? Hugs, Brenda
@@momsmixedfamilyblender726 I would have married a husband that had the balls enough to stick up for me and teach his two sons how to be kind to me, like I was kind to them. And my husband should have shown them how their mother toxic poisoned them against me. My husband is a coward, through and through, and he just used me to help raise them. My husband‘s disgusting ex got herself a boyfriend when the boys were very young…..long before I came along. However, everyone (including my husband subconsciously) blames me and blame-shifts this broken marriage onto me. I had nothing to do with them breaking up, and I took all of them into my house. 10 years ago, one year after my stepson got married he told me off in the most disgusting horrific way possible. I was Blindsided and ambushed. I had NO idea. He obviously had been saving all of his hate to unleash on me AFTER he felt safe and had a wife and was now married. He was 29 years old at the time. He’s now 40 and he treats me like garbage, and his wife is a supreme enabler, so there’s really no hope there. And like I said, my husband is a coward, so there’s no supporting me in this. They have a two yr old and a four yr old, and I am not interested in doing anything for them (the parents) ever again because it’s only a matter of time when their two little girls will think of me as absolutely nothing. Once burned, twice shy. They will subconsciously toxically poison those children just like the disgusting HCBM originally did to me, and my husband will do nothing about it. I can almost guarantee it. Maybe or maybe not but I’m not wasting my time. I wasted enough time….all my really good years. What you could do is warn your followers that these things actually do happen MOST times, and a very, very good person is discarded no matter how good they are. And that the only thing you can do is NOT marry anyone with kids who has a TOXIC HCBM, look out for yourself after recognizing the warning signs because it is a dead end.
WE ARE HUMAN...MOST STEP KIDS NEVER HAD/NEVER WILL LIKE THEIR STEPS... SO WHAT? BOTH PARTNERS MUST JUST KEEP LOVING EACH OTHER...THEY WILL COME ALONG 😊
@@nomsamkhize2241 yes I agree. This video was mostly made to help people realize they cannot control what happens but they can and should do their best everyday.
Hey im a stepmum whos stepchildren hate me and my husband has to meet the children once a month as me and our younger children our not allowed to see them and hes not able to parent them or speak about our faith infront of them. Please could I get some advice?
@@chloehoward3877 Are you in the USA? I am only asking so I can give correct advice. That said we do always encourage bio parents to “fight for” their kids. Seeing them once per month is not enough. I will watch for your reply and give specific advice once I know where you live. Hugs to you! ~Brenda
@@chloehoward3877 Okay thank you for letting me know that. I know that things are different in the UK but seeing his children 1 time per month is not enough depending on their ages. If you guys live a distance away from them and cannot get over to see them more I would encourage him to video call them more. I would also encourage him to have a sit down talk to the kids and matter of factly tell the kids that you are his wife and you will be involved in the calls and visits. Because he also needs to fight for you. Again depending on the kids ages. It sounds to me like his ex is part of the problem and may be trying to poison them against you… this is very common. If that is the case I’d encourage your husband to take legal action. Here in America we have what is called mediation. It is where there are 2 unrelated mediators who sit through the meeting and keep the peace, ask questions if something is not communicated clearly, they get the conversation going if no one is talking etc.mediation is a very affective way to open lines of communication and get things sorted out. Mediators submit agreements to the court (if needed) and they become legally binding so both parties still have to follow through on plans they made together. It is MUCH cheaper than going to court as there are no lawyers involved and it frees up the courts. I would encourage you guys to see if there is something similar in the UK and do that if his ex is high conflict or they cannot have a civil conversation. I hope that advice helps you! If you have additional questions please leave another comment. Hugs to you! Brenda
@@joshuacorbin221 we have always had a weekly date night which is one of the many reasons we just celebrated our 29th wedding anniversary… old fashioned works!
@@totodiledundee6354 Sorry to hear that. If you have topics that you need advice with you can leave a comment and we will make videos on those or you can email us at info@blendedfamilymomentum.com please specify if you’d like Mike’s guidance, mine (Brenda) or us together. Hope that helps!
Why are we starting families who don’t want to be families???? Enough with the step parenting. It’s statistically so dangerous anyway. Raise your children, they’re your life partners . Date, have a lover but stop forcing children into families that aren’t theirs
@@ErinThePsychicWitch Most stepparents are loving and care for their stepchildren so I would disagree that it is dangerous. Statistically it is bad for kids not to have a mom & a dad (even if they are not biologically related) in the home…
Everything was fine until i married my husband. His ex went crazy and turned the kids against him and told them i was doing horrible things to her. I literally had no contact with her 🤔. We just decided to be happy ignore the haters. Due to all the hatred i don't talk to his kids. My husband was too passive and let them disrespect us. Unfortunately the daughter has her mothers toxic personality. Not my circus, not my monkeys
@@kaydavis382 awe thank you so much!! Thank you for sharing that we helped you feel better today. Please let us know if we can support or encourage you in any other way. Hugs to you! ~Brenda
Lady, don’t you realise you have already conformed to the culture of this world? What kind of encouragement are you giving to people, to commit sin and live in sin? Please don’t spread lies and mislead people…
@@i.dshangsuangwiliu-ce5sv Disagree all you want. Jesus did not die so that we would still have all the laws and traditions to follow… what would the point in his sacrifice be? We as Christians are freed from sin; it is no longer master over us. God knows our hearts and cannot be fooled. Romans chapter 8 talks about that in detail.
New here. Thanks, guys. I appreciated hearing this. Complicated blended family here that operate across 2 continents. 25 years down the track, i know now what went wrong. I so wish we had this info 20 yrs ago, as we are now dealing with adult kids. Regardless, it's given me a sense of level hindsight, i can process and move fwd as best we can ❤❤
@@margyduke1136 I am so proud that you are still choosing to deal and move forward. Many make the choice to be victims. Please let us know if we can help in any way. Hugs to you! ~Brenda
My 18 year old step daughter physically assaulted me, he chose her over me and expected me to stay living in that house with her. Even when she verbally abused me. And to make it all worse he got angry at me for what she done, then got pissed when I walked out the door.
@@jeannielong5783 I am very sorry to hear that your stepdaughter treated you like this and your spouse chose not to protect you. How can we support and encourage you?
@@momsmixedfamilyblender726 as much as I'm stuck and confused, I'm going through the processes. I'm waiting for a lawyer, organising therepy, and trying to move forward.
My stepchildren hate me and its got to a point where the kids wont see my husband with me their so he has gotta see them once a month on their own. Me and my our other children we share are not aloud to be their is this normal?
Unfortunately, we have heard from many that this is what their adult step kids have done as well. It is sad that cutting off family members is almost celebrated these days. I am very sorry to hear this is happening to you and the other kids. Has your husband ever had hard conversations with the step kids or a family meeting to talk about the problems and why they won't be around any of you before?
Its been 7 years and my fiances 2 adult daughters lie about me and cause trouble. Ive been so nice to them ! My fiance has 3 other children that he has a poor relationship with. I guess he doesnt want to lose their love so he believes their nonsense. At the end of my rope.
@@pearlfeather9326 I am sorry to hear you are going through this. We have some new videos coming out this week that may give you some valuable advice. In the mean time how can I support and encourage you?
@momsmixedfamilyblender726 Thank you so much for acknowledging my comment. I need therapy. I had so many bad things happen to me since COVID. I really dont need any more drama.
My step son is 16 and he gets up in my face to intimidate me and try and bully me to letting him have what he wants. And he never does it when my partner is there. When I tell my partner he goes "I wasnt there, I dont know what happened." And his son is an excellent manipulator. In fact, one of the best. So then he gets frustrated and lets out this huge puff of air, like its inconvenient, when I ask him to step up and put consequences and boundaries. I have zero support. My partner never says "you dont talk to her that way." He always says well you need to leave him alone.
@momsmixedfamilyblender726 I get the silent treatment a lot from my partner or he says I talk too much about it or I never talk about anything else. How do I take my power back from partner as to not being made to feel like an ant or cockroach when my partner dismisses me constantly about his sons behaviour, and how do I react to my Stepson when he gets up in my face if I tell him no. I've tried being nice, listening and talking to my step son, been nice, made tons of mistakes and reacted angrily, and finally on a family trip my Dad pulled me aside and was upset with how they both spoke to me and treated me.
@@alixwhyte4699 We made a video answering your question because you are not alone, others have been in our comments asking the same question. It will come out this Wednesday 8/28. How can I support and encourage you in the meantime? Hugs to you! ~Brenda
@@alixwhyte4699 actually I just realized that we did not answer your question about the step son getting in your face… so if it were me I would tell your partner that you will not be in charge of the step son if he will not back you up with him. You are going to have to set some firm boundaries and protect your peace if your partner doesn’t. You deserve much better than that! Your Dad is right. That is unacceptable behavior! Your partner is basically teaching the step son that he doesn’t have to respect you. Does that make sense?
@@jackygomez4964 Your husband is basically teaching your daughter that you are someone she has to respect. And that is never something we would recommend. How can we support & encourage you?
@@KoolT it does depend on a lot of different factors for sure. I think there is a way to make the odds more in your favor. Please let me know if we can support or encourage you in any way. Take care.
No child should be above a marriage. THEY are on a kids level and you know how manipulative they can be to instigate or get their way. If you put your kids above you or your marriage. Sorry but your going to coddle them. Set clear boundaries and l9nesnotto cross. It's your way or the highway. Your job as a parent isn't to be liked. Your t raise them and get the ready for the real world.
@momsmixedfamilyblender726 It is, thank you. I am the full time stepmom with the father. Bio-mom has no rights. She is very condescending and rude. She tries to put a wedge in between me and our daughter. Then turns around and tells me to be a mother. 🤦♀️🤷♀️
@@nickicoker1865 Unfortunately the ones who make the worst choices have the loudest voices with the shared children. Are you guys able to help the kids to process? Or does bio mom say negative things to the kids about you? Or is it something else?
How do you handle when BM makes sure SKs bring comments back? As far as things like: name brand clothes, money, material things. In our home, we have 7 kiddos, we do not care about name brands, expensive things etc. I bought my daughter some off brand Nike tennis shoes. I got told “those are off brand.” I went thrifting for my ss clothes. Tons of branded clothes. Nike, underarmor. Etc. he asks if they were used. Went through each piece of clothing to find a “usage”. My bd wanted heeleys for Christmas. The next week, my sd comes back with the heeleys my bio daughter wanted. Everything is a competition. Shoes. Water bottle brands. Damn hand sanitizer. Everything. I need advice.
@@homemakingministrieswithta6869 I hear you. I suggest you give no attention to the items and teach all of the kids that people value different things and that your values are being good people from the heart or maybe it is that you choose to save money on brand name items to have money to host others in your home for dinner or maybe you forgo name brand items to put the money away for a college fund for each kid. Obviously I don’t know what it is you guys prioritize but take the wind out of the whole issue by walking with all the kids and getting down to the heart of it. Why people do what they do. Are the stepkids feeling the brand names help the bio kids to look up to them? Do they flaunt it because things at biomom’s house are fake or ugly the rest of the time? Do the biokids want brand name items because they feel the stepkids don’t accept them in their own house? Are they feeling less then because they are treated poorly when the kids are alone together? I would see this as a teaching opportunity for each of the kids in an open conversation together. I don’t know the age range of the kids but I think this applies to many age groups. Does that make sense?
@@homemakingministrieswithta6869 we do Zoom consultations. Let me look at our calendar and I will get you several dates that we could meet with you and your husband and we will talk through some solutions you can move forward with. Please email me at momsmixedfamilyblender25@gmail.com and I can put the dates there. Take care♥️
@@adanbarber it is scheduled to be released on our 29th wedding anniversary September 11, 2024. We will make a video and have a link to the book as soon as it is published.
Thank you so much for making this video and addressing ignored feelings and behaviors that are the gasoline to the fire of putting kids over the partner! I have learned so much and I appreciate everything you guys have said. I didn't realize it takes that long for a family to feel bonded... 7 years broke my brain in half 😅
I absolutley hate my stepfather. He just barged in trying t replace my dead father and I'm suppossed to accept him because he makes my useless mother happy. If they don't get divorced by the end o the month I'm running away.
@@Un3thical yes I hear you. I think it is necessary but that the parent getting it should never have the ability to use it for themselves. I really think that the money should be set aside in an investment account in the child’s name and used for future endeavors. However many children of divorce may not use the funds properly anyway. I think there has to be a better solution because in our case it was used as a weapon against us. Thankfully in our case the support stopped at 18. Please let us know how we can help you. Take care ~Brenda
This is true!. I'm a full time stepmom of 3 kids for 10 years now and the youngest one who is almost 19 years old hates me , she told me in front of her dad and her brother but she knows her father and I are very happy together , respectful, our bond is beautiful and very romantic still. They grew up in an environment where mom was a bully, verbally abusive, disrespectful, cheating. I know she hates me, but I've been providing the peace that she of her siblings never had when their parents were together. The other 2 have always been nice to me and their kids call me grandma..🥰
This was honestly pretty good to hear. As a kid who was in two blended families (I have both a stepdad and a stepmom) your exes sound awfully similar to my parents. I'm not sure if I'd call them straight up narcissistic but after they remarried, me and my brother kind of became seen as just annoying pieces of furniture constantly being moved around in my parents eyes. Everytime me and my brother were at each house there was constant, and I mean CONSTANT, bad mouthing of the other parent which I really REALLY hated. Not to mention, whenever I was at dad's place him and his ugly wife would always argue in their room and I would ALWAYS hear me, my brother, and my mom get brought up. The same was at mom and her Frankenstein looking husband's place too. Not to mention how both of them would even use me and my brother as sort of like tools of war for each other. Constantly saying crap like: "yOuR moThEr iS cRazY sHeS uSinG yOu sHe cArEs mOre aBouT hEr nEw mAn anD kIds" or "yOuR dAd wIlL leAvE bOtH oF yOu fOr hIs nEw kIds ANd wIfE" and yadda yadda yadda. None of them after their divorce really even cared about me and my brother's well being in those times. My step parents never really took a parental role in my life as they claimed they didn't want to overstep boundaries but yet had no issues badmouthing my bio parents. I don't really have any ill will towards them but I can say that I don't really like them at all and could care less about them but as for my parents I've basically stopped talking to them after they booted me and my brother out of both of their homes and got sent to live with my grandparents farther down in California. I won't lie, I was a tough kid, I was diagnosed with ADHD (Later ADD) and so I was very hyper when I was young and just like a lot of other kids when their parents are dating new people I was jealous and was rude here and there so I can admit those things but I don't think I'll ever have a relationship with my parents again. It's been 8 years since I have spoken to either of them. My half siblings text me and say they love and miss me but with the parents we share.... I don't know. My relationship with both of them is like a broken coffee mug. There's so much that's happened that I don't think I could even say I love you to either. The one time that I actually opened up and told them how I felt they got mad at me and when I got up and left the restaurant we were at at the time they didn't even notice I left. I feel like crap saying this but as for where I'm at right now I don't really need them or want them. I just graduated med school and I'm working as a pharmacy tech, with a girlfriend, as well as doing other hobbies which are considered nerdy and my brother is planning to go into the US Navy. So I'm doing really good right now but I don't know if me and my parents will ever be able to reconcile.
@@Eacm114 this absolutely breaks my heart to hear. I am so glad you are happy and you and your brother are doing well. Blended families are very hard to navigate. And it seems the more emotionally immature a person is the harder it is on the kids especially. Thank you for sharing. If there is anything Mike or I can do for you please let us know. We wish you the best!!
@@momsmixedfamilyblender726 Oh for sure! Throughout my life I've been called a narcissist myself for not wanting to reconcile with either of my parents for the crap they put me and my brother through. I'm not mad that they wanted to find romance again but they both abundantly clear that their stupid marriages and their new do-over kids were singlehandedly more important than me and my brother because why? Well we are the remnant of their first failed crappy marriage and their solution? Boot me and my brother out of both homes but to make sure that we weren't being "abandoned" they would either call or visit but no vacations, no birthday celebrations for us, etc. They're not worth wasting my breath and time on.
@@momsmixedfamilyblender726 I posted something else but I guess it got deleted. I was basically saying how it felt like they all cared more about their new romantic relationships and their new do-over kids but since they had baggage (Me and my brother) constantly reminding them of their "past" they thought it was best to boot me and my brother out of their homes but to make sure that we weren't "abandoned" they would only show up for a little bit and call and now I've been referred to as a narcissist because of the fact that I don't want anything to do with them. That's why I said they took "putting your spouse first" the wrong way and not the right way haha sorry for the confusion.
My boyfriend of 4 months just canceled our date tonight to hangout with his adult child instead of me because she’s having a hard time seeing him with someone new.
I love your channel. I am from a blended family and I have a blended family. If one of us had an event both dad and stepmom were there. My husband is at my son’s event(with the exception our 2 year separation). My son’s stepmom never attended any of my son’s events. My family did some things differently than yours did. It worked for us and your system works for y’all. My Dad watched my stepmom’s grandkids just like he did my own. My stepmom did watch my son too. Dad and my stepmom were good a different things. I do find the Christian viewpoint interesting. I do find my ex’s conversion interesting. He apologized to my son, but never me. However, we were never married. I miss my stepmom. I wish she and my dad were both still here. It took me several years and I called my stepmom by mom.
We all were older when my stepmom and dad got together. Our respective parent put out discipline. Now they backed each other. My husband doesn’t have any kids. He always asked me or dad when my son had a question. I worked nights. Most of the time my son was at my parents home until he was ready for bath and bed. My husband did not feel comfortable with discipline either. My son did not get into trouble too much. When my son went into high school I had to work 5pm-3:30 am. My parents or my son’s paternal aunts always watched my son while I worked. When I worked days it was the aunts. I worked 70 hours a week most of the time. My husband worked days.
@@momsmixedfamilyblender726 I like your channel. Dad and mom treated all their grandchildren the same. I never batted an eye when my mom(stepmom) disciplined my son.
This was something my dad said to my son. My son was upset about me being with my husband. We were dating at the time. My son was upset and got smart with me about the relationship in front of my Dad. Before I got a word out my Dad told my son: “ your granny is gone and your mom is now my best friend. She is my daughter. She cannot fulfill all my needs. One day when you find someone you will understand.” Dad and I were adults.
My stepmom and dad had their rules for each of us kids. Meaning I was his and I went by his rules. Stepmom had her kids and her rules. Now we were all older when they got together. They lived together four years before they got married. My oldest step sister and I were driving. My oldest stepsister also attended a private boarding school on scholarship. I knew I couldn’t ask my stepmom to do something. Dad set my curfew she set her kids curfew. They were married eighteen years before my stepmom passed from cancer. My other step siblings were just a little younger. I also need to say that none of us ever walked into a church. I came across this because my son has been hurt by his father. My son’s father became a Christian around the time my son was 14. I never denied who his father was and my son saw his paternal family. When my son was 14 my son’s father became a Christian. He then filed for rights and established paternity. My Dad had largely acted as the father figure. Dad continued to do so until his passing a couple of years ago. My son’s father gained visitation. My lawyer was good, because of the amount of time that had passed, I still had full custody. These days that’s rare. There was proof that he had the full knowledge that my son existed. There was proof that his family had been active in my son’s life. There was also proof my Dad and grandparents still lived in the same houses. Their phone numbers were still the same. I wasn’t too hard to find. My son’s father had a new found faith and a new wife. I too had been recently married. Anyhow, my husband left the decisions regarding my son up to me. If I wasn’t around he would ask Dad. We lived next door to my Dad. My son’s father attended church. I had full decision making authority when it came to that stuff. I said it was up to my son. He went a few times. He declined politely not to go back. Fast forward a few years. I am separated(we did reconcile after this event) my dad had passed away the year before. My daughter in law calls me about a month before her and my son’s wedding. She is telling me how upset my son was because my dad would not be at the wedding doing the typical dad thing with his son. I called my son’s father. He told me that he and his wife were not going to the wedding. My son and daughter in law lived together and were not having a religious wedding. So I called one of my uncle’s and asked him to do the dad thing. My uncle stepped up. I gave my son my dad’s watch, money clip, zippo, and tie clip that day. I gave my daughter in law a set of earrings and a ring that had been my grandmother’s. A few weeks later my son’s paternal grandmother passed. I was told by my ex’s sisters to come to the funeral. I was included in the family by my son’s aunts. I had been part of the family since I was 16 and the mother of one of her grandchildren. My ex was not happy about his mother’s decision. At the end of the funeral my daughter in law and son asked me to accompany them outside. My son told his father that he wished that his father had never filed for visitation. They also stated that when they have grandchildren that my ex and his wife will never see the kids. My son and daughter in law told my ex that my daughter in law was a good person. My son also told the ex that my dad is who will always be considered dad. That is because dad was always the one who was there. My daughter in law is a wonderful person. I never knew I was missing anything in my life she came in and filled this void I didn’t know I had. I just took her to see Bob Dylan. My husband and I reconciled, we literally almost missed the divorce by hours. It took me a lot of therapy to get to the point of forgiving him. It also took my son and daughter in law pointing some things out. My husband decided to move. I didn’t want to move so I did not move. Two years later right before the judge is going to sign he tells me he made a mistake. I had filed the papers after two years. He thought I would follow him. He also admitted he was wrong. He spent his life savings on a house I told him from the get go I didn’t want. Then he got mad when I didn’t move in. Also, he did not put my name on the house. I told him from the start that I wasn’t going anywhere. He wanted me to join him on the adventure. He called and told me that when he was served that I was making a mistake and that he still loved me. I told him that I was not going to compete with a house 800 miles away. A day before the paperwork was to go before a judge I showed up at the house to get some of my stuff he had packed and took. He told me that I was the one, I told him from my perspective that his house was more important than I was. I told him my lawyer was going to court in the morning for the judge to sign the paperwork. He agreed to sell his house and move back. I am currently putting the final coat of paint on the house for it to sell.
@@momsmixedfamilyblender726 I wasn’t aware that my husband had been talking to my son the whole time. My husband was willing to do the dad thing at my son’s wedding. My son thought I would have been upset. My son had started looking to my husband after my father passed. My son’s father and his wife don’t understand that the fourteen years without contact hurt my son. It is like their love is conditional on him conforming to their lifestyle. His stepmom didn’t attend my son’s high school or college graduation. At both my son’s paternal grandmother sat with my husband and I not her son.
My husband and I were separated for two years. It came down to hours before the judge signed the papers I stopped the process. I came across your video looking at a different subject.
@@momsmixedfamilyblender726 thank you. It took my son and daughter in law and a lot of therapy. I had not known my son and daughter in law had been talking to my husband. I had not talked to my husband in months. When I showed up to get something out of the house, my husband mentioned something he shouldn’t have known. He mentioned my son’s marriage to my daughter in law. My son agreed with my dad that my husband was the best thing to happen to me. I had to learn conflict resolution. My dad and biological mom never demonstrated conflict resolution for me. I was close to being an adult when dad and my stepmom got together. I never really witnessed their conflict resolution. So I pulled out my I feel statements. My husband didn’t realize how I felt.
My dad and stepmom were married 18 years before she passed. My step siblings and I each had our own rules by our parents. We respected them. I eventually called my step mom by mom. I call my mom momma. I have never called my momma’s husband dad. I called my dad daddy. I am the one who took care of my stepmom when she was dying. She took better care of my daddy better than my momma ever did.
@@momsmixedfamilyblender726 us kids were older. When mom and dad got together. Dad had custody of me. Mom had custody of her kids. Your kids were younger. My husband never had kids. He did not feel comfortable with making decisions in my absence. Since, dad and mom had helped me, my husband looked to them. So yes every situation is different. Now my youngest step sister calls me to be for her in situations that my stepmom would have been there. My nephew had surgery and I went and sat with my step sister and her husband.
Don't date single parents just want help guess what you mommy or daddy until you get kicked out some states men could be made paid child support for another man baby STAY AWAY FROM SINGLE parents
Many people hope to find a loving marriage. If that is how you feel for you that is totally fine. I am glad I took the chance as my husband and his two boys have been a wonderful addition to my life. Not always the easiest situations but I love my life.
