I’m having issues with my 14 year old son and video games. I am a single mom. Dad is the “cool” Parent who lets him do whatever he wants and gets him whatever he wants. I always feel as if I have to compete. But now my son is becoming a video game addict to the point where he will sit and play games literally all day and do nothing else. Not even eat or sleep. I haven’t wanted to take the games away because then I’d be the bad parent. Always afraid he will love dad more then me. I’m terrified of rejection. But this video is great. Especially your advice about how he is not an individual. He does live with me. I am putting my foot down. The video games are going out the door. I am giving all the video game consoles to a friend. He’s on board and is going to help with this. My friend understands and agrees that my son has a problem and wants to help. This video is a huge help too. I am NOT his friend. If he hates me that is fine. But video games are destroying his life and I refuse to stand back and be an enabler to his addiction.
Absolutely! If you don't stop enabling him now you never will. Great job for putting action in right away when you learned how to do better. I will be praying for you & your family. Please let us know how we can support & encourage you going forward. Take care!!! ❤️Brenda
I needed to hear this after I have the same rules for my teen and recently an event happened 2 days ago with my teens friends parents and we told the parents that our child would not be allowed to hang out with them. I’ve gotten cussed out all wkend and just blocked everyone because I’m not my kids friend I’m her parent and just because they think at 14 kids can make their own choices about everything I don’t. So this was comforting tonight to watch.
I see my acquaintances letting their children pick to visit grandparents, spend the night or pawn them off when they want privacy. When the child asks to spend the night with her GG's and then complains I want my mommy when you don't give them total control of TV or don't get their way. Kids need to learn other family house rules. Not just let them do what they want all the time at home, but not letting them visit with others because they won't give them what they want., all the time will ruin them Terrible future imho
This was something my dad said to my son. My son was upset about me being with my husband. We were dating at the time. My son was upset and got smart with me about the relationship in front of my Dad. Before I got a word out my Dad told my son: “ your granny is gone and your mom is now my best friend. She is my daughter. She cannot fulfill all my needs. One day when you find someone you will understand.” Dad and I were adults.
I also agree like these wonderful people said! limits should be minimized and controlling should be minimized, but keep in mind its good to set some limits for safety! Like do not allow your kids out at 4am lol!
nah my friend group is not big enough sadely. I have some but not enough. I agree thou they do not need a friend they need a parent but i wanna make something clear. This does not mean its ok for your child to always hate you dislike you or throu you out. You need to still remain someone who they love a lot. Some parents think this is a good chance to make tons of rules and make there child hate them and its not! Now its ok to give advice sometimes depending on the age and guide them but you need to be doing guidance in a appropriate way of love, not in a im first your second way. Any questions?
Unfortunately, my girlfriends adult daughter just died from using drugs. The mother is mourning and taking the death very hard. Unfortunately as well to the point of this video, the mother raised her daughter as a friend not a parent the daughter did not have any respect for her mother whatsoever, when it came time to discipline and lay down ground rules, it was too late to be a parent
I am Mum a adult Mother... I am Mum not Sheila by name... I am Mum a Leader, Discipliner and Provider... I am Mum who sets Standards and Respect... I am Mum we don't hang out and smoke weed... I am Mum we are not drinking partners... I am Mum we don't date... I am Mum we do not party and club... I AM MUM not your FRIEND. Respect the Boundary..!! Future Child(ren) behaviours will prove my point.
They will be hard to manage the older they get. They will expect the job they apply for, they will expect a car at 16. They will expect to do whatever they want at school or friends house if they have any.
