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We’re so conditioned to believe life is easier for other people I think. Like you said you caught yourself thinking ‘it must be nice’. It’s finding that self awareness to recognise when you’re in that headspace and reframe it. Great video Caren. ❤
I have gotten that comment when people think I am self indulgent somehow, or just preoccupied with trivial things. Very hostile. And I have backed off from some people hearing these UNcompassionate, envious statements.
Not a day goes by that I dont say to myself "one day it will all be over" . I don't think i am suicidal but i am definitely a man who is waiting to die at 52. I don't have it bad. I have a great son, career, friends. I think I am tired of frustration. I am tired of forgetting and losing things. tired of being late. I get triggered so fast. I fucking snap in a second. not at people, although i could. it's usually at some piece of shit item i bought from amazon or some other shit. nothing works, my tools break, my stuff breaks, everything sucks. . I find myself hoping that there is nothing after this life no heaven, no consciousness, no nothing, I just want to not exist at all.
I believe it is passive aggression, common in vulnerable narcs. The worst one I have seen was someone saying that to a cancer survivor because their's was terminal 😮. Thank you to everyone who shares their journey with the aim to help others. Go Caren 😊. You continue to support me and I am grateful.
Finally I have an answer ! I’m 23 and dang near have worked as many jobs as my age ! I always self sabotage and I’m sad after. I made an impulsive decision to leave my state job and I beat myself up about it everyday and other good companies I liked.
What I’ve noticed is that when you become awesome, actualized, narcissists come out of the woodwork to use, abuse, or sabotage you and are a potential disaster to be mitigated by careful pre-planning. ADHD can make managing the beasties, keeping them at bay, tiring when combined with the desire to live peacefully with the fruits of your most fervent efforts. (Does this make sense, or am I talking crazy here?)
I have time. I fall asleep after I eat so… I either skip eating till I do the task and/or fall asleep for at least 30 minutes then, do the task, but… late! I’m usually pleased about accomplishing the task, but… I also end up in bed later which is not good. Today, I will write down a WHY. I must. Cheers.
I’m sorry. I can’t listen to what you’re saying because I’m trying to figure out what is on the wall behind you and to your left. For the life of me it looks like the front half of a calico kitten, mounted on the wall like a deer head. It’s freaking me out. What is it???!!!
This is when its best for me to set the phone down and only listen that way i am not getting distracted w the visuals. I prefer only listening because i have auditory processing disorder and this is sort of a hack that allows me to process and understand more clearly.
When we feel jealousy towards others who are achieving the very things that we would like to achieve it is a good indication from our soul that it would serve us well to go for those achievements ourselves, instead of wallow in jealousy or resentment. The annoyance and "must be nice" reaction is just our ego justifying that we can't do anything to change because the ego never wants us to change. However this signal of jealousy is a great way to know that it is time to make positive changes in our lives and begin moving towards our heart's desire. When we take steps towards our soul's purpose and follow our hearts, we will no longer feel jealousy for those people that we used to. These individuals that have made great strides in the game of life could instead be our mentors, our heroes, and our inspiration towards our goals.
$30,000 for being in a club for a year? That's disgusting! I don't care if Warren Buffet is running it. 30,000 is tuition at college for a year, or cancer treatment for a few months. I'm sure the sales people in that group can try to justify that it's worth the risk because they can help you earn it back, blah blah blah. Those people have never had to actually labor in their lives. They have never worked in a factory or a warehouse or a hospital. They only know air conditioned offices and yes men making their coffee for them. They can't fathom what the real world is like. If they lost it all tomorrow, they would crumble.
Thank you from one Canadian to the other🙏 I am 55 and found out about two years ago and I am attending the therapist twice a week total of four hours to find my true self 🤞🙏
Also, it is the fact that you have to sacrifice something. When you say "must be nice," you are closing yourself off to the possibility of you doing the same thing. You are telling yourself that you are unwilling to do what they did, which starts an even bigger spiral. Then, you start punching holes it why it isn't for you, and you cause more anxiety/anti-dopamine.
Gosh, I've lost count of how many times I've received the 'must be nice' comment from people in my life! What I've realized is that we can't please everyone. At some point, I had to choose my own peace of mind. I just discovered your channel, thanks for the great content! 😊
I understand the feeling of being the recipient of a “must be nice” comment. Your content has helped me so I hope maybe you get some value from a different perspective. A good part of your content is geared towards people with ADHD. You have talked about impulsivity and self regulation. I like to think maybe the person making the comment is at low point and having a bad day. If you run a garage you can’t get mad when your customers broken cars leak oil on the floor. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re doing it well.
"it must be nice having a neurotypical brain" I honestly do say this💫 silently 💫whenever someone with a "normal"brain comments on my jumpy brain behaviors
Well, im certainly glad you didn't give in to your first reaction to limit your content because I absolutely love your channel and the content you share!
🥂Yess.. Thank you for the reminder that, we are not here to be everyone’s cup of tea, especially us “neurodivergents”.✌🏻😌 Most of us aren’t even tea. We’re blunts. 🌱🍄🧘♀️👽🙏🌊🤓
I can’t stand when people say “must be nice”. All it’s giving is a jealousy towards someone for working their butt off to achieve a goal. And yes you are so right. They act like it’s something they can’t go out and achieve themselves .
The jobs are boring and do not challenge me. And they do not want to pay what I worth, so I started my own business, much happier now even though it is far more stressful.
This is helpful. I also agree that nutrition has a lot to do with it. I saw a comment where someone was eating chocolate, which I also love. Unfortunately most chocolate has lead & cadmium in it…..which is obviously toxic. We can’t escape everything, but just do our best to eat Whole Foods & nothing processed. When we are not well, everything seems harder.
Carreer is a bad word these days. Nothing seems to last more than 3 to 5 years ! I don’t even want to have to do the same thing everyday , how mundane and unmotivating ! My dream would be to have multiple Jobs each week , all that are based on my passions and have a partner or assistant to help grow each of the businesses ! 😊
They’re exhausting, I got divorced a couple years ago and with that I got rid of social media… annnnndddd holy shit I’ve never seen a bigger bag of brainwashing in my life. It’s sad. Sorry I got distracted, social norms are Exhausting. I wear comfortable clothes. I’m done with the absolute lunatic obsession with being EXACTLY ON TIME.. it actually makes me mad because it’s a life full of trauma tied to that one. I’ve lost friendships/relationships over 10-15 minutes. How insane is that? I also realized I had several individuals in my life that were extremely emotionally draining for me. I would literally DREAD any of the effort put in to any of those relationships anymore…’and I finally just …. Stopped talking to them. It was awkward a little bit for a little while , I just kept not answering. 🤷🏻♂️ I’m good
I had to do everything you shared in the video in order to cope as a neurodivergent. As a Gen Xer, I received a lot of criticism from people who didn't understand why I prioritized my health.
Just got diagnosed last week - 33 years old. Time blindness has been a revelation. I have found myself in a lot of hot water because I think a project will take 3 months when it actually takes 6.
I'm so ashamed of not being able to stay at job for at least 2 years :( My family and friends thought I'm just lazy. I tried building businesses but I get bored before I can finish the foundation, and I always have new ideas I want to jump in.... I just wanna be normal :(
the thing with me is that i find routine too repetitive and boring. Can't do the same thing every single day, i feel like a robot and my mind and body both rebel despite rational explanations why the routine is good and benefitial for everything
