Thank you, Dear one. My grandson at 3 1/2 his showing a lot of the signs and symptoms that you are describing. This is going to help all of us to help him along the way.
I have been researching autism because we think my daughter is autistic. Haven't been able to get her tested yet, but we are very sure. From the research I have done I learned that dyslexia is on the autism spectrum. I was diagnosed with dyslexia when I was in elementary school and nobody even mentioned autism. Now I watch a video like this and realize how I relate to so much of it. 36 years old and just learning I might be autistic. Side note I believe my daughter is hyperlexic, because she started kindergarten reading at a 3rd grade level. That makes me really happy because dyslexia Fing sucks. It wasn't till middle school that I was really able to read on my own, and it wasn't till my late 20's that I was able to read well. I still have to rely on spellcheck and text to speech apps more then I would like, but I manage and that is what really matters. I really didn't want to see her struggle like I did.
This was really insightful thank you. I am autistic and preparing myself for public speaking at schools for how to better understand and include autistic people in the fellowship and this video helps. thank you :)
I'm still on the fence of whether I have autism of OCD, and your comment on perspective is interesting. I feel a "need" or "compulsion" to do certain things, acts, stims, and it's not "pleasurable" as some would frame it as autism. However, there's also not a thought or narrative going through my mind, as you describe with OCD. I've come to realize the stims aren't "fun" so much as "help lower anxiety", help aim for a baseline.
About the eyeballs, I think if you don't look at just the eyeballs (for ex. Do those eyeballs look into your eyes often or not? Look often enough or too often? Look long enough or too long?) is helpful to read faces, but what is even more helpful if you look at the eyebrows (eyebrows are very important), also some smaller muscles around the eyeballs can be important too to detect fake smiles for ex., or for some emotions (like the almost-crying emotion) the chin is very telling, when people feel very hurt and get into a crying mood but they try to hide how they are feeling, they might be able to hide their tears for a few seconds, because tears come out always a little after people are in the crying mood, but they usually are not able to hide their crying-mood chin shape, when people cry, or even if ghey try to hide or stop their crying, they usually cannot hide their crying-mood-chin-shape, the chin muscles get a little tense when people start crying even if they successfully hide the crying at the beginning, their muscle-tense chin shape will give away their cry-mood emotion which you can read from the chin and the eyebrows. So my suggestion for you in the hope of helping you reading faces easier is to try to look at not just the eyeballs, but also especially the eyebrows and also the little muscles around the eyes. If you search for some kind of picture on Google that has many faces made by an actor for acting class or something, you can see the precise differences between the faces and all the little muscle differences for the different facial emotion expressions, I think that can be really helpful. There are people who if you (even unintentionally) hurt them by miscommunication issues that exist between autistic and non-autistic people, some of the neurotypical people keep a smiling mouth shape and they try to keep even a happy voce tone after you unintentionally hurt them, but their eyes (mainly the eyebrows) is VERY LIKELY changes, so their smile will statt to look fake at that point, but they keep amiling because that is a social rule(?) in their head to keep a happy vibe of the room (even if they got hurt, becauae they miaunderstood something you told them without offensive intention, but unfortunatelly theybtook it as offensive). (This was just a random example for demonstration, but this type of example is relatively common, although it doesn't have to be "crying-mood", it can be just "basic-hurt-mood".)
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I am the very same way! Everything for me has to be just right or I go into a huge meltdown. I used to line up cars, I used to play by myself, and my favorite toy, was poker chips. Loud noises for me, is also a big issue. I have to wear headphone with music playing to stay calm. So yes, I too have autism.
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I'm gonna to get a test soon to see anything and everything I have cuz my mum thinks I have autism but I have read about lots of other things that I comply with to but I really don't want to have autism because I'm scared my friends will think I'm really weird. I also have really bad anxiety so that doesn't help either so I hope it goes well for me and I'm sure even If I do have autism and more it'll probably be ok right?! Anyways I really enjoyed watching your video!!
Wow my daugther had so much of these signs but she would destory everything at school but most of the time be calm at home. The talking to herself was something i thought was normal her imaginary friends i thought was also normal but her teachers said qhere it becomes not normal is when she perfers to be in a fantasy world 90% of the time over playing with others. Your story sounds like my 7yr old daugthers.
Don’t call it a tantrum. A tantrum is a negative behavior that is intentional to be manipulative to try to get what you want. A meltdown is involuntary.
I had already been totally withdrawn in grade school. I was so lonely that I forced myself to try to make friends. I didn't understand any of the social codes, but became a class clown, and that made some people like me. Most of my friends were classical musicians in orchestra. They were kinder than most. Having friends allowed me to learn a lot about how to relate to others. Yes I was bad at social cues, but I did learn, and I didn't really mask much. My best friend in high school was no doubt also autistic. We would do things like trying to talk backwards and then see how accurate we could make it sound. We both got into absurdism really heavily, and that was actually very beneficial--Beckett, Ionesco, etc. We had both seen the same play on TV--Play Without Words. It basically just had two yokels, each in a trashcan, periodically popping their heads out and yelling absurd things at each other. it was such a comment on non-communication. I have a friend whose son was having problems in high school, and I gave him a five-volume compendium of stories by Daniel Pinkwater. It was like a survival manual for high school, with a lot of Buddhist and Dadaist ideas in it. I'm not sure whether Pinkwater is autistic, but it wouldn't surprise me. One of his stories is Alan Mendelsohn, the Boy from Mars. I could definitely relate. My license plate for years was KLAATU, the name of the robot in The Day the Earth Stood Still.
Lol, when i was in the 3rd grade, i was in library and a student picked up a book. I noticed the book and remember thinking i didn’t like the book she picked up. Even though i didn’t know the girl (this was my 2nd day at this new school), and all i did was share my two cents with the girl and told her that the book she picked up is dumb. Lol. She tattled on me and i got in trouble for a "put down". All the kids thought i was the rude new girl, but by week two, i was no longer the rude kid, but i was the weird kid.
Your mom had the patient of a saint. Seriously! And it always shocks me how not enough empathy autistic people have for the level of dedication and patience of their caretakers. Saying this as another person with autism whose mom was also a saint and also deserves her statue in the town square for the crazy amount she had to put up with. I KNOW I could never!😂
How you are treated and exposed to environment seems to be the direct cause of the difference in how the characteristics of autism presents in biological sex, and not so much of a difference based on hormones or other sexual or otherbiological differentce. Girks are pressured to be more social which will inherently mask some autistic behaviors and difficulty. Most if us who have been socialized as girls will tend to high nask and there are dangers in that such as kising your identity to the mask as well as severe burnouts which will lead to meltdowns and increased chances of siezure or stroke. People will make ablist demands when you burn out and will pressure you to instantly start masking again cuz if they don't know the real you under the mask then itll look to them as if u underwent a huge change and since dsm-5 doesnt list servere burnout as an issue ppl will oush you to handle stuff you could before even though ur wensory input will be well i couldnt imagine how much more sensitive theyd be, even the third burnout i had i wasnt orepared to handle that sensory overwhelm, cars 30-35 metres away were overwhelming. Being burntout is legit failure if your briain to continue processing so expect temporary menory and learned skill loss
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I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety after I went through a depression from a marriage situation however I've always struggled with I thought it was anxiety but I didn't think I was off the charts. Reflecting back on all my behaviors from a childhood when you said lining up your toys... Trigger.... I would lineup my stuffed animals and if anything was out of line I would throw a fit one time I had brand new box of crayons and I used 1 of the crayons a little bit more than the others and it didn't have the sharpener in there and I asked my Grandma for a sharpener and she just came over and ripped the paper off the crayon oh did I throw a fit because it didn't look like the others now and I was so upset Obviously I still remember that it still traumatized me when I think about it..... I've gotten better with things not being in their place or moved I don't have that issue anymore however however I do notice that all the jobs that I look for I want repetitive And scheduled days Like data entry I could do that all day long with nobody bothering me and I be in heaven.... Filing are something that other people find boring I find Peaceful..... I haven't been diagnosed with autism but I can tell that I am definitely on the spectrum I took a online quiz if you will and just my past behaviors from past relationships and how I responded..... My mom would always call me a spoiled brat however I really couldn't Help the way I responded everything was so dramatic to me..... I'm afraid to go get diagnosed with that because I don't know how that affects my job I don't know how that affects Anything...... Now of course I'm self diagnosing which you know we should not be doing but this is something you really don't want to find out but that I'm relieved that I actually can see why I've acted the way I have..... I've always been a professional put together woman But I have a very short fuse when I get very overwhelmed I my brain scrambles I can't fi'm late my thoughts It's embarrassing sometimes.... Again I always thought I'm just dealing with a lot of stress it's my anxiety but I truly think it's deeper because I can actually feel my insides shaking and i'd become almost breathless if I get overwhelmed...... Thank you so much for sharing I definitely do have OCD of course that comes with being autistic I don't know where I'm at on the spectrum I feel I'm pretty normal and always have been outside of I have moments I have unbalance in my life.....
What if the holiday was not somewhere hot? Maybe that would help. I feel u about the heat man. I heard someone deacribe it as being like u were being stung by bees, apt. Yeah i dont handle being hot well. I get angrier and yell no touching if anyone tries to come close and just no patience. Im not the funnest mom in the summer lol but i try not to suck. We don't have air conditioning so the only thing to do is get to the lake for relief when it's hot.
That was quite insightful, learned a lot. I didn't know I was autistic until about 43 years old. It sucks to go through life knowing you're different and knowing that you struggle without knowing why. Once you know why, it takes a bit of weight off of your shoulders. It's also nice to have an understanding of why things are the way they are. I know a little bit more about when I should be patient with myself.
I am over 40. I lost my mother during high school and the turmoil that came with that completely clouded my memory. Watching your video made me remember a complete meltdown I had while my mother was still alive. I could not explain to her how awful I felt at the time, but I do remember she saw for the first time how much pain I was in. I do remember that soon after that I went to see the school psychologist. All she did was say I was gifted and somehow enrolled me in the most pedantic classes that I absolutely loved, but the loneliness never subsided. I wonder had my mother lived a bit longer if she would have helped me figure out what was really going on. It took me another 20 years to figure out what was really going on. Damn there needs to be more education around this, and I thank you and other young people like you who have started to share their experiences because it really has helped a lot of us older folks.
