As ENTJ being in relationship with a INFP for 2 years we are like fire. Best match hands down the only thing I struggle with my relationship is that she can be very distant and bad at communicating often im very open and transparent and a extra sensitive radar to her. That is because she is often in her own world which is fine but i wish we could grow together. Often can feel like i need to initiate a lot of stuff we can do together. She really wants to be strong and independent and unique and i don’t like it. Purely because her way is not the way to do it’s harming herself and our relationship. I can’t say i am self centred atleast thats what i fear most. But thats really it she is amazing and can’t live without her.
As an ENTJ, I acknowledge that I can be self-centered at times. You mentioned it, and I believe it’s closely tied to maturity. With greater self-awareness, I’ve become much more considerate of others, to the point where I’m starting to value others more than myself-partly due to my growth as a leader. Additionally, as a husband who deeply values loyalty, I’ve developed a strong sense of devotion to my wife. I now find myself doing things for her that I wouldn’t normally do for anyone else, including myself, driven by that loyalty and respect for what she values.
i loved your video about ENTJS! I think when they care about you they are very caring and practically helpful, they are really protective people. So yours was kind of an immature one.. I really liked you say that INFP is their mentor, we lead them too in a way lol🤭❣ thanks, keep doing videos
Listening to this video was so relaxing and insightful for the most part. I was so disappointed to hear you say that a “ tall, dark, black man that is angry” would be scary for anyone. A bit care less for you to say imo. It’s harmful and untrue. Unfortunate.
INFPs and ESTJs are not compatible. There is no emotional or sexual compatibility. They will both end up competing with each other. Now ISFPs and INFJs are compatible with ESTJs. Are you an ISFP or INFJ? Both of those types often mistype as an INFP. You have an INFJ counsellor aura.
My thoughts exactly. She is the least INFP-ish INFP Ive ever experienced. And then the money videos... Usually moneymaking is one of INFP's necessary evils, unless they are working from their creative, raw, talent.
Socionics is very off in comparison to western MBTI. The INFP is more INFJ and ISFP and the ISFP is more descriped as INFP in Socionics. So LIE ENTJ fit best with SEI ISFP or ENTJ-INFP in western MBTi.
Pressing like. I am incredibly drained by Hyper Vigilance. I feel in one way i am being punished by my folks' and siblings' external pressure to confirm their expectations of future reading. Curse unlucky! Me
14 min passed so quick. I feel like I'm living a mirror life to you which is just weird as i think just broke up with my ex ENTJ of 4 yrs. She was all the qualities you mentioned. Sooo m trying to move on and mend with new person who i think is esty. Just good vibes
oh the cuteness of ENTJs!! I'm sorry to hear that but if you guys didn't make it, it's probably the universe's way of telling you that there's someone better for you (hug). My husband is an ESTJ btw ;)
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The world I grew up in was much less safe and more chaotic than the world we’ve raised our children in. So my reasonable caution- that I learned the hard way- is hyper vigilance to them. It’s hard to find the balance between trying to prepare them for the real world, without giving them a really negative or fearful outlook.
I am 57. I have had hyperviligance since the early 1970s. I test(free and paid) either INFP-T or INFJ-T. I can understand both traits in me. I was repeatedly raped by a neighbor in 1972,1973. I was also raped by a materal uncle in 1978,1979. Since I am a male, I was given zero assistance and basically it was implied that I simply "suck it up" and move on with life. Therapy has been very helped for all the years..to help me understand that so many of my issues were directly caused by being raped and neglected. Now, I forgave all who harmed me. I still have hyperviligance but I feel it that it is part of an INFP and INFJ as we are both hyperindependent personalities and like to do things our way if we can with limited help. Be well ❤
Hey thank you for sharing your experience. I'm so glad that you sought out professional help and happy that it worked for you. Rape by those who are close to us have been so under the radar no matter when but it's so all-over-the-place when we look closely. It's amazing that you can forgive them. Much respect. I'm practicing the art of forgiveness all the time and find that the hardest of virtues to obtain 😂
Areas where I can sometimes wrongly assume are: A) Assuming others think the way I do and so would act like I would and B) Assuming that people know what I think/feel about them (sometimes I think someone looks specially cool and I don't necessarily tell them, etc.) so I need to improve at compliments and expressiveness. Not very fear-related, more like assuming others know exactly the way my heart feels and/or my mind works.
I think we are all like mirrors to some degree. We assume that others think the way you do because that's how you see the world. We assume that people know what we think or feel about them because we have great intuition when it comes to how other people think or feel (but then again, this is debatable ><) and cannot imagine that not being reflected back to us. But it's interesting how you mentioned that we need to improve at complimenting others! I sometimes feel this way too haha
Huh... My assumptions are actually more often than not, correct. I wouldn't say it's wild imagination, as my assumptions tend to result from my imagination + what I know about the person/situation. So obviously, the more I know the more accurate I am, and I assumed most INFPs were like this? Imaginative as we are, we are very perceptive as well... My problems are more with not wanting to hurt others' feelings at the cost of mine or my peace. For example, my current best friend isn't very good at picking up on social cues, and it happened too often that she would not leave my home until I said something (this could be at 8am after hanging out the previous afternoon and night) and I struggled sooo much to say that I wanted alone time (cause in my mind I needed to be physically tired or have an appointment or responsibility to tend to for it to be a valid reason to end the hangout and I just felt like being alone) so I would have to yawn frequently, say that I was sleepy (lying sometimes) or say that my stomach hurt. I just couldn't be direct about it. But one time I did tell her that I stayed longer cause she seemed happy and she got mad at me for being dishonest, and said that she didn't want to hang out if I didn't want to as well, and that she felt deceived to some extent and sad about making me uncomfortable, which made sense. So I actually had to tell her that from then on, when and if I yawned and stretched, that would mean that I was ready to part ways. Saying "well, this has been nice, but..." often was too much for me. So I definitely identify with bottling up some things, and I was right about the honesty hurting her feelings a bit (she got weird about being at my home at all, because she tends to be extreme in general), but it was a necessary hurt for the sake of our relationship and my long-term peace of mind
A therapist once told me that 'to not say something out loud is also a form of expression'. I went through the same things before and I cannot tell you how convenient life is when you're direct. I think it helps to be with people who are super direct (think ENTJs) and you will be a natural with being frank. I've been practicing this so often to the point where I'd just go 'sorry but it's about time for me to head to bed now and I think you should head home too.' Ha!
I feel like the circumstances of my life and being an INFP have led me towards becoming really focused on spirituality, finding meaning in life. I think it’s enabled me to find much more happiness than I would have otherwise. Getting in touch with the essence of the beauty that I am and others truly are is something I wish everyone would find purposeful. And actually I think more and more beings are heading this way, the way of healing.
I feel really blessed being born in this generation, when so much information is available online and the world isn't too wrecked just yet. The meaning of life lies in so many places, good or bad. Good day to you :)
Excellent video. I would add Johnny Depp and Robert Greene to your list of INFP's who come off as very vulnerable and hypervigilant to abusive behaviors.
As a kid i was a nonconformist i didnt want to be like everyone else around me i just wanted to be myself think the say and do my thing.at 13 i started playing electric guitar im self taught and didnt play covers or play anyone else's music i like playing my own riffs guitar is the only thing I started and never stopped im 49 now and still stick to my own guns to be original. I was a kid who locked up himself in his room and and be in my own world. My dream world is just as real as the real world and still is. In my hometown people call me the mystical unicorn always talked about but rarely seen. I was shy and outgoing i could be talkative all day but when i got home i would lock myself away. I can listen to someones problem and give them good advice but when it come to talking about my emotions and feelings and i don't know how or where to start its hard for me to Express myself but i felt alot and had alot of feelings but hard to Express myself. I was good at writing storys no ones were better in my storys i had sound tracks and my storys was the only one that the teacher would read outloud to the class. I to would have to nap after being around crowds too. Your life sounds alot like mine.
I'd love to read some of your stories if you don't mind sharing! And it's so cool that you don't play covers! So what genre music would you say you play?
@@lavisherelena491 no I don't know how to read music . I don't even know what the chords or notes are called I just know what they sound like when I hit them. Everything is by feel and sound and I never play the same thing the same way twice it's all done without thinking. Its a awesome feeling to be able to create something that's never been played or created before but it takes years to get there. As much as I've learned you realize that you know nothing and the discovery never stops. If you just play covers and that's it you have created nothing you just learn something someone else has created and you copy them and you never Express yourself its because you play to impress others and the mainstream. The nonconformist only does things that he or she is interested in they can careless what others do and think they are on a quest to open up new ways of understanding and self discovery.
I don’t relate to this. I guess I’m a more rare INFP that had a great childhood. I’m extremely nostalgic for those years and am always looking for ways to get that carefree exploratory feeling of my childhood back. I’d argue there may be correlation with INFPs and abuse but not causation. I don’t think abuse creates INFPs. If anything I’d say being INFP may invite abuse by certain mentally ill people as we can be easy targets if we never learn to stand up for ourselves. I also don’t find hyper vigilance draining. I’m more drained by worrying what people think of me in interactions and dwell on conversational mistakes as opposed to being drained by a person’s mood.
Yes that nature vs. nurture debate should always be considered. I'm so happy that you had a great childhood - it's the best gift that parents can ever give to a child :)
Early life had a strongly competitive father who cared to a high degree about face. So suppression of other personality characteristics so that I would spend most of my time in a inner world. Now my go to were books because of my ability to loose myself in the story, which were the stimulation I craved without being reprimanded by parents for making a fuss. Lots of difficulty communicating what I was feeling. So being a teenager was just a train of emotional anger, sorrow, depression. Always would rather run from confrontation then face unless forced. And the replies that come out forced were along the lines of hysterics with unprocessed emotions and thoughts vomited out. I would rather to be aloof and I guess that fits the archetype of being a dude more then being a "b four lettered word".
Thank you so much for making this video! I have been deciding what field/career to go into, and this video really helped me. Not sure why, but this video clicked with me in a way that other infp videos and articles haven’t. It was very refreshing to truly relate to something. Also, I love the music!
Actually, I'm jobless INFP but I don't know how hard to give money with much work in office. That's painful of shifts, rules and complicated job making me stress, depression, and unhappiness. It's steal my freedom with reach much money. What should I do?
i think the "rbf" thing could be an infp thing, because i had the same problem and another friend of mine too, I heard from some people after they got to know me that i looked reserved and having a rbf, i would not notice it as a child but some people in class (first weeks) would ask is sth. wrong or that i have a serious /neutral expression :)
I've had 50+ jobs in my life, and decided to go back to school for graphic design. Then I switched to film and digital media. Then changed my degree to art education. Then was diagnosed with MS in 2011. Being an INFP (and watching your videos) I think has helped me in some strange way to strengthen my resilience. Albeit hard as hell! Thank you for your insight.
One of my fears of being a teacher especially towards younger children is that I"m afraid I'll have to be all fun energy and up-beat all the time. But you seem quite calm, with a level energy. I'm wondering if you find that you do have to put on an up-beat energy when teaching younger students, or if you find that they respond perfectly well to the kind of calm energy you have in this video?
I've actually always liked lecture-based classes in my own education, and would bring it into my own teaching- but I think it's important to always bring the students in to discuss as well. I think it's why I did so terribly in High School, but really thrived in college, because I got that lecture and discussion; it felt more mature and stimulating to me. This is based more on the humanities subjects though, like History (which is what I'll teach), I think English would need a different structure and your method sounds fantastic in that way!
@@lavisherelena491 Between the ages 3-16. I'm hoping to teach in Taipei as I put this down as my preference when applying. But it'll be up to the company once I arrive in August.
Thank you! I was definitely taking notes. I know you were afraid of making your video too long but I was drinking this up. This was so informative. A very refreshing point of view. So relatable!
Hi Angela, I guess there are pros and cons to everything - having an INFP label means that you're able to find the answers quicker, but not having that label for sixty years means that you were strong without that info all this time. There is a beauty to being a pioneer in that sense! I hope you can point me to a direction that particularly interests you though ;)
