I related to a lot of things like having too high expectations and bottling things up. I have felt that feeling a lot and letting myself be sad somehow feels like I'm getting closer to the truth... I related strangely to that. I am dating an INFP btw, we noticed quickly how very similar we are. Thanks for your videos, I'm trying to get to know myself and figure myself out so this has been giving me insight
Areas where I can sometimes wrongly assume are: A) Assuming others think the way I do and so would act like I would and B) Assuming that people know what I think/feel about them (sometimes I think someone looks specially cool and I don't necessarily tell them, etc.) so I need to improve at compliments and expressiveness. Not very fear-related, more like assuming others know exactly the way my heart feels and/or my mind works.
I think we are all like mirrors to some degree. We assume that others think the way you do because that's how you see the world. We assume that people know what we think or feel about them because we have great intuition when it comes to how other people think or feel (but then again, this is debatable >
Huh... My assumptions are actually more often than not, correct. I wouldn't say it's wild imagination, as my assumptions tend to result from my imagination + what I know about the person/situation. So obviously, the more I know the more accurate I am, and I assumed most INFPs were like this? Imaginative as we are, we are very perceptive as well... My problems are more with not wanting to hurt others' feelings at the cost of mine or my peace. For example, my current best friend isn't very good at picking up on social cues, and it happened too often that she would not leave my home until I said something (this could be at 8am after hanging out the previous afternoon and night) and I struggled sooo much to say that I wanted alone time (cause in my mind I needed to be physically tired or have an appointment or responsibility to tend to for it to be a valid reason to end the hangout and I just felt like being alone) so I would have to yawn frequently, say that I was sleepy (lying sometimes) or say that my stomach hurt. I just couldn't be direct about it. But one time I did tell her that I stayed longer cause she seemed happy and she got mad at me for being dishonest, and said that she didn't want to hang out if I didn't want to as well, and that she felt deceived to some extent and sad about making me uncomfortable, which made sense. So I actually had to tell her that from then on, when and if I yawned and stretched, that would mean that I was ready to part ways. Saying "well, this has been nice, but..." often was too much for me. So I definitely identify with bottling up some things, and I was right about the honesty hurting her feelings a bit (she got weird about being at my home at all, because she tends to be extreme in general), but it was a necessary hurt for the sake of our relationship and my long-term peace of mind
A therapist once told me that 'to not say something out loud is also a form of expression'. I went through the same things before and I cannot tell you how convenient life is when you're direct. I think it helps to be with people who are super direct (think ENTJs) and you will be a natural with being frank. I've been practicing this so often to the point where I'd just go 'sorry but it's about time for me to head to bed now and I think you should head home too.' Ha!
