all i did was say i saw a old boyfriend from school 45 years ago i havent seen this guy since school 1978 lol and i jus saw him, didnt even talk to him, so my bf immediately tells me that when I took off our relationship status his two exes messaged him and ask him how he was... well... i took our relationship status off 2 years ago and he jus now says that only cause i said i saw a old bf.. game players
Never Ever lend a man or woman money. Tell them that you don't lend or give money to men or women. He can ask his family, ask his male/female friends, use his/her credit cards, get a bank loan, borrow on his/her car. These men live off of women and they usually have several women that give the man money. Women will give you a sob story and the next day, they'll suddenly have something new, That You Bought Them from the money you Gave them and you will probably never see your money either. Their Scammers.
Women can’t save men because our society never started that way & the effects of that are that women will always have less money than men. So no we can’t save him. We can’t afford to save him without sinking ourselves. Men simply have to be men
I only ever gave a man $560 but that was all i ever gave a man. And i’m finally disinterested in dating again. I hate men enough that i am no longer weak to this
Trigger warning and maybe not a popular opinion, but I think starting at 9:08 is SO important for women to understand especially with regard to avoiding r@pe.
John Gray is the only man that really expoumds on the details of our desires with men and women And Barbara, thanks for letting him talk with your cheerful attitude!
Regarding the final point, while it may be insightful, it's useless information. Men won't go a week without ejaculating. Sooooooo... good luck with that.
My boyfriend tried and succeeded in making me jealous for five years using a variety of methods. I would always show no jealousy until he pushed me so far, I would say something and then he would continue to use the same methods I reacted to the most. The last time he tried a specific tactic that had proven to have had the biggest effect on me once before, he knew this because I had told him in detail how sick with jealousy I had been. Anyway, he pulled this out of the bag a second time within a year when he was trying to gain control in a disagreement with me, and I instantly ended it, no looking back. He did not see it coming because he didn’t realise I had also been noting all the other subtle attempts to make me jealous. He couldn’t believe it. He really thought I was going to crumble and work harder for his affections but his disgusting attempt to gain control spectacularly backfired on him. He got sloppy, and he got cocky, and that combination is what did it. I instantly could see I’ve been hard on myself for being too jealous, forcing myself to endure more so I could work through my issues - but no I wasn’t jealous, I was reacting to his attempts to make me jealous. Two very different things.
First , men should want to be with or want to love you otherwise non of things dont work. I met a guy, and as he said, i was amazing, cooking for him , taking care of him when he got sick, etc... but I found he was still in a relationship. I said i am out, then he convinced me that their relationship had finished for a long time but not officially and she is like dead to her, no feelings for her at all, and one day came and told they are officially done. We start dating again but in our 3 months dating, despite all he claimed didn't have before, i found he was cheating with ex and were seeing each other. So he made an upset and angry woman of me. Byt, i left him immediately when i saw their texts and found out the truth.
When you found out that he was in a relationship you should’ve left him 😢 he is an awful man but that’s not all man. Why did you entertain him after the excuses he told you? Yet alone cook for him☹️
I'm surprised that he is praising his childhood home. I thought his mother abandoned him, his father was found dead in the trunk of his car, and one of his brothers committed suicide. Talk about revisionist historian.
Men are designed to solving problems,dont make him the problem, dont judge him,Tell him you really need to talk about this stuation out ,it isnt a big deal, I just want you to listen ,and get some hug to cool myseif off😅😅😅❤❤🎉🎉
Im literally shaking as i type.....a man i hvnt seen in over two decades suddenly came back into my life....with promises of happy ever after....within a month he is asking to "borrow" a large amount of money since he is unexpectedly homeless.....WHAAAAATTTTTTT THE ACTUAL FFFFFFFFUDGE!
Hi @cedarlanefarm! I'd love to help you find what works for you. Where can I best reach you? You can find me on Facebook Barbara Santen, or on instagram @feminine.wealth.coach. Best to message me there and we can chat further. 💞
he is supposed to support you in financial trouble but never opposite? other than that we love equality. It's important not to abuse these situations (I sound like Chat GPT :) )
If he doessn't care about your needs, he is probably just sexually attracted. Gosh, that one is tough. When you realize he wants from you but doesn't care about your person to provide and protect. Ouch. But, good to face early.
One change I think he should make for my comfort, is to stop being such a flirt! He’s my boyfriend but he still has single tendencies. I’m not crazy am I? He turns it around on me like I’m being crazy (gaslighting) for even thinking of being jealous. He naturally gets defensive and wants to stop talking about it asap! He’s got a double standard for flirting. Sometimes he takes responsibility for his poor behavior, but sometimes he doesn’t even think he’s in the wrong…and that’s the worst! And of course, I’m so in love with him. 😢
Read my story. He is only your boyfriend right now. Are you ready for him to do this to you as your husband? You have a lot of decisions to make. Are you planning to take the relationship further? Is he? You may have a difficult road ahead. This is the game men like to play to keep us running behind them.
Imagine being with a formally wealthy man, who has since given up on all pursuits of wealth and instead has taken up a modest life of humility and purity… That is what men like me see when we meet older woman. It is a brutal truth,.. We see ones who have squandered that which us men find most valuable and attractive, I.e. youth & fertility, and who now live in a deprived state, and whom demand “love”.
I’m a woman and I completely agree with everything John Gray says. Except I will say this Women need to meditate more to listen to their intuition and inner guidance. Not go to counseling. I have already been down the path of what doesn’t work with men. I see why my relationships didn’t go any further. I was too independent and too much in my masculine because I had to be. I was trained to be like that from childhood. I’m not going into the story because it’s what I understand now that’s important. I actually live with 7 men two are gay. Masculine gays actually. With feminine attributes though. I see everything John is saying and I understand now why I’m living with seven men. They are just housemates that’s all nothing intimate because that’s not why I’m here. They have no idea how much I have grown and healed. Just there presence in the house has been more than enough for me. Yes they have their problematic behaviours if they get emotional. Addictions etc. I think my presence softens their anxieties even though I know they don’t want to talk about what’s bothering them too much. All of this makes so much sense. It’s gold 😊 Thank you so much ♥️🌻🌸🌻🙃🤩👏👏👏👏
