Hey! :) My name is Candice, I’m 25 and was diagnosed with ADHD four years ago. Since then, I’ve made it my purpose to share my experience and help people out there who are struggling with ADHD! I hope my videos will help you navigate the ups and downs of having ADHD and help you gain a deeper understanding of this surprisingly common disorder! :) See you around! xx
Thank you for explaining this, including the notes that things will get off the track time to time, and then we can fix our expectations for the next time. You explained in a way where I feel understood, and made me have hope I can organise a little bit.
The problem in life with ADHD is that you are lonely. No one understands how your brain works so every year of your life you become more and more lonely
I’m about to have an assessment this weekend and I’m 99.99% sure I have ADHD at 37 years old.. It certainly would answer a lot of questions about my life and mental health and of course behaviours since I was little
Bonjour et merci pour tes videos instructives et ces partages sur ta façon de trouver des moyens pour obliger le trouble à se faire olus petit ! Le lien vers le tableau ne fonctionne plus, tu pourras nous le donner autrement stp ? Merci et encore bravo 🎉
Hi there. I know you posted this 2 yrs ago but I feel like your speaking to me today. I can't thank you enough for this video. The struggle is real. I'm a guy with adhd my whole life but currently as an adult I been feeling the paralysis but didn't know why and didn't have a name for it. The fact you can help identify it is wonderful. I take my Ritalin which gives me the focus, energy, and boost I need but by itself it's not enough with me constantly practicing self awareness and continued therapy. I'm good with menus and moving picking on the fly. My struggle is this. When my life is going fine with work and things are organized I'm at my best. But I just got laid off so it throws my confidence and organization time wide completely off. I get locked into paralysis on my phone when I should be looking for that next job. Cuz of all the overwhelming and emotional energy I would have to put in finding a job again, searching out companies to interview with, having the strength to prove to new companies all over again why I'm worth hiring. So I get stuck mentally and get lazy relaxing at home, on my phone, sleeping in, watching TV. Etc. And it sucks. But I want to thank you so much by helping me understand this and helping me create an awareness as to what I do this or feel this way. I'm strong and organized on my job because of pressure and deadlines but I'm not organized and focused when trying my own business opportunities because I guess there's no pressure of deadlines there. Sounds crazy for someone looking at this without adhd. But in the adhd world this struggle is real. Ugh I like what you said about trying to get out of bed and maybe try exercising. It gave me the thought that somehow I just need to start moving. Moving to break free of that initial morning rut trying to get going and that taking my Ritalin as soon as I wake up that I know I will start feeling better 30 min later. Sorry for the long post but this hit me really strong as this is what I'm dealing with at the moment so I thank you so much for sharing.
OMG, I totally get it! I am undiagnosed but pretty sure I have ADHD. I have too much going on in my head and it's like everything is fighting for my attention. Start on one thing then something else pops up. My wife says I am a squirrel, jumping from one thing to the next. I am looking for some system to create some calmness at the end of the day. You nailed it when you said your days used to be chaos. I GET IT! Thank you for sharing.
Hey Candice, I’m the founder of a time-blocking mobile app called TimeFinder, and I’d love your thoughts and feedback on it. I built the app out of my own struggles with ADHD and I think your content is great and really aligned with the community I wish to help with my app. Thanks for the consideration!
Time blocking didn't work for me. I never know how long things are going to take, and if I don't get something done within the time assigned to it it doesn't get done at all, but I feel guilty that I didn't do it so I can't move on to the next thing. Like, I have to do x task from 10 until 11, but it takes until 11:30, so the task I had from 11 to 12 doesn't get done, and if that's a really important task that will cause me big problems. Or I have to do x task from 10 until 11 but I can't bring myself to start the task, and then it's 11, but I still have to do task x, but I had something else scheduled for 11. So I feel frozen. Or I'll want to do something else but that's assigned to a different time block, but I can't think of anything else, so instead I do nothing. It's a disaster lol
Same here. I now try to plan my tasks not by a scheduled time, but by time span. Eg. task x could take 1 hour. But if it took longer, I just correct the estimated time for the next session, if it is a repeating task. Otherwise I duplicate my task and work on the next day for another hour on it. The second thing I do, is to give some tags to my tasks by type e.g. creative, online, banking, call, write... or by place to work on it e.g. woodshop, car, outside... Then I sort it by this tags, so I can bundle for example different calls into one "calling block". Or I can do tasks which require to be done in the woodshop in that time span when I'm in the woodshop. It sounds simple, but it helps a lot to not feeling owerwhelmed or frozen by different tasks or time slots. No matter how long it will take, it's just a "topic block" instead of a "time block". My tool for writing down and sorting tasks is notion. But of course I have to take care of not feeling overwhelmed by the tool itself. 😂
Great video and advice - i think its hard to understand until you embrace your ADHD as a strength and not a weakness, especially if your boss isn't super accommodating. You are an amazing person with many talents and a drive to learn and do. That is a GOOD thing !
You can fall into this paralysis with OCD too 😩 (am currently going thru extreme task paralysis & the things that are most important to do are the most difficult)
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watching this from iran , i was always the innovative one in the class and also the odd one for me the upsides were more than downsides cuz unlike your culture if we don't study, we got to go to military service so there was always enough dopamine for studying regarding fear of forced military. tnx for video
Same, my test (or 1st of them, not sure of the process) is Wednesday. The therapist is who actually asked 2 years ago if I had ever been tested, so she saw something to clue her in.
You're one of the people that motivated me to seek a diagnosis. Thank you for that! 😊 I'm currently between stages 4 & 5 I think. Wishing you all the best! 🤗 But also a little caution note: People should only seek a diagnosis after doing lots of research on ADHD. Our local hospital actually stopped doing ADHD diagnosis a couple of months ago, because too many people wanted a diagnosis, who only saw one or two videos/TikToks about the topic and didn't have any "real" symptoms 😣
Thanks for the comment 🥰 Yeah you’re right that’s definitely something to mention . But my arguments were based on the assumption that there’s already a strong conviction from yourself and your family and friends that you might have ADHD which definitely includes a lot of thinking before reaching out to a doctor to get diagnosed. For instance it took me more than a year and by then I had many many examples to bring to the psychiatrist about why I thought I had ADHD, while still keeping an open mind if I ended up not having ADHD.
This is amazing, i've seen your videos since you started and you helped me a lot. I was wondering wether i should get diagnosed or not, and you came up with this. Is nice to see you're doing well candace, thanks a lot 🫶🏼
hey candace, it's great to see you doing well as ever. im also about to start a job soon. life has been difficult but this year has been very good, I'm pretty happy these days (which is a weird thing for me to say). Good to see you've been well too. We can have a few bad days, weeks or years... but then we find our rhythm. Keep it up!
i wish this had arabic subs so i could show it to my family it's been such a struggle communicate to them that i have adhd they just refuse to take it seriously
Sadly, the countdown technique does not work for me... 😢 DOES ANYONE ELSE HAVE TROUBLE WAKING UP? LIKE SLEEP THROUGH ALARMS AND EVEN TURN ALARMS OFF IN THEIR SLEEP WITHOUT REALIZING IT?? I NEED HELP!! IVE TRIED EVERYTHING! P S. I work at night some sleep schedule isn't normal. I would like to sleep from about 5am to about 1pm if possible.
It feels so good to hear that I'm not alone. I've been struggling with "freezing" a lot lately and it has caused me a MASSIVE amount of distress, guilt and negative self talk. I'm trying so hard to do better, but it feels impossible some days... I wish all the best for you! Thank you for helping so many people!! 😊😊😊
Perfect description of the Restaurant situation. Choosing a dish can sometimes feel like life altering decision... The solution that often works for me: outsourcing the decision by asking the waiter that they would pick from the menu today... most often, I follow their advice.
When it comes to making choices, the fact even the ones that “don’t really matter” as you worded it, drain me so much is crazy and explains why ACTUAL hard decisions in life that can affect me (like taking a new job or not or dating that person or not) THAT SHITS HARDDDD, that shit drains my mental energy beyond belief. I’m just tryna live my life 🙃🙃