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Probably one of the better messages I've come across regarding INFJ career alignment. As an INFJ who rides the fence between F and T, human connection isn't typically at the heart of my actions or communications. Rather, I'm more likely to be motivated by fairness and ensuring everyone has the same chance at availing themselves of a given benefit, program, or opportunity. What they do with it is purely up to them, mind you, and I don't need their thanks, praise, or approval for my work. But if I fail in my role of provisioning these things for the more timid in enterprises run by those consumed by their own self interests, then I've failed on an epic scale.
@@CarolineAdamsCoaching I plan to. Will probably end up being a client; yours is a much different approach and set of perspectives than others to which I’ve grown accustomed. You have something important to say, so I’d kind of like to see how it applies in my own situation. I’ll be in touch via your site’s application process. Thank you.
@@CarolineAdamsCoaching watched your INTJ video and found it reaffirming, quite interesting really--the insets were jarringly familiar (ha!). Went ahead and put in an application. Guess we'll see. Thank you for posting the vids--you're generous with your content.
@@CarolineAdamsCoaching I was doing some research on this last night and today. I was shocked of 1) The amount of people that have this trait (2%-5%) and 2) How much of a demand for this trait 3) The Famous pepople that have this trait. It’s a who’s-who of people.
I'm an INTJ. I'm highly emotional. The difference is I don't roll around screaming and kicking my legs whenever I'm upset or angry. There are many devolved and aggressively dim people who say inane trash like, "control your emotions," like that's even possible. It is impossible to control your emotions. Period. You can always control your actions. Period. That's the difference, and it confuses the sin out of people with no self awareness or self control.
Somedays I want to be model, then a business woman, then a environmentalist, then a hacker, a fashion designer, sometimes I even think about starting medical entrance studies. Now I completed my graduation but I don't want to do job related to my degree. Now I'm doing nothing bcuz exactly I don't know what to do. Recently I discovered I'm an INFJ and it's description were exactly my situation. I've many interests, that's also a problem. Everytime I try to choose one, I doubt that decision, overthink and end up overwhelmed. I can't even answer to my parent's question about my plans (They won't get me, it's sure). When you're a middle class, the problem even worses. Now I'm trying to focus on one step at a time, what I want to do now, at this moment. Of course, it's hard but I'm trying for this curse to transform into my greatest blessing.
INTJ here. "ChatGPT sum this up so i dont have to spend 12 minutes watching" Avoid Bureaucratic Environments: INTJs need intellectual freedom and thrive in meritocratic, innovative settings rather than hierarchical, bureaucratic ones. Fit in the Process: INTJs excel in roles that allow them to work on strategy and implement big ideas, rather than just following pre-set procedures. Right People and Freedom: INTJs should focus on working with people who share their passion for big ideas and ensure they have the freedom to manage their time effectively.
I also am an INTJ female and you are definitely speaking to my core. The question you suggested, 'What do I require to be able to trust someone else?' was my key takeaway. ESPECIALLY after realizing that it's a fair ask. I thought I would be doing too much by being this specific with others however it is what I need to succeed in my vulnerability and trust with them and myself 🎉
Yes! It’s what you NEED so OF COURSE it’s a fair ask. Coming back to “What do I WANT and NEED?” is so grounding, esp when we get pulled away from basic caring for ourselves so often.
I have it planned. No need to tell me what I need. I look ahead like 5 years. You are in my 5 year plan, to watch. INTJ, allow for you to entertain us.
I`m debating on what type of training or certification I should consider that best aligns with my 25 years of experience in technical/engineering along with a bachelors in business management. Something that could help command a higher salary outside of my organization since they refuse to promote me accordingly despite proof that several others have done based on their career ladder
Do you really need another degree? You have 25 years of experience -- the right org will recognize that. There are a ton of people with a bunch of certifications that can't apply them in the real world. If you WANT to learn a new topic or build your skill set, go for it. But do it for personal enrichment; you shouldn't NEED it to command the salary commensurate with your experience. Are you a high performer? That's an even better argument to get above average comp.
I'm an infj and was a nurse in long term care. 😂 literally it feels like hell on nurse. Thank God I know I need to switch careers! That's the first step! AMEN!
This was an AMAZING breakdown. As someone whose worked as a product strategist and product marketer in the startup space + eventually as an entrepreneur you just helped me articulate my skills in a way I've never thought of before. Thank you!
I noticed a trend with myself as well as other infjs. We have this strong desire to be of assistance and make a big change in the world at a personal level but we put so much of ourselves into our work we get burned out and want to retreat and isolate to recharge. We go from high impact jobs to back of the house dont bother me type of work. Ive worked in daycares and nursing homes and special education and felt i was really making a positive change to factory jobs and back and forth. Its hard to find that balance and feel satisfied. Right now i think i would be satisfied in customer service knowing i could be a positive light to the people i interact with and not risk getting burned out again.
Great insight, Johanna. What I’ve worked on with infj’s is focusing on the environment: making sure others are giving back to you as much as you’re giving AND building the habit of engaging in ways that ALSO take care of you. You can still help all the people, AND we bring in what you what and need as well.
Hey Hottie, Any thoughts about what a INTJ does in retirement? What are the pitfalls of a brain wired for efficiency, that eschews the burning of wasted calories, but is faced with no "need" to do anything? Seems daunting ...scary if I'm being honest.
Hey! I think this is the kindest, most gentle call out I’ve ever received. 😂 If you’re commenting on the fact that I haven’t posted a video in awhile, I’m sorry! I’ve gotten busy with coaching and moving and traveling. I hope to get back to it soon. Any topics you want me to cover? Love back to you from the US.
@@CarolineAdamsCoachingthanks, i m struggling to find my passion in work. Just found out i AM an intj, been fired/left many Times from jobs. I don t seem to fit anywhere. Some friends and family just don t get it. They say " just choose some thing .." but after some time i disengage from work. It doesn t ring a Bell anymore. I read The book " so good they can t ignore you " from cal Newport , that debunks passion. He says just learn The skills that ultimately you become passionate about it. I m in The Middle. Ps : English is not my native language, please ignore any mistake. Sugestion ?? 🤔🇵🇹🇵🇹🇵🇹👍🙏
@@johnpinheiro6211 Welcome to INTJ world! "Just choose some thing" isn't really an option for INTJs; it's just not how we're wired. Re the passion question, I invite you to define what it actually looks like FOR YOU and how important it is. Here's a video: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-s5G8ef-Y8_Y.html Here's another exercise to start getting clearer on what lights you up: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-q7mROx6LKL8.html Let me know your thoughts!
Socionics Model G shows INFJ (IEI) progresses by becoming more involved like an ISFJ (ESI) in public and an ESFJ (ESE) in private. --------------------------------------------- Observation & Socionics proves ALL mbti-SJs actually lead with judging. ALL mbti-SPs actually lead with sensing. Including the introverts!!!!! So: Mbti- ISFJ = ISFj (ESI) leads with correctly defined FiSe = Relations enforced through external sensory actions like nursing. Mbti-ISTJ = ISTj (LSI) leads with correctly defined TiSe = laws enforced ✏️ 📝 . Example: Accounting. Mbti-ISTP = ISTp (SLI) leads with correctly defined SiTe = Sensory pragmatism 🔨 🛠 🪛 🔧 Mbti- ISFP = ISFp (SEI) leads with correctly defined SiFe = Sensory mood 💋 💄 Note: Thankfully Mbti only has the 4 introverted sensor's leading 2 functions wrong. Thankfully, it has the other 12 type's leading 2 functions right after doing a J and P switch ONLY for the introverted intuitives.
Took me years to decide that working for other people just doesn't work for me at all. I'm now a work-at-home graphic designer, baker, and seamstress. I also work p/t at a small grocery to stay socialized. You basically have to force me to leave my apartment now! I don't have any ambitions beyond being able to pay my rent, etc.; becoming too successful would mean I'd have to get employees, and I would hate that.
@Margaret This sounds like a wonderful combination! Have you considered contractors? I've found it's a great way to outsource work I don't want to do without having the management and admin work.
@@CarolineAdamsCoaching Oh, making sure your to do lists - actually connects to your goals - and moving you forward ! Thank you for the advice and reminders 🧡
I typically refuse, or at least have difficulty following orders, unless I know WHY I should do something. Once I know why, if the why makes sense to me, I am onboard with the plan.
Hey, Alex - Yeah, that makes a ton of sense. I think the why "making sense" is really important to INTJs. Rules that don't make sense make my brain short circuit. 🤯
I am an ENFJ and a Leo. I first thought I was an INFJ. I was wrong as I dug deeper until I found that my zodiac sun sign is a Leo and I couldn’t find anywhere that matched the INFJ + Leo combo. I take my zodiac type very seriously because I match my sign 100% . After watching numerous videos and reading an ENFJ couldn’t fit me more perfectly. I’ve always been misunderstood by everyone including my family. I am comfortable being alone, but rather being with other people. I get burnt out mentally after I reached my talking/social limit for any given day.
I am INFJ and I don't know how to live this life🥲 I was a graphic designer, an illustrator, volunteer at a dog shelter and I experienced burnout every time. I look at the list of recommended careers for my type and do not understand how can anyone work there without having severe depression. Veterinarian - dying animals, no thanks. HR- sad overworked people quitting all the time. Any artistic job - everybody knows how to do it better and will tell you. For now, I am choosing between becoming a petsitter or suicide🙄
If you're having suicidal thoughts, please call 988. You can call, text, or chat 24/7. We need you here. You are not alone. 💛 You can also call 1-800-273-8255 There are a number of resources. These are US numbers, so if you're located outside of the US, we can find local options as well.
It sounds like you’ve had a rough road. There’s so much support out there to help with your career as well as the burnout and emotions that come with it. If you don’t mind sharing, what keeps you going when you’re having a rough time? Do you have a friend, family member, or someone else you can talk to? I’d love to hear more and am sure other INFJs here would want to know you’re okay.
I get it. Sometimes i feel i can't stand life, everything is too much, for my mind, my body, my spirit. I realize that we need part-time jobs to spend a lot of time by yourselves! And explore our ideas and feelings alone.
@@JUBYY_ yes part time jobs sounds about right or a hybrid role. We often need a lot of time t recharge especially after to many face to face convo with others.
Supposedly I’m a 3, but I took it years ago and it honestly never resonated with me. INTJs can be anything, including coaches. But I think the most important thing is what you LIKE about whatever you’re doing. I personally love helping people dream big and then take action on that dream, helping people transform how they see themselves and realize how much power they have, and especially building authentic relationships as introverts.
this video brought me so much clarity. I recently learned my personality type and your coaching just confirmed so many things about myself. I've felt lost, alienated, and disparity since resigning from a toxic career of 15 years. I thought I didn't have respect for authority and that I was a difficult co-worker but, really looking back, it was a horrible fit, even with the toxicity. what you're doing is amazing and I am now subscribed.
Yay, @corean! Cheers to you for resigning from a toxic career. It's hard, but this tells me on some level you TRUST YOURSELF to know better and the toxicity is THEIR issue, not yours. (This is also why so many INTJs DO have problems with authority. We see how much better, efficient, and fair things could be vs how the "authorities" are operating). Keep being you and lean into your beautiful INTJ self!
I am on a INFJ FB group and recently asked what jobs/careers other INFJ’s had. There were a lot of medical field and especially nurses. Made me think it is what I should have done.
I am INTJ female. It's the only tool that helps me understand why I'm so much different from others and why am I feeling so suffocated to interact with people and work with them in my current career path. If only I'd known this many years ago, I would have chosen something else that fits my personality type.
I would definitely advise an info to work in sth. where they do not have to do group work, especially with people who do not want to work or leave everything to you. I realized I am feeling much healthier and less stressed when I do not have to do group work to achieve my goal.
I just tested ENFJ and found your insightful videos. The thing about personality tests: the results are only as "good" as our answers to the questions, right? This may sound funny, but what is the best way to go about that? Do we reply from the standpoint of the best times we've had when we felt the strongest and most authentic, or do we reply based on a current reality that may include maladaptive behaviors? My common sense says the former, but then again, there is truth even in our maladapted selves. I know MBTI isn't at the heart of what you do, but would love your perspective!
@suebee I LOVE this question! My preference is the former - your best, most authentic self, because we want to know the behaviors, attributes, and environments that FIT THAT version of you. This article might give you more insights and suggestions as to how to take it and what to do with the results once you get them: carolineadamscoaching.com/blog/how-to-use-personality-assessments-in-the-workplace Let me know what you think and keep your beautiful questions coming.
@@CarolineAdamsCoaching Wow what a dense, terrific article! Love the How and What breakdown and the questions in each. "Can't help but do" - ha! -- so true.
I once got sent to a corporate leadership training at a famous company and there we had to take an assessment test. I ended up winning a prize for supposedly being the first ever in that course's history to score a perfect balance of diplomat-oriented traits and earning a "back scratcher" nickname 😂😂😂. I still have the wooden backscratcher stick they gave me as a prize to this day. Makes me chuckle every time 😂😂😂.
It resonates a lot with me as an intj who works as ice cream maker and aspire to be a wholesaler in the industry. Most of the time I can't stand with companies' policy where there's so many nonsense and hierarchy, and there's no creative people nor ideas. It resonates with me especially on the strategy part that we have big picture in the future and always review the strategy that we make to see how is the progress ongoing. I hate standard rote works that you do 1 time is equal to 100 times. Ice cream making is actually maths and science and I like it to be calculated so precise; entrepreneurship is my thing because autonomy and independence is just so important to me to the point I want to rule myself instead of being ruled by others. But as you said we need only the right people to get along with which makes it sometimes a bit struggling in socialising with potential customers because it gets a bit drainy to start a conversation with people you don't click.
This is so cool, @chunsze ! I never thought of ice cream making as maths and science (how do you calculate “deliciousness”?) but it makes total sense. So good to see when INTJs have found the outlets that align. I hear you on talking to people that you don’t click with. I actually write a lot about how to engage with people in a way that feels good on my blog. I had to figure it out out of necessity when I started my own biz. What’s your favorite ice cream flavor you’re working on?
Want to learn more? I share 3 ways that elevator pitches actually work against you AND 1 simple formula to use instead: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Zuzf460A5IY.html
