I connect better with people in person. Getting to know someone through texting sucks, but it seems thats the 5 way to start conversations with people online. Even if i am introduced by a friend to a girl. It starts with texting and its not the same.
I’m a single mother that had to move back to my parents house for safety reasons for my child and I’m constantly having my room invaded by my adopted parents and sometimes even my brother and his friends and every time I try to explain why I feel like it’s an invasion of privacy they say I’m over reacting what should I do? I also got a toddler and a baby on the way yet they say I should pay them because I’m just a guest and I need to be grateful because they helped me get out of an abusive situation. I am grateful but I also have to provide for my child as well as have to get ready for the upcoming child. What should I do?😢
Can anybody help me what I should do like my friend asked me to play tag I said no I don’t want to and she said then go!and be alone if you hate me so much that you don’t wanna play with me!
Good evening, Jenny. I just stumbled across your channel. Where did you disappear to? You haven't posted in a while. I ask because I'm just starting out and wonder what caused you to stop posting after having consistent posts for many years?
People keep telling me i have boundary issues and i dont get it. I try as hard as i can to stay out of peoples lives, avoid coming to contact with people and pretty much try to be invisible. What i gathered from this video is, you arent allowed to disagree with people, thats a boundary violation. You cant have your own opinion, thats a boundary violation. You cant have emotions, thats a boundary violation. You cant tell people how you feel that their behavior is impacting you or observations about the person. I was tickled as a kid while i yelled stop. I sometimes try to please people to avoid conflict. Sounds like my boundary problems are with myself not them. And "unwanted" touching is how you initiate intamicy with women. Asking them kills the mood and they lose all attraction to you. Touching gently results in either: they like it and get turned on or, they dont like it and you stop. Come on, no wonder nobody can have relationships. Anything women actually want isnt allowed. Then they wonder why men cant get anywhere with women.
" Be Intentional around where we put our attention" That is so solid. Being better at being bored.... I Love it. Thanks so much. Very healing. subscribed.
I’m in a really toxic friend group and idk what to do. There is this girl let’s call her lily. Lily was an old friend of mine and my so called “best friend” who we will call Jen, switched on me. So lily was a previous friend and at the time I was besties with jen. Me and jen were just a duo and no one else. Then we decided to play with lily and then now we are “best friends”. Jen is always giving attention to lily and she also talk about me behind my back but I just play it cool. She says she is going to talk about her celebrity crush but jen talks bad about me instead. She calls me moody if I don’t talk to her and she is rlly toxic and so are the teachers. We got into a big fight and the teachers forced me to be friends with jen even though I didn’t want to. They made us to activities together and all of that. When we got into the fight lily backstabbed me and took Jen’s side even though we were friends from a long time ago. Now im forced to be friends with her and she is very aggressive and moody. She tells all her secrets to lily. There are 5 ppl in this group and she said that they have to get jumped to officially get into the friend group and she bully’s ppl. If I don’t be her friend she gets angry and she might get violent. I have no one to tell this to and I’m so miserable. I have to play along. Jen is the fav child so she is used to getting everything she wants. Even friends. She told me rlly dirty things about lily and if I tell lily she won’t do anything. She is just weird and dirty…. I wish I could just not be friends but I don’t know what to do please tell me :((
“oh by you wanting to be with your family that you never was with your wanting a warped and distorted view of your family” … “I don’t want to be a yes man and I won’t be bro.” … “my opinion is valueless.” Those were the invalidating comments I received from people.
Just saying this is a vent because I have no other friends to trust ( I have trust issues) I can’t do it anymore I swear my “best friend” is trying to steal my boyfriend. And even before that she was horrible she was so bad that I self harmed and was thinking about suicide. I also just feel extremely drained when I’m with her. Should I send this to my best friend (real bff)
Can you tell if this was a toxic friend happened to me today I was talking to one of my other friend (a) and my other friend (m) starts talking to her friend (L) about who I don’t like her and it’s only over one encounter they have were a asked m how to play a game in PE and M goes if you were listening you would know and so I stood up for a and m starts going off on me and ignore me for the rest of class
@@sudhas8035 thanks very helpful😊, kidding their not bad friends, everyone's toxic (Except me lol) so... Also I'm transferring to another school so yeh
The only healthy boundary there is with in-laws, is 1 of 3 things will happen. Either: - you respect our boundaries - or you leave - or you can have your son/daughter back if they disagree If your spouse won't innately stand up for the marriage, it's over anyway. If they can't stand up against their parents, they won't stand up to others for your marriage either. I held my wife's parents accountable 12 yrs ago and I no longer have to put up with that drunk or his flat chested skank. They lost the war and don't come around anymore. Fxck em! "I'd rather be alone than in bad company." - George Washington
no matter what my friend calls me sassy and too entergenic i know bc my other friend tells me but one friend mocks what i say like "👹👹IM NOT A SKIER👹👹👹"
Hi, Ive found your video bc Im facing this issue w a friend and resentment is def building. She just won't stop talking its really getting on my nerves. She goes on and on with vigor from one topic to the next I wonder how she breathes. I've gotten better with learning to interrupt her verbal mind speak, juxtaposing my experiences but I notice! She can't sit still long enough to listen to ME! When it is my turn to speak and for her to hold attention on me she has to get up. Something else catches her attention. I'm also overwhelmed by her medical issues, medications, appointments, ailments and doctor complaints. She casually mentioned a gruesome medical detail that I couldnt get out of my mind for weeks, complete overshare! How can I stop her from dumping on me I feel so weak and stupid sitting there listening a lot of times I just zone out. I'm resenting her and don't want to be her friend anymore but she has a car and I dont ahe helps me with rodes and stuff but its an emotional downtrade for my mental amd emotional energy. Shes a drain but im sticking with her bc I want to learn how to correct this aspect of my communication. I let people dominate me and talk all over me it makes me really dislike mysef 😢
Boring would be abetter word than dumb. Other people want to talk about... well, dumb/boring things. Also lol. Good listeners. Lets justhope yall have something worth hearing... in truth, many dont. I guess Im just hanging with the wrong people. haha. Thanks for this though. Im just beginning to learn about this.
6) They lash out at you for caring about their health (poor self image, skipping lunch constantly, etc…) despite never stating it as a boundary prior, somehow *expecting* you to know. 7) A lot of people don't like them (I wonder why?) 8) Hanging out with them feels like walking on eggshells, you never know when you might say something wrong and ruin everything
Well…. Guess I made to right decision to walk away from my friend. It was only gonna be a break from hanging out….. but now it’s looking a bit more permanent
