This channel is all about personal development, entrepreneurship and understanding your mindset.
What to expect: - One video a month in the struggling entrepreneur series where I give you behinds the scenes of my life coaching business as I'm building it. - Three videos a month on self development, where I share tips on how to develop the mindset that you need in order to become a successful entrepreneur and build an impactful business.
I can count the friends I have on one hand. And even though I prefer it that way, it wasn’t always the case. I’ve never had more than 2-3 friends at a given time and never had a friend group where we’d all meet to hang out together. Whenever I’d look on social media, people seemed to have dozens of friends. Not one, but different groups of friends that they are a part of, and they all seemed to be having the best of times together. And it seemed like people who had a busy social life were celebrated and liked more and had more opportunities than those who didn’t. I couldn’t help but compare myself to these people and evaluate what my friendships looked like, and I actually thought that there was something wrong with me for not having a larger group of friends. This changed when I started working on my mindset and doing inner work, slowly building my confidence and self esteem. Once I understood what my values are and what kind of people I like to be around, I realized that I’d rather have even one friend that I like, respect, and who I can have meaningful conversations with, than a bunch of people that I don’t really enjoy the company of, just for the sake of saying that I have many friends. I realized that having many friends, doesn't equate to having quality relationships. I realized that my kind of people are rare to find. That I don’t really like hanging out in a group setting. That my schedule doesn’t allow me to meet people very often, and that any friend I have needs to be okay with that. I realized that my time and energy are limited, I need to be very mindful of who I give them to. Some people are just not worth receiving them.
Insightful analysis 🔷️ Could you suggest some best books to read for on this topic and for regaining self belief after setbacks in career or job search..
Thank you so much for your comment! I haven't read any books on the topic yet. When researching this video, I watched a lot of RU-vid videos (just type in learned helplessness in the search bar) and read a bunch of online articles and studies, anything that I could get my hands on. I don't have them handy at the moment but next time I promise to include all of the articles and video links in the description box. I will make a separate video about how to unlearn and overcome learned helplessness (coming in two weeks) but in the mean time I'll tell you: never ever give up. We all experience setbacks, they are totally normal and a part of life. You have the power to overcome them, I promise. Learn from them, look at them as partially as you can (without the feelings and emotions attached to them) and try to see what went wrong or didn't work and what you can do differently next time. 🌹
Thank you for this. Thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate your vulnerability. To add, i believe setting unrealistic expectations from oneself set us up for failure. Unrealistic or too ambitious goals set us up for discouragement & make it tempting to throw in the towel before you even begin. It is a self-sabotage. By setting goals that are grounded in reality, we'll be surprised at how much we can achieve. We build confidence, stay motivated, & be far less likely to fall victim to the whispers of self-doubt. After all, progress over perfection is the name of the game.
Thank you for you support, appreciate you 💚 Agree with you 100% about the expectations and that we should always aim for progress instead of perfection. When it comes to setting too high goals, I have mixed feelings, because I believe that our goals should scare us a little, but also excite us. If they are too reserved, they might not be so exciting for us enough to drive us to start working towards them. I agree that they should be grounded in reality, but this doesn't mean that they can't be big or too ambitious. The key here is that when we set a goal and then break it down into its steps - that we see that we can actually do the first steps that will help us reach it. All these steps build up on top of each other, and one step at a time, we'll get there.
Many people doing like "just give me money and I do do it for you and bye bye" But this is not sustainable. For being sustainable we have to do more effort than client expectations.
“Not good enough” is so over used that it has lost all meaning. Before you go around telling yourself that you're not good enough, ask yourself: What specifically do I think that I can't do? What's the proof that I can't do it? Seriously, go as deep as you can into these questions. Using generic statements like “not good enough” is dangerous because it makes you think in extremes, what is known as black-and-white thinking, and this makes you forget about all the other facts in between that prove this thought wrong. To fight this, focus on the specific thing that you think that you're not “good enough” for, find the proof to refute that claim, and remind yourself of all the things that you've done in the past that show you that you can actually do it. I promise that you'll realize that you are way more capable than you think. So please, for the love of all that is good, stop undermining yourself. I created a free guide that will help you start eliminating negative thoughts and statements that limit you and stop you from doing what you want to do. Find it in my channel links. 😊
Great tips! I totally agree with everything you said. Here’s couple of ways I beat procrastination: CONSEQUENCES FIRST: I think about the NEGATIVE stuff that happens if I DON'T do the task. Then I flip it and imagine the POSITIVES of getting it done. Shifts my motivation fast! FEELINGS FOLLOW ACTION: Forget waiting to feel "in the mood." I've found starting the task, even a small step, actually makes me feel good about doing it. Actions come first, feelings follow! Not the other way around.
I just clicked to your video to see how many views or subscribes you got. But looks like you are beginner so Am I?? Still my videos don't get bigger views but I keep uploading CONSISTENCY matters. I wish you all the very best 💪 I have subscribed
I couldn't agree more! I've always been a more reserved person and preferred to be alone. Now that I'm a bit older, I have better perspective of the world and see the importance of building community with great people. Thank you for sharing!
Happy to know that! 🌹 As I got older I understood that I can actually chose the people that I want to be around, instead of what was "forced" on me when I was younger. Huge game changer 😊
