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I used to make videos every week about my life, from travel vlogs and challenges to videos about mental health, disability, and queer topics. These days things on youtube have changed a bit, so I'm making a home for myself in other spaces, such as Twitch. Feel free to join me!
Anyone who's confused, just know that wanting to be close to someone isn't necessarily romantic attraction. I personally want to feel physically close to someone, but not in a romantic or sexual way. Just like, chill out together and be physically close with romantic chemistry.
I’ve never felt this “other” but I fear when/if I do I’ll be stuck in the same situation and not know if it really is love or not, because I really don’t know what it’s supposed to feel like.
This is seven years old and it's very... not relatable (although I guess yes?) but rather accurate What is relatable however is: "I like you in a way I just think about as 'other'". It's like, spot on.
How is that called when I basically feel the same attraction for a friend than for my mom? I'm confused because that's obviously not a crush, but when people talk about squishes it always sounds like the attraction isn't much developed, as if it was basic best friend stuff. I want to be with that friend 24/7 and hug him. That's it, no romantic stuff, still a goddamn obsession.
I love this,I'm still figuring out if i'm aro.. It's always like a feeling of "oh cool,they're a person" idk if it makes sense,kinda like I'm glad they exist and I admire them in some aspects but I don't want to be involved further than that
I know this video was uploaded 6 years ago but I watched it because I wanted to find a word to describe a partner in a qpr else than zuchinni because people who are not part of the community would just not understand it, so I have a question, if you don't mind answering of course. Since you said that Mari was inconfortable with the word zuchinni, what word do you use when people ask you who the other one is for you? (English is not my first language I hope my sentence makes sense)
Alterous attraction, maybe? It's emotional attraction that's neither strictly romantic nor platonic. It's like, you want to be close to that person, but it's not really important HOW.
This is so aromantic, the over thinking about what is this that is attraction and how does it feel because clearly people in general feel it more clearly and aromantic people feel it in such a weird way. You got a definite first or something because cannot feel it like in the movies. Very fun poem 😊
If any of you can’t define what romantic attraction is, then you MAY be quoiromantic, also known as WTF-romantic. I suggest you guys look it up so you can understand it further.
Great vid. I used to consider myself pan because I was visually attracted to all genders, but not sexually attracted. I felt broken and confused, like something was wrong with me. It wasn't until I found the furry community and met other ace furries that I realized ace is a thing, and it's OK to be ace. Still, it's a shame that even living in a great progressive city like Denver, that some in the GLBTQIA+ community still ridicule me for it because they cant wrap their heads around the concept that lack of sexual attraction is valid.
yeah like i just want to be close to someone. like really really close to someone, but not romantically. like we can hold hands and have picnics but as deeply emotionally connected friends who really get each other. i don't want to marry them, i just want to be best friends
How should I come out to my long-time squish who clearly likes me but is allo (I am somewhat certain they broke up with their last partner to signal to me that they are open) I really like them, but I am not what they are looking for. And DEFINITELY don’t want to do the things they did with them. I also don’t wanna hurt their feelings. How do I proceed?
This is relatable on a whole new level. I feel seen. Gosh. I'm almost sure I'm lithromantic, yet, at the same time, I don't really know. The only thing I know is that romance never actually felt right to me, just "in theory", like you said. And, well, now I just go by the label of aromantic (I'm asexual as well - and that part has always been clearer to me). Well, no matter what, I should just remember that I'm valid just as any other aroace, aro, ace (or whatever else) people out there! <3
I think that valentine's day was taken out of it's original context and I as a fellow ace Don't really think about valentine's day much . I agree that platonic/queer platonic are just as important as romantic stuff
I’m in a QPR but my partner is kinda prioritizing their romantic partners over me, and I’m trying to give them my time as a time to check in on themself but I want to talk to them on how my wants aren’t getting met, but I don’t know how haha. Help.
i've been watching these vids loving Mari and identifying w her & now it makes sense: liguistics nerd (& similarly, i consider myself an amateur Adventure Time professor)
There is actually another cannon ace character that is known about. Florence from Sex Education.☺that scene where Jean tells her she's ace is so wholesome😊
I heard about that! Unfortunately that show didn’t come out until a couple years after I made this video, but I’m sure there are several other ace characters that could be added now :)
