Welcome! I help women move from binge eating to a normal healthy relationship with food so that they can get their peace back, feel confident and finally start thriving.
I've never heard somebody 'get' me like this. I didn't even realize how much I liked planning my binges and then my recovery from the binge (i.e. diet). Whoa.
Please make another video about the vulnerability / opening ourselves to love from the right people! That was a very helpful part of the video and I’d love to hear more on that
Hi Rachel, I’ve recently discovered your channel and the help you’ve provided has been absolutely ethereal. I feel as though everything’s starting to get better & my views on my bingeing habits, body image and overall outlook on everything are finally improving. Thank you so so much for what you’ve done so far. I don’t know if you’ve talked on it before or not but how will I know when I’m finally “free” and have hit a healthy&normal relationship with food. Even in a future video If it was touched on, I’m not expecting a full essay reply here. Again thank you so much 💗💗
I love your videos. They have been very helpful. On an unrelated note, are you wearing makeup? If so, would love to know how you make it look so natural. If not, i am jealous lol
i’m just starting my journey and you help me SOOO much, i was shocked by how much is in my control because i have always thought that the self-hate and emotional eating were just something outside of myself that i couldn’t change (for sure not easily), but now i’m learning about myself, i’m learning to love and care. you saying that confidence is a skill totally changed my perspective - big thank yous for that 🙇🏻 but i’m struggling with not eating everything - not finishing food, i feel like i finish before i can think + i also try others food and then i feel too full and bad, i thought about it before and i make myself think that food will give me this satisfaction i want from other things soooo there’s SO much work for me but i think i can do this 🔥🔥🔥 also it’s hard for me to not stress over “what if i gain weight” “what if i don’t lose weight” but i know that the relationship with food and myself is more important!! this process feels so complicated and i don’t know if i’m doing everything correctly i’m just trying to relax and let myself do what i want and love AND it NOT easy 🥵 lastly i really want to thank you for what you’re doing here it’s really amazing 🤍🙇🏻🤍
Food was a hell for me for so long, obsessing over it, beinging and restricting constantly, being body shamed and food shamed. Goodness, for years I would control my weight so much there's a time I'd literally feel light as a feather, there's a time I was so thin my bones were showing then started beinging again and added more weight. Overtime getting more invested in God played a huge role in my healing, i now eat for nourishment and enjoyment and not as a coping mechanism. One thing I did at the beginning of my healing journey was starting to face my emotions instead of eating and restricting. I would allow the sadness to wash all over me without distracting myself with entertainment and food, I substituted that with a lot of exercise at first until I got comfortable with my feelings. Now I really enjoy food and introspection. I never imagined a time when I'd be free from obsessing over food. Thank you God for delivering me, may you continue to comfort us in our time of need
I realised from your videos that what im seeking in my constant hunger for food is connection and stimulation. Its comfort for me i guess, ever since i grew up having no friends and not any real connection with my parents but getting it from my favorite foods, it all makes sense now 26 years later… Thank you!
It’s funny how so much of my life I’ve felt like I was the only one thinking these thoughts and you say so many of them on your videos. Thanks so much for making me feel like I’m not alone.
Another timely video, thank you <3 this week I'm flying out to see my family and friends for the first time in over a year, and it's crazy how I've spent the last 3-4 months stressing over how my body looks and whether they might think I've gained weight. Since the last time I saw them, I also got a great new job, traveled, and started a healthy, happy, serious relationship with a wonderful man (who is coming with me!). I am sad that I haven't been focused on sharing all these parts of my life and have instead hyper fixated on losing a couple kilos so that no one will think I've let myself go.
“Confidence is a skill” is such a great eye opener. So true, and we don’t often think about it as something anyone can have. Could you talk about how to manage in family get togethers with family members you’re supposed to be respectful of, who always start the conversation with either how much weight you’ve lost or gained?
You've helped me a lot in the process of healing from disordered eating ❤ there is still a long road ahead of me. Im struggling to accept my 'new' body and find myself obsessing over the squish on my tummy, arms etc... I miss my ed body - i cant run away from those thoughts it seems. But im happy to feel more neutral towards food and to have stopped thinking about it non stop. Its a constant fight of two forces in my head - what can i say, its tough out there 😂
Hi Rachel, I just wanted to drop a comment and say that your videos have been life changing for me. I’m 24 and for the past 7 years of my life I have actively tried to lose weight and have been conscious of my weight probably my entire life. At 5’7 and 68kgs I am already at a healthy weight and almost always been but the media and people around had convinced me it wasn’t good enough. I gave up so much in life, so many opportunities, because I wanted to focus on losing weight instead. Now I have finally stopped tracking calories, writing down my meals and compulsively checking my weight. I have started exercising for the mental health benefits and not for weight loss. I’m trying to eat 3-4 meals a day instead of coming up with some strict fasting routine or fad diet. I don’t care anymore if my weight increases or decreases. Sure I may never love my arms but overall I do really really like my body. Not aiming for perfection anymore, just grateful to be healthy. Anywho, just wanted to say thank you thank you thank you
Some people have limiting beliefs. Others have ghrelin and leptin imbalances that make this an incredible challenge. It’s worth trying, but for those who have tried and failed time and again, it’s not just willpower or beliefs for everyone it can be a combination.❤
I could not agree more. If it came across as though this is the only thing to be done to recover from disordered eating then to be clear - this can be one component of a more complex system of 'recovery' which typically involves physiological, psychological, emotional, social and lifestyle adaptations <3
I'm 51 and lost. I don't even know what I am interested in anymore aside from food. I spent an entire hour thinking of what i enjoy doing and what excites me. Nothing came to mind except food and/or eating 😭😭😭 Not that I feel excited about food but more like that's the only thing I have a slight interest in since that's all I think about. My next meal 🥴 But thank you for your videos. At least I know I'm not alone. Been following your channel on and off since the time you had only 7k subscribers. I am so happy your subscriber base has grown a lot. I can feel your sincerity as well in wanting to help people overcome binge eating for real. One day, i hope I'll muster up the courage to book a call with you. Do you accept international clients from Asia?
I am so pleased that this channel has supported you in this time. You are certainly not alone and there is more hope than you may realise (it's hard to imagine I know). Yes we work with clients from all over the world <3
You have the most grace and compassion 😭 thank you for sharing your story. I still can’t imagine what it would be like to have a healthy relationship with food, but this gives me hope.
After learning so much about eating disorders and intuitive eating, to me it boiled down to this: Intuitive eating is being in sync with your body and making the best choice that's possible at any given moment. Giving nourishment, eating or not eating, having not so nutritious foods or not having them. Going just one day at a time and not thinking about it too much (not obsessing over the "right" decision). It's learning about your body and what makes you feel good rather than what is labelled as good or bad.
Hi,in ed recovery with no Hunger cues and craving no food its impossible....im stuck in quasi recovery by years because normal bmi 21 now but hipotalamic amenorrea hipotiroidism and ed behaviours.... because normal bmi but exercise everyday and eating max 2300 cal day count calories because no Hunger cues i scared its to late for me45 years old😢anyway thank you sooo much and ciao from Roma
Hello! You're video's have been really helpful to me. I've struggled with food and weight gain/body image since early childhood. I was recently diagnosed with several food sensitivities which have been causing a lot of inflammation in my body and my Dr. says has contributed to my not being able to loose weight and also keeping my appetite high. While this is really great new information and I'm hopeful to find a healthier life and well being around this new information of foods that my body is not tolerating, I'm also having a really hard time with the food "eliminations" and feeling/craving them more even though I now know they are causing my health problems and gut issues. I'm hopeful maybe you could provide information or maybe a video on how to manage foods that people are not to eat for health reasons such as allergies and sensitivities without it triggering feelings of being "deprived" or "restricted" that create a mindset of wanting to eat more or craving those foods more. Thank you so much! Candice ❤
You are truly so amazing and inspirational and intelligent. You convey so much and I can relate so deeply to everything you mention that I truly feel understood and inspirated to grow and heal. Only with you I feel so seen. I never post comments usually but thank you deeply from the bottom of my heart.
Well your 10min summary of the thoughts and behaviors of someone who is suffering from ED / binge eating is spot on. It is exactly whats going on in my head all the time. You've done a good job understanding this issue and laying it out for ppl who aren't familiar with the matter
Asking oneself "is this an act of self love?" when deciding whether to eat something has been helping a lot. I've made some great progress lately (largely thanks to your videos!), and the answer to this question looks different on different days. Sometimes self love means eating a healthy meal when I'm hungry and stopping when I'm full, sometimes it means waiting another hour for dinner even though I'd like a snack now, and sometimes it means having a bowl of ice cream even though I'm not hungry at all. Trusting myself to make the right decision for me, rather than relying on rules I've set for myself, has been life-changing.
Considering that a lot of people who are drawn to intuitive eating are those that struggle with disordered eating, yo yo dieting, binge eating etc, promoting intuitive eating for weight loss can make the problem worse in my experience. While it’s true that dieting can promote weight gain and a healthy relationship with food can therefore lead to weight loss over time, the ironic thing is that it’s really hard to develop a healthy relationship with food and use weight as a measure of progress at the same time. Even more so if the desire for weight loss is coming from a place of negative body image and not health reasons (the lesson I made in the description explains why this is). Telling someone that they can definitely have a healthy relationship with food and weight loss at the same time is definitely going to ‘sell’ but I think this is either very ignorant or unethical practice if I’m honest and at the very least counter productive in gaining genuine food freedom.
it is so... nice I guess? to see more professionals really understand the topic. so empowering to see that this is someone who cares and provides help. it will help a lot of people. I am more than sure about that. thank you a lot, Rachael
I just don’t get how I struggle and most ppl around me don’t. I have been in good shape most of my life but for the past 7 years, I have gained a lot of weight, shed some and then gained again. No amount of motivation can keep me from binging on junk food. Nothing stops me, breaks my heart. 😭😭
I hear you. This is actually a really common question. A ‘healthy relationship with food’ can seem really abstract from the outside. One of the main reasons I have discovered for this is that it lives on the ‘Grey’ area. It’s not rule based and so there’s no set ‘rules’ that those with food freedom try to live by. It’s more like a sense of style in my experience than a diet.
What you said about not even knowing what you want, al you want to do is fulfill other people's needs, that is me. I don't even know who I am, or what I want, I kust know I am so tired and I don't know how to be happy unless I'm doing something that I think Im supposed to do for someone. Im just not a real person, I don't know what I feel.
Thank you so much for sharing. It's extremely common and it makes a lot of sense how people pleasing can 'erode' a sense of identity. For women that I have worked with through this, something that has been helpful for them is simply beginning with writing down what they feel, want, need, value, like and don't like. Sometimes this can be revolutionary in itself. Not to do anything with but just to be honest and aware of these things can be powerful enough as a starting point. You're welcome to use that if you think it may be helpful. And an emotions wheel can be really helpful here as well! Or emotions chart. Sending lots of support <3
