It’s good that you stopped. Not because it was bad,but that you believed it was. Remember,it wasn’t a problem until your friend told you it was bad. It is done unto you as you believe. Guilty feelings attract punishment. That’s why you had bad days after masturbating. Everything is great when you’re flipping the bean, until you come. So just don’t come then. Enjoy yourself for awhile and then just put it away for later.
I'm 35 and I've struggled with this off and on since I was 10. I know that focusing on stopping is not the route to go, but focus on something else and the things of God will drive out impure thoughts. I realize i need deep deliverance from this habit and I believe I'll experience that
I think you would do yourself a favor by keeping your hair and your culture separate in your mind. Sometimes hair is just hair. Otherwise it seems like you're unnecessarily beating yourself up.
thank u for sharing this. i hate that people think women don't do it and make women feel ashamed of it. almost none of the women talk about it for fear of seeming strange. thank you❤️
I know people don’t mean harm by complimenting your hair and not wanting you to cut it but it’s frustrating when people give unsolicited advice, call your reasons “dumb” and lack the understanding/compassion about it. It looks beautiful at the end. Looks beautiful at the start. Your hair is beautiful no matter the length.
its interesting how the issue was to stop the act of masturbationg rather than to unpack the guilt from the shame, because before you had external shame you learnt it, wasn't an issue. {the dependency is an issue when it affects peoples life } It affecting your mood 1000% is a great reason to proactively change that behaviour but even then a lot was mentioned as kind of being brought up by this emotional turmoil & 'beating yourself up after doing it' which sounds like eventually led to a reflex arc/neuron pathway/learned behaviour that the moment you went to start all the associated feelings. I have a dependency because i similarly used it as an antidepressant and was looking for similar experiences. I have no opinion on your path and am happy you're doing what's best for you and am happy whatever brings you happiness does so, you know your life. I just felt something to the contrary that isn't attacking but an alternative invitiation to self analyse may be a helpful input.
I've been masturbating since my early teens and I used to feel ashamed after doing it in the past. I was extremely religious for 10+ years and that brought me even more shame in my mind. Then I had many years of problems with depression which ended with me becoming an atheist. I was like that for two years and the shame about masturbation was gone. ...I'm not an atheist anymore, but I don't feel ashamed about masturbation either. I realized to much masturbation makes me lazy, unmotivated and it affects my health negatively in general. It's ok if I do it from time to time, I feel good..but whenever I start doing it a lot, it brings back all those bad effects. It's all about dopamine and watching porn even if I'm not horny. I've heard many people say they have more energy and focus in life if they don't do it a lot or even stop completely. I guess we need to listen to our bodies and take care of our physical and mental health by finding a healthy balance of every aspect of our lives. Extremes are rarely beneficial.
I'm a 69 year old man, and I can assure you that men have not always been as free of guilt about masturbation as SOME of us are now. When I was young, single men were expected to "sew our wild oats", so masturbation was seen as a failure of manhood. In much the same way, single women were expected to be virgins and free from sexual urges, so you might ask who were single men supposed to sew their oats with? I think that the one good thing to come out of the sexual revolution of the 60s and 70s was that people stopped believing that masturbation was either a cause or a symptom of mental illness. Those misconceptions were responsible for a lot of guilt and mental anguish, so it saddens me to know that so many women are still struggling to suppress the natural urge to relieve themselves of sexual tension. Obviously, there is such a thing as addiction which is never good, but this is when a habit becomes excessive or dangerous. Masturbating while driving a car was definitely dangerous, and therefore indicative of an addiction. However, I suggest respectfully that you seek professional counselling rather than going cold turkey, because having arguments out loud with your sexual urges is not really a good sign. Don't underestimate the destructive power of guilt and sexual frustration.
Self discovery… society uses that excuse, I never felt clean doing it I always felt wrong about it. Been doing it since a toddler, thank you so much for being open and sharing this it really changed my life.
If you were doing it since you were a toddler, you weren't doing it correctly, which is probably why it made you "feel bad". The clitloris hood doesn't open up until you start your period, so that means you must've been sticking your fingers inside yourself, which would definitely feel horrible. Girls that young don't have natural lubr. cation. Those "bad feelings" don't come from God, it comes from being naive and anxious, and not knowing how your body works. Anyway, God gave us a clitloris for a reason. The bible also doesn't say anything that condemns pleasing yourself; It just says to have self control. Don't overdo it, and avoid disrespecting other people while you're doing it (don't watch adult vids)
One of the most stubborn spirit is the spirit of immorality, extremely very stubborn spirit. I have struggled with masturbation for over 16 years, it hindered and affected me in every area of my life. But God had mercy on me, I hope my story encourages someone who is struggling with this spirit to seek God's divine intervention to be set free from this spirit. The word of God came to me by His Spirit, "seek my face for one month in fasting and prayers" I obeyed. started seeking God in fasting and prayers, on the 11th day of my fast, after I was done with my midnight prayers around 2:38am, where through the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, I prayed thus " Any thing in my body that has not been planted by my heavenly father be uprooted in Jesus, I denounce every spiritual wife attached to me, I divorce you in Jesus name. After my prayers, I went to sleep. I was in the sleep my eyes was opened and I saw a hand come down to where I laid on my bed from above and removed something from me, as that hand removed it, I was able to see this dark formless entity as it was being removed from me and it was growling with a despicable voice, once it was removed, I saw myself quaking on the bed and few seconds latter it stopped. I felt a sense of peace and freedom. I knew that I had been delivered from the spirit of immorality, the deep cravings I use to have for sex, died, I no longer get excited when I see beautiful women whether physically or on social media, matter of fact, when I scroll through social media and see an extremely beautiful woman, I instantly bless God for her life and give God praise for the work of His hand for making this lady beautiful, this practice has helped me tremendously to keep my eyes focused only Jesus Christ my savior and Lord. I pray for all who are under the bondage of this spirit for God's mercy and total deliverance from this spirit in Jesus Name, Amen.
