I'm a social worker, researcher, and author in Canada! This channel is about my passion: my life's work. I'm excited to share it with you so that you can be empowered to make quality of life enhancing changes in your life and share this work with others, brightening your corner of the world.
I really appreciate that your meditation and yoga videos are grounded in evidence rather than catering to pseudoscience. I hope that you and your partners are all doing well enough in your private practices so that you can afford to keep your integrity here on RU-vid. Those of us who have noticed you really appreciate your work. ❤️
I always think of Robbin Williams or Jim Carrey. Both are incredibly funny men, who struggled with terrible demons, and somehow managed to be hilarious along the way. Perhaps to a fault.
Hi Tim, your videos have been so helpful and I appreciate your warmth and sincerity. One question I had in watching this - you talked about cognitive restructuring and my understanding after doing a lot of research is that the ACT/FC model or third wave behavioral approaches say cognitive restructuring is not the goal here, in fact quite the opposite. We are not trying to change broken parts/thoughts, emotions, bodily sensations. Am I misunderstanding? Thank you, again for your work.
I’ve been there a few years ago. The hopelessness was crippling to me, it’s why I neglected this RU-vid channel. It matters a lot to me that you took the time to write a comment and be vulnerable here. I’ll keep making RU-vid content and I hope that I’ll see more of you in the comments. 🙏🏼
I had to giggle at 7:55 where you said "answer is an unresounding yes". We still got the meaning. What a great compilation of books. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for this exercise and experience of over 50 years of carrying a shattered soul and pain. No healing was available. This took me where I needed to go … livid memories and tears 😢 thank you
Great question. Something did come up: sadness. As the therapist, we lean into it that verbal utterance, breaking convention and encouraging a recognition of what is happening - the connection to the sadness.
I've been looking for a theory that encompasses my varied spiritual learnings and experiences, that is empirically based, and where I can incorporate the common factors of counseling with integrity. This might do it :-) Thanks for sharing.
I'm intelligent, I'm degreed in the medical field, and I still don't practically know what ACT IS after watching this video with soooo many perfect reviews. Can anyone suggest a video that actually says how Act is practically used in daily life with an example... just one. Great, thanks.
Hello! I’d be happy to make a video for you on this. Can you tell me more about what has you confused? In the meantime, here’s more about how ACT can be used practically in daily life as you asked in your comment. For example, me right here now in this moment, responding to your comment. I’m a person, a social worker, a father, husband, a business owner, a content creator! There’s a voice inside of me that has a great doubt that I shouldn’t be creating a video directly in response to your comment on my RU-vid video because you might feel that that calls you out or that it comes off as disingenuous. But my values tell me that putting out accurate, trustworthy and reliable content is the real me! So I have to ask myself who I want to be, do I want to listen to my insecurities and perhaps fuse with them? Or do I want to engage with my values and put myself out there in a way that might feel risky, this comment is the middle ground between responding to your comment and making a video. I’m still open to making the video, because my work is important to me and connecting with you if you’re genuinely looking to learn about ACT matters a lot to me. And if you’re just in the comments trolling, well that’s okay too. Because what happens here doesn’t define how I evaluate my success. I define success based on my freedom to engage with my values. And that’s how I also know I’m truly free. 💛 I hope this helps. I’m here for you @elizabethhollins5988
@TimothyGordon Your question is confusing bc I never said I was confused. My comment stands as is. Seeking a practical examples of its use in daily situations. Ex. Frustrated bc management won't hire staffing to provide safe patient care, they say they've been interviewing. We're being told this for over a year. How does one use ACT that.
Pardon me. I meant your confusion in it being unclear to you what ACT is. I’m asking if you can tell me more about what seems unclear about what is after watching the video. Did you see the rest of my comment after my question outlining how I am using ACT right now, with you?
Thanks for letting me know, please use the built in video speed tool in RU-vid to slow me down. And believe me, I get this feedback (talking too quickly) in real life all the time.
Seamless explanation of RFT and its application in acceptance-based behavioral approaches! Also, I'm curious which stylus and tablet you are using to draw on-screen while streaming, as well as how you float the whiteboard over the video. Any information you are willing to share would be much appreciated!
Thank you kindly Drew!! Yes! I’m happy to answer: I’m using OBS to manage my video feed, microphone and the Apple iPad, it’s not perfect but it works well; within the iPad I’m using Paper, a wonderful piece of software that works nicely with the Apple Pencil.
Transformation of stimulus function - beyond expanding awareness of negative responses to the stimulus how do we teach the client to learn new ways to expand the repertoire…. just some examples would help.
A year and a half ago I watched while a friend of mine died in front of me. It was in the front lobby of the hotel I was working at at the time. You know what my boss said to me? "He's not going anywhere now get over here and takeover the shift" I did, worked the next 3 days straight. As of today his lifeless face is the last thing I see before bed and the first thing I think of when I wake up. I cannot find a therapist, I am too messed up to focus and I can think of only one solution to get these thoughts to stop. I want another option, but no one wants to help me, so what the fuck do I do? If I hear, "call this or do that," know that I've tried, numerous crisis lines, intakes, counsellors and stress experts. There is more, a lot more, but that is way more personal than I am willing to share...
Hey... Hold on! You are much stronger than you think! Keep searching for a therapist, if you don't give up, you'll definitely find one, who's gonna help you! Don't ever give up on life! We are here to learn lessons. And sadly the best way to do that is by traumas and then healing these traumas. Stay safe! I'm sending hugs.
Thanks so much for saying so! I’m living my values: I spend most of my time with my family. I’ll be back to RU-vid, especially once my kids are older, don’t think I’m cool and don’t want to hang out with me anymore. I’m the meantime, my littlest just held my hand yesterday and told me I’m his best friend. 🥺
Thanks for the question and pardon my delay in responding. I’ve read the book a couple of times. It’s a simple read, easy to understand (unlike ACT, haha!) and integrates smoothly into most peoples lives but misses the mark for many, myself included. I think it could easily be chalked up to: different strokes for different folks. For example, some people don’t “struggle” with negative thinking, they need exposure, perhaps an interoceptive approach or simply prolonged exposure. As rich and nuanced as our mental health struggles and personal lives are, so is the need for good interventions with methodological rigour and accessibility. Said more simply, there’s lot of room in the market for other approaches.
I get attached to people very easily, i need assurance from friends and family when things go downhill, my relationship with people have gotten complicated, i feel suffocated being around them, it's because of their indifferent behavior. Can you recommend a book that can help me with such situation. I am a college student, i have projects to work on with them but i just can't focus anymore.. everything they do is effecting my mental state real bad, i get anxious, and scared and tensed about idk what exactly.
Yes I have! I use the “Inner Active” cards regularly. Do you know much about IFS? Apart from the cards, I don’t integrate IFS into my trauma work with clients.
I appreciate your reply! Yes, I’m pretty knowledgeable with IFS and use it with my clients that have PTSD. The results are astonishingly good. It’s always an amazing experience watching clients heal the exiled parts of themselves during the unburdening process. I think you’re a very talented therapist and you’d be great at IFS if you’re interested in exploring it further. It’s really not that big of a leap from ACT to IFS. I watched a video of you talking about trauma and ACT self-as-context and it sounded a lot like clients unblending and accessing Self Energy as described in IFS, which prompted my question to you.
@@cryptobull2493 cool! Can we set up a time to have a chat and talk about IFS? Maybe I can do a video on me learning about IFS and integrating it into my work - if you’re comfortable with it, we could collaborate on a video or training!?
For ppl with self medicating behaviors not all are acting from escaping a negative element. It has been suppressed over time then becomes automatic without a triggering event
Love your comment about self medicating, yes! Re: subconscious, unconscious beliefs - that is a wonderful place to assess, I do a lot of implicit reaction work with clients to explore fusion, rules, stories they have about experiences.
All of the meditations in this 30 day course so far have been wonderful. I have always loved therapy orientated meditations. With this high quality I am surprised that your likes and number of views are so low. Perhaps people just don't know about you.
Thank you. I've been blocked emotionally for decades, and this finally helped me feel the grief and sadness I've needed to feel to start moving forward. The words I needed were " I love you, I choose you, you are my priority, you are my favorite because you are wonderful "
Thank you so much for the compliment. Please stay in touch and let me know about your journey with ACT and don’t hesitate to follow-up. If you have ideas for future videos, I’d be happy to put together a specialty topic for you.
