Thank you for sharing but how did this gentleman achieve this? What work did he do?

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I loss my son Steven 10 months ago. His death was devastating. I was in shock up until the 7th month and doing okay on auto pilot at an 8. Now I’m at a 3 crying often, and I have isolated myself from my family due to insensitive comments. They want to compare me to another family member who also loss a son a few years ago, but we are not the same person. I have a routine but find myself crying or angry most days. I tell ppl I’m okay but I’m not. I recently had a panic attack when my daughter left the house and I wasn’t able to reach her. Working out and reading books helped in the beginning to relieve stress. I think I need therapy but I just relocated w a new state and don’t know therapist here. I want to get back to an 8 or 10 and live again. Where do I begin? 😢 Thank you for the tips ❤

Help me,,, i dont want to live like this

Imagine all the time of my past and keep comparing from the present

Its been 6 year since losing my wife I am in extreme pain,stressed frustrated depressed

Talk about grief I lost my wife and mother and son all in less than six months

She's right. I also believe we do it subconsciously. It's part of the grieving process , i think.

True...thank you

Thank you this was beautiful...I lost my 24yr daughter Grace 9 months ago and just subscribed to your channel tonight...looking forward to watching more...Thank you Lord for giving me strength to carry on.

I journal, but I do it in a form of writing to my loved one, dear Phil, tell him all the details stuff that I used to tell him that I have no one to tell now, personal stuff that you can’t tell anybody else. Stuff that nobody cares about but your loved one. That’s how I journal. for all, we know he really is reading it too❤

This was so beautiful, thank you

🥲thank you

My entire world and even my "identity " changed on Nov 8 when my 29 year old son went into cardiac arrest and died. There IS no "getting better". The months tick by and look a little different than when it first happened but I would not say that it's "getting better". I would describe it as my new existence.

I wish you can help me ??! I’m 1 & half years just since mum left. I feel like it’s 2 wks still. I think the Narcissist I met in her in the last 1 of life while living with her.. did the most damage on me being able to recover better. Where as before hand my sister was the one who coped it all from her. That shift in who she wanted to blame was the one who loved her the most unconditionally.. and that was me. When I couldn’t cope anymore I was threatened by others under that “ family “ umbrella. I had no job or money as I was her main live in carer. I begged for help. But she would change the story when help came. So help wasn’t really there. If it was it meant she had that person and me. Instead of it being time for me to rest and quietly grieve in the shed where I had to live if I was to stay alive and keep my dog. So my grief is so complicated and I’ve had 7 days of counciling only. Today I realised I can’t look after myself atm.. coz my health fell to the ground. With no one to ask for help around .. My life was so different before this .. I am so alone in my loneliness. If I make it out alive I will be happy .for that would mean someone heard me and came to help me along , help to rebuild the soul that’s so beautiful inside of my confusion. Confidence is zip.. tonight today I have cried for help till I fell asleep .. I wish for an angel tonight to hear me.. or Mum to hear me . We were once such good friends . Thru thick and thin we had each other’s back.. to have that taken away and changed was so shocking . I don’t have anything to do with any family.. coz they only want her money.. etc.. they even tried changing the will 2 days before she died.. 😭 That makes me want to 🤮. Sorry but it’s disgusting & shocking how it all ended . I’m 50 but feel like I’m 10 ! Hurting like it . I’m in Australia not sure if ur able to help. I wish so. No internet connection in this small town I moved to atm..

I’m going thru all this deep dark grief while going thru C- PTSD & ADHD.. plus grieving the loss of mum. Plus menopause. No family friends support groups nothing. I moved to a one horse town. I’m so stuck scared alone confused and just want mum back.. so I can say goodbye. My dad and sister took mum away from me.. I believe they wanted her money. Coz they never came to help me care for. Only when the end came. I had to do the care when I knew I couldn’t do it anymore. 5 years in said I’d be there and I was sii I messed up . I had to do the work myself with mum. It’s a dark subject still

Before I get too involved in your videos, what is your grief experience? I have lost my father and just six weeks ago, my wife of 20 years from heart disease. She was 48 years old and healthy.

I journaled a lot after losing someone, it helps tremendously. I also like that mindfulness book called 30 Days to Overcome Regret by Harper Daniels.

Im a month in to giref, witness my wife's suffering through cancer, such a beautiful kind woman suffered so much

FML is not an option for many.

Michael B. Beckwith

Agree - to me grief is part of a journey which needs a framework, to know that grieving has stages you go through over time, including healing and recovery, both of which will come to pass but grieving is not the same for everyone so not everyone understands well what you are going through.

Yellow like the Sunshine❤

I question God taking my husband so suddenly 😩

Sorry for your loss😢❤

Have you ever lost two of your children within two months? As a 65 year old man, you are very ignorant, and have no idea of grief. Maybe you should ask someone who knows. I could help you with your ignorance.

Thank you Kelli. You are such an encouraging person. I lost my lovely wife of 51 years 108 days ago (Valentine's Day). And even though it's only been such a short time, it seems like forever. I miss her so badly every single day. I think I'm probably at a 2 at times but maybe at a 3 sometimes. It's very hard, as you know, to adjust to a new "normal" without the person we loved for so long. I talk to her every day. I don't know why, but I do. Sometimes I can hear her voice in my head answering me. I am probably my worst enemy in my recovery because I look at her pictures several times a day. I just don't know what I'm supposed to do from this point on, but your video was very helpful with your suggestions. Thank you. So sorry for your loss.

My dad died two months ago everyday is harder than the day before , last week was my first birthday without him ! It’s harder than hard .

The worst thing in grief is that nothing more makes sense after she is gone, life is not worth living...emptiness takes place of all my being.

I searched for this very title of your video ! I am in the 9th month of loss of my only brother . My big brother. I have had grief counseling… but this time is the 1 year anniversary of when we were informed he was ill .. it just happens so fast !

From the moment my husband died I chose to focus on good memories and praise God for those.

Awesome tops . Thank you.

Additionally, as it pertains to guilt there are a couple of things I learned recently that were quite profound for me and have helped to alleviate some of that rumination. Firstly, guilt can be a way for us to punish ourselves so there's always a possibility that we need to mend our relationship with ourselves because deep down we feel as though we are not adequate and we are looking for a reason to punish ourselves. But second and more importantly for me, was the notion that guilt is something we do as a way to feel some control and therefore not fully accept what has happened. That is why it prolongs the healing. Keeps us stuck in bargaining essentially. After all, it's so much easier to feel guilt or even anger, rather than the *helplessness* associated with the utter lack of control when it comes to death and how and when a loved one will die.

I love that you guys focus on the healing and the empowering aspects rather than wallowing and what not. I felt a lot of guilt for 2 of my previous major losses but the fact is that when my father passed away, I was only 17 and I was a very sheltered child. Even though I felt like I didn't do enough at the time, I was still a child that didn't have the knowledge that an adult would have and I can't blame myself for not recognizing health issues. But when she asked "did you do your best with the knowledge that you had at the time?". I started crying because I did but what I do feel guilty about are those moments where I was a human who lost their patience and yelled and got angry and how do we move through the guilt of that? As you guys mentioned it is a choice and we have to choose to forgive ourselves because it's not a feeling that just shows up 1 day it is a practice and even though it's simple it is not easy.

I still feel very numb and have brain fog. I have only brief moments of reality…it’s been 5 months today since I lost my mom. I did gain weight during this time so I’ve decided to start to get back to my healthy eating as this could be why I feel so bad.

Im really struggling with my partners isolation following the passing of his father recently. He has a tendency to push away anyway but its so fresh he just wants to be alone. Im so struggling with the practical impact of being the sole parent for our kids over the past few months with the possibility of an indefinite amount of time ahead as well as being a doer myself and what im being asked to do is nothing in relation to him 'just' raise three kids and keep going with life until hes ready to come back. Im working hard on my own stuff to be ok with doing that but im terrified the relationship is going to break down because of it all it feels so sad to lose what was a loving committed relationship and future due to grief. Im more than prepared to listen and get to know the person this will shape him to be but i find it so hard to just wait

No way to want to continue living after loosing a child

Hi, Mike from VRA. Nice service you are doing.

I worked in healthcare, hospital. Management does not care if you have lost loved ones. I was told, I showed little joy at my job. That was put on my evaluation. I was told I would be fired if I took a day off. They also did not give me the bereavement required time off, they had stated in their handbook. I decided working for Aspirus In Wisconsin was just not worth it. They contributed to my stress.

Thank you for the tips. I appreciate your guidance. By the way, you are STUNNING.

Such a powerful word with awesome tips and resources 💙

My husband of 54 yrs. Passed away on Jan 20. Today is My 6 and my grief comes on suddenly anytime during day or night. I have never cried so hard or so much

Be authentic!

My husband passed away in January 16, 2024. Today is May 5, 2024, 2:25 pm

Recovery is possible. I stay home and have a couple double vodkas on Saturday night, and maybe have two tokes of weed during the week. Life is good in moderation.

My problems are so compiled that I don’t have time to officially “grieve” as my entire existence now is nothing BUT grief. The credit card companies revoked my credit cards because my wife was the primary on the accounts because thats how they do it even if both cards are identical and both people use them the same. Luckily I dont have ANY debt and everything is paid off as we lived debt free our entire lives. Bad thing is Im self employed and my wife ran the business, I basically quit working in oder to take care of her , the household and our two adopted grandkids. Now that my wife passed Im stuck with back taxes, a dead business that needs shit down, a business my wife owned that meeds shit down and it almost delinquent, personal and business taxes filed extensions and my accountant is too busy to get things moving. I had to apply for new credit cards bjt nobody wants to approve me because I cant work right now cause there js so much to do and I have so many deadlines, pending tax issues , kids and a thousand other things to take care of Ive never been so overwhelmed in my life. i keep seeing all these grief videos bit nobody talks about sotuations like this where a widower or widow is so screwed over with this crap that they have no time at all to take to go to grief counseling and shoot the breeze with people. If I was Jesse Ventura in the predator Id be sayjng “Aint got time to grieve.” Yes I cry when I pick up my 2 year ild granddaughter because I wish my wife could be here loving on her. I cry when the sun goes down, I cry on rainy days and I randomly cry when I think about my beautiful wife that I lost to that evil cancer and I cry for myself because I have so much on my plate, my brain is foggy and dealing with corporations, insurance companies, hospital records, conflicting information from so called professionals and how everything has to be done properly by me in order for this guy to get the information from that guy to make that guy process this that must be approved by that guy….only to find out that there was much much more medical records that needed sorted from independent providers, etc, etc. Everyone say they want to help jist let me know so you let them know what you’re dealing with and they basically say….sucks to be you…..wish there was something I can do. So yeah all these grief videos don’t do jack squat for me. Maybe ill check in a year from now and have much better news.

my husband Phil passed away suddenly in February, thank you for this content

I'm 4 months after my mother passed. I was her carer for 4 years. What annoys me,is that the death of a parent, especially if they were elderly, is viewed as a lesser form of grief...

Thank you for your help during my process. My wife passed 7 months ago tragically. Your videos help.

Well said. However, it is hard to go on living