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The coin-spin between Ne and Si is why INFPs (and INTPs) make excellent innovators, because they are disruptive but also based in establishment. That combination in balance means that they naturally riff/iterate off the whatever already exists in art, tradition, etc. They exist outside the box, but they are almost always box-adjacent, which means that even those inside the box might actually get/appreciate what they bring.
Antonia, you did an excellent job of respecting the INFJ Normalizing subtype/variant, as well as explaining it well! For those interested, Dario Nardi's explanation of the 4 INFJ subtypes is also excellent, here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-1WSy6nzna80.html. I'm an INFJ-N and self-preservation (SP) Enneagram type 4w5. I would guess that a lot of Normalizing subtype INFJs (INFJ-Ns) are also SP Enneagram subtypes because the two, when healthy, have many attributes in common, especially "remarkable self-management." I used to be a mechanical engineer but am now a self-employed, professional Western, Vedic, and Chinese astrologer, numerologist, certified Enneagram teacher, and qualified Myers-Briggs consultant. I grew up with an Avoidant (attachment style) INTP Enneagram 5w6 mom and Avoidant ISTP Enneagram type 9w8 brother so I think Ti is pretty well developed in me from nurture as well as nature (I do have a 5 wing). I wonder if other Normalizing INFJs do not consider themselves conventional or traditional? I certainly don't consider myself that way, although I do have Capricorn rising in both my Western and Vedic astrology charts, 3 planets in my 6th house, and another 3 planets in Virgo, as well as a 40/4 Life Path in numerology. So, the Normalizing subtype fits the best of the four subtypes. Personally, I like combining many different personality systems together to get a more nuanced understanding of a person. 😊
I was a creative ENTJ in my youth. Seeing, experiencing all the ‘fun’ youth get up to lol Then transitioned into dominant through my 20’s learning to control myself and now own business. The harmonizing aspect is coming into effect now as my ENTP GF has helped me be vulnerable and exercise that perspective function again (I was looped into my own worldview and HATED admitting I may be wrong considering someone else’s pov). Now, I’m going to back to creative for business and future planning while I learn to harmonize as I go along
My alarming emotion is resentment. Why am I blaming someone? It's very alarming and I have to figure out my part in it. Happiness=Reality minus Expectations Why did I have unrealistic expectations? I'm an ENTP.
Wallow in grief; wallow is a verb and grief is the emotion. They're not inextricably tied together. Grief can motivate change. I've been decluttering in my grief. It's very zen. I'm an old ENTP (68).
I’m an ENFP .. I’m a professional singer and salesperson at the moment. I was a personal trainer for 20 years and after that I became an event planner. I’ve always wanted to be a psychologist but I don’t have the attention span for 4 year college 😂
Time Blindness is a symptom associated with ADHD and sometimes Autism. It is a non medical term that refers to a persistent difficulty in managing time and perceiving the passage of time. It’s a natural consequence of hyperfocus, or becoming so engrossed in an activity that you block out everything else around you. In sum, time blindness is one of the potential consequences of executive dysfunction a person may experience.
I wish my parents had put that much thought into my upbringing :/ But, alas, I got born in the family of sensors in a communist country. Who knows what person I would've become if I was parented properly, potentially from intuitives. I keep asking myself that question. Thank you for these nuggets of wisdom 💓
As a medical doctor and a mental health practitioner (psychological counsellor) who has been into MBTI/cognitive functions since 2017 and a regular listener of personality hacker podcasts this episode has been one of the most important ones for me. Almost all the episodes that i have listened to have been insightful (wasn't in a mindset to listen to the political/apolitical one given the current state of the world) but this one is particular is very much in alignment with the decolonial, indigenous, depathologising distress and dysthymic mind/body issues and rejecting overgeneralisation of labeling everything as an "illness" and "disorder" perspective. Do agree with looking at nature vs nurture and temperaments/base states of an individual before jumping into labelling and diagnosing them by comparison to the normative standards. Thank you for this episode and all that you folks have been doing - a harmonising intj; afab, audhd.
Inner sanctum... you have no idea how deep our inner parts go. How many of you have experienced fungi in its finest...? The questions you had answered & no pen in sight, grinds you to this day!!!
I love MBTI but know that it’s pseudo-science. (Hoping it closes more in towards science in the years to come.) As INFP-N, AuDHD and C-PTSD, I think including both personality theory and mental health disorders is beneficial. Yes, ask around the physiological needs first, but I don’t want to end with that as the gospel message to save everyone. Nature and nurture both as greatly influential, with something like autism being highly on the genetic side. Thanks for another great and insightful video!
Thanks for the comment! I hesitate to say that Myers-Briggs is "pseudo" or fake science. I prefer to say that we don't have instruments to measure it's scientific validity at this time. If you're interested, here's a podcast we recorded on the topic of whether or not type is scientific: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-RZ0koWstSpo.html -Antonia
As well, I hhave been conflicted about my type, I believed for so long that I was Infp/j but now it makes sense. Also, I'm young and I've always been this subtype of intp. So I'm not sure if this is a function of seasoning. Also, there may be some contradiction there, you said "they may not know they're intp" but you also said they're seasoned intps. This would imply that they had been another subtype before becoming a harmonizing subtype, but if that was the case they should know they were intp. Just felt I should point that out. But yes, thanks again for this video because I know I'm INTP, but not really interested in the detached field of work.
So if in doubt over where you land on IN?J? Just ask yourself, are you comfortable being a hot mess sometimes, or are you a focused on 'effectiveness'?
Very interesting video, I've manually modulated testosterone, estrogen, and dopamine throughout my career and definitely noticed changes along these lines even while in the same position. Some stories and perspectives that I thought I would never have (why I did it). Curious about the other neurotransmitters/peptides and how they might effect subtype. I believe INTJ is my best fit type
Very recently. I have realised exactly what you are saying on this podcast. The content you do is so relaxing. The speed on which I have developed because of the first podcast I listened to from you guys is incredible. keeping it neutral literally just realised is a major factor. Example I the uk they brand the riots as far right they deliberately use hate to stop hate. So you chase what you think is morally right. So these people set up other protests which they believe are a superior belief. untouchable.morality. all of this is hate. I do believe that for shadow work or to love yourself. You have to embrace except your identity. Meaning not just yourself but the history of the human race. They could also be the fact that if enough people do shadow work then nobody has to do shadow work because it becomes part of human consciousness. I think they could be a problem also that it seems to me that the people who are getting called far right by the government and media have done shadow work to some degree. Which might be a corse for concern. One question if I want to do profiler training. Do I have to come to the USA.
Antonia and Joel for co-Presidents! Make America Growth-oriented! Great episode. It reminds me of that analogy of how red and black ants get along perfectly when living together in a jar, until someone shakes the jar. The ants will then turn on each other; the black ants will kill the red ants, and the red ants will kill the black ants. We need to be asking who is shaking the jar.
I'm neutral when it comes to politics and since I'm an INTP my shadow is ENTJ I think their is truth to this because when I'm triggered I notice some of the ENTJ comes out especially when I'm being challenged by petty people so I go into debate mode and I won't back down until that person is down for the count I don't like getting to that point but if I have to that person better run for the hills .
Whenever I hear the story of the subtype versus variant name, part of my brain goes “Just use the more accurate term. Who cares how people feel about it?” I keep having to remind myself that other people don’t think like that… sorry. Dario Nardi’s book has been helpful at confirming my thoughts about my type. I believe INTP is my best-fit and I relate to all four INTP subtypes to varying extents. I most relate to the Normalizing subtype. I’ve always felt too weird to be normal, but too normal to be the stereotypical eclectic weirdo. I would call myself dutiful when it comes to my work life. Oddly the one I would rank second is Harmonizing. I would not call myself a Harmonizing INTP as doubt I have the full diamonds, but I believe he mentioned the partial diamonds in some talks. I’ve definitely have had to adapt some social tools to deal with some of my extended family’s antics. Third and forth are a bit of a toss-up between Creative and Dominant. I currently relate a bit more to Creative’s breadth of interests, but I realistically see myself stepping into a Dominant mode as I eventually progress into a leadership role in my career. With my uncertainty about MBTI assuaged, I guess next I should look more into Enneagram!
It's too bad that we don't collectively decide to make understanding each other our goal. Maybe if we focus on understanding ourselves, we'll have eventually get there. I feel that the more I understand myself the more curious I become about others, but maybe that's just me.
I think the problem is that it's hard to understand people who see minorities as lesser beings. It's hard to understand people who want Trans and gay people to die. I could never hate anyone, even of I don't get their culture or lifestyle, I value all life. It's hard to want to "understand" anyone who hates other humans.
It's too bad that we don't collectively decide to make understanding each other our goal. Maybe if we focus on understanding ourselves, we'll have eventually get there. I feel that the more I understand myself the more curious I become about others, but maybe that's just me.
Also back in the day people used to beat each other with canes in the house of Congress and challenge each other to duels where death is a real possibility but not always.
I'm an INFJ and have been listening to several videos about this personality type. It wasn't until I found your video that I really connected with Your description of the creative subtype. This is so me! I'm curious and creative, love science and figuring out how things work, I explore my surroundings all the time which give me inspiration. If I worked at a desk job, my soul would dwindle away, LOL! I'm trying to find a new career to transition to, it's kind of hard as a creative INFJ but this gives me hope. Thanks!
The question is when they made school they wanted to make workers and military people, then China started manufacturing for us Wood shop music metal shop home economics left our classrooms, so the question is now why are they making political protesters?
This is explaining my self. I keep moving forward and somehow, when I do something I always ended up being a leader. I don't want but yeah it always happend.
No one ever listened to my ideas. Fuckem. At this point theres no reason to care for others if all you get is being used by others. might as well become the villain.
I am an ENTP, and the negative talk is strong in this one. I evaluate myself by the same set of rules you apply to others and the rest of the universe. Sometimes, I don't measure up, and basically, cannot cut myself any slack. Makes for a very honest life, a life of high achievement, but not a very happy life.
I love this, thank you. I am making some peace with my need for harmony. I have seen it as a source of pain since I have felt it is taken for granted, and others are assuming I can create harmony without their help. I have started having more direct conversations with people around this, which is helpful. My goal really is to teach people who do my work with youth to do it better by managing themselves as much as they manage the kids. I believe these skills can be taught and learned. I am hoping my health issues improve so I can do this work, but we will see
My dad is 89 and ESTJ. I tell him I believe his diligence in keeping up his routines is what is helping him live longer. He takes insulin shots for diabetes at certain times, takes medications at certain times and goes to sleep and wakes up and same time, eats food at same times daily. Ex eat sandwich at 4:30pm Go to bed at 630pm. Get up at 3 am. Even watches certain tv shows at same time daily. He is good role model for how to face difficulties growing old. This episode clarified to me how this concept of self parenting Si energy is working for him.