If you have chronic fatigue or adrenal fatigue, you have a weight on you...a giant weight dragging you down, holding onto you...causing your fatigue. But what is that weight?? Most say it's a combination of things: daily stress, poor diet, deficiencies, genetics, inflammation, toxicities, etc. I was told these too and believed them for many years. But it's not what I've found. These were the SYMPTOMS of my illness. I wanted the ROOT CAUSE...and the root cause of my fatigue (the giant weight!) was EMOTIONAL TRAUMA...the month I started healing early life trauma was the month I started healing. So now, I'm on a journey of a lifetime, and I'm inviting you to heal with me! In this channel, you'll see me struggling to learn how to heal the past to heal my body, and along the way, you will gain the knowledge, practices, tips and tricks that have taken me years to learn, so that you can go through this healing process faster and easier than I have and free yourself of fatigue for good!!
Hi Lauren As a sensitive with m.e. cfs and CPTSD, I have found the continuous, escalating, intense energies to be almost overwhelmingly unbearable right now and my fatigue levels have been extreme as wave after wave of trauma, fear and so much other stuff has been flooding me. I'm so grateful to have refound Havening through your videos. Did you ever create a video on Event Havening? If so, please could you tell me where to find it. I just want to say, in case it's helpful, that in my experience it's the other way round, that fear always underlies anger. When I was married and raising kids I would get angry at the mess my husband would leave in the kitchen every day, when he went to make himself coffee and a sandwich.... The trail of breadcrumbs, coffee spills, butter knife, bread knife, cheese crumbs... Just after I cleaned up. But therevwere several reasons I felt so angry. Firstly because I was exhausted and afraid of being pushed beyond my limits by all I had to do every day, and afraid of becoming very ill as a result. I was also angry because of his lack of care and in despair because I couldn't make my voice heard and felt alone, unsupported and afraid of what might happen to my health. I noticed that often we get angry when we feel threatened by a situation. Our fear may be for our physical safety and well-being, or for that of loved ones, we may fear exposure and shaming, we may be afraid of losing our security, our job, our money, our health, our children, our home, our status, of public humiliation etc... Politicians and the media weaponise fear in order to whip up polarized anger and hatred of individuals, minorities and others. The fastest way to whip up anger in someone is by threatening them or their loved ones on some level.. I don't know if any of that resonates.. This has just been my experience. Much love to you.
Thank you so much for this wonderful video which I found today on what has been possibly the worst day I've had in sixteen years of chronic fatigue and complex PTSD. I only remembered Havening technique the past two days as I used to do it before bed to soothe my nervous system.... But I had never come across Transpirational Havening before and watching your video gave me something I had been praying for the past few days....a way to safely release all this emotion and trauma, but by bit, whilst soothing my nervous system. I love how you describe identifying where in the body you are feeling something and trying to sense what that actual feeling is that's being held in that area. And then using the Transpirational Havening to release that feeling. It all makes so much sense, plus I never got on with EFT but I lived using Havening in the past. I always yawn when my body relaxes and releases. Bless you. All love and gratitude. So glad I found your video. PS...am so glad you mentioned past life as I have been looking for a way to release past life trauma. ❤❤❤❤
@@Merializer Thank you so much for your kind words!! 🫶 I really appreciate them and am so happy the video was helpful to you! Sending all the best to you on your healing journey! 💖💕✨️
you give me hope. thank you ! I had none. cptsd, fibro, cfs, trauma, loss, breakup, insomnia, panic, trembling, grief, sorrow, hopeless. Your energy is really beautiful, clearly you know how to heal. Thank you
regarding para/symphathetic and fatigue and excercise... Can excercise be negative ? I imagine its not parasymphathetic .. lets say im now down to JUST 95% of my time stuck in sympathetic. Excercising several hours near daily. It is a place I am "in my body" and it is not hellish, but it is also somewhat of an escape for me. like, the pain of jogging is less than the pain of not jogging.
wow i am so thankful for finding your channel and all this valuable information ! I am surprised to see how many of my symptoms and my life and trauma that you cover. I feel like every video you have fits me so well. Perhaps I am not so alone with this as I thought. Thank you. 3k subscirbers... haha, you just keep it up, I bet 100K within 1 year. Really truly world class content <3
thank you. I have so much hopelessness after a loss, and im thinking of ending. Listening to you and following what you say - I felt OK for the first second in the past 24h of terror horror constant pain
Yes, I know the digging very well, although that it was probably more of a forcing, really. And I’ve just recently learned how much I’ve been digging and forcing within others / outward situations instead of going onward. I’m still in the process of learning how to focus on my very own topics, I’m nit fully there yet. And as to the controlling part: yes, I know this one very well as well. I’m capable of changing some behavior patterns now, but I haven’t honestly gotten to the root if that just yet. Hopefully I can allow that in sometime in the future (no digging, I hear you). As to the pdf: I’ve already has difficulties with “afraid” and I felt like I REALLY didn’t want to go into that horrible feeling. So obviously, you hit a point there (or I did)… Thank you for sharing your story and helpful suggestions!
Thank you for the pdf and video. I'd forgotten havening, will restart that. I think feeling safe in my body is key. I'll check out your course. I also like using lavender and orange aromatherapy oils to calm xx ❤
Thank you Lauren, I'm soooo very glad you are doing your channel. Your explanations are fantastic and your empathy is beautiful. Yay for havening:)). It's such a great tool. I tell people it about it every chance I get. Blessings!!!!
I have Hyperthryroid /graves disease and some other related chronic symptoms. But this totally applies to me. I'd love if you were able to speak of other autoimmune conditions because I think this applies to most of them....if not all of them. I'm so glad to have found your channel, YAY!!!!!
I have been struggling now for an eight year period with a terrible discomfort in my descending Colon or Spleen area . . .very difficult to pinpoint it a 100% exact, but its like an extreme energy draining feeling which obviously resonates with me as a lack of energy due to a blockage. Any suggestions regarding this issue. I have done exercises and dancing , jumping , shaking and yet its not resolving. I have run out of options but it has caused my whole life including finances to completely fall to pieces....any suggestions if you have will help. Thanks so much...Just to put my discomfort into perspective....I am often in a 15 / 10 level of discomfort...😵💫🤦♂
I agree with you about the root cause of self hatred. But some parents do actually blame & hate their children, which reinforces the child's self blame. Thank you for your authenticity & sharing wisdom on your healing journey. I relate to you very much. 💜
Wow, what an amazing video!! Thank you so much. Wow when you said that our body shows us only the things we are ready to deal with! I would love to see a video on feeling worthless, thanks again 💕
❤❤ I used magical mushrooms to get past the protective parts to feel my emotions and get out of the freeze. Developing trust with those little children is the key.
Thank you so much!! I hope you know how valuable your work is 🩵✨Thank you as one human to another. Your video just make my Cptsd journey a little easier
Oh wow, thank you so much for sharing that with me! 💖 I'm so glad to hear they've been helpful for you on your journey. I so hope your recovery journey is going well, and you're noticing improvement in your vitality and sense of wholeness! 🙏 It's a difficult journey, but your body, mind, and spirit is thanking you every step of the way. My heart is with you. 💕✨
Yes, I have noticed disgust for my own anger! But that isn't the origin of the disgust for me. As I've gotten deeper, I've accessed direct disgust as a result of boundary crossing, which is what I'm referring to here. Thanks so much for your suggestion/comment! 😊Blessings to you on your healing journey!!💕
Yeah, I didn't, actually! No self-disgust. I was talking about disgust about times boundaries have been crossed and generally as an energy coming up recently as a part of trauma healing, but not towards the self. Hoping you're doing well on your healing journey! ✨️💕
Thx lauren...am suff.from Cptsd ,anxiety and fatigue ..your vids giving me hope...love from Vienna/Austria❤ p.s..hope u can process y traumas...myself facing shame,em.pain,powerlessness since 4 years..still stuck in frezze unfort. :/ but seem to have moments of light.
I'm so sorry to hear you've been suffering with these symptoms for 4 years... that's so hard. 🙏 I know that suffering, and it's immense. But it's also tremendous that you're on the trauma healing path, facing shame, pain, and powerlessness - the most difficult of the emotions!! You are so courageous and so incredibly strong. 👏You will heal as long as you keep going. I'm sorry you're still stuck in freeze. Keep focusing on the nervous system and listening/opening space for the emotion to be seen. I have no doubt that's what you're doing, but just an encouragement to keep going. Many times are bodies need consistency in those things for awhile for them to trust us enough to let us see it. It sounds like you're doing exactly what your body needs to start to see/feel some light coming in!! 🙌 That's amazing! ✨Definitely confirmation that some things are moving. Thinking of you and sending you much love and support in your healing!!💕🙏💕
Aw, thank you!! I'm so happy to hear it was so helpful! 😊 I agree, working with the fear or anger is so important for so many of us on our healing journeys! ✨ Sending love and support to you on your journey! 💕
@@emotional-answers Thank you Lauren, this is Florence. I so appreciated our session and have faith in your work. I will start working on calming my body first but it feels so good that you are one booked session away if I still will need help to take the next step. Thank you again for starting this channel 🤗 Sending you love and a big hug back ❤
Hi Florence!! 💖 I'm so sorry I'm just seeing this message! Thank you so much for your incredibly kind words and your amazing spirit! ✨ It was so wonderful to connect with you. I love your plan to work on calming your body first and going from there. And yes! I'm just one booked session away if you need any support at all. 🤗Sending big love!! 💕
personally for me, I have gotten much better, and whenever I get like a flare up, I know now how to manage it and take care of myself better. before a flare up period would last like 2 months, now, its like a weekend, or sometimes even way less than that.
I do!! We can't erase the past, of course, and the experiences will always be known and remembered, but I absolutely believe we can process and heal all the painful emotions that have come with the experiences.🌈It's the emotions that, when unprocessed, cause so much suffering in our physical or mental health. And I truly believe all emotions can be processed. It's a process, of course, and takes time when they're concealed in our unconscious, but I know it's possible because I have and continue to experience it. It's astonishing to witness the dramatic change in my physiology between times of being in a wounded state and times outside of one. Just astonishing. I'm still in this healing process, but my illnesses have healed, and I have every intention to keep going until there's nothing left stagnating in my body. Because I am so sure it's possible! 😉 In terms of how long it takes... I think for many of us, something expedites the need to turn our focus on healing trauma (like chronic fatigue), and once we do, often it looks like a concentrated period of focusing on learning how to do this work. Everything might not heal during this period, but this is often the big learning period of how to turn towards ourselves, and in the learning we process and heal maybe the largest bulk of it. After that, grief cycles or other emotions will likely cycle up at various points in our lives, but we usually have developed a completely different relationship with the trauma and the emotions, and so the painful experiences lose their power over our lives, our health, our relationships, etc. So the suffering stops, even if more emotions will come up in the future. ✨ That's my perspective, at least. I hope it's helpful. I really feel your question, though. It's so so hard to be on this path and hold onto hope during it. It's incredibly courageous and takes so much strength to do healing work - I admire every single person doing it. I also really believe we as humans are meant to do this work. I think it's part of the human condition to experience pain, learn how to heal it, and in so doing, gain access to all the wisdom, compassion, lessons, and soulfulness that comes as a result of doing that work. 💗 I'm sorry my answer got so long! lol. I hope it helps. I know we can heal, especially when we stay connected to each other - other people on this same path. 🤗Sending you so much love and support as you continue in your healing journey. 💖🙏💖
Great topic! This perfectly explains how certain family members have been able to control me in the past through showing me disappointment, anger and negative behaviours including ignoring and iosolating me. Upsetting my family was unbearable to me. Long story short i now purposefully focus on processing the internal fear rather than pleasing/fawning, as soon as i realise i want to make someone else feel comfortable, i stop myself, and focus on what serves me best. Its the only way to truly change/heal yourself, and in turn others abusive behaviour toward you. 🙏
You are so spot on! I had a narcissistic dad and didn't realize it until I was in my 40's. I'm still working my way through this! Thank you for this message!
