Don’t need them to do it too- just provide another presence (like the safety of a herd) when I am doing something I feel vulnerable about doing (maybe it’s hard, abnormal or I think I might not be good at it)
Oh.. this is so weird! I always needing this but I haven’t had words for it and all people around me don’t understand this at all. Didn’t know this was a thing. Im 31 years old and NOW I don’t feel so alone in this! 🥺
I only started hearing about this recently, I think it's an amazing thing and know personally it really helps. But recently I've been learning about childhood development and children learn a lot through co-regulation, which is when an adult assists a child through understanding, noticing and responding to their emotions. It's crazy to see the think how people who didn't have their support as a child can often grow up to have these challenges
maybe? I was one of those kids whose parents worked at home and my mom sat next to me while I was working a lot, kindergarten through college. I had very involved hands on parenting and I STILL prefer having someone next to me. They never had to sit next to me. Often I would choose to sit down at the kitchen table or in the living room to do my work as that's where everyone else was and I enjoyed their presence.
I struggled so hard to clean my room as a kid. I always just felt... stuck. I remember regularly thinking, "I wish someone would just come sit in here with me while I clean," like I knew it would help, but I didn't know why. Learning about body doubling years later was a huge a-ha moment!
Not accountability for me, either. It’s something about feeling supported. Having someone next to me to do the same thing but also judging me about how I’m doing it = frick this, I have other important tasks that aren’t miserable. And sometimes it’s literally a stimulation without over stimulation.
