5 signs you have ADHD and autism 

Ooo. Now do ADHD and cptsd 😅

for reeeal I always want to "go do something" but then I try to think if things to do and I'm like "no too loud. nope too many people. no lights are too bright there-" so I just sit at home doing nothing in the end ugh

This is how I feel, I have a love/hate relationship with leaving the house, because I don’t know the overstimulation I’ll have while out and about. Sometimes I realize I’d rather be super in control of my environment than experience something new

Yes!

Yesss! That’s why sometimes I used to go for a solitary walk with my headphones in (in safe areas, of course; it was downtown in a well-lit area popular for people walking around with many cops on foot out and about… be safe when walking with headphones in, y’all). I liked being out and getting some stimulation from a different environment, but for heaven’s sake, don’t talk to me. 😂 I had a that “public transportation-user” pace, where you’d walk with a purpose at a fast speed to prevent people from interacting with you. 😂😂😂

Oh god it’s my problem with warehouse work. I will get understimulation because I can’t keep up the energy to maintain a constant flow of interesting imaginary situations because of being overstimulated. I have an extremely cluttered room… which shuts me down. Until I manage to find enough motivation for cleaning. Then I have about a month of wonderful peace there.

Wow story of my whole life.

Yesssss. I hate making decisions for this very reason. Even when they are both good things, it feels suffocating, it's not fun, I'm not excited, I'm exhausted and I just want someone to tell me what to do!!!! A few weeks ago I was randomly offered 2 amazing job opportunities that were both way better than where I was working then. One was an opportunity for more money, 100% remote work, but extremely strict and was for an insurance sales agent position. The other was 50% remote, same money as my current job, but absolute freedom to do whatever I wanted, and I'd be the agency manager at a local insurance agency. I did not plan on any of this and was not prepared to make a decision... so I begged everyone around me to help me decide, and I had 3 people read my tarot cards (all 3 said I needed to figure it out myself!) I even became so desperate that I Googled a yes/no answer wheel and tried to get answers from that! One gives me structure, stability, and I get to stay home and not people but the other comes with excitement and power and I get to people all the time!!! I wrote out a pro con list but every pro was also a con and I was exhausted, so my ADHD brain won and I was so relieved it was over. My 1st day at my new job is today, and my autistic side is super anxious and my stomach is feeling gross and I'm not sure I made the right decision or that I'm even qualified for this job... but I'm having a hard time listening to that side because my ADHD side is ecstatic, and loud, and it sings, and tells everyone I see that I'm the best insurance agent in the world and they all have to come visit me, at the agency I run... where I now have a ton of responsibility, people to manage, and ridiculous agency goals I have to hit, for the exact same pay as the job I had before... 🤦‍♀️

Thank you for saying what I haven’t been able to articulate in words!

Yeah, we are constantly running between the edges. The edgerunners in the neurodiverdigent society.

Exactly, made enough wrong decisions or impulsive decisions now to never fully trust any decision making I make. 😞

And then completely getting bored of that special interest two weeks later, and never doing anything with it again

Not me reading this at 3:09am

Not fair to the person being pursued romantically when they are not aware of the diagnosis.

​@@hannahcostella57873:17 am here 😂

"gusped" is not a word.

@lancasterritzyescargotdine2602 Really not the point, you murderer of joy. Making up fun ways to say things is my jam and you shallnt sturp me.

Well, doofus, enough people liked my comment that I'm gonna go out on a limb and say you're mistaken, because obviously a few of us WERE actually entertained. But again, that wasn't my point, ya gunkie. I wasn't even talking to you, so my phrasing should not impact you in any way whatsoever. The fact that it bothered you enough to respond not just once but TWICE, and in such a mean way, says far more about your mental state than mine. Lighten up, Frances. I'm always here if you need a hug, for I am NOT a murderer of joy.

​@@lancasterritzyescargotdine2602 you are an asshole

me too xx

Thank you. You are a beautiful person as well.

Thanks, i zoned out thinking about myself after the first possible sign. Then i heard something about "organizing stuff and cleaning clutter" so i searched on IKEA for some drawers. Also im at work, and should do some things here! xD its not easy...

For once, a useful comment. Thanks so much!!😊

Thank you!!!

Thank you! Ring light reflection just threw me way off from paying attention 😅

this hit home, i literally dont talk to people, its like im invisible or not even there but when im around my friends im the most extreme and i do the most random and crazy stuff, thats when i realise how much of my energy is put into masking

THIS IS LITERALLY ME. My friends don't get me, because I've always been really outgoing, but I am probably the STRONGEST introvert I've ever met. Like, there have been times I have literally hidden from people so I wouldn't have to engage in spontaneous, unplanned human interaction. I simultaneously crave time with my friends, enjoy talking a lot about topics I find interesting with people I enjoy being around, AND also find myself so incredibly drained by the speaking-and-listening balancing act of human communication that I craaaaaaaave and deeply need periods of alone time. The best way I've ever explained it to people is that I'm an "outgoing introvert". But this... well, this could shed so much more light on why I am the way I am.

This would explain a lot! I could never quite identify with being an introvert or extrovert and also thought of myself as a social introvert...

This is literally me. I’m very introverted and my family always describes me in that way and I never talk to people I’m not super familiar with. But when I was in elementary school I always got in trouble for talking. Thing is it was always my close friends that I talked to. No one believes me when I say I got in trouble for talking a lot but my 5th grade teacher literally wrote it on one of my report cards lmao And I most definitely need to be alone a lot.

@@demonic.scientist so so true , I tried to explain how different it is and my mom just thinks I’m shy at first then I get crazy .

“I'm physically disabled in addition and I haven't yet found anybody that talks about how ADHD impacts someone who is physically disabled (with chronic pain/fatigue) and vice versa (how physical disability impacts ADHD traits).” Maybe you could be this person?! 😛 just a random thought

So I'm ADHD and while it's not a disability, I have tinnitus and sensory issues with hearing and oh my God. It's awful whenever it kicks in. It genuinely hurts a solid chunk of the time

​@@hylianhero1921 Just for your information, ADHD is actually a disability by definition! It may not impact your day to day life too much, which is what I think you meant to communicate, but it's worth understanding that ADHD is a disability in case something comes up where identifying it as the disability that it is could be really helpful (for instance, reasonable accommodations for work or study, if something happens to aggravate your ADHD and you need medication, etc). Many disabilities don't actually hinder the person much, but it's good to know for informational purposes that disabilities that are under control/well managed and not crippling are still disabilities! My friend with Chron's Disease pointed this out to me, actually. She said even when her Chron's is in remission or managed to the point of minimal symptoms, it would be pretty unhelpful to say it wasn't a chronic condition and a disability, because if she minimizes it while it's less severe, it's harder to be taken seriously when she needs it. That really stuck with me. Hope this helps!

@Wyld_Wych - I have an idea: *_Oxytocin_* I have a friend who was bedridden for 15 years with CFS, then he discovered Oxytocin (the "love hormone"). Now in his late seventies, he walks in the park every day, rain or shine, and does some fairy intense physical exercise at a high level, and much more. Will it work for you?

I have scoliosis and ADHD diagnosis, my scoliosis definitely affects my hyperactivity (or lack thereof). I'd probably be able to sleep better if I could get out more energy but I'd rather sit because it's physically more comfortable, running hurts.

Thank you.

I'm struggling to parse whether she said 13 to 18% which is in line with stats I've seen from a credible source, or 30 to 80% which could be true but I've not seen. Anyway though, yes, thank you for this I'm too tired to watch this right now, and this very much applies to me. I've had people who don't understand my brain tell me I'm a split personality, when the problem is I'm literally more intelligent than them with more depth, critical thinking skills of awareness of Cognitive Biases and Logical Fallacies and more, but also a brilliantly chaotic shambles who can't keep my room clean, or do many basic adult things yet despite my grand old age, and often can't remember what I had for dinner yesterday, never mind what I was doing the day before. I like my own space, the comfort of doing the same sort of thing day in day out, but every now and again I get a craving for adventure, sometimes wildly impulsive ones that have taken me to other countries on short notice to meet someone I barely knew. My head doesn't so much meltdown, as shutdown. Barely think, can barely register anything people say at times, though usually hyperactive, giddy, thoughts and words goinga million miles an hour. Else often quite nervous about going out around those normies, other times life and soul of the party. Very intelligent, relatively mentally healthy after a very messy life. but also can't remember details. No skill for maths and material sciences and remembering equations and blah blah blah. Humanities is more my area. My split personality? Well at one end I go trolling sillies all over the political spectrum with Facts and Logic. The other end I spend time in psych / mental health comment sections trying to be helpful. I've been so hyper for so long doing things they find unusual, but not actually a problem, I got labelled manic. Else lockdown mode. Labelled depressed. Accused of being high and manic when hyper and happy, or stoned when I'm just tired, chilling, or depressed. At most times have a fear of crowds and cities, but sometimes love to melt into the crowd, be part of it, see those normies up close, just so I can enjoy being at home more 😂 My special interests? Anything that grabs my fancy, though usually, in descending order: Philosophy / Psychology / Politics / History / Physics / Economics and more, and running through them all is just having a laugh. I have been through states of psychological and multiple types political extremism and understand extremists better than many ever will. Found my way back to reality after a messy start to life. It is an apt irony that the more you are accused of being crazy for no good reason, by people who won't even try to listen and tell you you're the problem, that it sends your mind to dark places and *makes* you go crazy. Facing ACCIDENTAL gaslighting from the NHS and my own family and other official types, in eerily similar langauge as when facing wilfully deliberate gaslighting from some previously poorly chosen friends. "you're unwell take your medication" from both family, friends and enemies in disguise. I am generally a forgiving pacifist type, but once that line has been crossed, people get... *T O L D* and given a very short time to sort it out, then immediately forgotten. I can and have burned bridges with family, 'friends', bosses, jobs and after a life of much fear, I don't fear much anymore. Who I was, is already dead. I've got a critical thinking playlist full of stuff from great channels if anyone is interested. ru-vid.com/group/PL1saVby-OHik5NvCgSqrT9cB4_mbbKA8K Else on ADHD, I really recommend the How To ADHD channel. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-cx13a2-unjE.html

I have both

Thank you!!

Massively helpful, thank you

Very well said. I am in my 50s and I wish I would have known this when I was as young as you. Bravo for figuring this out so early in your life. It took me years to figure it out. We should never feel tied to our hobbies. They are there for fun, distraction and creativity. Then on to something else when we feel the need, that's all.

That's me with Crochet. I did teach myself but concentration and counting was frustrating therefore not pleasurable to do. A bit boring and not fast enough results. I can't stick to instructions and ad-lib 😂then things go pear-shaped from then on but to begin with I was hyper focused with it. Now I have lots of yarn in a big bag 😂Just sitting there just because I might need it again or finish a project I started.

Thank God you figured it out. We, women, often put so much pressure on ourselves to make money on our hobbies. We feel guilty just enjoying ourselves. I am now 59 and finally have hobbies without pressure to create for the public, friends or family.

Wow, thank you for sharing this

Are you me?

Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them

YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

@Tagar We'll see what the doctors have to say... obviously, I'm not a professional, so there's a chance I'm wrong!

@@JakubWaniek don't listen or reply to bitter rude trolls. You go your way, I feel for you!

Like a horoscope, this is general enough to describe a lot of peoples lives.

@@zhonguocha I mean, it depends on the severity right? Every symptom of autism and ADHD can be "normal" in isolation; there is a diversity of personality types among people. But when these symptoms consistently impair one's function, we can start to potentially talk about some sort of disorder. Besides, you can tell from my comment that I didn't just, like, watch this video once and decide I have autism and ADHD. These are things I've thought for a long time (in the case of autism, about 10 years!) and I am currently waiting for a diagnosis by a doctor. They will assess my symptoms properly

A lot of us flew under the radar as public knowledge and education about ASD and ADHD is a very modern concept, vs "oh that's just the slow kid" or "the village idiot" historically. (Yes these are awful examples, but those were terms used, no hate intended from me.) A lot of our generation's - and previous - parents were clueless about the POSITIVE points of being Neuro-Diverse or even how to recognise it, let alone get us diagnosed and given any help we need.

I describe myself as an introverted extrovert, or a “socially awkward extrovert with social anxiety”

@@user-hn5nu2wi4owhat’s the name of the herbs?

That's us

Yes

I wrote a whole song called introverted extrovert 😂😂😂 didn’t know until this video

Most parents always want their kids to succeed, his view of success adjusted. Sometimes professionals are all it takes for our parents to listen :)

This resonates with me, but I'm still connecting the dots for myself. If it's not too personal, what were the things? I have a feeling this may be quite revelatory for me. I'm so glad your dad now understands and wants to be supportive. That's a wonderful outcome! And good for you, getting your own place! Sounds like you're doing well. I love a good success story. 🙂

​@@lisakukla459 The things I had trouble with were things like doing chores and paying bills, I NEEDED someone to sit me down and show me step-by-step what to do or where to start if there was... say... a mountain of dishes (we are a big family), or else nothing would get done. I can do them perfectly well once I know what to do but I couldn't, still can't, figure out how to do such things by myself.

Not many parents are open to learning or changing long-held beliefs. It sounds like you have a great dad. It’s super cool that you’re able to explore your independence while having your father’s educated support.

Did you (OP) ever feel like offers of help coming from people who you *don't* think understand you are actually just "offers" to rob you of autonomy while doing a task? Like, is your suspicion that they'll just yell at you for not making good use of *their* time while you have it, because you have to do things on *your* pace, and doing it any other way is just way too stressful for you? Maybe you reject help from these people because of how stressful the process will be for you, beyond what it would be to do it alone -- if only you could just do it -- and you also feel that they'll just resent you afterward? Asking for, uh, a friend who totally isn't me. (It's me. I'm the friend.)

I had a friend who was medicated for his adult ADHD and suddenly started showing autistic traits. Do you think the medication that was helping you might have augmented those traits? With him, it was as if once he could focus, he focused so well that he couldn't un-focus even if he wanted to...like those of us on the spectrum have trouble modulating. Do you think that could be a thing? The medication that helps you also throws you into a state where your autistic traits become much more pronounced?

@@lwallsyeah! Sorry I’m really tired so my reply won’t be as long as they usually are. Their ADHD may have masked their autism to some extent or even completely, and the focusing thing you mentioned is often hyperfocusing in ADHD and special interests in autism (there is a difference but really sorry I don’t have the energy to type about it 😅)

My 12 year old daughter Asd, Adhd When medicated we see her Asd...when her meds ware off .the Adhd over rides the Asd...

woah woah woah…. wow okay that’s…. wow…… that is also my experience…. thank u for sharing, friend

Meee! Right as I got diagnosed with ADHD I got medicine, and I started feeling different. At first, I tried to blame it on the Medicine, but that wasn't it. Then this video about autism in girls appeared. I didn't know much about autisim, and decided to watch the video. I thought hey I have some of those trates. Then, later on this video appeared. It was soo relatable. But Im still too nervous to tell anyone because I've never felt this way till now, and they might think In lying for attention. But thank you for making me feel like I'm not the only one! 😊

Soft Box lighting would probably soften that bright moving glare instead of the popular circle light.

This sounds like me, I love socializing, with a low social battery

Yep, those green circles just take over the whole screen :( Had to scroll down and just listen coz I couldn't watch after a while.

@@sueburn536 ditto

i never thought id run into someone i know in the youtube wilds just almost blew my mind as much as the video.... im shook

I have autism, I was diagnosed with it when I was 15. I tried shrooms and it made me function so much better.

Eek I’m autistic too and might wanna try mushrooms. How do I go about it?

Yeah doc.brenttt is your guide. Man is exceptional with anything psychedelics.

Hello Can he be reached on IG?

Yes doc.Brenttt

Same @ 40 years old.

@@jamesbryson9542 42, not diagnosed but pretty sure I have both.

Same.

36 and same! I have been diagnosed autism, but more and more I’ve been spotting ADHD symptoms too… symptoms that made me feel like a complete fraud because of the apparent contradictory nature! I immediately sent it to the parent who knows me best and interestingly enough I think it may apply to him too!

Ptsd, I vibe with those people

Wishing you the best!

congrats!!

I was at a company party. Talking alot as usual, and someone had mentioned that I talk alot. They meant it as a compliment, that I was personable. But I confessed that I hate it, and I wish I could be quiet and only speak if I have something relevant, and listen better. For me talking is a compulsion. It's refreshing to see that other "chatters" out there share my desire to just be silent.

@@waynepalumbo8917 : a mono autist once told me that he enjoyed my company since we share so much similar interests, but he could only tolerate my company for a short time, because I would max out his social energy quite quickly. Me being neurodiverse in both ASD and ADHD I could relate to that, since I can be a 1 person party of 10 sometimes (when I meet kin folk).

@@waynepalumbo8917 I am with you 50 years as chatty man, who felt at odds with the entire human race. I always felt like an alien living amongst people who looked vaguely similar. My hyperfocus is immense, and I am very personable, and able to build relationships - but only if I find they are of value to my hyperfocus bit. I also love spending time alone, and talking to no one -which for years felt like an oxymoron to me. Some find me really strange, and one of my children has autism, and the other ADHD. Turns out i have ADHD, with a nice cunning twist of Autism. I always wish I could be quiet, and just sometimes coast through life - but I cant. It turned out when I opened up about this at work, that a separate senior manger suggested a wish to be able to say what needed to be said, at the right time (they indicated I was able to do this). I didnt even realise I did it, but I learnt because I did, others hid behind me and let me sometimes challenge our leaders in ways they wouldnt dare. Who would of thought I could be of benefit to improving our business. Yet I have got into trouble for saying what needs to be said. I hope your situation is working out for you. I have learnt to love who I am, and how I am.

I’m in my 60’s and I also have just made sense of why I do what I do thanks to this video

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Me, too.😢❤

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I hear 'ya!

This was exactly my experience too. Though it’s great to see education and childcare professionals trained in recognising neurodiverse traits and picking it up in preschool and referring parents onto specialists early. Gives me hope that the next gens of children will be better prepared and hopefully won’t have to struggle as much as we did

I feel VERY depressed about that exact thing. I keep crying bc my dreams were crushed but they focused on my brothers adhd and ignored mine.

@@il_jarrado7203 sadly my parents made me go to a sexist religious school so i am still suffering :(

I also had a smilar experience and it’s very hard to deal with

This was me too! I was also a daydreamer and of course the teachers always picked up on that, however to this day my parents believe that I was actually thinking and taking it all in, because I always got good grades. I'd hate to tell them after all these years that I was in fact daydreaming!

i relate to this a lot too! when i was growing up, i would get really upset if i had an appointment my parents would forget to tell me about until the day of or night before, while i would never really stick to a schedule or routine because of my adhd, i would get unreasonably upset if something unexpected came up!

That's normal . There's nothing wrong with you. Stop looking to belong to a victim group. I did this years ago and now I see it for the big pharma scam it is . Don't take the speed.

Same! I hate unexpected change but I'm also almost constantly wanting to "shake things up" and have new adventures or see new things. Then I want to lock it all down and go to familiar places or do the same thing or see the same stuff in the same place at home when I'm stressed... 😅

@jamielawrence4749 Wow . Sounds like you need speed. Thanks big pharma.

Yesss! That's exactly my group of friends and me!! X)

I just end up making friends with neurodivergent people without trying to, later I then find out they are neurodivergent and it's literally happened so many times it's not funny

Yes😊

Standusers attract other standuser

What an interesting point. My HS friends all had some kind of trauma, abuse, or mental health issue.

I'm sorry to hear about your suici***l tentatives and I hope you're doing better now or seeking help if needed. I'm happy you're still here today ❤

This was my experience as well except flipped! I had a lot of things ticked from the asd list, but it didn't all fit, then I looked into adhd and it ALL clicked. Now I'm like ???? wait a minute, maybe I'm both 🙃 I got diagnosed with a sensory processing disorder last year as well (though my psych did note there was no such thing yet).

Me, too, with an ADHD diagnosis. 💜👋

Omg are you me? But mine was unspecified processing disorder 🤣🤣🤣 I have my adhd diagnosis stimulant medication has really helped. I’m getting evaluated for autism next month lol.

The same. I have had exsactky the same feeling. And my child as well. No wonder!!! My father, I, my child and most probably my future grandchildren... Fortunately, there is answer and explanation for our different, difficult, contradictory and confusing existence. Alleluia!

@@aigocharisma My experience is about the same as yours

I had a psychiatrist tell me to my fave I was not autistic, even though I had already been dx’d with both adhd & asd. She demanded I be retested. So, i retested and she had to eat her comments. She left the practice soon after.

Can totally relate to that!

that is a possible sympthom of adhd bro. (not all adhd have that though but some do)

ye i have a simlar thing instead of one lifetime intrests i have like 5000 ive noticed there all around a

Yep...exactly the same for me...if i get into something, i have to learn it all and it consumes me for days till i crash...then i may get disregulated for a few more days to a week or so, then a new topic, or and old interests returns, some come with the seasons, others come with moods, music and drawing are 2 recurring themes, but i have picked up dozens of interest, from astronomy, to boating, precision rifles, arts, botany, anatomy, biology, gorod(best band on earth this month)...i crave both lonelyness and crowds but cant control which it will be in which situation......this is the most relatable video ever. ..i have no diagnosis...this is just how i can describe myself.....maybe i should get that referal after all lol

so many people have it, it's nice to know

You're doing God's work

Yes! The funniest part for me was the moment I realized, "Oh no, every boyfriend I've ever had (and my husband) have ADHD."

I have the same with ADD/ADHD.... But my possible ADHD is just weird idk .... At rhis point I'm only friends with 1 other person who isn't diagnosed with ADD/ADHD or autism and is neurodivergent. I just don't click with "normal" people. Help!

RIGHT

I don't get it? Can you please provide more examples?

lol yeh the loud/quiet my family used to always pull me up on as a kid & even without that, I'd be screaming at them all to shut up & just exploding cause of the noise/stimulation, while actually overstimulating them with my screaming about the noise

@Ignace Alli reported for spam. Herbs don't cure ASD

Or not autism but ocd

This made me think of how few times I could relate properly to people. I've gotten a lot more respect for them now that I know why xD

All of this. 👏

Diagnosed ADHD but have autistic tendencies.

Bro same holy crap I may actually be autistic

I feel that. I have no problem having a conversation with complete strangers (unless its about something tedious, like the weather), but it's rare that I actually make plans with people and form deep or lasting friendships

Yeah very much relate to both these comments. I love meeting new people, I really really love it... but I've also got varying social anxiety and can often go hermit for weeks at a time...

Yup. Lockdown was a relief, actually

Yes! In election years I can spend hours talking to just anyone (except the racists). I absolutely love meeting tourists and give them a little tour. Going to the hair stylist is pure entertainment. But... I have zero friends that last. And I'm not so sure I want one either.

Yes! I want friends, but can't socialize, and I have social anxiety, that isn't crippling in the moment, then I think about what happened and I'm like... maybe I need a shirt that says "I'm sorry, I'm trying my best."

I... I get it now

Oh- this is kind of exactly what I’m going through. Thought it was anxiety too, but I mean one of my uncles has Autism so I guess it’s a possibility. I don’t really want to unpack that though lol

I was taken aback when my therapist hit the nail on the head and told me I must be on the spectrum. I truly understand you when you were having trouble unpacking that luggage. My experience with autism was not good having spent time as an aide in the life skills class...the name given to the class for those that could not function in the general population in school. But I also had to look at the fact that my grandson was diagnosed on the spectrum, but as high functioning, which is very different from the little boy I took care of when I was an aide. Time and research as well as finding a community to help us through it... and therapy to better understand the traits and work with them. I wish you luck in unpacking that 🎒 bag.

The over-analysis. We're Malkavians that think we're Noseferatu

My psychiatrist i had for my ADHD suspected my Autism because i didnt do eye contact and, For some reason, the fact that i used alot of forgin words in my speech, which i still dont get, i know i do it but in my experience alot from my generation does so as well. And of cause im introverted and i focus way better on things that interest me.

I wish you a clarifying journey, dear traveler.

Useful and compassionate comment. Thank you.

that's better than being in the system. We live in such a eugenics age that it's good to not be diagnosed. I've read details of experiments and it seems obvious that psychologists don't really understand. They find autistic people and give them fashionable advice instead of what will help people.

At 40 I didn't feel the need to get an official diagnosis. These things are for us unless we need them for helps. I have no job currently that I would need accommodations for and getting them for Autism is hard, even harder for ADHD. Can in school, which the ADHD diagnosis was helpful at times there. I still had some profs who made you feel like you were cheating the system. Honestly if someone needs more time or a quiet room or a verbal test or whatever, we shouldn't have to have official diagnosis for that. We should just live in a culture that accommodates. As long as you get the work done or learn the thing that needs learning, who cares how or how long. Anyway...figure this out for you. Read and listen to a plethora of people who are autistic or dual diagnosis and if you see yourself there then that is all that matters. If you need it official for an official reason, seek out someone who know how to diagnosis adult non-males. There is a very well known bias that is being addressed but still prevalent, especially in certain countries (cough cough...USA). Feel free to throw literature and facts at them. Ask them sarcastic questions like "Have you ever heard of masking?" or say 'How 20th century of you to believe that." if they are truly being small minded and find someone that understands. More and more psych peeps are online now.

I watched my mother's awkward social skills and learned from my father who was an excellent salesman. It's not hard to hack social interactions with knowledge and practice. For practice I picked up social dancing after graduating university. Talking with senior citizens is not intimidating and talking with peers in very scripted ways is easy. I'm not sure

I can relate to that! Somehow I always was interested in so many things that I learned so many 'normal' skills even up to a higher level than non-ASD/non-adhd people. Studying body language and (micro)expressions intensively for several months made me better at reading people than the average person. Same with studying non violent communication (nvc), suddenly people experience me as very empathic. But it's also confusing myself and others with it, and tiring if I try to read other people constantly if I let myself be dragged too much into social situations by people who think I enjoy that because I'm so people minded and communicative ;) The good thing is that a lot can be learned and masked, both very helpful and tricky.

All of the research on proper socialization and eye contact, and somehow I still feel like a weirdo for having done that. At least I'm not the only one that did and still couldn't quite get the hang of it, especially when trying to talk to a professional, the mask comes on too quickly and articulating a thought turns into are my feet and bellybutton facing the right direction, is my body language closed off, ?eye contact?, fidgeting or no fidgeting and how much is too much? What forms of stimming are socially appropriate in which settings? It's all too much.

This. Yes. I couldn't have said it better myself.

Omg yes! Never put it into words but EXACTLY!!

YES! I get so bored at home that I need to have multiple things going e.g. a video game and a youtube video. But as soon as my partner walks in and starts talking (over the top of the 2 other things) I can't function

Short order cook ...story of my lifetime

Same, Im a good student who´s great at humanities and things that interest me, but gods forbid I have to learn something I don´t vibe with. Also, I feel the time management sooo much. So many things just don´t work for me, but Im slowly figuring things out. I was never diagnosed, so I feel really betrayed that no one ever noticed. We both were.

No need for the disclaimer, it’s one of the most common reactions after an adhd diagnosis to be full of grief and rage. We were left behind for so long and could have been improving so long ago and have to start from scratch now.

I know what you mean 😢 except I wasn’t diagnosed with either of them until I was diagnosed with ADHD in college at the age of 20. I still haven’t been diagnosed with Autism, though I suspect it. I did fine in elementary school where I had support and a set routine at school and could do my own thing at home, but by about 8th grade or 9th grade I started to struggle keeping track of all my homework and getting stuff done and forcing myself to do assignments I didn’t enjoy. Then in college it all became so much harder. Even once I was diagnosed I didn’t get any support or anything for my ADHD and barely managed to graduate. Now, if I were to go back, I would do things much differently and make sure I had the necessary supports for my ADHD, and I’d get diagnosed for Autism so I could get support for that as well. It’s a struggle when I thrive on routine and love routines but can’t seem to stick to them. 😢

I know! We are the forgotten generation. I'm 35 and still waiting on being diagnosed for adult adhd even tho I've had since being little aswel as learning I'm autistic aswel.

School was year after year after year of relentless torture, creating c-ptsd. I'm still battling every single day with the rage of all those adults betrayal and abuse. Nothing got better by me being very intelligent - but only in verbal and creativity areas. It meant I always was told: You're smart, but never do well in school. That means your lazy. Work harder! You're expected to become the next star author! All the other kids saw this, and concluded it was perfectly fine to bully the weird kid. Does anyone else struggle with that constant bitter, bloody monster of memories?

*kind

I Understand! i was diagnosed with anxiety and depression in highschool and it has never felt correct. i finally saw a counselor who suggested i may have autism. well i havent been able to find anyone who can diagnose me officially but we went through all the criteria and it was the first time i felt like i fit in a category! and it made me realize why i clicked so fast with a friend of mine who knew he is autistic. i cried because i know now im not just broken. but through doing more research i have had a hard time knowing if thats all i have because sometimes i still feel really different...

100% agree. Mostly the being noisy yet needing quiet. The most often comment in our house is "you've just asked the kids to be quiet and now you're being just as loud" 😒

That's the worst part, what we tell ourselves or what sticks with us from what others tell us Even having diagnosis and it's acknowledgement of a lot of people around, I still often find myself thinking 'what's hell is wrong with you? Pull yourself together, you're just not trying hard enough' I think it's especially hard not really seeing or hearing other people going through the same inner conflicts, it does feel like it's all just made up in your head Hope your assesment goes well!❤️

Ritalin at a young age squad 🙏🏻

Wow, I wonder if the ADHD figures into our heightened need to mask, and even gives us the ability - it makes sense when I think about it, it's like I am tapping into another personality almost when I am in public around people who aren't my person- my inner circle consists of one boy and 7 cats, haha, I would give my right arm for my family to be alive again, they would be behind this all the way, because they knew something was wrong but I would slide in and out of mental health diagnosis, this autism spectrum+ADHD and I am most definitely a HSP (highly sensitive person) and the most introverted introvert, yet I can make small talk if I have to , and even enjoy it a little sometimes, like with cashiers at stores and stuff- shopping was my people time, I could be close but interaction wasn't demanded, it was perfect - until I racked up thousands in store credit card debt because I didn't have the money to shop, haha. That was maybe some of the mania of my bi-polar, though, a lot of the time... My brain is like Rubix cube to me, and I can't solve one of those to save my life, haha, so here we are... Horses, thank God for horses. Seriously, I had nothing before. I can take care of them and earn a little money without going totally insane, but they couldn't support myself financially and still take care of myself, I don't know what I would do without my bf, he doesn't understand my issues but he loves me and supports me anyway, I couldn't ask for more- (And yet I DO... Joe, if you're out there - "What the f*ck is wrong with me, what the F*CK is wrong with me..." You knew it, too, and the world was no easier for you. At least you had talent. You didn't do much with it, but you had it...) Anyway. I digress, talking to ghosts again, I guess... They are all I have to talk to, most days. And that's usually just fine with me, haha...

@@pariahmouse7794 this was a roller coaster. I honestly couldn’t understand who you were talking to at the end, your boyfriend?

See it's all that history that has me undecided about getting evaluated. I can't decide if it's worth the hassle at this point in my life.

How difficult was it to find a place to get evaluated? How much did it end up costing? What were the tests like? I'm trying to hunt down a place to get evaluated but it's proving so difficult. How can you tell if a place will be fair in their evaluation and not gate-keep? I've had a doctor try to rip away my ADHD dx and chalk all symptoms up to anxiety and that has really terrified me.

@@RutabegaNG many folks pass on the diagnosis b/c they're not struggling so figure "why would I need it"; but speaking from the perspective of someone who was attempting to get a diagnosis at the peak of their struggle, I always recommend putting in the work anyway. It's much harder to do when you've little to no executive functioning. Once done, the diagnosis is at least there when you may most need it.

@@Jade-db1jx Also curious! And gosh, I'm so sorry...that's terrifying...

Hey same here actually! Not only that I am a black mixed trans person as well, and was surprised to even have been diagnosed with adhd as a kid considering most kids diagnosed were cis white males. It's reassuring seeing others that feel the same as I have had imposter syndrome about my asd diagnosis as well

Thanks for doing this for everyone!

@Yuqing Lee I'm glad you have found tools that work!

@@ASMCourtney "Yuqing Lee" has been posting this exact text as a response to various comments, and it matches the "this program/product/food/diet/magic powder cures autism to make parents happy" boilerplate. Approach with caution.

I describe myself as neurodivergent because my only official diagnosis is ADHD, but healthcare professionals have agreed in my determinations that autism and dyscalculia describe other experiences of mine that ADHD doesn't quite cover. I did have to pay for the ADHD diagnosis as I needed help in university and that was the only way to get accommodations.

Same ❤

DUDE FUCKING SAME

It's the same exact thing for me as well. It's satisfying for the adhd to be in public and draining for my possible autism. Homework is an escape from socializing while maintaining the adhd.

I'm diagnosed ADHD and sometimes suspect mild autism might be in play. This video resonated with me quite a bit, and seeing your comment about homework really resonates because it's so specific and I've never heard it voiced by someone else. I loved getting work done while at school because it felt good and easy, and at home I could never stay focused. Often I just started to fall asleep lol. I'm not positive what leads to this, but it's cool to hear someone else mention it

oh my god, i was just innocently reading through the comments and wasnt expecting to be hit with this super specific issue. i was always very fast in doing my assignments in class and i only occasionally struggled with focus, but at home i could not for the life of me focus on my homework. thanks for commenting this

Yes like what’s the deal with that It takes me much longer to do it at home than to do it at school

I have had the same experience. If given in class time to do assignments, I always got them done and did well. But homework was out of sight and out of mind or, if remembered, it was too confusing to do in my home (lots of noise and distractions).

That's awesome that you have been able to use your nuero diversity to your advantage. It's something I struggle with

Try hard enough and you can get diagnosed with many things. It’s a spectrum, I show tendencies for both, and I also have a degree of colourblindness, but I don’t go around calling myself autistic or colourblind.

@@X22GJPshhhh, I’m colourblind too and I tell everyone. You didn’t need to react negatively, but you did. I guess it’s down to choice

@@X22GJP and whats wrong with that? having labels is not a cr1me secondly if they use that to better themselves then what is your problem

​@@X22GJPYou are the problem. Congratulations I guess?

You're not hypocritical for not being one dimensional, I promise 💕 I see it more as chaotic, personally. I can embrace chaos more easily.

I used to tell my mom the same thing when she'd try to clean my room! The few times she ignored me because I let it get too bad, I couldn't find anything and got incredibly stressed, or outright forget I even owned things (still do to this day when my fiancé does the same).

Dual diagnosis means you have both a mental health disorder and a substance use disorder at the same time.

omg your special too yay i love labels

Purple Ella has a great video on neurodivergent imposter syndrome (I feel the same!) And she also had both - good luck getting the support you need

Shit you’re good with words

@@yungmentalproblems get bent.

I struggle with impostor syndrome a lot currently too, I haven’t been diagnosed yet, but Im pretty sure I have both as well. So you’re not alone 😢, it’s especially hard when you feel like the people around you aren’t taking you seriously too, I told my parents and my mom was not really accepting it that well. So it’s pretty difficult especially when you’ve gotten thru life relatively ok (I’m 34 and I’ve always just been the “weird” girl), and seeming somewhat “normal” and people think you’re just making it up. 😒

Just know. you are helping people just like yourself 100 years in the future by showing and telling people who you are and what you feel. I hope you know that. For all future women with adhd + autism ... I thank you for your service! and thank you for leaving this absolutely wholesome comment! It's easy to tell that you are a good person.

Hey, thank you for the information. 58, undiagnosed, sort of lost atm. this video, and other channels has recently opened my eyes up. currently trying to work out how i can afford diagnosis. again thank you

Thank you. It must’ve been very hard. Sharing your story like this, helps me considering going for a diagnosis as well. I have recentelijk been diagnosed with ASD, but I feel like it isn’t really it completely, and then I stumbled upon this video which makes me anxious in a way because it checks a lot of things for me. (me being anxious is because I still find it difficult to be like: “yes I may have something and can ask for help” cause I often tried to convince my whole life to not complain ‘and I am fine’.)

@@miniclip1162 thank you so much!! you're right, i hope it'll be easier to understand and help others like me in the future :)

@@zeromotivation1817 i sincerely hope you'll be able to afford it!! it'll give you a lot of answers you've probably been looking for all of your life, and it might help you feel less alone by knowing that several others out there have the same struggles as you! :)

early diagnosis gang lol. and idk i feel bad as a woman cause I got diagnosed with adhd early on(they told my mom I was gonna need adderall later on, i was in montessori school lol. then 1st grade diagnosis. like I'm lucky to be diagnosed early bc it was so uncommon, but also i was very combination type presenting. I was just enough of a problem for my school to do something abt it lol. but it still never rllly fit. i still go non-verbal when I'm getting yelled at, i didn't display huge sensory issues bc the south didn't tolerate children who were unnecessarily noisy, so i was perceived as well behaved. the older i get the more i notice i have a lot. Vacuum cleaner? absolutely not. soft clothes are a must. i literally cannot produce one thought if there is a slightly distracting sound, but i have to hum and bepop and put a blanket on my legs.

"HAVE it" like its a disease or something??

@@elizabethbennet4791 People say they HAVE blue eyes or HAVE brown hair too, chill out. Stop trying to police people’s words about themselves 🙃

Ya a totally agree I was diagnosed young as well. And my diagnosis never felt quite right. Especially because I never felt at ease with socializing I couldn't handle people who had the same kind of energy as me. But people always said I was good at socializing which always made me think that I wasn't autistic but they didn't know how hard I worked to socialize. That I have read dozens of books on how to socially engineer conversations and situations so people like you. Because I didn't understand people because to me they seemed to make completely irrational decisions. My dad is a psychologist and growing up he always told me I didn't have those traits because I could socialize successfully.

@@alexandrahill8801 Yeah, I was the hyperactive type when I was younger, so that was really diagnosable. Now I think I'm more combination like you. Textures are absolutely the worst, and I've been stimming as long as I can remember. Sounds were and still are horrible; I can't focus with any noise. No one can talk, breathe loudly, I can't have music or background noise and a lot of noise can cause me to dissociate or rock back and forth.

There is actually such thing as high-empathy autism! Autistic people have the stereotype of being low-empathy, but that's only one type of us. I'm personally ADHD and high-empathy autistic, so I can confirm us empathetic autistics exist :)

As someone thats audhd i did think i had bpd for ages. The traits combined can look like bpd. Hyper empathy is extremely common in audhd too

Thank you so so much for this comment. I've been conflicted about whether I have ADHD or autism. I have very high empathy and don't have a hard time with social cues but I do have trouble with overstimulation, emotional regulation, terrible short-term memory and social difficulties. I know for sure I have something but I'm not sure what. I'm leaning towards ADHD

I have AuDHD and I’m very empathetic and adept at reading social cues. My problem is that I see through masks too well and that can feel disarming to others. I tend to be more honest and direct and am also a great mediator. I think the idea of poor social cues mostly has to do with how i physically behave through body language rather than how I interpret others.

​@@cloudhearttherestlessWow...really ?! How did you find those informations ? Would you have some sources/reading recommandations ? Gosh, that could make a lot of sense.... Thanks !!!

Me too! And at the same age! I fully expected the ADHD, as my son had been diagnosed the month before, but I was not expecting the ASD1. I’m still figuring it out but it’s nice to meet a fellow traveler! ❤

I do this with languages. Got basic skills in German and Spanish, love languages and can understand and read a lot of Portuguese, French, Italian, German, Dutch, Nordic languages ect. So I can grasp a lot of information from a lot of different European language. I can just not follow through to be fluent and have efficiency with any 1 language. German is notoriously difficult to learn. So even though that was the first language I took head on trying to learn, it did take many years of spurts of interest in different languages to be able to understand spoken language well enough to conversate.

I ask myself all the time why I want to talk at everyone and want to, as you said, travel, meet a million people, and in my case work on big teams doing big things, but also believe it's nobody's business what I'm doing with my life and I refuse to share it on social media or even when asked about it.

Lolol I also want to travel but I see videos about "Ways to meet new people when traveling." and I think "Meet new people?? Why on earth would I do that and ruin a great trip??" 😂

I do this with humans. Maybe I should get new hobby.

same i have adhd and autism AND IM ALSO SUPER INTERESTED IN MINI PROJECTS

💯 me 🥺😯

Me too! I make routines for everything and only few of them sticked and bring me peace

Same

Me too and I’ve always had extreme sensory issues since I was a child

I feel this same way. I keep feeling like I’m faking or playing it up because I’m thinking too much about it… but why would we fake something that seriously makes us struggle so much for no reason & like hardly even benefit from? 🥲 I mean nobody is hearing my entire inner struggles but yes, I must be faking for attention (despite “masking” to seem normal the whole time 😂) if anything I’m faking being Neurotypical 😭

SAME! This makes me feel so good I thought it was just me. The second I started testing I felt like I was lying and I hated the feeling I still feel that way even though I’m not .

You just explained word for word what I’m going through

Also I’m 20 too

Omgyes

@@nattyjay5257 lol hilarious cuz this is exactly me too but im 46

Me too!

same. diagnosed last week

Omg I really feel that "I know I have ADHD but there is something else at play..." so hard...

I am in the same boat as you. I was diagnosed with ADHD, but I’ve been suspecting I might be autistic as well for quite a while. I noticed that I can relate to my neuro divergent friends a lot easier, but the friend I can relate the most and it’s like we just understand each other has both autism and adhd. 😶😶

@@anahitaeshghtorki8419 same re relating to autism, despite a diagnoses of ADHD. ADHD people I don't actually tend to relate to that well, I think cause I'm on meds that work for me, not sure, but if I go to ADHD support group meets, I just don't click with people there at all really. Would be interesting to meet duel diagnoses people, but no idea where to do so

Hey, same here! Hit me up if you want to connect, it seems our special interests may overlap since music is in your username and I am a producer myself :) Either way, have a a good day and I hope you can get clarity one way or another!

@Mp Really low act to spam this crap on people with genuine health issues trying to cope with them!

Same