My mom and I had a relationship very similar to the first caller although I was the one growing the mushrooms. I absolutely loved the fun times with my ma and miss our connection every day, but, there were a lot of times I needed my mom to be a mom, not a friend, and the lines had become blurred. For anyone idolizing this type of relationship with their parent/child, understand that there still needs to be a balance and boundaries still need to be set. Don't be the best friend ALL of the time because it can really cause more harm than good.
Exactly, like if I had kids I wouldn't want my mom to be the fun aunt or friend I go out to party with to them (the kids), and having this relationship is very interesting and I've known many people who have this type of relationship with their adult kids but I can imagine that there are many times where sometimes you need a mom and not a friend.
@@juancorzo5081 You make a very important point. Our raves can be really awesome and very good energy, but at the same time, many of them are full of self-absorbed robots that want to be influencers and radiate selfishness and vanity. It is a difficult environment to let go of your ego in, because people will take advantage of you to make themselves feel better.
this is rlly sad tbh i think the mother completely dissociated from the fact that she herself is a mother and i feel like the daughter is kinda upset about that but thinks that she shouldnt....
I went to the festival in AK last year that she’s talking about, it’s called Sacred Acre not Spectrum tho. Can confirm LSDREAM did that. It was a beautiful moment!
I go to raves alone ALL the time and to be honest I lowkey prefer it or going with one or two friends maximum. I’ve met so many amazing people just by showing up and having a good time! Now if I don’t see someone I know or who recognizes me at a rave, I’m actually surprised because it rarely happens
I'd pay every dollar I have to have a chance to just smoke a j with my mom. She's thinks it's the "devil's lettuce" even though I'm 32, have smoked since 18, and it's clearly not destroyed my life. If she'd chill out enough to just have honest communication without constantly condemning people and things she doesn't understand, it would help our relationship. Her dogmatism has pushed me away to the point that I hardly know my younger siblings and only feel comfortable visiting for a couple hours at a time at most, probably on average 2-5 times a year. When my dad died nothing really changed there. I envy those who can just genuinely be themselves around their family.
Yet you clearly can't quit if you've been smoking this long, just like how people smoke nicotine or drink alcohol. If you're doing more than just after work/at night it's probably an addiction.
@@M.TTT. If you care to know, I have high-functioning autism and lifelong chronic depression in addition to the religious trauma syndrome I previously alluded to, and every antidepressant I've ever been prescribed made me either an emotionless zombie, a raging maniac, or made me want to kill myself even more than I already did. Cannabis (sativa specifically) is the only thing aside from the occasional strong psychedelics (especially psilocybin) I've found so far that allows me to live a fully functional actualized life despite my disadvantages. If it was good enough for my probation officer way back when when I was on probation for selling weed, it ought to be a good enough explanation for anyone here and now. I'm fine when I don't have weed, but I obviously prefer having it. It alleviates most of the symptoms that had always interfered with simply living life. Yes, there are chronic withdrawal effects, but the same applies to my blood pressure medication. I've seen burnout stoners, I might smoke a couple grams a day but it's not like my life revolves around it or like it's a serious issue if I can't find any for a few weeks. I don't engage in risky behavior to acquire drugs. Running out of coffee or cigarettes, now that's an actual issue lmao. I appreciate the concern, but please know that it's unwarranted. I'm 32 years old, have been contracting with the same moving company for over a decade and now hold a senior position making the second highest pay in the company, and am fully self-employed and self-sufficient. I ascribe to a classical "rugged individualist" philosophy and take care of me and mine. My current poor financial position comes from financial obligations I took on under strong duress at 17 years old and a divorce a couple years ago (she developed a meth and heroin (on my dime and behind my back) and sleeping around problem and got knocked up in rehab lol). I'll save you both stories unless you specifically want to hear either or both. I drive about 40,000 miles a year and have a perfect driving record despite having lived in a relatively accident-prone city for the last ~15 years. I manage to support a disabled girlfriend who is on fixed-income that amounts to significantly less then disability even though she is physically disabled -- her specific genetic disorder just isn't on the disability list. My financial investments are overall in the black, if meagre compared to the average portfolio size. I haven't paid rent late in over 3 years. I have an active paleontology and geology hobby and spend plenty of time outdoors walking creek beds. I'm active in multiple remote and IRL gaming communities including a weekly Dungeons & Dragons group that has been going strong for over a decade. If you want to qualify my marijuana usage as an addiction, that's fine. At least I'm alive and doing all those things. I think a more nominal usage of the term "addiction" would preclude most of the things on this list, though. I think my usage would be more accurately characterized as "medication." My main point about wanting to smoke with my mom is that her personality's "openness" would probably score a -10 on a 0-10 scale. Dogmatism supersedes everything for her, she's in a cult and will never tolerate even the expression of ideas she doesn't already hold as true around her, and I just want to be able to have some semblance of a mutually charitable and respectful relationship with the one parent I have left. Sorry for the essay, that's probably the autism lol. Anyway, I think I've sufficiently substantiated my case, but let me know if you think otherwise and if so why.
@@M.TTT. As to your specific claim that I "clearly can't quit," I actually have voluntarily quit for up to six months at a time for various reasons. It's not that I can't quit, I simply opt not to because the obvious benefits outweigh any tangible detriments. If I have no reason to quit and many reasons to continue, and thus I opt to continue, that's not really so much an _inability_ to quit as it is simply exercising personal agency. The fact that something is continually done doesn't _necessarily_ mean that it can't *not* be done, that argument alone is simply a _non_ _sequitur_ as the conclusion doesn't logically follow from the premise. Just because the Fed keeps raising interest rates doesn't mean that they can't _not_ raise interest rates next time they meet, right? My dad always said "to assume makes an 'a-s-s' out of 'u' and 'me.'" Maybe you assumed too much and asked too little by presuming to have the requisite knowledge to diagnose a total stranger via a single RU-vid comment.
@@ThorsDecree you're condition is very common, could be describing me tbh. Its way better to smoke than use those horrible anti-depressant or any pharmaceutical, those are all poison that will either chemically lobotomize you or make you go insane. I'm assuming you don't need a CDL for those trucks, the govt really needs to make it legal for CDL drivers to use cannabis.
@@M.TTT. Nah, most I ever pull is a box truck + 24ft trailer. Don't need any endorsements, just a normal license. I agree about the CDL for sure. I've considered driving a semi, but it wouldn't be worth it for me for a few reasons, not just the random drug testing for CDL. Studies consistently show that moderate cannabis use doesn't have a positive correlation with traffic accidents. Many cannabis users actually drive more safely than the median American driver. NHTSA crash reports tend to agree. I mostly blame my physics education for my safe driving lol. When you see everything as inertial vectors, it's pretty easy to not take any stupid actions while zooming along in a massive metal death-machine, and regular maintenance means there are seldom any dangerous mechanical failures. I've narrowly avoided being hit by idiots a few times. It's somewhat infuriating how much I pay for insurance simply because I live around so many worse-than-average drivers lol. I spent $1500 on my car, probably about $1k in total maintenance over the last 3 or 4 years, but about $4k on insurance over that same time period, and that's just state minimum coverage. Meanwhile, it's legal to drive at 0.07% blood alcohol content and it's actually legal to drive without ever having had an actual practical driving test in Mississippi! Garbage state, but cost of living is low and I have some good people here. I'll always be an advocate for evidence-based policy. I for one will welcome our robot overlords lol.
Lyle, i gotta say you're one of my role models, i love ur stuff, been binging your tokyo streams and i wanna know where them sitdown interviews there went?? the people wanna see!!
Moving abroad permanently or at least an extended period of time is one way to go from just a mundane life to being a rockstar on everybody’s social media timelines. I have friends that almost went to the NBA and a friend that played in the the MLB for a little bit, and their lives are in the shadow of friends that took off one day and live in Malaysia or Cuba or another friend that became a scuba dive instructor in Thailand. It’s crazy how it’s just a plane ticket away from living this exciting, wild, and crazy life. I say go for it! Worst case you come back with a couple crazy stories and go back to regular life
I've got one of those kinds of relationships with my mom, which I'm currently trying to return back to a normal mother-daughter relationship. It's vastly overrated.
I have done all drugs and a ton of mdma, shrooms, lsd and I could see how this would be cool. But, I would not want this with my parents. If it was only once or twice on vacation and we knew that was it-I would be down. Just wouldn’t want the parent/child dynamic to change
regarding the hand holding at the rave mantra part "someday you will pick up your child for the last time" -don't know who and not verbatim, but feels relevant
I nuked my family when I was 16. I have 5 brothers and sisters and a shit mom. I haven't been home in 20 years and haven't looked back. I barely talk to any of them. I ran away to the military, then I left for Iraq as a civilian contractor and now I just jet around the world living my life. I had a huge and close family growing up and had one in the military but now I'm 35 and love being alone. I don't desire a family life. I don't understand why people would stay in relationships with people who give them problems.
I'm always so curious about how Lyle gets those backgrounds going while he is wearing bright green. Like, what colour would the "green screen" have to be to prevent Lyle's outfit from getting ungecked?
If you ask me, it's an absolute miracle this woman turned out to be a thoughtful, emotionally intelligent woman with a mother like that. Most would've ended up in a much worse place with that horrible of a role model/guardian
Yeah totally...raving with your THIRTY YEAR OLD kid means they're a bad parent. It's defo not a woman trying to take an interest in what her daughter enjoys while enjoying her own life after her husband's death. Let me ask you, are you a thirty year old who still needs their mommy?
its a good thing no one asked you to make wild assumptions about shit that wasnt covered in the video. alcohol is worse for you than mushrooms are. and they are both gown adults anyway if they want to go take a little fungus and enjoy the night thats on them. educate yourself instead if just assuming shit
my pops and i are in a simar situation. we dont rave together but he always asks for mushrooms haha. we also have blasted DiMiTri together. we get along like homies and hes always there for advice and father things. dude is my best friend tbh. i could see it being wierd if he was trippin with my friends lol. first caller knowz whats up
Seriously, shut up. Her kids are thirty. If you're thirty and your mom living her life (especially one that overlaps with your own interests) bothers you, you need to grow up. So many judgmental people.
bruh. shes taking shrooms and enjoying life her mental health is probably on point. chackras aligned n shit. idk about molly though i feel like her come downs cant be that fun
I think the mom caller may find Patrick Teahan’s content to be enlightening on her parental relationship/family system… just wanted to throw that out there.
@@blyat3458 it’s not every time, but for example when you replied to me, the notification had your username with an @ in front of it. Right now as I reply to you it’s the same thing, but when I’m scrolling the comments it’s usually without the @
Nah im so jealous i want my parents to join my rave family for a fest :((( none of my family has gone w me yet im trying to take my sis to lost lands. I just want my dad to go w us
