“I’m at the Biggest Crossroad of my Life, especially in my Relationships" Who Can Relate? S2- Ep.14 

Having a high level of self awareness is the most challenging thing sometimes. There comes a point where we have to connect our awareness with the execution and it is NOT easy. Unlearning and breaking patterns and trauma is hard, hard work. I can definitely relate!

I typically listen without commenting however this video really struck a cord within me. Your Immense vulnerability is admired and appreciated. Fear of abandonment can feel crippling as there is such a safety and comfort in sitting in the predictable and the known yet such discomfort and anxiety in the unknown . Often times it feels as though you are having an inner war within yourself. It is deeply knowing the change required and knowing that you are loved and that you have love without being able to truly sit and be present in that love. I wish you well on your journey to happiness and your security in love

It’s encouraging to see how the podcast is growing, primarily because it implies more people are seeking this content. It’s also encouraging that your podcast gives voice to the emotions, thoughts, battles, intentions, etc. of self aware humans on their growth paths. It’s so refreshing to hear this male (and in many ways, simply human) perspective. It gives me hope as a single woman that there are more self aware men making the effort to be better humans and partners and expand masculinity beyond the caricatures of “masculinity” that aren’t serving themselves, those around them, or those seeking to share in love with them.

“Just bc you have to ask for help doesn’t mean you failed it means you’re not alone” omgggggg that’s soooo real!!!!!!! Thank you JD I loved this episode 🙏

Thank you for sharing and being so brave, courageous and vulnerable. You shouldn’t have waited so long to tell your daughter your truth. My therapist told me to tell my 8 year old my truth and just enforce the love I have for him at the age of 2 when his dad took him from me. You also need to hold faith she will see your truth at the right time in her life and be able to accept it if she never does. To lead with love, Relinquish control of life and control of others including those closest to you. You matured in your own time and your daughter deserves the same grace. During this video, I’m reminded of your conversation with your mom. You were the more adult, more mature, more calm and accepting one. Show up for your daughter in the same way. Let her be the child and she will appreciate it and will continue loving you as we all know she does!! 😊🌹❤️. You have to be the bigger person because the seed is placed inside you to be better. The elevated life chose you. You are an esoteric thinker that doesn’t fit in everywhere for a reason. #LeadWithLove #WeCanTotallyRelate. Thank you!! 🙏🏾

Phew this episode rattled me. It was like hearing my own thoughts at some points. Such gratitude for this episode, for your vulnerability and for this podcast. 🙏🏿

Always with the amazing content. The abandonment wound is a hard one to overcome as I’m dealing with it myself . Later on in life it’s really hard to not live in fear with friendships and romantic relationships because of that wound. You’re not alone !

The path to love is not meant to be rushed, it’s meant to be savored. Our fears are not meant to be judged, but used as a catalyst for our souls evolution to love and oneness. It’s all a process. Thank you for sharing your truth. 💫 Also, when you spoke about the younger Justin.. it’s like our inner child, who we need to raise and show them the way to love. We need to allow our inner child to grow up so that they can be viewed as an “asset” and not an “enemy”. And maybe the juggle with fear and love is not leaving that inner child, but taking them with you on this path.

hearing your perspective as a father broadened my mind as a teenager. I didn't realize just how much I misunderstood my parents and still do. I'm not at the level of having a heart to heart with them but I empathize with my father way more now. `

✨🔮I listened to this episode while at the gym. It helped me connect dots with so many things I am currently dealing with. Thank you for leading with love in this episode. Healing is a beautiful journey not perfect. Being adopted I have always been in a flight or flight mindset. I’m now 29 and in Therapy, I have a son now and feel like I owe it to him to be the perfect person, everything I didn’t have. But with that comes with so much shame and guilt which doesn’t allow me to always lead with love. I’m also learning to let go of my need of control. Life is a trip and I am finally able to cry and laugh about it all. I am wishing you all love and abundance. ✨🔮

Really well done JD, I really felt this one, specially the part about missing out on our children's lives & repairing what our parents couldn't.

Beautiful job JD! Watching your evolution is truly inspiring, so much love to You, Shay, and your beautiful family now and to come. 💗 Your transparency and vulnerability is so needed! Please continue to be gentle with yourself and likewise be gentle with your daughter.💕 She like Shay can feel your Love versus your Fear, she’s loves you and ultimately doesn’t want you to hurt at her core. 💔 She wants to feel you oneness with her, she is literally part of you, a branch from your trunk. You got this, you both do, you all do. Love is the compass that will lead you through the jungle that is life. ❤️

Thank you for being transparent and letting us in on your journey . Definitely pulled some heart strings and it’s refreshing to listen as I can to relate . Wisdom is power and pray nothing but the best for you !

Always appreciate the vulnerability you give in your content. I’m glad you have so much awareness and willingness to acknowledge your shortcomings. Even now I myself question what is happiness and how can I get there but you have to remember that happiness is not a destination. It is a mood. Remember that you’re already so worthy. Your girls are so lucky 🙌🏼

Universe makes no mistakes I needed to see this & you were pulled to record or release this for a reason

loved this episode, im 27 with no kids but i can relate to the relationship part of this. the limbo between love & hate while trying to process the situation we have been in while being in a state of love and/or hate. its a weird place to be in but when things feel weird & uncomfortable the only thing i relate it to is growth .

I relate to this so much it's crazy...I was triggered but still enjoyed it.... because the fear bit of this video is exactly where I am at in life. Trying to stay authentic and hope that is enough in all my relationships but it's damn hard because once you think you have it life throws you a curveball and it's like I have to go through this again... To your fav quote I thought I repaired this what is it now😭😭😭I am struggling to find lessons and to just trust that it shall be fine. Thank you for this JD.....You too shall get to that place where fear is not your guiding compass!

The arc analogy is what I needed to hear. Thank you for the channel, God bless your family 🙏

The spoken word of JD! You left me speechless once again. My dad and I had similar conversations. He has 4 daughters including me. I swear time is all he worries about. Be patient with your daughter. The empathy will come. Trust me. I'll just say this, the best gift you can give your daughter is your presence, your listening ears and these videos. It's refreshing to see you work so hard to find you. I see it. I see you. I hear you. And I'm extremely grateful for your content 🙏🏼 once again for the 50th time, I can relate!!!

I love you JD & this podcast!!!! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ i admire your vulnerability and strength we are rooting for you 🙌🏻

Thank you for sharing this. I have always dreamt of being in a healthy loving relationship for many years. Due to emotional neglect and abandonment issues stemming from my childhood, I realized that the idea of being in love with someone is something that I am deeply afraid of. Even though I want to be in a loving relationship, I feel comfort in not receiving love , pushing love away or not experiencing love because that’s all I ever known. I feel seen, thank you!

Your truly helping people with this content & your vulnerability is so amazing

Such a great story teller. Love the vulnerability as always. Sending love & light to you and your daughter. Continue to do what you’re doing and showing up for her. My daughter would love for her father to just send her a text and or get a phone call on a random Wednesday & she can’t even get that. There’s so many fathers who aren’t showing up, so thank you for showing up for yours. WE SEE YA JD!!! Keep doing what you’re doing. You WILL end up on the love side of the arch. Bless 🤎

Wow!!!! The amount of vulnerability and courage it took to create this episode!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. I completely relate and do feel like I’m not alone. A lot of times, I don’t have the words to explain how I feel or the words to describe the journey I’m on and how much I’m struggling releasing old patterns….you always seem to put everything in perspective. When you’re dealing with things like this it’s easy to feel like you’re inadequate, or unworthy, or just damaged beyond repair….hopeless! It’s important to have grace for yourself, especially when you have that self awareness and WANT to change and be better! It’s not easy! As much as we want it for ourselves, like you said, we just don’t know how to get there. And for people like us, we had to teach ourselves a lot! We had to learn how to love by ourselves…we had to learn what a healthy relationship was by ourselves! It takes time and grace is key! And when we have someone in our corner willing to help us through it….that’s everything! Thank you so much for this episode! I could probably go on, but I’ll stop here!!

The way this resonated was so needed. Thanks for sharing JD you're not alone... and I'm 44

I'm so happy for you, for the growth you are experiencing. I'm happy for you that you see it and welcome it too.✨

I can definitely relate to this! I feel like the fear of being hurt or abandoned has always preventing me from letting love in. I’m working on letting that fear go as well, but it’s tough. Surrendering to the unknown is hard, especially for someone like myself who is so use to controlling things. Or, at least thinking I was in control. Just know that you are not alone Justin. The journey can be tough, but I know we will get through it.

I can definitely relate. my relationship with my daughter isn't the best. I also want love and I have it but my fear wants me to ruin it. so I've been working on myself because I don't want to continue going left. I appreciate this video and you opening up to us all thank you

This is so relatable and timely! Thank you very much for sharing! Vulnerability isn’t easy but is the only way to get to true healing and peace. May God bless you, provide guidance, happiness and peace! 🙏 🕊

Really enjoy these episodes with just you talking and reflecting JD!

Thank you so much for your COURAGE and vulnerability. It deeply touched me and made me tear up because it really hit home. Thank you ♥

Bro I wanna say this episode really touch me and every quote you said had hit me on a different level, but my favorite one that you said was “you repeat what you don’t repair” that quote really touched me cause I actuality now see myself do that a lot, so I’m going make sure in my journey now is to not repeat anything and to “unlearn to relearn”

She’s a reflection of what you are inside also! You are enough 🤍 omg totally can relate JD!

You are always such...a voice...I always feel like noone understand then I come here and someone gets it...I think with love still comes hurt and JUST Thinking about that part which hadn't happened yet and trying to navigate how NOT to revert back to fear ahead of time is part of "my stall" ..this was a beautifully spoken episode 👏🏾

i`m glad i came across this video . its like you just articulated everything i`m going thru , being young and living in fear .holding my guards up cause thats all ive ever known and trusted .. already lost many potentially great relationships cause of where im at mentally . it feels like i will never find love as long as im holding to fear. but its so draining just to think about fixing that ,oh lord

As a fearful avoidant I can totally relate! Thank you for sharing! ❤️

Wow! I can empathize with so many things you said. Listening to you also reminded me to pay more attention to those in my life who may be struggling with the arc as well. I want to share this with my partner, I just don't know how it will be received (fear), but I know it could open doors for more/deeper communication (love). I also know I need to get back to journaling, but with intention. Thank you 🙏🏽💜

I really wanted to thank I really enjoyed this episode. I have been going through this muddy period of my life where I am going to have to make decisions relationally and career wise. Fear is so easy to hold on to but the idea of getting comfortable in the unknown is hard for me. As a person living with anxiety the unknown is uneasy to deal with. I am trying to be ok with the unknown and trying to grapple the unknown but in essence my mind won't let me. I am slowing my thought down more so that I am able to understand what the unknown entails. I think many people will relate to this episode.

God bless you Justin. I too feel like I'm in such a place of knowing but not being sure of how to bring this new information with me into the present. And being able to transform from moving with fear to love is so difficult, trying to unlearn all your comforts and familiarities. One thing I have to constantly tell myself is to be patient and applaud myself for the small changes I see within myself and how I choose to navigate throughout life and within relationships. Thank you for always being so open and honest, you have helped me understand myself and so many others. I pray you continue to move in strength and love. ❤️🙏🏻

Thank was beautiful J! Thanks for sharing!!

Leading by fear. I almost think it's an aquarius thing lol you are me from 4 years ago. I got out of it heck, you can to. You're life will improve majorly i promiss. you just gotta be stronger then that fear and that strength will show you how strong you actually are and it's amazing

much love to you Justin. thanks for sharing! its so inspiring.

So thoroughly loved listening to and relating to this, thank you ♥️🙏

Wooooow. I just said this the other day exactly. It was spooky! “I manifested the life of my dreams but I’m still not completely happy.” !!!!!!! It’s not easy. I can relate to this so heavy. Ugh I appreciate this video I stumbled upon it I feel it was meant for me to be hearing.

I love how real you are & I really rate you for that.

This is literally exactly what i have been dealing with internally for the past year and i was unaware of how to vocalize it. We had very similar childhoods JD and it crazy realizing that i have a very false relationship and understanding (from my mother / not ther father lol) with moving in love except for the past few years of living on my own. Ive been slowly shifting into a naturally more intentional life for me , and have been having all of these experiences at that cross roads and some moments I’ve gone right but a lot I’ve gone left. its left me isolated and removed from the ones i love. At the same time I realized that subsequently i needed to be alone to recognize and define personally what i feel and need as far as love goes in my life. Always having other energieswas clouding my own core of what i need and want and i need to grow and blossom that understanding from within myself then feel out resonating energy to that out in the world. Otherwise i will just keep looking for my old understanding of what love was and keep that cycle going. Im 19 btw. Tryin to catch this shit early hahaha

Resonating with and relating to everything you're saying about your journey with fear to love

Beautiful crossroads, the moment when self realizes regardless of what side you go down in life it will never be absent of pain but it’s up to the individual to decide whether it’s the type pain that’s similar to expanding your mind or the type of pain similar to choosing comfort In controlled suffering. Much love Jd🌌

My Husband and I are in this same space with our 19 year old Son! It’s heartbreaking! We sympathize with you Brother! 💜

Wow …I really admire your honesty and ability to express your true self. I feel your pain. I too am experiencing a deep sadness due to my relationship with my son. I think I may have some insight that may be helpful. Ask yourself, do I genuinely love my child unconditionally? That is key. Try to stay in love with your child no matter what-even thru the pain. I think our children teach us how to let go and release our need to be loved. Become love to your daughter and open up to her as you do with your community here so that she can begin to see you for who you are. You’re a beautiful spirit and regardless of what may have happened, you are loving her and giving her what you did not receive. Write a letter to her before you talk as it may help release some emotional blockages. Much love to you Justin. Thank you.

Its interesting that you are speculating on this from the point of yourself as a parent and from the point of your parents as their child. I do not have children so your perspective is not missed but rather gauged to understand. Because, I have a similar problem. My mother and I do not get along very well and I have a theory that her view physically towards me and emotionally towards me, is a reflection of what her failures were. Not that I was a failure, but how she missed moments in my life, and how she at one point knew how to relate to me, or the amount of times she misplaced anger towards me... Things of that nature. I had an exchange with her on mothers day that end in me not going to see her. For every holiday she always has a bad reaction to celebration because of childhood and it reminds her of what she did not have. This was a moment I wanted to lead by love but what caused me to not see her that day was the exchange we had. I felt like she did not want my presence around for the day. I failed to lean into that love and say "Hey what's really going on?" because I had no prior account to why she had some animosity towards me. I know this could have easily been solved by asking, However, my whole life has been these ups and down. It becomes tiring to chose love when the other person does not. I left it alone and came to the realization that her best was her best, and I am not willing to consistently be around someone that does not want me. All in all I recognize that this has effected my relationships for years, and positively because I want to lead with love and understanding... although it is hard to have a relationship with my mother, detaching my love for her as a mother and detaching her treatment towards me as a mother has helped me understand not everyone will receive love the way they want to receive it. The communication that comes out of it will has layers. It is just a lot of work in a period of time where the world is also rapidly changing. Great video, Thank you for being open. I thought I would do the same.

“Getting comfortable with not knowing”

This is really hitting home for me.

You said you got everything you wanted yet you still don't feel fully happy.. you may feel like you don't deserve it or you may still be healing.. or maybe you just need to have mercy on yourself.. we've all be here.. not to dismiss how you feel but we have.. we worked so hard and did all the work and healing and we get everything we wanted materialistic.. or relationship etc.. and we still wonder what's next? Because we programmed ourselves to not truly deeply appreciate what we have maybe we need to change our perception on things.. some times old hurts and pains resurface.. and it keeps us in a rotation.. and we have to somehow break the cycle of pain we've been in for so long and say its okay to have everything i manifested and it's okay to be loved.. and those you have hurt along the way.. apologize when you can and make peace.. (not sure if this will help) but hey we are all hurting and healing from something..

I have not commented in a while but JD ! Still think you , ur wife and podcast is amazing!! Just stopping by lol . . .

JD i think reading all about love by bell hooks would benefit you greatly if you haven’t already read it.

I'm having similar challenges with my daughter and I understand that your struggle all too well. I'm struggling with it so much. The middle really does suck ☹️

Justin have you considered getting an astrology reading? For Scorpio and Taurus this is a year of significant life transformation this year and other fixed signs (Aquarius and Leo). If I recall from the Enjoy podcast your rising sign is in Taurus which holds a lot of weight more than the sun sign and we just had an a few eclipses this past two weeks this is the start of something new. But before you can take the leap into a new direction, there must be a releasing of something. There are some thorough astrologers that explain it well on RU-vid. Highly recommend looking up Astrology with Heather she has an in-depth Video about the eclipse and just some of the transits that are currently happening if you are open and interested. Sending you all the positive energy.

This video resonated with more people than u think😭

Ur doing it n u can’t even c it 💕

Yes it is me....!

TY!!!🦾💖

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This is true vulnerability.

How exactly do you lead with love, and how do you lead with fear (examples)?

Retraining the brain is hard HARD work