Imho it's the guy that gets blamed for almost all relationship problems well here in 🇨🇦 anyways 😂😂 I suppose its instinct for us men to assume the role as protector or provider
@@zandig666 Well, I mean, that’s Canada. As for who gets blamed more, in the US, who knows? I just know that people look at single moms and shake their heads all judgy-like and think “she’s trash.” And sometimes she really is trash, and sometimes she isn’t, and that’s really not the point. The point is that you can almost never tell a deadbeat dad just by looking at him. Like, on a purely biological level, men can father a child and not even know it. Women always know it because it happens inside their bodies (whether they like it or not). And I’m not trying to make this a grand debate of “women vs men: who gets the real victim card?” I’m just trying to be fair to each side. Men have their paternity rights stomped all over, and women are frequently left with the unwanted products of sexual behaviors. (We get STIs far more easily as the receptive partner, and we often get blamed for that, too.) But, even putting those biological and sociological elements aside, women in today’s society are still quite often caught acting entitled to someone else coming in and solving their problems for them. Maybe it’s just the internet algorithm, but I’ve seen countless videos of women acting like everyone owes them everything and it’s really disgusting.
@@oakleavesandonions771 I always joke with women and say I do the exact opposite of what the internet tells me about dating. So let the cards fall how they may. Soo many people are stuck in situations they don't want to be in which is something I consciously chose to not prescribe to. I seriously think it's terrible all the videos telling men not to date single mothers. people change, make mistakes or move on. Let's all enjoy life and set a goal for mutual happiness and respect ✌️✌️👊👊✌️✌️
There's a flaw, alot of women try and "trap" a man, try and "cement" a relationship making it difficult for them to leave and will move on to a guy they can trap, trauma bond or tie themselves to in various ways.. I've been unmarried for a long time and a few women have left solely because they know I always leave an avenue out. One criteria I have is that can this woman stand on her own two feet??? It's shocking how many cannot and basically need a second income over true love and mutual respect.. I feel bad for society if people need to rely on others for their happiness.✌️✌️ that will fail,....well...upwards of 60% of the time as dictated by our divorce statistics
Interesting vid... You pointed out a near-death experience during your teens and you also stated no one was there to help. No one came to save you. So...as a result, you KNEW no one was going to come so the idea of getting pregnant automatically came with the realization that "help" (unless properly planned) would most likely also not show up. Did your friend experience anything during her youth (before 20 years old) that would have given her that same type of insight? The part about men (if they don't get caught) they can just roll out. So...I ask this (and this is something that I have often asked men when I a similar concept from a man's point of view)... So...a man pointed out that women have all of these options when it comes to child birth upon finding out she's pregnant. 1.) put baby up for adoption 2.) terminate 3.) have the baby (and demand money) His anger was rooted in the fact that men have no say and don't have any "more" options AFTER a woman finds herself pregnant with his baby. if he wants her to keep it and she decides otherwise...he has no option If he does not want the baby but she does... he has no option he has to go through a hell of a process if she puts the baby up for adoption and he wants the child... he does not automatically get his child ...again..no option He has to PAY and that's it. I am sure I could write some more...but you get the point... So since women had more options and men did not after conception, that was not fair... So I posed the question... "So let me get this right... You are fighting for the right to "abandon" a child without consequences because you feel a woman CAN do so if she chooses? His answer: yes "So we(men) are fighting to do "dumb shit" because someone else CAN do "dumb shit"? I brought this up to ask you a similar question.. The "advantage" you proposed (and yes, I know you only mentioned one and I know there are others) but...focusing on what you pointed out... If that is not something you would ever do (you know...disappear because you CAN [if you got away with "it"]) Why would that be a "reason" to want to be a man? I am not saying that things are equal. I guess what I am asking though is...aren't there just "trade-offs" with each gender? Society is definitely not perfect, I agree...
@@kaptansolo19 There are definitely trade offs. I’ve seen men who want to be women talking about womanhood like it’s some sort of garden of Eden where everything is super easy. And that’s ridiculous. But then I see women talking about manhood in terms of “male privilege”, which they almost invariably describe as this perfect world where everyone treats you like a king. And that’s equally ridiculous. I think the problem, and this is why I made this video and plan to make more on the subject, is that competence is seen as a masculine trait. Self-sufficiency is seen as masculine. So a woman who is actually good at anything is automatically perceived as more masculine. And that gets to be enough of a pain in the butt that any woman who’s halfway interested in being competent instead of merely pretty might as well introduce herself by saying “just pretend I have a penis.”
@@oakleavesandonions771 Hmmmm "Competence is seen as a masculine trait" (giving this some thought) I am going to oversimplify this...but here's goes... Yeah... Since women are not charged with "World Maintenance" a woman's competence is viewed as "optional" or less necessary to an extent. Independence in a woman is viewed as less feminine and the better a woman is at independence...it creeps from "less feminine" to outright "rebellion" ESPECIALLY the more physically attractive she is to men. "just pretend I have a penis" yeah...that is really the only solution to this issue. Men don't want a dummy, but they also don't want a woman who is light years ahead of them in intelligence or finances. It removes his accolade of being THE ONE who makes all of "this" (this = the life he PROVIDES for the two of them and a family if they have children). The more independent she is or the more she demonstrates her lack of "need" of him to be baddest-mofo in the history of bad-assery when it comes to his life skills as it pertains to a man's "role" in relationships, the more problems it creates for a lot of men. In a work environment, "just pretend I have a penis" works (for the most part) for that work dynamic. When it comes to romantic partnerships, marriage or whatever choice term we are using for LTR now, THAT concept usually falls apart really fast. But it does depend on the guy. This gives me some things to think about as I have some theories on this because I have witnessed some women avoid well-established men (or men who are ahead of them financially and intellectually) because they WANT a recognition for their SKILLS (competency) and it is virtually impossible to get it if you are in the passenger seat of a man's "life" car. Looking forward to the rest of this series...
Hi! IDK if you need a man to take care of you or not, apparently not. But, men make much better parents if one looks at the statistics of how children turn out from single parent female adults vs male parent. The key seems to be setting boundaries and enforcing those rules. How many kids end up in prison, doing poorly in school, gangs, drugs etc. Those kinds of statistics. I am not condemning anyone on this, other than the screaming feminists, shouting their errors. As far as I am concerned, it all is what it is. No condemnation. We are all either male or female. We work together, or watch our societies collapse. I at least applaud you having babies. Many women are not doing that. The end of many nations will result from their drastically declining birth rates. Actually, N. America is still in decent shape demographically, so far. We need to work together, and children really need fathers. They really do.
I think kids can grow up fine in a single parent family but the adult has to be healthy and accept responsibility for their actions I have seen single mothers look to a man to transfer some of the burden
@@zandig666 Couple things go on there. 1, there’s always outliers and exceptions to the rule. I remember (as a stripper) so many of my coworkers getting all self righteous over statistics that children raised by single mothers fared poorly. I was always like, “Dude! If I was you, I’d want to know that. I’d want to know that my family was predisposed to trouble so I could proactively look for ways to counteract that negative effect. Burying your head in the sand solves nothing.” 2, if the child grows up seeing healthy relationship dynamics being modeled, it really counteracts those negative effects. So, for example, my husband’s dad died when he was a toddler. His grandparents played a huge role in his upbringing because his mother suddenly found herself a widow and a single mom in the same day. My husband turned out just fine. His grandfather and uncles filled that “father figure” role in his life, most especially his grandfather. The power of a strong social support network is dramatically underestimated in our culture. Because shit happens, and often it’s that social support network that stands between a person and the full brunt of life’s disasters.
