♡ GIRL TALK: dating, hookups & f-boys... 

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pray skyy pray God is a match-maker too and he knows people's heart. Sometimes we think we need a relationship when we are in a season where we should be focusing on healing, building healthy boundaries and growth for example. The best way to figure it out is to ask Christ through his word. So many folks are broken , deceptive or don't even know themselves,they will never be real about who they truly are so we need spiritual discernment to see beyond the appearance. There is a scripture that I find efficient to pray with when asking for revelation: Deuteronomy 29:29 "The secret things belong to the LORD our God, but the things revealed belong to us" just asking God to reveal the season you are in and while dating to reveal the intension of the person and he will speak, I personally experienced it and one of my friend too

Same here. I can’t do it

Omg period sis

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Have any tips?? I’ve done the same thing 😭

Same! It's hard for me to not get attached to guys even when I don't date them. If we did anything together I tend to get attached.

Lol yes

yeah :(

I’m going through that right now

2 and 3 got me.

Wish I knew this before my ex LOL that shit mad traumatizing😭💀💀

So what do I tell them instead?

PERIOD

PERIODDDDD SIS

AMEN🗣👏🏾

But I got 6 kids so don’t mind me y’all lol

Yesss! Dudes act and live like they are single even in a relationship. Do the same. Stop making them your entire world.

You go girl!! If all women did this, men would have to straighten up. But the reality is, there will always be some women that don’t have any morals or boundaries 🙄

So true.

hope you don't already have a child from/by future🤣🤣🤣

Girl yes!!! Cause I needsss me a man with some ✨ substance ✨

@@tniaphifer Yes I always say this!!! Substance over the hype all day everyday!!

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 sis me too

It's a cruel world out here sis.

the world is broken Kayciaz..if we look at the dating pool today and compare it decades ago people had more values into place (christian oriented, not addicted to porn: this one is a huge red flag too, gentleman on date and getting to know people for the purpose of getting married, emotionally mature) our generation isn't like that anymore many folks don't know how to date or ask relevant question for a healthy long-term relationship, women also don't know their self-worth and act up wild without thinking about the consequences on their reputation in the long-run (i'm a girl talking) and not too many people like to work on themselves: praying and letting the holy spirit help them with emotional trauma as well as therapist, learning communication skills, surrounding themselves with mature adult in healthy relationship hence the mediocrity of the dating pool

@@historiqueafricaine I love your commentary!

Literally……it’s actually so scary and heartbreaking.

I went through the same thing and he used me us like a freakin object…wait…He was 30 and still doing this bs?! Is there any hope for us?! Like do these guys ever grow up????? At the age of 30 they should know better! 🤦🏽‍♀️😒

YES GIRL

Spot on

ooh hope u are filling better sweetest

@@margretmukatuka4222 I'm fine now....thanks for asking ♥️

@@sharmishta12 u are welcome

Seriously! I don’t see how people make friends as adults with actual good genuine people 🥹

same here it’s a rough world put here

Literally what just happened to me 🤦🏾‍♀️

GIRL SAME!!! He gave me all the attention and then rejected saying "we're just friends"

@@rosemarybiswas7708 o Damn that hurts im sorry for you I Hope you moved on :)

@@martapradoalonso3384 Thank you so much. I'm healing and learning everyday ❤️

@@rosemarybiswas7708 I know! it's hard to move on and in my case It was my first "relationship" so i'm still moving on and i'm not good at It so I Hope you are doing it better than me ( i'm only 13 btw so I really don't know a los about this stuff) Ñ

Oww your English is flawless

You did well on the English 😂

I understand you! I’m so glad you atleast realise this. Trust me you’re not losing yourself. It is difficult. You’ve crossed the first step, you will soon throw him out pf your life too

Sis block him it’ll hurt at first but give it some time and you’ll be glad you did.

Girl I was in the same situation you were for 2 years, so listen close, If you want to have a conversation about feelings, and the guy just dont give a fuck and ignores you or act like your feelings are not that important, or acts playfull, please! Get rid of him!! I was on a Long distance situationship with a guy for over 2 YEARS, he told me everything I wanted to hear that showed that he also wanted a relationship, and when I came to see him finally, and told him my intentions of having a conversation about dating, he got distant for 3 days and just said he would not come to see me anymore! Dry like this! And I came to another country to meet him, I am in his almost same neighbourhood, and he didn't even care, he just said he doesn't want a relationship! After 2 years of saying the exact contrary to me. So please, when a guy shows you who he is, just ACCEPT THAT. If he does the silent treatment everytime you want to have a serious conversation, and when you complain about things that are bothering you, if he always tries to turn things around to make it seem like is your fault in everything, if he never accepts his mistakes... all red flags that I closed my eyes to, because I was believing in his words. So please, HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR MENTAL HEALTH! .

Lisette is the most beautiful thing in the world

Apr5.

OMG! 😰 I’m so sorry to hear that 🥺 Hope you’re doing okay 💖. These men ain’t sh*t 🤦🏾‍♀️

Damn!

yes omg👏👏👏

These men don't value us they only care about their gain.

if you actually pray before even being official and ask God for discernment and revelation about that person state of mind you will kick him to the curb real quick💯

Damn that sucks!! I’m so sorry about that!! So u guys were friends who just started talking/dating and u didn’t let him smash so he bounced!?

@@norapeace6526 yeah it sucks😔 we had been friends for years only this time we kinda re linked our friendship but we soon started talking in a non-friendly kinda way. When I reminded him about not being a “hookup girl” he slowly stopped talking to me 💀

@@xoxogg4440 wow! That’s so sad… we always hear that men are not friends with girls for no reason, unless they grew up together. So he probably always wanted to smash and hoped you would just let him. But more power to you for holding your ground and morals and values and saying to hell with him because you’re worth more than that. And if he didn’t want a relationship with you, it’s his loss. You’ll find better even though I know it hurts right now. You’ll get through this girl. Don’t ever let him come back because you know what he wants. He’s a jerk

@@norapeace6526 thank you so much! Really, you have no idea how much does it mean to me💕

@@xoxogg4440 it was my pleasure. Believe me, I know how it feels, especially when you need an encouraging word ☺️

it's absolutely bananas😭the struggle is so real

Thank you Joe…you’ve given us hope💕

Your welcome

nothing wrong with that, goodluck bestie

You go lady 👏👏 saving yourself/not giving yourself away, is the best form of self love

@@InshasChoice Aw thank you ☺️ that's so kind xc

@@karridia Thank you, what a sweet thing to say 💙 xx

Proud of you

Exactly I felt the same way too

Straight Facts !

well said ! you deserve the princess treatment sis !

FACTS

💯 unfortunately women have this "i can fix it" mindset when they see a red flag... I've been there, not only is it draining, you're the one that ends up hurt 😔

This!!!! ☝️👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 💯💯💯

@@InshasChoice so true… I had a guy stop talking to me Bc he didn’t like that I brought up God when he thought God made things worse for him… & even though I really cared for him, he did me a big favor by walking away… I am a strong believer in Christ and I couldn’t date someone who wasn’t. But love/like will make u do some crazy things