At the 14 minute and 15 second in the video, Jay takes on a challenge and sends his mother a message saying "I love you". His mother, like all mothers in China, hears his child say "I love you" and their first reaction is what happened，is there anything wrong with the child. The last two Chinese characters【咋了 za le】 in mother's reply are the most perfect proof。。。
I'm from Hong Kong originally, and my wife is of Irish decent from Nebraska. Because of her influence on my family, they now hug a lot too, and the grandparents say "I love you" to the grandchildren every single time they see them. This was one of the greatest blessings my wife has given my family, was to show them how to openly express the love they felt inside. And abundant blessings to you guys and your precious baby! GOD hold you all close to Him in your journey together and protect you, in Jesus' name. Thank you so much for your videos. We love your whole family ... your parents, Eli and Josh ... blessings to all of you! 🙏 ❤️
No matter he says I love you or not, it’s always more important what he does… if he cooks you all kinds of yummy foods, tidies the room for you, tries his best to give you a better life, that is love
I am totally agreed, Ari is very lucky woman that she married to the right man; Jay, he cooks all kinds of foods for her. I bet Jay will cook for his children as well when they are in their youth and teenager years.
Another awkward thing is when chinese married and we do call each other's parents mom and dad, but in American call by the name. In chinese we don't say I love you to people, we do things for our love one, either friends, family or your other half. That's why we feel so weird when we say I love you. Especially saying I love you infront of parents.
in China, it is a challenge indeed, at least it is for most families. Usually the parents would be equally confused at the outta nowhere i love ulike Jay's mom said i love u too and asked what happened
So so true, I wasn't born in Canada, but basically grow up here, yet I could never get used to the hugging to females, even if we were good friends, and to say I love you, haha, yeah, maybe only the younger generations, same with Jay, I never heard my parents say that to each other, and honestly, if we say or text that all of the sudden, the person on the end will probably thinks someone is very wrong, maybe I'm dying or very sick, some kind of bad news for sure😅
Very good examples of an awkward situation between 2 cultures. It's good to embrace each other's good practices...Good that Jay and Ari showed us the good ways...
Ari! You're so cute 🥰 And your Chinese is so good now. Perfect pronunciation!! Way to go. I'm Chinese American, but I'm a big hugger. I don't like having guests wearing street shoes inside my house either. I wouldn't say or offer them guest slippers here but I do clean the floors right after they left. 😂 Luckily, my husband doesn't like that either. So we both wear slippers inside the house. We have porch slippers too.
Dear Ari and Jay, like your videos. Just hope that the relationship between the two countries is as sweet as between you two. Wish Ari's pregnancy every smoothness ther is.
Blessings! So happy to hear 👶 is doing well. Great topic, so true! I'm American Chinese and I feel it both ways having grown up with an immigrant Mom and American Dad.
Actually here in MIRI, SARAWAK, we also always greet people like morning, how do you do to a stranger. We are living in very big family. We have a malay friends, Chinese, iban, kayan, kehyan, kelabit, berlawan, . One day you might come here to see our culture here, visiting GUNUNG MULU and NIAH CAVE
Also for the hugging part, I remember one time a good female friend (White) was getting married, and when I gave her the wedding present, so trues to hug me to thank me, and feels like I stood 2 feet apart, and just give her a hand shake🤭, but she understood, cause she had a long history of unsuccessful tries to give me a hug.
Chinese here. When meeting people, I don't like to hug or shake hands. Once when I went out for a volunteer activity, the person in charge shook hands with me at the first meeting, and I felt super shocked and awkward. I think having welcomed eye contact and some welcomed verbal expressions is ok.
Another way you may want to try is don't put the fish in with the sauce. This way, the fish remains crunchy from the deep fry. Separately you can mix a few table spoons of corn starch with water in a bowl and when the sauce is ready, you can slowly pour the corn starch mix in to thicken the sauce to your liking, then pour the gravy sauce onto the fish. Then the fish's skin taste crunchy.
As a Singaporean Chinese, I'd like to say we are kinda walking the middle path between the 2 cultures. We do say " I love you" or more likely "I care about you" to friends or family members but that's when we really mean it, instead of casually saying on an everyday basis. Expression of love and care for a person is usually through unspoken acts of kindness than saying "I love you". Among the younger generation, we do hug each other but that's more for like very close friends, not just anyone. Normally in any asian culture (not just the Chinese), we don't wear outside shoes into the house. Reason is simple. God knows what dirty things have stepped on and then bring it into the house which is usually kept clean. Just as we were taught not to open an angbao (gifts of money) in front of everyone when given, same goes for presents as it's rude to do so. The disappointment on the face will be easy to notice if it's something not suitable and to smile and say what a great gift would be somehow fake (which is even worse). It's like i won't tell a friend she's slim if she isn't, we tend to say the truth (eg. you've put on weight) but I know Americans will be horrified about this. Lol...
All those dishes are just so delicious and mouth watering. Like the food, u guys have the right chemistry. And congrats that baby is coming along fine. Have u chosen a name ? We’re so excited for u both.
jay, the right way to cook this fish is : 清蒸4分钟，倒掉盘子里的水。另外用热锅，花生油少许，热了以后倒入生抽，葱姜，然后把酱汁倒在鱼上，即可。 trust me, crappie is best tasting fresh water fish, 红烧 is a waste buddy. I am cantonese
Our fridge used to freeze too. It happens to be the damper & thermoster asm (This thing let cool air from the freezer coming into the fridge). Basically the damper doesn't open and close correctly anymore. It's time to change it! Otherwise, it will eventually ruin the fridge's motherboard and you had to pay a lot to fix it (unfortunately, we did!)
If all of a sudden, I text or call my parents to say "i love you", their first reaction will be "How are you? Is everything all right?". Basically they would assume I have encountered some challenges in life.
opening gifts in front of a group can make people embarrassed as they may make comparisons with each other that some may feel their gifts are not as good as others.....
I almost thought you were talking about croppy. Never heard of crappies myself. Definitely spot on about the difference between Chinese and American customs. Seems like even in American culture, some married guys who tend towards the jealous side wouldn't want their wife hugging another man. I don't know. I guess it would depend on who one is married to.
The one thing i still find weird is people wearing outside footwear inside their homes. Imagined where those shoes have been the whole day 🤮🤮 ie public toilets, all sorts of nasty stuff on the streets, etc. 😬😬 great topic of discussions. I find being given someone indoor slippers when you enter a home weird as well but that's what my Chinese Mrs do when friends come over. I just have a good laugh at the awkwardness but most of them are now used to it by now!🤣🤣
My daughter was an exchange student in France with a host family. The family taught her to do bisou bisou with friends and talk a lot at meals. That's a big change to the more conservative interaction in Eastern culture
It’s just different culture, mindset and way of doing things. But it’s changing too. My parents never said “I love you” to me, neither did I to them. It’s very common for my generation and all previous generations. But I say “I love you” multiple times to my son everyday (I really do and I really want him to know that) and he will respond with “I love you too dad” every time without feeling awkward at all. It’s certainly a result of international communication, but I think it’s also a result of natural social and cultural development/evolvement. But we’re still not used to say I love you to just ordinary friends. I don’t think that’ll change anytime soon.
Fish looking so good and the eggs goes so well with the rice 🍚 🍚. I normally give a firm handshake instead of a hug 🤗. When we visited someone we took off our shoes and leaves it outside front door. It’s not hygienic to wear shoes 👞 👠 into the house.
U can use starch powder to coat the fish n wash off b4 frying/steaming ~ starch can remove the “fish” odour. Also I didn’t see u “season” the fish with some salt b4 frying. And the minced meat ~ can add some soaked chopped shiitake mushrooms. The meal look nice n should be good ~ u got all the basics right.
