教授的觀點我理解的是,去發掘自己最初的情緒並採取相應行動,因為情緒並不會憑空產生:比如丈夫最初應該是失望、沮喪而不是馬上通過理性分析強化憤怒,最後變成爭吵。可以肯定的是,丈夫的需求沒有得到回應,相應採取的解決措施則需要夫妻雙方的協調;又如在父親不幸去世時的後悔,在這之前自己肯定產生過陪伴父母過少的感覺、情緒,在那時就要行動起來,每年花時間陪伴一下,以後發生的事情,我們無法避免,我們做了已經能做到的,其它就let it go.
The first step to satisfy your life is to find out what you are good at. Spend time to focus on certain subject and work on it. Within 5-10 years you are sure to understand that subject much better than 95% of the people. You can, then, establish your 'faith' and become a confident person leading a satisfactory life.
Sowing good seeds as cause would result in marvellous fruits as effect. Giving away little would bring considerable in return. To help others is to help yourself.
May Chen👍 Thought provoking and message well communicated... to live life without regrets 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼For a logical person, don’t jump to conclusions so quickly. For the emotional, be an active listener. Either way, pay attention to the other party. Listen carefully to what the other party needs. Then act. Don’t assume using our own perception.