"미안해"라는 말을 달고 살았다. 그런데 정작 이 말이 진짜 필요했던 사람은 나였다. 나는 언제나 외로웠고 스스로에게 가혹했던 거야. 나로인해 다른 사람이 행복하면 뭐하나... 내가 죽었는데. 아무것도 느끼지 못하는데 남이 행복하면 뭐해. 내가 가장 먼저 사랑해야 하는 사람은 다름 아닌 나였다. 나. 못마땅하지만 애쓰며 살고 있는 기특한 나.
@@user-lz5ld9yh7d 음... 왜 안행복한지 무슨생각으로 힘들다고 느끼는지 스스로의 생각을 일상생활을 하면서 잘 관찰해보세요. 내가 무슨생각에 빠질때 힘들다고 느끼는지 아셨다면 그 근본적인 원인인 사건이나 근원을 찾아서 거기서부터 나를 위로해주고 보듬어주세요... 힘들고 어려운 현실일수록 분명 지혜롭고 성숙해지실 거라고 믿어요. 저또한 그러고 있구요.. 화이팅!
This song tell us about the probability of not loving ourselves. Sometimes or maybe often we feel that our heart (feeling, mental) hurts, tired (not just in love things) and we always dismissed it and just think that it will go away. But little we know that wound will getting bigger as time goes, as we grow. We always use 'busy' as a reason to avoid that little issues and in the end we will regret and realize that we don't love ourselves. We really need to appreciate and love ourselves more. Do little me time to heal yourself and if you can't you can always seek for help from friends, family and if needed the experts. Never think that mental problem isn't serious, it will eat you slowly.
Ni'matus Sholihah this song gives me goosebumps bec its my first time listening to it but it meant for me for sure bec i always dream that i am sinking down the ocean
im suffering from a broken heart syndrome after losing several love ones and my precious pet of 15 yrs💔💔💔💔 this makes me cry because im also a big Shinee fan and til now whenever i remember Jonghyun my tears starts to flow. then finding out about Sulli and Goo Hara 's death as well so painful. Rest In Peace our brightest Stars💔💔💔🙏🙏🙏😭😢 🙏🙏🙏💔💔💔
다른 타인으로 인해 받은 상처는 왜 자기혐오로 바뀌는가 , 왜 사람들은 죽음을 끝(최선)이라고 생각하는걸까 , 왜 나는 내자신을 사랑하기 어려운가 .. 요즘 나를 잃어가는 느낌에 마음에 너무 괴로웠는데 무거운 짐 여기 두고 다시 일어설 수 있을 것 같아요 . ‘너’에게가 아니라 ‘나’에게 라는 제목 때문에 들어왔는데 오열하고 가요
Let's not ignore that voice. Let's not compare ourselves to an idealised standard. Let's love ourselves now - our awkward or stubborn selves. Let's love ourselves in all stages. That person you are trying to become, don't give that up. But don't dismiss the person that you are right now. It's okay - your hesitation and uncertainty is valid. Your vulnerability, your weaknesses and faults...do not disparage them. You are just as beautiful when you fall as you are when you rise. Let's forgive ourselves now, let's be kinder. Let's embrace ourselves with the love we deserve.
This MV reminds me of this dialog of "the big blue" movie : Johanna: what's it feel like when you dive? Jacques: it's a feeling of slipping without falling. The hardest thing is when you're at the bottom. Johanna: why? Jacques: cause you have to find a good reason to back up... And I have a hard time to finding one.
I'm having a rough year. I can't control myself properly, being anxious and depressed, can't even function in a proper manner. I just bumped to this song. Didn't know what it was all about, didn't even look at the title. But once Paul started to sing my tears just dropped. I turned on the subtitle and my tears won't dry till now. I really don't know how to get up from this mess. I really don't want to bother my friends and family. I just hate myself for not be able to get ahold of myself.
Dear, you've taken the biggest most important step- self realization. It's all about you now. Treat yourself the best. Do what you love not what's expected of you. I wish I could give you a big hug and kiss, a pat on the butt and send you on your way. Love from Canada.
@@hmcdennis8459 hi Helen, thank you for your positive words. I'm trying my very best right now, for the sake of enjoying this short life. Lots of love from Indonesia.
My heart hurts to hear your words. Try to understand that though times may get hard and dark, you are always precious and worth every breath and tear. Be loved because you are a beloved of this universe. Be blessed.
나도 살면서 누군가의 이유가 되면 좋겠다 생각하며 살았지만 정작 나 자신의 이유는 모르고 살았구나 싶다. 가끔 어려운 일이 있더라도 말못하고 그저 있는 일이라며 지나갔던 내가 생각이나네 오늘은 나에게 힘내라는 말 보다는 걸어온 길이 참 반짝반짝하구나. 수고했어. 라는 말을 하고싶다. 내일의 나야, 어렵더라도 날 믿고 더 나아가보자 🙏🏻
people said, they can make a good song because they know how it feel, from all the song that paul kim wrote, i just realise maybe he hurts a lot, he has such a soft heart, be happy paul kim, stay strong 💙☔
내 안에 어떤 아픔 있는지 무시하고 지냈어 미안해 깊게 생각해봤자지 싶어 그냥 지내보려 했어 사실 기다리던 친구의 전화 그 한 통이 얼마나 좋은지 참 외로운 사람이었구나 참 외로운 사람이었구나 싶어 바쁜 일들 사이에 반가운 얼굴 재밌는 이야기 꽤 살만하다 생각했어 또 맛있는 먹거리와 날 무감각하게 만드는 이 모든 거 근데 나는 나를 사랑하지 않았나 봐 내 안에 여태 숨어 있던 어린 소년이 말을 걸어와 오랜만이야 어렵게 말 거네 사실 사실 그동안 많이 아팠다고 어렵게 어른이 된 지금에 와 옛이야기들을 굳이 꺼내놓는 게 부질없는 일이라며 마주하려 하지 않았던 날 후회해 나 사는 게 바쁘단 핑계로 나는 나를 사랑하지 않았나 봐 나는 나를 사랑한 게 아니었나 봐
Sometimes I think "How can I love someone if I still cant love myself yet?" After 19 years of my life I realized that self love is matter. You only have yourself, so keep it alive. Thank you Paul Kim for making this song, thank you for reminding us to love ourselves 💖
베댓의 Ni'matus Sholihah 님의 말이 너무 와닿아서 한글로 번역해봐요. 다른 분들도 이 글귀를 읽으셨으면 좋겠어요. 약간 해석이 틀리거나 부자연스럽더라도 이해해주세요. 이 노래는 우리 스스로를 사랑하지 않는 것에 대해서 얘기하고 있어요. 가끔, 혹은 자주 우리는 마음이 아프거나, 지치는 것을 느껴요.(사랑에 관한 것이 아니더라도) 우리는 그 사실을 항상 떨쳐버리려 하고 단지 지나갈거라고 생각해요. 하지만 우리는 시간이 지나고 나이가 들수록 그 사실이 점점 더 커진다는 것을 몰라요. 우리는 항상 바쁘다는 이유로 그런 일(마음이 힘든 것)들을 피하려고 하고, 결국 우리는 나를 사랑하지 않았다는 것을 깨닫고 후회할거에요. 우리는 정말 나 자신에게 감사하고 사랑할 필요가 있어요. 조금만 시간을 내서 나 스스로를 치료하고(마음을 되돌아 보고), 만약 너무 힘들어서 벅차다면 친구들, 가족, 필요하다면 전문가에게 도움을 청해봐요. 절대 정신적인 문제(스트레스)가 별거 아니라고 생각하지 말아요. 결국 나를 천천히 잡아먹게 될 거에요. (원문) This song tell us about the probability of not loving ourselves. Sometimes or maybe often we feel that our heart (feeling, mental) hurts, tired (not just in love things) and we always dismissed it and just think that it will go away. But little we know that wound will getting bigger as time goes, as we grow. We always use 'busy' as a reason to avoid that little issues and in the end we will regret and realize that we don't love ourselves. We really need to appreciate and love ourselves more. Do little me time to heal yourself and if you can't you can always seek for help from friends, family and if needed the experts. Never think that mental problem isn't serious, it will eat you slowly.
늘 견디며 늘 참으며 늘 나에게 잔인하게 굴었던거 같다 잘하고 있음에도 불구하고 나 보다 잘하는 사람을 늘 부러워하며 정작 나에게는 미안하다고 안아주지 못했다 잘하고 있다고 괜찮을꺼라고 좋아질꺼라고 충분히 잘하고 있는데 항상 늘 부족한 내가 너무 싫었다 이제는 나에게 너무 큰 잔인하게 하지않고 잘하고 있다고 기특하다고 안아주고 싶다 그동안 잘 버텨줘서 너무 고맙다고
The first thing that came to mind when listening to the song and watching the animation is Sulli and Hara. The loneliness that they fall so deep into that they can no longer see any light of hope of escaping. 😢 This world was not good enough for you. Rest in peace. 🌹🌹
Dear myself, you did well. Lets keep happy and healthy even tough this hard. Take a time and do it slowly. Cry as you want laugh as you want. Enjoy the prosses. God give you hardtime because god know you can solved and the prosses will make you have a beautiful life.
지치지마세요. 폴킴님. 힘들어하지마세요. 폴킴님을 응원하는 팬들이 많다는 걸 잊지 말고 힘내세요. 무자비한 댓글들 신경쓰지 말구요. 예쁜 말 따뜻한 말만 가득 담아가세요. 스스로를 사랑할 줄 아는 사람이니 이런 노래도 만들 수 있었겠죠. 폴킴님의 노래 들으며 위로받고 감동받고 즐거워하는 많은 사람들 중 한명입니다. 온 마음을 다하여 응원합니다. 힘내세요.
After hearing this song I realized that I didn't love myself too And I cry alot I feel sorry to myself From now on I will love myself Thank you for this song Thank you so much
부모님과 가족에게 제가 원하는 만큼의 사랑을 받지못했다고 원망했고, 나는 아이에게 안그래야지 노력하는데 어려워요. 우리딸이 사소한 것에 행복을 느낄 수 있길.. 역경속에서 조금만 힘들어하고 일어날 수있는 사람으로 자라길.. 그리고 그때 나에게 터놓을 수 있길.. 무엇보다 자신을 사랑하는 사람이되길..
2:55 'I've been hiding my young self in me This part literally pierced my heart through so deep made me tear up...I relate so much😭 There is something about his voice, that makes me so emotional combined with his beautiful yet so sad lyrics like this
the key is acceptance. Accept everything in our life, even bad things happen, just accept it. As times goes, we can fix all the problem, slowly. Human life formula is out of the comfort zone to be a better one. Fightinggg, u r not alone :"))
Dear me, love ur self 100% cus I can't afford to lose u ryt now or even ever...so keep living and fighting...NEVER be alone with ur self.... Dear me, did u hear me?
Dear myself : "i was a lonely person " i realized that i dont love u enough sorry for make u feel alone and feel hurt from stupid things hope that u will forgive me someday ~ i will love u more u are the one who should i love in this world ~
It’s a song that you feel with your hard and for that you don’t need to understand it It’s beautiful and reminds me that I am human and that I have problems which I try to avoid which makes it even more worse So don’t let your problems take your over by ignoring them and face them This way it will hurt less than it is while you are hiding it Take yourself serious and think about what hurts you and why it does so Think of it as something that don’t exist for nothing Pain shows that something isn‘t right and if it isn’t right make it right I have fallen in love with this song Learn and face your problems so this way you will love yourself more and get to know yourself more Don’t forget That there is always someone who loves you I’m here Don’t forget That you Are doing an amazing job and you Are trying to do your best Sometimes stuff don’t go like we was thinking it would be but that’s ok We can’t get what we want sometimes,right?! If I would get what I want there wouldn’t be bullying or war at this world So it’s ok not to get what I want But I have at least try to archive what I want right!
I know i don't understand korean, but when i'm focus to his song, and this video, i feel it. The same feel and remember who i am and everyone in the world. For you who watch this whatever you reasons, we have the same feel. We fall together. But we can give strenght to each other. Love u guys. Thank u, Paul Kim oppa for this song and for everything. 💓
This song. Ive known it for years now and went through different life stages. The meaning changes slightly. I'm almost 25 years old now... i hope that the next time i come here, i can look back and say that I've finnally found that self-love and dont have to make up excuses anymore...
I felt the deepest sadness in my heart when I was watching the video and music it so beautiful and sad at the same time ... because the image of the person falling to deepest darkness !! It’s very sad .... I couldn’t stop thinking about every person out there who’s suffering from depression , loneliness in the world ! They think that there’s no way out of it.., and might thinking about that live life isn’t worth it... I just wanna say that live is beautiful even when comes cloudy days or sadness ... we all should love our self And value our life ! Because every single person life is very precious and is a blessing gift ! Lots of love 💕 to all of you!!
At times my favorite foods have no flavor, I socially isolate, have zero motivation and feel like an empty shell. But there are those special moments when it feels nice to be alive. Where it feels good to laugh, feel the breeze, the warmth of those around, admire the blue sky, taste the flavors of a Latte or smthn. You know. They may be small things, but they create a huge impact. It makes you acknowledge that you lack self love. I know i do but I’ve always ignored it or hid it from others. I feel like this song was able to capture that perfectly.
Ever since I quarantined I became depressed(still am but it's not as bad). My grades dropped, I argued with my family a lot, I lost a lot of friends. I hated myself, how I looked, how I acted, just everything. I don't like to open up or show my emotions so I held it all in. I thought it was just a phase and dismissed it but over time it got worse. I was tired of fighting and being a burden and not being able to love myself. I remember last year I came across this song and finally let it out and cried for like an hour. I didn't know exactly what I was feeling back then and this described it perfectly. I felt understood and could relate to it. I still love coming back to this song and seeing how far I've come. I still feel depressed and hate myself sometimes but I know that it will take time to heal/recover. I've listened and loved all of Paul Kim's songs but this is the one that I will always connect with the most. Thank you Paul Kim for making this song. :)💗
중3 때... 같이 다니는 친구들과 멀어지고 싶지 않아서 다 좋다고 하고 부탁하는 것도 다 들어주고 그랬는데도 날 떠난 친구들 때문에 너무 힘이 들어서 상담받았았는데 그때 깨달았어요 내가 괜찮다고 생각했던 게 사실은 괜찮은 게 아니었다는 걸 그냥 계속 괜찮다고 생각해서 내 진짜 감정이 뭔지 몰랐던 것이었단 거를... 그걸 그제서야 깨달아서 얼마나 울었는지 몰라요 나부터 잘 챙겼어야 하는 건데 길어 봤자 얼마나 볼 애들이라고 걔네한테 맞추고 내가 나를 잊고 지우면서까지 그랬어야 했나 싶고... 그때의 제 생각이 많이 나네요
PK's song always hit me. It was like I am listening to my own self, my own story, the circumstances I've been through.. Ohh it makes me brawl to tears.
Came here because of yhe thumbnail I knew this gonna be about not loving ourself cause I have been there and drawing something similar like this... The lyrics "But seems as if I dont love my own self" kinda hit me But I knew that we all have been in that darkest point. I hope you guys keep going on the tight rope that gonna lead you to a bright beautiful land. But please remember that even though you have been in the bright beautiful land, the shadow still there with u and following you. Yet, you are not gonna be bothered that much again cause the one you gonna see is the sun
I keep coming back to this song. And everytime it's like a new song. It gives me goosebumps and pulls at my heartstrings. A reminder to my little self that she is worthy.
학창시절... 그땐 몰랐다 주파수가 틀렸다는 걸.. 그리고 그걸 맞춰가기 너무 힘들었단걸... 그 무리와 멀어질수록 내 자신이 힘들어질것같아서 그 무리에 속하지 못한게 내 잘못인 것 같아서 겉도는 내 자신이... 너무 한심하고 초라하였다. 어떻게든 관심받고싶어서 자학개그도 하고 이상한 짓도 많이했고 그럴때마다 웃음짓고 말 걸어주는 너네들이 미웠지만 그것마저도 나에겐 영광이여야 했다. 돌이켜보면 지금의 나는 그런 집단에 속하지만 고독한 외로움속에서 살아남아야했으며...그런한 환경이 지금의 내 성격을만든 것 같다
어떻게 살자는 구체적인 말 없이 그냥 그동안 힘들었지 라는 메시지 하나만으로 너무 위로가 되네요. 감사해요. 영상 설명란 보니 폴킴님께서 이 곡을 직접 작사하셨다고 써있네요. 최근에 연예계 비보들 접하며 마음이 정말 아파요. 연예인도 사람인데... 폴킴님도 몸건강만큼 맘건강 잘 챙기시기를 진심으로 바래요.
“It's okay to shed the tears but don't you tear yourself.” Kim Namjoon, Moonchild. It's okay to be sad. It's fine if you want to take a break and give yourself some time. You don't have to rush yourself to get better, you don't have to run after them all the time. Walk or crawl, it doesn't matter how long it takes for you to reach your goal as long as you're thriving and trying. I believe in you, WE can make it.
잃어버린 나를 찾고 싶어. 나도 모르게 나 자신을 숨기며 살아온 지금의 나는 이 노래를 듣고 방황하지. 눈을 떠 보니 물 들고 싶지 않은 사회에 합류되어 있었어. 그래야만 내가 이 땅에서 살아남을 수 있으니까. 인간의 본능인가 봐. 모든 욕심을 져버려야지 했는데, 더 큰 욕심을 손에 쥐고 살아가는 나는 정말 모순 덩어리인 것 같아. 이렇듯 나는 오늘도 나를 깎아내리네. 깎아버리는 게 습관이 된 듯, 자연스럽게 깎는 나의 모습을 보면 나는 한없이 자존감이 바닥인 사람인 것을 알게 돼. 나는 무엇보다도 나를 사랑하고 싶어. 나를 먼저 사랑하고, 나에게 스쳐지나가는 인연들을 잡자. 나 먼저 나를 사랑하지 않는데, 누굴 좋아해. 나는 지금 정말 행복해. 그리고 앞으로 더 행복할 예정이야. 나와 함께.
The visual is so vivid. Not loving oneself feels like falling endlessly. When one works with a psychotherapist for a while, she/he could finally feel contained and held safely.
(ENG SUB) I've been living ignoring whether there's any pain inside me, I'm sorry I intended to think about it, but actually I just want to keep being the way I am The friend I've been waiting for is calling, how happy would my heart be? It turns out I am a lonely person, I guess I am a very lonely person The fun talk with people I like to meet between my busy life, I thought it would be quite a good life Moreover, I keep eating something delicious However, all of these have made me numb I guess I didn't love myself The kid that has been hiding inside myself says something Now after a long time, I will say it although it's hard Actually, all this time I've been hurting After painstakingly becoming an adult, I'm bravely blurting these things out right now It wasn't even a big deal, I regret I didn't want to face it earlier Using busy life as an excuse, I guess I didn't love myself I guess I didn't love myself English and Korean aren't my native language. But I tried my best to translate the lyrics hoping you can understand the message of the song, and feel a bit of the beauty of the lyrics.
My gosh, from the first time I heard this song, without really knowing what it was about, it stirred my soul. After reading the lyrics online, I knew why. But now, oh now, with this video - I can feel the tears being pushed out the deepest of the deep. Paul, if you ever read this. I hope you love yourself now.
I first like to listen to the song with my heart and try to feel what he is saying then go and read the English translation for the music since I don't understand Korean. I love it without me even knowing the words yet since music is felt with the heart and soul. I have always been a huge fan of Paul Kim. His voice is soothing and amazing. I love love this song. It puts me in a calming state. Thank you Paul Kim
While lestining this song I see the reflection of my sadness but still keep fighting for it cause I know still some people who still care and love for me in thier own reason...