@@alexej8175 I agree, but that’s not love, or acceptance. It’s the opposite, it’s allowing your child to be indoctrinated into delusional beliefs. And I’m not just talking about a name change, I’m talking about the gender identity issue/transitioning. You think a child can understand the ramifications of things like hormones, puberty blockers, and getting their body parts cut off? Your mixing a parent being supportive of their child to a parent protecting their child to ensure a healthy future
@@leavesarefalling880 umm well I don’t take orders from people in the RU-vid comment section. And the problem is you people think when someone disagrees or has a different point of view than you, their not being “nice”. Nice has nothing to do with it. This is seriously like talking to someone who has brain damage.
As a Mental Health Therapist and Clinical Social Worker… everything is confidential or you are disciplined, suspended or lose your ability to practice… the ONLY time you’re allowed to break confidentiality is if a patient is threatening to harm themselves or others. The mom would have been the emergency contact which is why she was told and obviously her being the legal guardian. So they have no choice but to inform the guardian.
@@IFBB-PRO-LCSW. Surely there would be some kind of alternative to contact and report to if the child is claiming that the parent you'd contact is allegedly causing them distress. Like I feel like reporting to that parent would do so much more harm than good
omg yes i was looking for this comment. it is perfectly fine to do whatever u want with you and your pronouns just be careful when talking about it to kids. ❤❤
@yeahitsabbi You are correct about people not pushing their views on others but I think what the oc meant was that there are people who will go out of their way to physically and mentally harm children that come out as being anything but completely straight. It's important to remember that just because you know something about someone doesn't mean it's safe for others to know as well
My mom is in a phase rn where she remembers she has a non-binary kid, but constantly forgets wether it’s me or my sister So she talks as if she had two she/they childaughteren instead of a they/them child & a she/her daughter I find it pretty funny, actually 🤣
My english teacher had an introduction page with multiple categories for pronouns- "What do you want me to call you?" And "How should I refer to you with your parents around?" There was also "Legal name" and "Preferred name" for attendance purposes and one for w/ ones parents as well. Shes a treasure for a Texas high school teacher. People should follow her example. Unrelated note- in 8th grade i had a classmate name Jace- cis guy, hes fun. However all i can think about is how he gaslit the science teacher into thinking his name was pronounced "Ha-say" (think like Jose) and not Jace. She was cool when she found out near the end of the year, it was fun.
I'm getting so confused by Irish schooling system and America schooling system, my teachers don't give the slightest shit about our identities (apart from our sphe teacher sometimes), I know this is gonna sound horrible(sorry not sorry) it's hilarious to see teachers getting called out on misused pronouns just for them to absolutely roast the shit out of the students, dats my favorite part of the day (love u Mr martin, miss u Mr pappers)
As an adult and teenager Ive been betrayed repeatedly by doctors, therapists, school counselors, teachers and so on with my medical and mental health information, I never gave them an okay to do so. Why? Because in our small town my mother was involved in the school board, business and government so they all felt she had a right to my information no matter my age. Had I ever come out to her, she would have made sure everyone treated me terrible (did so anyway). I thank God I never did come out and she still doesn't know. Screw people who think they know better and to get in someone's good graces they'd sell their own mother to do it including ruining a child's life. small towns are the worst and most people are homophobic and racist, at least in my town.
Because as a minor your parents are to know your medical information. If anything happens they get you help. You are in their care until 18 year old unless you emancipate early and in that case they no longer can access anything.
Have you ever talked with her about something like that? Not necessarily about you, but maybe just something like "I came across a Pride parade" and see how she reacts. I don't know your mum, but I know lots of Christians and I am one too. My best friend came out to me 2 years ago, and we never had a problem. I still love her the same. Since then, I tried to passively show appreciation for LGBTQ and I accidentally started a few discussions about it at church and there were really only a few people against it, and even they are not really homophob, just not educated and therefore don't really understand what LGBTQ means. Maybe your mum is like this, but you don't know it🤷♀️ I wish you all the best and I just want to remind you that Jesus loves you, no matter what❤
I mean conservative doesn’t equal religion. But I would kind of tiptoe around for more information on their views, sometimes they already know. (My grandmother was catholic and she had conservative views BUT she didn’t hold it against two of her children; both are LGBTQ. WHILE my grandfather is both Catholic and has conservative views, However unlike my grandmother he’s not as accepting; he acts like one of two LGBTQ children, didn’t have a partner like acts like the partner didn’t exist. While with the other child, he’s a bit more accepting but only because he got a grand child from them; he gets protective when the grandchild gets (potentially) hurt by any of the partners of his child. He’s currently afraid of partner now, because they aren’t one to be quiet and will throw hands. One of the past partners did something horrible over being jealous, and my grandpa literally turned his back on them; especially when they greeted him like they didn’t do anything.)
@@Zaniya3yea but also a lot of Christians don’t r homophobic people say that it because their religion prohibits it if because “god says it’s wrong” or “god made you this gender” or whatever, so she’s just adding her mom has probably said things like This and that she’s adding details.
It’s not that bad after a while they understand and build up a somewhat ok relationship if both parties are strong enough. Just worry about yourself, that would be the best way to help others
@Eva-ru5lw while it's good that you are trying to help them with their mother sometimes it is just safer to leave it until you can move out. I did a similar thing to what you suggested with my Christian mum and she *immediately* got suspicious and went through everything I had and when she found some texts to a online friend discussing my sexuality and continued to yell at me for a few minutes on how I'm "going to hell / on the path to hell" and that I'm "hurting her" by "choosing this route" She ended up nearly taking me out of school bc she thought my friends were the reason for this. Although now my mum is dating a woman-? So maybe I'm just an outlier haha
There was a law that almost got passed in my school county that if a trans student told a teacher that they were trans, that teacher had to tell the parent of the student and would be allowed to use any pronouns they wanted for the student, even incorrect ones. My school county refused to pass it, and I am eternally grateful. Some people have no idea how bad some children have it at home, and I am glad to see content like this spreading awareness.
I feel like people just don’t even realize how dangerous outing someone can actually be, especially for someone whose legal responsibility is to protect the child.
@@lotusleaf1365 So can kids. They often are at some point. So can teachers, doctors, and ministers. The parents don't lose their responsibilities for being mean, though.
@@jdotoz so you would rather counselors or teachers out kids anyways?? What if the parent mistreats, abuses, disowns, or even kills the kid for being queer? Obviously if the kid is hurting themselves or someone else, yes, tell the parents. But snitching because little Georgie wants to be called Georgina???
So I’m not trans or nonbinary but I can completely relate with the school counselor telling parents everything. One time I told her, because I was discovering my sexuality, I think I’m bisexual but I truly don’t know. And then she called my parents and told them when they didn’t need to know! I hate how the counselors tell you everything is confidential and secure but then they tell your parents. I came to you because I can’t talk to my parents! Ugh I can’t with some counselors. But then again I can’t help but feel bad, as they have to tell ya know? Anyways that’s my thoughts.
Kinda weird to be talking to the school councilor about who you prefer to be sexual with…. I think the bigger concern would be why your so focused on sex at school and needing to discuss it.
When I came out to my counselor, they told everyone. But when I came forward with evidence of me being abused and begged them to help me, suddenly they beilived in confidentiality.
That’s not right at all I’m sorry you went threw that I wish there was a better person then a school counselor for the youth to talk to because honestly that really isn’t who you should probably go to for many reasons .
my school counselor tried to pressure me into telling my mom i'm trans and i told her that if she did i'd get her fired. instead she told my mother about a traumatic disorder i have which made things so much worse. i never gave her permission to do this and told everyone i knew about what she did. she ended up fired anyway bc of that incident and many more, including telling my cousin's aunt anything she said like it was hot gossip
As someone who enjoys gossip, this is NOT something we gossip about (shouldn't be, anyways), she sounds horrible and I will be telling everyone i know about her. Good day to you, kind thir
@ematolic4463 nope, she legally did not need to tell my mother anything. i was not in danger and was not hurting myself or others. that's the law where i live [texas, us]. and she didn't lie to my mom about me having the disorder; she told my mom about it when i begged her not to. if she hadn't said anything, she'd still have her job
@@bobbierobinson6269 a parent should not always know if it's dangerous to the child for them to know. i would've been kicked out and disowned if i came out as trans
I constantly felt pressured to tell my parents my sexuality. My mom would always ask me "Do you like boys?" And I would say no. Then she'd ask "Do you like girls?" And I would say no. I wasn't ready to tell her. Then when I did, she told EVERYONE in our family. I wanted to come out when I was ready, but she told everyone. I enjoy being out of the closet and feeling free, but I sometimes feel uncomfortable knowing my entire close family knows my sexuality. I feel safe and comfortable absolutely nowhere except my room and my thoughts. I like keeping to myself. My two older brothers have both always been sorta open with my mom about things, while I've been the more so closed-off about my feelings. I don't tell people how I feel or how in actually doing because I don't wanna be a burden. I feel like I can't trust anybody. I don't feel comfortable anywhere. My anxiety gets worse each day, and I feel trapped. My parents ask why I'm always in my room, and that's because my room is my safe space. I feel most comfortable and have lots of privacy in my room. My room, is my comfort spot.
my mom is like that she's letting me come out (trans) to the rest of my family at my pace, but it's amazing how many of her friends she's told without even clearing it with me
@@sourwitch2340 it's less an obsessive behavior than you think. Romantic and physical attractions are normal to develop as a teenager; if your mom doesn't see you getting with anyone she's probably asking because she's concerned asexuality is one thing, but lack of attraction could be indicative of depression, dissociation, autism, etc
My state now has a law that if a student comes out as trans or even starts going by another name then they have to immediately notify the parents. I’m trans and my parents would probably k!ll me since I already tried coming out and they just yelled at me for like 3 hours and ripped up the flag I had just painted on a canvas that was the trans flag. The whole thing made me not trust my parents are the school system anymore.
@@1mh1asf7 well, I’m sure as hell not going to listen to a random ass stranger on the Internet trying to tell me, someone almost out of Highschool, how to live my life. Especially since you’re either 13 or a grown ass adult. Neither you, nor my parents, are very educated about this topic and it shows. Do you really think this law is a good thing? It isn’t. Do you know how many kids will get beaten half to death by their parents because of this law? How many kids will be kicked out the house because of this law? How many kids will be in some kind of way abused because of this law? No, obviously you haven’t thought about it. You saying “school aged kids shouldn’t be trans” is bs, since 18 year olds fall into that category and are legally adults (at least in my country) and can do what the hell they want with their name and pronouns. Obviously I’m not talking about elementary schoolers since most of them don’t know or don’t understand and frankly I’d say *they* are the ones not old enough since they won’t understand it very well, but around middle school or high school time is ok.
@@Alexx_the_coolestThat rlly sucks, its really hard to be trans. I hope that someday you can feel more free to express yourself and be supported. You are valid, and I support you :]
@@wolfiey when tf did i say that lmao. depression and suicidal thoughts can come to people at any age. i was suicidal at age 12, and i still get those thoughts now. but guess what? im pushing through and trying to be more active and do things that help it get better. its not fucking easy but you can work on it. and gender dysphoria is just dysmorphia, which i also am. i hate some of my feminine features because ive been sexualized over it since i was just starting puberty at age 10. ive been told by people that they "only like [me] because of [my] boobs" both boys and girls. at one point in time i actually DID think i was trans because of it. luckily i was pulled tf outa there before i "came out". ive also dated girls. im not in any way homophobic but i honestly dont believe in most trans people. ive only met one person i truly believe is trans, because he doesnt make it his entire personality and identity. he actually only has talked about it once or twice the entire time i knew him, and when hes talked about it he said that he knows he was born a girl and it doesnt offend him at all if people mess it up or anything like that because he kinda looks like one. these trans people who just preach and push it are the ones i find to be bullshit.
That’s an easy thing to say when the mob pats you on your back and praises you on how enlightened you are. But when some male changes in your daughters locker room and wins away your daughters trophy. Will you be strong enough to stand up for your daughter and against the mob and this silliness? I bet now, sad world..
My school counselor did this to my best friend out senior year of high school and almost got him kicked out. It really could have gone way worse cause his step-dad was violent.
I hope all the kids who get outed by school counselors, if they survive, (😡 I HATE that this is the reality😭😭) grow up and sue the HELL out of those counselors for breach of patient confidentiality! I mean REALLY!🤦🏼♀️ Those counselors should also be held liable for endangering a child!😡
@@mostlywholesome it's still not the counselors fault. There are a bunch of factors. While it would be great if no one was outed, it's not that simple.
@@diamondmasterandwillythecat While that is true, them not doing anything against it is still a bad thing. If you don't contribute to a cause, you might as well just be against it.
@mostlywholesome I disagree. While it's bad to do nothing, you can't label everyone who does nothing as an enemy. In fact people you might think do nothing might vote against stuff like this which makes them on your side. It's not fair to say things like that
I told a school counselor I was being abused. First thing she did was call my abuser in for a "conference" that nearly got me murdered. Never trusted one since and warned my children not to trust them with secrets.
This is so true, I’m a non-binary pansexual High school students in Arkansas and our teachers can’t use our preferred names even if they wanted too, they can’t use our preferred pronouns either which has upset the teacher that is supporting our pride club and is letting us hav our meeting in there, the counselors will call parents if they over hear this which is so unfair and an invasion of our privacy
Not sure where in AR you’re from, but teachers can and will use preferred names and pronouns. It was very much a thing when I was in high school in AR. Maybe every school is different?
My mate has a preferred name but it wasn't changed on the role up until recently (his mother is transphobic), but all the teachers still called him by his preferred name. Except this one teacher who is an ass, even once it was changed just stopped referring to him. She said "I can't legally call you that" but then just stopped talking to or about him. Edit: I haven't slept and I'm not 100% sure this comment makes sense
Soooo, I guess I have to be the one to explain that if you're putting it on public display (i.e. asking people at school to use your preffered prounouns) then it's not an invasion of privacy... you've made it very public
Schools always do this and it’s so aggravating. They get involved with something that is a family held matter. Let alone identity and sexuality wise, even stuff like physical health. My year head when I was 12 told me I had a chronic illness and that was how I found out, not through my parents but through a teacher I hated. Schools need to know what’s appropriate to share with students and their family and what isn’t.
I'm a Demi-girl (she/they pronouns), and when I came out to my mom, she was supportive. She asked if I was changing my name, and I said, "No, the only thing that is changing are my pronouns." She has made an effort to refer to me by both she/her and they/them pronouns.
I am a student who’s school counselor and principal called their parents to say I was trans… to my transphobic mother… after I begged her not to and cried in her office
My parents know im queer and just expected me to pretend to be cishet pretty much every where and after years and years of it its so draining ans my mother is finally starting to recognize that. Im in college and staying with my parents until i graduate but my parents are seeing that now that im an adult, all those people I have to pretend around are not going to be people i will spend time with. If my existence as a queer person is so awful to them then i simply will not exist in their lives.
The school counselor room should be like a therapy room. Nothing leaves the room once it is said. Only exceptions are, wanting to hurt others and wanting to hurt yourself.
on my theatre teacher’s get to know you section you can fill out your name and pronouns, but theres also a section for who these can be used around which im so happy for. i personally dont have anyone who im uncomfortable eith being out to but im so glad that kids who do have someone who respects that through this teacher.
And even then, they gotta be smart about that. Some will have absolutely no tact or thought process when they get told that type-a thing and it's horrifying.
In Canada, even if it’s illegal you wouldn’t say anything. Only if the individual is threatening to harm themselves or someone else. Depends where you are residing.
In my state it is unfortunately required by law for any faculty members to report children being transgender to the parents of the children and it makes my blood boil
I am blessed to have a angle of a school councillor who i followed through 2 schools (middle school to highschool) who i told everything around my pan awakening. She never spilled anything and i continue to talk to her.
School counselors: *Supposed to act as therapy at school for those who need or think they should have it(which includes keeping everything to themselves.* Also school counselors:
I hate school consulars because of this I hate that they always tell the parents everything "everything stays in this room unless you want to hurt yourself or someone else" LIES
I’m currently out at school and unable to really come out at home (it would be unsafe for me to do so/try again, I’ve attempted before and it went horribly) and I’m terrified for that trust to be broken. All it would take is one slip up in an e-mail to my parents for everything to come crashing down.
Back in my elementary school, whenever we had introductory sheets, i just assumed whenever we were asked question like "what are your pronouns?" "What is you full name?" "What is your preferred name/what do want me and the rest of the class to call you?" It was to check how well we knows these things, like our gender, what pronouns to use for it how to spell our names, if we had nicknames because thats how it was presented to us. These introductory sheets have been around since the 90s in my schools and it was never once questioned nor was it ever accused of "pushing the LGBTQ+ community". Hell, this semester at college, one of my professors gave us one such sheet, and no one bat an eye at it, we just filled it out, introduced ourselves when called and sat back down. Tho someone grumbled that "we weren't kindergarteners, why should we still doing baby shit" Everytime time i see the introductory sheet mentioned and people getting all prissy over it, i just wonder why, it help us learn how to fill paperwork with our personal information. I been filling out my own forms since i was 10 and it was thanks to those introductory sheets that had the same questions
If they do it by choice, absolutely. Sadly, there are places now where they have to. Still should put up a fight, really, but not everyone can afford the risk. Point being, those laws need to change again as soon as possible.
@@1mh1asf7 No offence or anything, but I was just wondering why specifically you think this is bad parenting. Are you homophobic or is there something else to it?
My parents are both homophbic. My mom told me "if you ever do some queer nonsence I am off the will and being disowned" Any tips on what to do? Update: I have been starting to wear more rainbows and buy more rainbow things. To kinda give the idea im not straight. I was talking to my dad about raibows and I said something, then my dad proceded to say "so what you like girls or something, if you do thats totally okay." He said this in a rude tone. I do not like girls but i guess it gave me some peace of mind knowing he is some what accepting. My mom is totally homophobic though she anther case.
There isn’t much you can do, it’s better waiting till u can afford a safe place and move out. If ur gonna talk abt ur preferred pronouns or sexuality, I consider talking abt it just to very close friends, talking abt it to teachers or school counselors, depending by ur country, can make you end up in a dangerous situation pretty easily. SAFETY comes first, it always come first. Hope u can get trough it, as another person with homophobic parents to another, ur also a person with feelings and emotions, U ARE PERFECT JUST THE WAY U ARE
@@JustABall1 Thank you! I have been starting to wear more rainbows and buy more rainbow things. To kinda give the idea im not straight. I was talking to my dad about raibows and I said something, then my dad proceded to say "so what you like girls or something, if you do thats totally okay." He said this in a rude tone. I do not like girls but i guess it gave me some peace of mind knowing he is some what accepting. My mom is totally homophobic though she anther case.
Damn do i wish my mom were like this, shes tries to be an ally, is a teacher and yet this part that has their child named something as intimate as jr yet my mother still says shes too connected to my name
TW: mentions of SH and suicidal thoughts! This is why I hid EVERYTHING from my counselors. Once I BEGGED them not to tell my mother I was self harming or suicidal. I was almost sent to a mental hospital by them but my parents yelled at them for even trying to take their baby away from them. I was about 13 when I lost my grandfather. I was bullied, sexually abused, and much more. I am not happy yes, but I begged that counselor to just let me tell my parents on my own. But nope, they didn’t listen to me and I get it, you’d have to tell them. But after I haven’t been self harming in years my scars have healed. But even then people would go and snitch. Then call my parents. My parents were pissed about this and I’m so glad I’ve graduated. I’m happy and healthy now and to all of those out there hating their scars. Just a reminder those are there to let you know you’ve fought battles and won.
This makes me mad… I’m a teacher and our province just passed a law stating teachers must put students to their parents. It sucks to know that students are telling us something in confidence just for us to legally have to betray them. I hate it.
Welp, maybe is it possible to inform the students of this law? But doing it in an ambiguous way, like "if you say something but I don't hear it, I can't report it. And it would be by the greatest of chance if you hear something that sounds like a reply." ?
It's not betrayal, The parent has a right to raise their child as their own, With their own Values. And I think that a parent should have a legal Right to know what is going on in their child's life.
@erynmajetich4846 I think it's a bit more complicated: a child is also a person, they have the right to chose to disclose or not private information. Moreover, it could make the parents feel bad about it if they find it this way, as if their child doesn't feel safe enough to tell them about it. Plus, it could be harmful to some children, some parents don't want to support them, they might disown them or worse. It's better for everybody to keep private information private. This way, the child can talk about it with his parents whenever he wants, he can continue to trust the school and the parents have more chances to take it positively if their child can express himself, instead of another person doing it.
For all the other people who can’t come out to their parents, I’m here for you ❤ I’m trans but deep in the closet, my parents believe there are only two genders and that you’re the one you were born as, They treat my trans friends awfully and are racist aswell, I’m already close to being sent to a conversion camp just for being gay. Anyone out there, you’re not alone ❤
I wish my parents were educated and supportive, because I want to tell then that Im gender fluid(or non-nonbinary, Im still trying to figure it out) and pansexual.
@@Hiedizzm isn't Florida a commonwealth state? Commonwealth states can't refuse medical service when it's needed.... if you go in for a hernia, they have to treat the hernia.... even if they know yo can't pay for it and you don't have insurance
I am not referencing insurance, we had insurance. I am referring to the Bill called SB 1580 the protection of medical conscience bill. This bill allows healthcare professionals to deny care based on their conscience i.e. they can refuse care to trans people. And not just trans people, gay people as well, we have a friend who has glaucoma that happens to be gay that was fired by his ophthalmologist. Again nothing to do with insurance. We have another friend that had to be driven to Georgia to have her broken leg set. Not to mention the other bills that allow the state to seize trans children. “For their safety” So yeah, I’m gonna stick with fled. Florida
Watching the parent care about whether or not their child lives a happy life rather then the parent being upset about their kid being lgbtq, made me so happy!!
Even though I may not agree with some people's views. I We'll still respect the way they want to be called or the way they are because no one can control how they feel. We can't pray it away. Even I know that I may be Christian. But even I know we shouldn't push someone out of something. They are who they are and God loves them no matter what that's how I think of it. We're all god's children
Our county has a specific policy that school staff cannot disclose anything like identity wise to parents without the students consent because of cases that made that a necessity
Wow. I just realized how lucky I am to live in a place without really strict rules about this shit. There’s a trans guy on my hockey team and he’s great. I would be sad if he was kicked out just because of who he is.
Sometimes, some of them are terrible and don't realise the danger they can put the kid in by telling a parent they are trans. I know my councillor did this, but we had a plan and I knew my parents weren't going to do anything drastic, so that's different.
Yeah, there’s laws in certain states that require school staff to tell parents if they hear a student say anything about being queer, and then some counselors are just assholes.
This dad is my husband. Our oldest came out as pan freshman year and I had an idea long before but he didn't. He grew up with stepfathers (2) who are very anti LGBTQ and all about white supremacy. When he married me (Puerto Rican bi woman) they loosened up a bit but his ex-stepdad still refuses to allow the grandkids to watch Finding Nemo/Dory because of Ellen DeGeneres and refuses Pepsi products and other things. So my husband asked me how he could educate himself and since there was a Pride event that weekend, I suggested we go and he could ask questions as he felt comfortable. He agreed. He even made some new friends! A transwoman and nonbinary friend he absolutely wishes were truly family. I am proud of him for wanting to educate himself to support our daughter and others. Sadly, not all children/teens (even adults) feel safe coming out. I won't give up hope that we can make things better. Start educating ourselves and voting for those who will protect our rights. Thank you for sharing these videos!💖
@@AutisticFrogsthat's gross. maybe listen to your parents. as soon as i started to, my life got IMMEDIATELY better, you have no idea. school counselors who keep things from parents are predatory
@@1mh1asf7 my parents are actually supportive, they don't care what I identify as, just as long as I'm happy. Apart from that, school councillors should share information with parents, if it's necessary. My school councillor and I had the plan to tell my parents and we eventually did with the my consent, she called my mum and told her I'm transgender. If she did the same to my other trans friend (his life got worse since his mother found out that he was transgender), he'd have no one to talk to because he wouldn't even be able to trust the councillor who is meant to be there for us. His mother does have mental health problems but refuses to acknowledge her sons problems. Edit: no where in my comment did I say my parents weren't aware, I just said that it's easier to tell a councillor instead. You've made an assumption that I never intended on telling them or that they didn't know. Before I came out with the assistance of my councillor, they already knew I was queer and they were very supporting even if they didn't understand. My school councillor was just helping me.
My youngest is non binary and has chosen to go by a different name. I told their teacher at the beginning of the year that I wanted them to be able to by their CHOSEN name. She acted like she understood. Then 2 months in I find out that she is still calling them by their dead name. I went up there on open house night to discuss this with her. She told me that she was required to do so. Big fat lie. I already spoke to the principal about it and she expressed no such issue. So I called the teacher out on it. I told her I'm the parent and I respect my child enough to trust them with this. It's not my life. It's not the teachers life. It's my child's life. If they decide they are are a purple pigeon named Bob, it's still their life. All I can do is make sure they are being a good human and learning to be a responsible adult. And, of course, the absolutely brilliant little booger that they are.
TW!!! Went to a councelor to talk about how I as worried about my best friend (now boyfriend) who relapsed recently and I want to help them, and they really tried to guess who it was 💀💀 guessed their name and I said no, because they said CPS would get involved and my bsf/bf and other friends told me how bad they were.
I’m going to be real with you if you get paid good and like your job and can’t easily get another job with equal or better pay then I would put a name plate on your desk with the proper pronouns mention in light conversation to work buddys your preferences of pronouns and leave it there don’t correct any one don’t make some dumb announcement cuz no one cares … people got so much more on there minds they could care less about your pronouns if they don’t call you by the appropriate pronoun don’t take it personal they just not thinking about you because you’re just a coworker to them. There just trying to get threw the day like you are. If you make a big deal about it you become low hanging fruit for people to take there frustration out on people who would normally not care about your sexuality. Also a lot of employers do not want people working for them that make a big deal about pronouns due to having to worry about law suits and other non work related issues at work.
Arkansas can really be a bad place to be anything but straight, or even have any skin color other than white. It is more so the older generations that act that way, but if you grow up in such an environment and never look for your own knowledge or truth on it, then the younger generations can also act that way. I'm thankful that one of my best friends came out to me in 11th grade in 2010. It started my own journey to discover what was truth and develop my own thoughts on such things.
My close friend (whom i also work with) is non-binary and they're not completely out at work, they let a lot of the past employees know but newer ones dont so they go by "she" a lot at work still and it trips me up so bad cause im use to calling her she to certain people because im respecting their decision to come out to new people when they are comfortable well it sure as heck trips me up outside of work as far as pronouns i feel terrible outside of work ill be on the phone and refer to her as she/her then feel like an a-hole ive been trying SO HARD to work on it and then i feel like i ruin it, in one convo.... there needs to be some sort or "how-to become more fluent in pronouns for dummies" book or something.. anywho.. they have super conservative parents who dont know and it hurts my heart so badly to see such an amazing person hiding like that because their family wont accept them... Accepting and loving your child for who they are does NOT mean giving up ur own beliefs imo, you can still be super religious and conservative and STILL love ur child for the way they want to live their lives! Look at it this way, would you rather have a trans/non bianary child or lose ur kid forever?!? Im guessing u wouldnt wanna loose ur kid, so maybe its time ppl were more open minded! We'd have a lot less mental health issues in this world if we just felt accepted!
Correction: ban them from playing the wrong sports. These poor kids get this crap shoved down their throats. As someone who got out of that trap, I genuinely feel for them. :/
yeah, you're right. no kid should be forced to come out until they're not ready. It's sad that in most places counselors are still allowed to do this :((
It wouldn’t ban them from playing sports. That a silly thought. They wouldn’t just have to play with the gender they were assigned at birth, which makes sense because they are physically stronger than girls, so it would make sense if they were to stay in the boys team
That’s fair tbh, just depends on the age. Before puberty kids are pretty equal. As for older kids, it should be handled on a case by case basis (ex some trans kids are on puberty blockers, which delays the kind of changes which make boys in general stronger than girls)
This sounds like a conversation in her head going on while she is in a straight jacket in a padded room....I'm not palying along with one's delusions..
even if they were delusions (they aren't) if you actively deny someones delusions it can make them worse and it's not safe for the person experiencing them. google it. leave it to health professionals
I’m just glad my counselor isn’t like that, I told her about everything that was making me mad and even that someone told me to kms, I told her not to tell my parents about that and my parents haven’t said a thing.
@@aylasonigiri Dictionary Definitions from Oxford Languages · Learn more them /T͟Hem,T͟Həm/ pronoun 1. used as the object of a verb or preposition to refer to two or more people or things previously mentioned or easily identified. "I bathed the kids and read them stories" 2. ARCHAIC themselves. "they bethought them of a new expedient" determinerINFORMAL•DIALECT those. "look at them eyes"
If you see a wallet on the ground you would probably think “Oh, some dropped THEIR wallet” as you can see, ‘their’ is used as a singular. Plus, the pronouns they/them were originally made to refer to a singular person before it was used to refer to multiple people.
This is what my school counselor did I told her about how I was unsure of one of my friends lying abouty how my parents were rude btw they are not they are the greatest ever but my friend went around telling everyone I told the counselor and she told my parents that i was saying all that now I have moved schools and have never seen her again
