FYI: I DO NOT use tarot cards. It’s a guy I watched on RU-vid for a week a month ago!! I will watch anything I want if it get my mind off of what’s going on. Rest assure I go to church!
You don't have to explain...I think people should worry about their own faith\belief or lack thereof. Good luck with everything, I wish you happiness, healing and a successful move
As a Christian it's not my job to judge. It's support and pray that life becomes wonderful for you. I truly pray God rewards you with joy and blessings
Who cares.... it's not anyone's business how we choose to live, entertainment ourselves, or get our minds off things. People who say rude things are just angry at the world and try to deflect their own misery onto others :( the majority here love you and you're very likely HELPING sooo many of us get through a similar situation... keep being you and do not worry about what ANYONE thinks. We all deal w things in our own way and you are helping so many of us. Thank you❤
My dear, I feel your pain. My husband left me after 20 years of marriage and married the mother of our daughter’s best friend. I felt like my entire world was just blown apart and I was desperately trying to find my way out of the devastation, the grief and shame and embarrassment. But something surprising happened that I really did not see coming….. I thrived! In ways that I never saw coming…..I absolutely blossomed! This journey is hard and painful BUT you will find your way. You will learn that you are resilient, strong, capable and deserving of all of the blessings that got blocked along the way. My home is stress free and I am finding all my joy that was lost amongst raising kids and trying to be the right match for the wrong person. As hard as it was: there is much beauty is self discovery. Hang in there darling, you are not alone, personal growth can be momentarily messy, but oh so worth it! Onward!!!
I know what your going through, I was married to a man for close to 20 years, I truly loved him❤ only find out, he had been cheating on me with another girl for years!!! My heart was broken. I’m now way over it, but very difficult…honest you will get through this, and even counseling with a third party, sometimes will help, God Bless you❤🙏🏻you.
If he cheated on you with this person and married her, he will cheat on her too. Consider yourself, free girl. He is HER problem now. Life Is too short❤ You are no longer with a selfish person.
Please please hear me… this will pass. God has a plan for you. You will experience such relief and joy in a very short time. Hand all your sorrow over to God. ❤
My ex dated a girl who was days into 18 at 32 (he’s 2 years older than me) He’s going on 37 now she definitely didn’t last! I’m happily married now but back then it hurt 😢
My fiance (at the time) left me and our daughter when she was 14mths old after more than 10 years together. She is now almost 21 and I raised her myself as a single working mum. I put all of my things in storage and moved. Don't spend too much time 'packing up' ..... take what you need, your fur babies and go. You've got this.
Yes, in theory it should be true but in my reality, after the 1993 divorce till today 2024, no new doors opened! 😂 just one struggle after another and still struggling to this very day as I am writing this comment! 🥲 it may just be my sad destiny…
@@chantellucky4565don’t lose hope, I have seen many people writing about how they met their soulmate decades later. My therapist was one of them. She met hers literally in her mid 60s after decades of struggle. He was everything she ever wanted and gave me hope that a good person to be with is possible. We just have to get an extra bit of work done first.
You show your normal positivity in this sad situation. I liked what you said in your announcement video that you would not change your channel name as you will be happy again. That is a very positive way to look at it.
I am a new subscriber. I was divorced after 30 years of marriage. I am now remarried for seven years to my soulmate and have never been happier. You've got this! ❤
Sweetie, it gets better as soon as your mindset changes from pain to promise. Divorced after 33 years, new wife barely older than our daughter, new family… the whole thing. I spent the first few weeks just reacting and trying to let my feelings roll through. Then one day it hit me that I COULD start looking at this as a fresh start, a release from the people pleaser wife person I had turned into during this time and a chance to go rediscover who I ONCE WAS. That was the game changer. Sending you love and peace. You’ll get through this just fine. Just trust yourself.
Just subscribed today ! I am currently going through divorce - it was hard at the beginning but now I love my life - he cheated on me and his first ex wife couldn’t stay out of his life - we have just started speaking amicably - after 3 years - divorce is due to be final in September- he asked me if I want to stop the divorce - absolutely NO WAY! He had too many chances - life is too short - I promise you - it will take time but honestly you will get through this as a stronger person - I promise you !!!!!! ❤
This is moving really quick for me. I said that because I’m coming from your announcement video. I can only imagine how you are feeling. But you’ve definitely given me the motivation to go through all the feels and move on. I definitely needed to see this. Thank you for being open to share your journey and let us who are going through the same journey know that things will get better. ❤
Take all "your" stuff, leave his stuff, and take half of mutual stuff even if you dont want it. You can donate, throw out, or sell what you dont want. It is very cathartic to deal with all the emotions. Best of luck with your new adventure.
He dont wont nothing she no that he god noes he not worried sje got this and the babys she always have for him he be in a better place and see some one he realy wont to see for a year that he loved all hos hart to but you did to right p❤❤
New subscriber sorry to hear your getting Divorced. I got Divorced him wanting it I literally took my stuff but sold it all and bought new to start my new life. God blessed me later with an amazing husband and 2 beautiful boys been married for 21 years now.
Not really. Ignore him as much as possible. I mean do not speak to him unless it’s absolutely necessary. No fighting in front of your children or anything like that but do not speak to him at all! This is important! Do this for you!
Mine just called the other day. Hadn't heard from him for over a yr, or so. Almost 21 days past my bday. 2½ weeks past my younger sister's bday. He forgot whose is whose day. He never said anything about wishing us happy birthday🎈 All he did was call twice and use the time to bash my loving, caring, wonderful mom and her ""lack"" of raising us ""right"". He didn't do anything to care for us. He was never around to do so. I sooo wanted to yell at him ... My point is: be there for ur kids. If he wants to come visit, unless there are extreme reasons for him to NOT be left alone with them, LET HIM!! Discuss it with ur children. Let them express their feelings. Whether you agree, or not. They will see you as doing ur very best to make their lives easier & happier. They will figure out who is causing the turmoil, if any, & be grateful they have you to love & truly care for them. My mom had her paperwork in a file box. We always sat & went through it, looking at a paper & asking her questions about this & that. She never told us No!! You can't look at that!! No, don't ask me anything about it! I'm not telling you! It's not kid's business. Up to a point. Because it affects their daily lives. You want them to know they can come to you, for anything & everything. Just nice & calm, breathe in & out. You have them. They have you & each other. You guys are GOLD🫂❤️🩹👣🧸
Ah he good with it he done noes what he going to do and he not shamed to let anybody no but he loved you god did he but yeah they wont be no fights no nothing id say he trying but he no he wont stand agein
Hi Ann ..Speaking from experience ..My marriage broke up after 22 yrs..With 3 children involved..He stepped out on me with someone 15 yrs younger than me..Boy it took 5 yrs to get the divorce ..So if you can get it done quickly ..because, more damage can be done later..I wanted it quick but, he kept dragging his feet messing with my head..he basically did not want to pay child support and wanted to work it out away from the court system..what a nightmare ..please surround yourself with people u trust and that support you..I have never gotten married again because of what happened ..so I have learned to survive on my own… praying and asking the lord for guidance..your stronger than you think..one step in front of the other and one day at a time!!❤❤❤.. God Bless!! Take care!!🙏😇☮️🌈🦋🌺✝️
I thought I wanted my first divorce to go quickly but now I'm glad it didn't. If it had gone quickly I wouldn't be eligible for the long term marriage social security and I'll be needing it. Glad it took at least a couple of years in order for me to qualify for his social security benefits as a long term marriage spouse.
My son is going on over 3 years. His wife left him for a transgender man. They have 3 children and it’s been awful. The wife feels entitled to take everything. She stayed silent on her sexuality for 18 years. As a family, we knew she was different with her silence and not carrying in a conversation. You would ask her a question and her response would be a laugh. She’s just like her dad was. Both of her parents have passed in the past 18 months. My son is so much happier now, but it as very tough for him and the family when it was shared.
@@TheMimiof7 Aren't there laws you can charge her with? In my country, it's a criminal offense to lie about sexuality and get married. Such a person won't get a penny in alimony or household objects and will get imprisoned and made to compensate as well. Because the trauma of touching/kissing/sex with someone who is not what they claim to be is too much. Needs therapy for life at times. The feeling of disgust and repulsion rarely leaves. Because our sexuality is different. Usually, their trick is to say "I suddenly felt I was lesbian/gay/trans" Just no. There is no sudden in this as all this is recognized early on in life, especially with today's social media. Def they will realize who they are as a person. As such courts should give a prison sentence to that ex-wife for fooling the husband.
@@btsarmyforever3816 The US has no law to charge the wife. In the “woke environment” you can identify with whatever you feel. I am 72 years young and I identify as a 40 year old 🤣🤣🤭🤭😉
Hello Ann, I am new here as of today. Your video was recommended to me. I wanted to tell you that I am so sorry for what you are going through, but despite being upset, you still choose joy and know things will get better. That is what caught my attention the most. I look forward to following your journey. Keep your head up, better things are to come! I'm praying for you!
I've been there done that empty nested at 40 as well, but it was a blessing in disguised bc now I can be the real me not the woman I had to be to make him happy which I didn't anyway. You got this 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Looking back, the divorce I went through was the best thing that ever happened to me. It won’t feel like it now, but as some time passes it should get easier. I don’t say “my ex” or “my divorce” because I don’t take possession of either. It helps to take emotions out of it. Just like a job. Not “my job”. And if you want to listen to psychics, you do it! Don’t let anyone judge you.
I've been where you are. Take it from someone who knows. Try not to think of this as an ending, it's a new beginning. I wish I could have looked at it like that back then. I was devastated but it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm almost 70 and have had such a great life, one that I wouldn't have had if we hadn't divorced. This is the beginning of the rest of your life, all new chapters to come. I left my home and almost all of my belongings and at the time it hurt but with every new experience the hurt went away and happiness replace it all. I'm not saying it was easy, but one step at a time. New people will come into your life that you would never have met if you had stayed where you were. It's stressful but please try to look ahead and think about all the new things to come. Something new around every corner. It's hard but please try to look at it as an adventure. The only thing I regret about my past is wasting time on being sad about my marriage that didn't work out.
If you have kids.... Ask them what they would want or keep things for them. I was the one who left with my kids. I thought it would be so hard. It was the best thing I did. Trust yourself!
Hey girl! You are doing sooo great! Tip: if you dont want to deal with some of the more emotional stuff, just leave it for him to take care of. The things you shared are his responsibility as much as yours. Speaking of Tuscany, you should watch Under the Tuscan Sun! It's about a woman starting over, just like you! (Have you seen it??) Give your pups lots of cuddles and revel in their unconditional love :) You've got this!! Prayers for your healing and joy!!
new Subscriber. I went through the same thing many years ago. It was devastating but i finally got through it. I now live a more peaceful life … drama free and much reduced stress. Now I avoid drama like the plague 🤣 You are not alone …. Hang in there … it will get better 🤗
I did the same! My ex asked me if I wasn`t going to take any furniture, but I just packed a suitcase and left. I rented a tiny room, and I`ve had the happiest years of my life since then. 😃
Hi- Even though it’s a sad time I hope you get some moments of joy (no matter how small) in planning the decor for your new home. Your pets are adorable! ❤
Don’t forget to label boxes on the sides with what’s inside, not just on the top, so you can see at a glance what’s there. Be happy for you. Treat yourself as your best friend & plan to eat well & take walks, for your well being. Think of your husband as your ex husband. You are now free to start afresh on your terms. Don’t waste a moment on thinking about what happened, why it happened & if anything could have changed it. That’s the past. You can’t change it. The present is now & the future is yet to come. Change your mindset, it’s not the beginning of a divorce but the end of an unfulfilling relationship. It must have been because it’s broken. You can’t fix it & it’s pointless & destructive for yourself to wallow in misery & take on the role of victim but you can reinvent yourself, become the person you want to be & take steps to embrace your new life with excitement. Starting now. Research has proven that if you smile, even if you force yourself at first, it will help you smile for real. Fake it until you make it. Good luck in your new ventures.
My husband and I were married for 27 years and then one day poof it was gone everything I had done in those years I realized was not for me it was all for the person that was not the person I married and for our children. And I sat here one day right before the date of our separation and was thinking OMG what am I going to do. With me. Like what do I want? What makes me happy? What makes ME want to get out of bed. And to my surprise I had no idea what I wanted to do like not for the rest of my life kind of deep questioning just a frivolous what do I like to do and to my surprise I had no idea. Like I couldn’t think of one thing that (I) (ME) (Myself) what do I like to do. I really didn’t know. I know I like crafting and silly things like that but do I like bowling or going to the movies or walks in the beach or camping in the woods I really didn’t know because everything that I had done over the almost 28 years was for HIM and or for our kids like everything was for them. Which was great believe me I lived for my kids. But along the way I lost who I was as a person. I was the Wife, or the Mom, or whatever but it was never who (I) was so it took me a bit longer to find myself because my mom married me off at 15 so I’ve actually been a wife and mother since I was 15 years old and I’m 58 now so I actually never got to ever learn WHO I was WHAT I liked. What made me myself happy. So I took a 2 week road trip and camped (because I remember as a kid how much I like doing that. And surprise I still do. Anyway my point is as I realize I’m babbling so I’ll stop. But just know that you need to be you find you and your innermost joy and happiness and just be you before even considering any new relationship. And then when you find you, and you may want to start dating DO NOT ACCEPT ANYTHING BUT THE BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR WELL-BEING. Many prayers all things work out for your best
I just came across your channel. I'm so sorry for all the pain you are experiencing . Praying for you and all the people in the comments going through the same situation. 🙏❤
Hi Ann. I’m so so sorry you’re having to go through this. I’m kind of in the same position except we were engaged. Been together since 2018. I don’t look at this video as boring I look at it as if I’m being here and supportive for a friend. Praying for you. Darling ❤🙏🏽
As someone who recently had to go through this 4 years ago when I came home to find my ex-husband had left me and found out he had been planning it for 6 months without telling me I feel your pain. I took a week off from work didn't think I'd ever be happy again. But I promise you this too shall pass and you will be fine. As hard as this was for me to go through I thank God everyday he was with me every step of the way I'm now happily engaged to a wonderful person who loves me unconditionally and even if I had never found this person I know I'm still going to be okay and I know you will be too, just keep taking deep breaths we need be and tell yourself you got this. Oddly enough I have forgiven my ex-husband for what he did and we are on decent terms.
Don’t go through this alone . It is hard . Ask for a help when you need it . I describe this like someone that you loved so much died . It is exactly like that . First you go through shock , then grief and after that you find peace. Hang in there ❤. First time here and your new subscriber . Wish you all the luck ❤
Hi again! Idk if I mentioned it before, but counseling is a good option, as you are struggling emotionally. In my divorce experience, the judge was very supportive of me, as a woman, and was leaning toward me keeping the house. But, it looks like you have that part worked out. Prayers 🙏🏽 will also get you through! Feel better ❤️🩹 and don’t give up. 🤗
New subscriber ❤… As women we go through a lots of painful situations in life but they lead us to believe and accept that life is forever - life experiences, growth, strength and joy once we are healed and find our way! I went through painful situations with my husband and I move many miles away and little by little the pieces of my puzzle (my life) are coming together and I’m hopeful to complete that puzzle in the near future! I pray for you and I hope you heal and have a wonderful and blessed life that you deserve! ❤🌹❤️
My husband and I had a pretty small argument on my 40th birthday - after 12 years of marriage - and basically he never came home again. The divorce took 4 years. He not only didn't acknowledge my birthday the day of the argument but had not bought me a present. It was all par for the course. I hired a " crisis " therapist to help me work thru it and she was the worst !!! She gave me the worst advice ever. Long story short I was only 41 and hooked up with the best boyfriend I ever had. We separated 10 years later on good terms. I think that is what happens when you don't have to divorce. My husband - altho I find it hard to believe - did have a girlfriend. I could hardly believe it at the time. The man was 14 years older than me and I was his 3rd wife. Like Shannan Watts said - he had no game. But evidentially that was not true !!! In any event, what I regret is how easy I made the divorce for him. He got so much more than he deserved thanks to the loser therapist !!!
Hi, Divorced here, too 👋 unsolicited advice, if you can, pack and gtfo of there fast! Start fresh as fast as you can. Memtally/emotionally it will help. I empathize with how hard it is. Just know it will get sooo much better! It will all be ok
Sending prayers your way dear. Better separate now then years from now. You still have so much time to do what you want to do thank goodness. It's also incredibly freeing not to have to worry about how a partner feels or walking on eggshells around his ego. Less stressful all around. You'll be smiling soon enough. Hugs.
The dogs reaction broke my heart. I subscribed and will follow you to see you heal and grow. The video just showed up on my feed. You deserve all the love and grace and I feel you right now because I just came out of a breakup.❤❤
May God give u the strength n wisdom u need to continue to go on, you’ll hav better days than others but having faith in God will be a lot easier…🙏🏼 I am also going to through a separation with my husband of 15 years not easy n super sad😢but God picks me up every time I fall… it is what it is n accepting whatever is happen I g at the moment will make it better… may God bless u girl! U will be fine!
I'm new here and I am in awe of how strong you really are! Even through your extreme sadness, you are strong. You will find complete happiness again with the right person.
Ann, so sorry you are going through this right now. I too have been there but rest assured, it's hard at this moment but you will come out at the other side much much stronger. Hope your fur baby boy is feeling better. Much love from the UK 💖
My heart aches with you💔 I’m so glad you’re moving and making a new start near family. May the Lord comfort and walk with you bearing you up every hour. Hugs
This kind of stuff makes me really really sad …I still remember mine like it was just yesterday…stay strong …what helped me the most was keeping my self busy …sending hugs your way 😊
I feel you. I'm four years out from my ex deciding to start a band and leaving at 25 years together (23 married). But, he was the one who wanted out and did some questionable things so I got the house and just about everything in it except his clothing and personal items (he is a police officer in our city and didn't want the public to know anything). I did not realize until he left how dependent on him I had become (I didn't even go to the grocery store by myself). I felt like I wanted (needed) him with me at all times unless we were at work and always wanted to have family time (we have two boys, both grown). I now know that I am strong and can handle most things. I do still wonder why sometimes and miss the life I thought I had.
❤❤ You got this❤❤ I know this is extremely painful, but just when you think you can't, believe me you can. This is the start of your healing. Take you and your beautiful babies and start your new venture. This is your time to shine. Sending hugs and love to you and your babies❤❤❤ This is not a fun process but its a cleanse for you. You deserve to be happy and you deserve peace.
I’m normally a silent subscriber but I just want you to know that I have been through this. It will sting fore a long time but it will get easier. Wish I was there to help and give you a hug . Just know I’m sending prayers. 🌸❤️
Just happen to come across your video. Focus on you, praying and healing🙏🏻. There are experiences that are not so pleasant, yet within time it can make you stronger. All the best to you🙏🏻. The doggies and cat sense how you are feeling and only if they could talk. Your pets love you unconditionally 🫶🏻🐾🐾🐾🐾
I am sorry you are going through this 😢! Been there, its hard , without a doubt. Please try to look forward, rediscover yourself and take care of yourself❤❤❤ ill be praying for you 😊
I feel this video so hard! But I am excited for you to get all new things that are just yours and I just subscribed! I always say life is short and id rather have a couple of bad months rather than a lifetime of unhappiness. Your glow will return
I wish there was something magical that I could say to help your beautiful heart right now. I have been where you are. Remember time really does help heal. I just felt touched by your story and wanted to reach out and express to you how you are not alone. Some days it takes all you have inside to just put one foot in front of the other. Be gentle with yourself and reach out when you need support. Your story touched my heart!!❤
You’ve got this. May not feel like it at this time, but you do. God brought this to you, he will get you thru it also. It’s a life tragedy some many ways worse than a death of a close loved one. I’m praying for you. Something great always comes with something bad. You’ll find it.
This seems to be happening very quickly, but maybe a blessing in disguise rather than prolonging the pain. What is happening to your fur babies. Hope they are going with you. Best wishes and stay strong.
Hi Ann, Once you leave there I know you’re going to feel better.❤ I’m praying for you that you could get by this situation very quickly and move on to a happier life.😊God bless!!!🙏
Hey friend binge watching! Only advise I give you is after you move take a 3-4 day span to be alone with yourself, allow yourself to wallow and scream if you must. My heart was on the mend and then he stated dating a girl many years younger (I’m 35 he’s 36) it hurt so bad. Just know you are going to go through stages 😢 my heart hurts for you when you say “this house deserves a family”
My husband and I went through a very rough patch several years ago and ended up moving back to be near my family. Luckily our marriage survived, but being near my family has been so precious to me. We also don’t have kids, and being able to nurture my relationship with my niece and nephew has been priceless. I wish you much peace and many blessings in your new journey ❤️🩹🥰
I am sorry that you are going thru this. One of these days you will see passed all of this. When I got divorced, I was just fine with it. I know not everyone is like me. But I spent the last 7 days with covid, so I am speculating which I would rather be doing this weekend. Please give yourself the time and space for peace.
Just make sure this is what you guys want. Divorce should always be the last Resort. When you walk out those doors, you know that you've done absolutely. Everything you could to save it so that later in life there's no regret.
I sleep good at night knowing I tried everything possible to try and save my marriage, but sometimes people need more help than you can give them. I touched on this on my first video. Check it out!
@@AnnsHappyHome I'll check it out. This is my first video. Knowing that I gave everything and he gave nothing. Gave me confidence to keep going And not look back. No regret.❤️❤️
I love Nicky and Carlo!!! Whar great style they do have. Been reallly loving the Tuscany house and that new kitchen right??? Listen find that strength that all woman have and look at this as a new beginning!! Not losing but gaining life experiences. You will be ok i promise. Jusr keep that mindset itll help so much!!!😊 New sub from your last video and it seems like you might have a channel that grows into a whole new thing for you, how amazing for you 😊
Just take your clothes, any sentimental personal items etc. leave everything else. It’s far better to start anew than to have constant reminders of the past. Once you leave for the last time, never look back. Just think of the relationship as a practice for something bigger, better and far more spectacular that’s going to be in your future.
New subscriber! I'm so very sorry you're going through this. I went through the same 5 years ago ...I promise, it gets so much better. Be good to yourself. I'm praying for you! Xo
New Subscriber! You are incredibly brave to be sharing your experience and your video is very triggering for me because I am currently going through the end of a relationship after 24 years that was deteriorating for many years and will soon inherit a mortgage after which he will leave. My partner has been blatantly and openly cheating with a coworker and felt that he is entitled to it because of reasons too ghastly to get into. Luckily no kids, two fur babies that I am responsible for. Reading all the comments has been incredibly therapeutic from all the people who have been through the same or similar situations and have thrived after. I felt so hopeless and ashamed for so long. The last 3 years have been incredibly difficult, filled with anger and hate but also filled with so much accomplishments like going back to school and hopefully make a living that will eventually single handedly pay the mortgage and the bills. When you showed your boys, I just broke down because my fur babies have gotten me through some of the toughest times because I had to make sure they were taken care of. Don't know what will come for either of us, but the closer I get to my own closure, I feel a sense of liberation. I have never felt stronger as a person than I do now and I look forward to life after this relationship/situation/phase. Stay Strong, Stay Positive. You will be closer to family and that's something great to look forward to, plus Napa is gorgeous. 🙂
He left me for someone else after 24 years. Hard at first, but now I’m living my best life.I couldn’t be happier! There IS life after divorce. Have faith!
Hi I’m new to your channel once you have your family around you your feel so much better I’m sorry you have to go through this big hugs 🤗 You got this! 🩷
GIRL!!! I LOVE ANT!!!! HE IS A TFIP AND WILL MAKE YOU LAUGH AND FEEL BETTER. ANT ALSO WILL TELL YOU STRAIGHT OUT TO WALK AWAY AND GIRL BYE ON TO BIGGER BETTER THINGS! I LIVE IN GHE SAME CITY AS HIM ! I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR 23yrs and he cheated and got someone pregnant and during all of it I stood by him and then one day just a month ago he chose her and I am having a really hard time but nothing I can do about it so I’m left with the pain and he is in happy land. Jerk! Blessings to you
Is very hard to go through thisnpain it was Thanksgiving xmas holidays alone after .... 😢😢😢 one Thanksgiving i sat on a table of lubys restaurants and ate bu my self and now that i look back im like i had to go through that tobbe where i am. Prayers for healing and peace.
