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Vivian Sonnenberg, a pediatric sleep consultant with more than 20 years of experience solving sleep issues for thousands of babies all over the world, will talk about common sleep myths and share tips to help you help your baby to sleep through the night. 🔥 Click on 'Show More' for details (...)
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Kelly: Today, we’re here with Vivian Sonnenberg, a pediatric sleep consultant with more than 20 years of experience teaching babies all over the world how to sleep. Her advice has been featured on various news programs including Good Morning America. Today, we’re going to talk about common sleep myths and she will give you tips that help you help your baby sleep through the night.
Vivian, thank you for being here.
Vivian: Hi, Kelly. Thank you for having me here.
Kelly: Of course.
Vivian: I really, really like to talk about sleep training, as you know, I did your two!
Kelly: Yes! You tremendously helped me with both of my children and I wanted to talk to you about it further. Can you tell us how you got into sleep consulting?
Vivian: Sure, I really like that. I took care of newborns for about 14 years back-to-back. I was super popular, love, love, love the babies. I have a passion for babies. So sweet, and they’re so innocent and they need us moms to teach them, I feel strongly about that.
Just because of the way I was and being calm and loving babies were sleeping through the night at eight weeks, minimal crying. But that’s after taking care of newborns for a long time until I really got it. Then gradually, the moms started referring to other moms and to the Golden Gate Mom’s Group and I just went from one group to the other. Gradually it became so big, the sleep training, that’s all I do now. I’m very successful with my program, but we can talk about that later. So that’s how it all started. Now people call me from New York, from Chicago, from London. I did Australia, Spain, Italy, so fun, all over the world.
Kelly: That’s great! So, what is the typical number one problem that people call you with?
Vivian: I see the number one problem as being the babies are overstimulated, there are zero schedules, the babies get overtired and they start crying, and then the moms start worrying. The longer the baby is awake, the more he cries. So there is definitely a schedule I’d recommend to the moms to keep the baby calm, especially a newborn. The more you fuss with the baby the more it cries.
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@IngeniousBaby 6 лет назад

💤 You can read the full transcript about How to Get a Baby to Sleep at goo.gl/CwCCt1

@IngeniousBaby 4 года назад

@@bangibeth how is this related to babies?

@IngeniousBaby 3 года назад

Because it provides tips on how to get your child to sleep!

@notconvinced2204 4 года назад

I never let my baby cry longer than a minute for any reason. He’s now a confident and calm 5 month old that sleeps through the night and plays alone for 15 minutes at a time.

@dd.5222 2 года назад

❤

@monikanoghli7565 2 года назад

The stuff she says, bothers me! Big deal, she implements the CIO method and people around the world pay her BIG CASH. She probably just calmed the mom with her soft tone and let the baby CIO That’s it, I guarantee

@MJ31579 2 года назад

Not everyone is that lucky. My son only started sleeping through the night at 2 years, after sleep training. Before then he would wake up hourly at times. Waking up every 1 to 3 hours at night and working full time for 2 years meant I had mental health issues due to sleep deprivation.

@lilyseestheworld7865 2 года назад

It sounds all jumbled up! I don't see any method or strategy behind all this talk.

@christinejayakody 4 года назад

Responding to crying is the first way to improve the child's communication. I ain't letting my child cry. Sue me!

@missrose9164 4 года назад

Keep loving that baby.

@Misuneverse 3 года назад

What I was waiting for her to say was “make sure the baby gets a full feeding” because that is the a great way to help the baby fall asleep. For all the breastfeeding moms out there, keep the baby on one breast as long as they are awake so they get both fore and hind milk. Look up what those are!

@soulsearcher9191 3 года назад

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@sophianaqvi3697 3 года назад

@@Misuneverse thank u I had 2 girls before but mainly bottle fed I'm pregnant now due this August tha ks forthe tip

@fityogawithniloo906 3 года назад

I agree!!

@lollsazz 3 года назад

My newborn nad stomach aches. Because I always listened to her and tried to be there always, I understood that "aaii!" meant that she was hurting somewhere. I just can't imagine letting her cry out of pain till she gets exhausted instead of coming into the room and help her get the gas out. She began self-soothing at about 5 weeks, at which point she could wake up and just lie and relax in the bed, look at different things around the room and be confident that someone would always be there if her tummy started aching

@Krolikpiano 4 года назад

This is totally wrong in my eyes. I'm not an expert, I just have one baby. But we never let him cry and he's falling asleep all alone in his bed. What we've done is: - not letting him fall asleep while eating (just make some noise to wake him up if he falls asleep, bring him to bed and let him fall asleep in bed) - use a pacifier to help him calm down in bed. Take it off when he's sleeping. - calm him down in the arms when he's too nervous to fall asleep on his own, put him in his bed just before falling asleep - sing slowly and quietly or whisper while maintaining his arms alongside his body while he's trying to fall asleep (otherwise his own movements disturb him). - at some point, stop singing/whispering and breathe "loudly" and very slowly close to him as long as he's not fully sleeping. He's now 6 months old. It took 5 months of this sleeping help and now I can put him awake in bed, give him a kiss and close the door, he will sleep in by himself. (Unless he's not tired enough => he won't sleep or there were lots of people talking to him just before going to bed => he will need some time in the arms in the dark to calm down before sleeping in on his own). Good luck to other parents!

@deborahadesoga9852 4 года назад

Krolikpiano please does your baby now sleep through the night or still wakes up for night feedings?

@33EMS 4 года назад

I did the exact same thing and my baby also slept through the night since she was 5 months! I walked with her in the dark room and put her in her crib right before she would fall asleep, so many times she started screaming and I would doubt my method, but now she is such a good sleeper and I can put her awake in het crib and she falls asleep by herself!

@vilenaantonova235 2 года назад

Please, was your baby breast or bottle fed?

@livamilAVA 5 лет назад

I really believe that nature has developed crying and the habitsvof a baby on purpose. I sleep with my child in one bed, i believe these connections will be there to trust me as a parent, the child doesnt feel stressed, abamdoned and terryfied

@eerika2011 3 года назад

I’m glad I’m not the only one. I sleep with my baby too, although all experts advise against it

@halloweellahere7602 3 года назад

@@eerika2011 #same!

@ashaevamaria5029 3 года назад

Yeah, me too :) that's a baby's physiological need to sleep with their parents, that's how they feel safe and grow confident and psychologically healthy.

@mirandataylor6385 3 года назад

That’s your belief but mothers all over the world who are actually connected to nature use this method. I cannot believe the amount of people who associate it with torture. A baby is confused and needs guidance. Letting a child go on without proper naps and sleep is torture.

@aiqf3189 2 года назад

Same , I had newborn at the moment.

@klejtenyi 4 года назад

There is actually very little information in this video if you are looking to learn about how to sleep-train your baby. The interviewer clearly isn't used to giving televised interviews, either.

@JillianNoelle 4 года назад

So true, lil kids wake up mad early. I like this lady.

@tinameyers3064 3 года назад

Before I tried “ sleep Training” my baby was a confident and happy 4 month old. He even put himself back to sleep at times during naps if he stirred himself awake. He also rarely woke up crying from his naps, he always was happy and played with his feet until I got there shortly after. I was always responsive to his needs when he communicated to me through crying. I also nurse him to sleep. Then I tried a method where you let them cry for 30 min and then do pop In every so often until they go to sleep! Of coarse my heart was torn to shreds hearing my baby cry like he was dying. Me going in and doing nothing but telling him he’s okay in a calm voice just kissed him off even more. It would piss me off too if I was a baby! He doesn’t understand what I’m saying! He’s a baby! The night after I felt like a horrible mother and told myself I was never doing that again. He also became way more fussy and clingy, which he never was, his naps were also terrible. Poor guy was traumatized. I went back to being responsive and now he’s finally back on track and doing much better. A baby needs their mama. I believe they will learn to do all those things when they are ready. I don’t understand why we need to rush them into knowing how to do something that adults only know how to do. Putting themselves back to sleep! Also we co-slept with my little guy since he was born to 3 months and then I transferred him into his own room with no issues at all! It seems like because I created a loving and responsive environment, he was able to thrive from that and be more confident on his own. This is just my Experience, every baby’s is so different. Also, after that crazy experience I decided I was going to put him back into our bed for a bit. Nights were not good. With us he only Wakes once to feed and sometimes just because he’s trying to poop haha.

@vinnieselvon1797 3 года назад

When I tried leaving my son to cry for five minutes, got to admit I was really surprised when it went silent, so I go in their to check on him and he was covered from head to toe in vomit from being so traumatised, all his gust was covered too, after that I decided I would never do that again, as a result of that he ended up with asthma. So sorry I don’t believe there’s one method for all babies, do what your gut instincts tell you to do.. interesting that all animals sleep with their babies they don’t have a schedule or try to put them somewhere else to sleep, I personal think it’s cruel, after all the baby was in your womb for 9 months then he gets put into a nursery away from his mum, I never did that with mine, in fact if they wouldn’t sleep they came into our bed, as I thought one way or another we are going to get some sleep xx

@zuney5268 2 года назад

Tina how old is your baby now? How is it going? My 10month old wakes between 4 and 7 times a night. Day time naps are also not good. Tried to do sleep training a few months ago but I stopped in the fist few hours. Couldn't let my baby cry that much. But I'm reconsidering again because we get no sleep. Was curious to know how things are going with you guys?

@ninacuk 2 года назад

I think if you hire a sleep expert, she will tell you what you did wrong. As far as i know, babies should not be left crying loud for 30mins. Also once baby cries loud, you have to comfort them with picking them up etc. The lady here is talking about tricks that all have to be covered to train a baby successfully. And there is difference in some quiet crying that stops in 5 mins or crying loud like mad.

@barrapaws 2 года назад

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@vilenaantonova235 2 года назад

@@zuney5268 hey, how did this go for you? Did you train again?

@biancahazel1664 4 года назад

Not sure why everyone is complaining, I found this so useful and I have a 2.5 yo that still wakes up multiple times a night AND Cosleeps!!!!!!!

@ElderQueen Год назад

How do you stop this night wake ups? I have a 21 months old. We also co-sleep and breastfeed.

@jessicalugay25 5 лет назад

My babies slept thru the night from 4 months. Got to train them early. Many people are the only ones who can stand their kids at night bc the parents came no structure.

@tinameyers3064 3 года назад

I don’t understand this rush to teach babies to put themselves back to sleep. It seems like because of our modern busy lifestyles we want to make life more convenient for us, without considering what it might do to our little children psychologically. I think every baby is different and every parent gets to decide what they want to do but this certainly did not work for me and actually made it much worse

@913KMG 4 года назад

Literally looked up sleeping tricks cause my son wasn't having any part of any kind of sleep and 3:26 into this video he's knocked TF out!!! 😲 This woman is either a Saint or that's one hell of a coincidence 😂 I didn't even do anything different except for clicking the video and BAM!! Z's for days! Lmao

@IngeniousBaby 4 года назад

That's too funny!

@ashaevamaria5029 3 года назад

That's true that babies adapt quickly to everything, that is their nature. If you let them cry lonely in the bed they will get used to it and stop crying after a while, just like if you beat them after a while they will consider that to be a normal behavior. We, parents, show to our babies the rules of this world. Newborns are helpless, they can not move around or feed themselves on they own, they will die without an adult. If you let a baby alone in the nature, surely he will be eaten by a predator. We are no longer in the wind nature, there are no lions, but a baby doesn't know it, he is scared in his beautiful bed and he doesn't feel safe. We know that security is a primal need of every human. The only safe place is near his adult, the one who can protect him. In the first months of baby's life a mother represents a whole Universe for him. That's when a basic trust to the world is formed. When you let your baby cry from the feeling of insecurity, from the fear of death, the message he learns is "you can call for help, nobody will come to save you, you are abandoned". The nature's mechanisms are well made: baby cries and we want to respond immediately. I believe, that's is strange and harmful to suppress it. Yes, you can train your baby to fall asleep on his own. But is it worthy ? I think we rather need to learn what are our babies' needs and their expectations from us as parents. We need to lean their biological rythmes, to learn to avoid their overstimulation, to learn to create rituals to help them to fall asleep. We need to become calm and confident so our babies feel our power. And surely sleep regression exists, like exists regressions of all the other baby's skills while developing their brains. That is how neural connections work. I sincerely hope that parents who watch this video are capable of critical rational thinking and are open hearted and open minded. With all my love and bliss to every parent and their babies ❤️🙏

@kinjalruparelia1975 2 года назад

Thank you. Was looking for this only

@yepmanythings 2 года назад

Everybody around me told me to do what she said, but my husband and I don't believe that there is not damage...how is posible to let your baby cry, get stressed and sad for to fall sleep?. I want to be for him when he needs me, some time they have colic or feel scare...they need us!... I'm agree with all that you said 💗

@MJ31579 2 года назад

Why do you watch this? I'm really curious why moms with babies who sleep easily will watch these types of vedios and share their unqualified advice and judgements not knowing what other moms go through. It's baffling.

@yepmanythings 2 года назад

@@MJ31579 my baby doesn't sleep easily... I'm trying to find a method were you can help the baby to sleep better without making him fall sleep after feeling lonely and stressed.. I'm exhausted, he was sleeping better for one week, 8 hours without waking up to eat and I was amazed, but looks like he is having the problem that occurs at 4 months old...so he's waking up again very often.. I understand you..

@4Distractiononly 4 года назад

I'm taking some tips here although I don't agree with everything, exactly. A routine definitely needs to be put in place, respect the babies needs and their need for structure. Also, I do think sleeping in their own bassinet every time they nap so they are used to it just makes sense. We do not be co sleeping, it just doesn't make sense in our situation but the baby is in the bassinet by our bed. I try to be practical and intuitive about crying. I don't think all crying is the same and some self soothing (all though not all!) is wise. But our little one knows we are near and that his cries are heard. I keep the baby with me as much as possible and in my arms and care as often as possible especially during their active hours.

@Misuneverse 3 года назад

@an10110 2 года назад

Wrong, I'd recommend to pump.. If your on schedule and routine of their meals.. wait till you need to do the 2oz break nap/play time servings.. And then you have the 4 Oz or (full tummy) servings in evening bed time.. Again it's also about balance and knowing what goes into you baby's tummy. It's not always that way, make sure you give them afternoon naps! Otherwise you're up all night.

@leahcain2426 2 года назад

To be honest it hasto do entirely with the baby and how much milk they are getting. I feed my baby bottle and it is no different than breast-feeding. But every situation and every mother and baby dynamic is unique. If that works for you that is great.

@bee8940 5 лет назад

By her saying tough love she means allow them to learn how to self sooth themselves of course after every need has being taken care off.

@clmtdmmjcmm4489 2 года назад

I let my son cry it out. He suffered from separation anxiety and still has anxiety to this day and he’s 30 years old. I could go back, I would not let him cry it out… No way!

@lilyseestheworld7865 2 года назад

Good you learnt the lesson and shared this with us!

@nonophat 2 года назад

All the kids that I know who suffer from separation anxiety where NEVER sleep trained... how can you be so sure that yours has anxiety due to cio? On the contrary I know a few kids who have major separation anxiety and theve been co-sleeping since birth... Separation anxiety can be attributed to so many things and sleep training is the east of them. I have a 3yr old who is well rounded, thriving, emotionally secure and independent - she was sleep-trained using cio.

@jackiesicilian5720 Год назад

You did not watch the video, she doesn't do cry out method.

@Mk-KarenM 4 года назад

Babies have multiple needs when they come to us. Many being emotional, love that baby as long as you can. They all learn to sleep eventually! I am an Early childhood graduate but don’t claim to know everything. I believe a parent results in much selflessness and its a long term journey. My eldest had a difficult time sleeping, he hardly slept as an infant and would work him into a frenzy if left to scream. He now has a business degree from Yale and was socially very competent. I’m not in total agreement with her on everything but I am with her in regard to her swaddle theory. Babies naturally want to suck their fingers/hands which actually releases endorphins in their brain and when confined under a tight wrap it deprives them from their basic instincts. One last thought, animals are trained, children are nurtured. 🥺

@charliefrost9983 5 лет назад

Key to this is stimulating your baby as much as possible so that by the time it’s bedtime they so tired, even if you do the put down and exit method, the duration of them crying it out is not so intense and long, they end up putting themselves to sleep rather quick. Though I agree with Vivian’s sleep training I don’t particularly recommend It for new borns up until 4 months maybe 5 depending on your baby then it’s ok to start sleep training.

@You.Tube.Sucks. 5 лет назад

Yikes... It is not a good idea to stimulate a baby "as much as possible". There is a fine line between appropriate stimulation and overstimulation.

@aidalamandin2031 Год назад

@@You.Tube.Sucks. ⁰000

@ajaylamba31 4 года назад

I fell asleep, not my daughter listening to this video. Just come to the point lady. I need the method, the method!!🤦‍♂️

@IngeniousBaby 4 года назад

LOL! I know it was a rough interview and she didn't want to give out much. This one with her went a little more smoothly (though filming not great). ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-bK_AUQNyzYw.html

@kimwold 4 года назад

The method is obviously the cry out method, she mentioned it at the beginning straight to the point but didnt elaborate on it because she wasn't asked details, I was waiting for the interviewer to also ask more in detail

@missrose9164 4 года назад

@@IngeniousBaby this is her business

@kimwold 4 года назад

Finally someone talked about those ridiculous tips on how to get a baby to sleep: a swaddle isn't a must, neither is darkening of the room, I see these tips everywhere and they're not helpful

@mrsbsanders07 2 года назад

I’m on baby number 3 and with first two of mine slept all through the night before 8 weeks, she’s telling the truth but I didn’t do the cry it out. But some of the first signs like e hunger or pain you got to know what your baby’s saying. I did these things just because it’s what I felt todo but now hearing someone say what my instincts told me is amazing.

@IngeniousBaby 2 года назад

That's amazing! Thank you for the feedback on your experience.

@helenbairaya7461 2 года назад

So what did you do? Can you please share?

@lisa1446 5 лет назад

My baby is 14 months and just starting to sleep longer during the night. We never left her to cry it out, it was too distressing and never worked, she just worked herself up. We just tried to establish a good routine and even nighttime wake ups were short. Baby slept in a crib or cot next to our bed with the side off (so cosleeping but in separate beds). She sleeps in her sleepyhead and I think that makes her cosy. Shusshing and lullabies were important for her to calm her down and realise it was time to sleep. Now she still has lullabies but we're able to say goodnight and leave the room and the lullaby helps her self settle to sleep.

@IngeniousBaby 5 лет назад

Thats great Lisa!

@genevawhite6954 4 года назад

Lisa seeing baby Ashley she likes babies but cute

@aleksandarmiletic2229 4 года назад

I discovered a good compilation of videos that should help on Calmer Fixer Blueprint

@zamanimpanza9452 3 года назад

Me watching sleep training videos while falling asleep and the baby wide awake

@IngeniousBaby 3 года назад

Ha! Welcome to being a new parent.

@layniebugg369 5 лет назад

PLEASE DON'T LET YOUR BABY SCREAM FOR YOU.

@gloriajean5360 4 года назад

Any mom who listens to this lady needs there babies taken away! This lady is nuts I have 4 kids and I've tried every method under the moon to get my babies to sleep and this method had me in tears after 30 seconds of letting him cry for me it's a fact that anything over 3 minutes of crying for a newborn to 6 months of age causes brain damage an 6 to 7 minuted of crying for any age over 6 months causes brain damage this lady needs to be fired

@annarocha3254 3 года назад

@@gloriajean5360 so my baby who cried uncontrollably for two hours straight every night for his first month even though I held him and nursed him and did every thing I could do to help him has brain damage? No. He had colic. It was awful but he's now perfectly healthy according to his doctor. Babies cry. Don't scare people like this. I'm not a fan of leaving them to cry either, but what you're saying is just not true.

@MetalBum 2 года назад

@@gloriajean5360 the brain damage thing is a lie. Why are you lying to people

@an10110 2 года назад

@@gloriajean5360 you must not have been through anything serious in life if you think that's brain damage..

@vilenaantonova235 2 года назад

@@annarocha3254 well, colic and just screaming to fall asleep are two different things I’m sure we all understand that.

@WALTERpal 2 года назад

IM ALREADY FALLING ASLEEP WITH THAT LADY

@angelbabymomma3294 6 лет назад

Hm, basic trust vs. mistrust is at the first stage of life and is an important obstacle so, I wonder what studies say about the age of implementation with this tough love in order to teach sleep method. Would is effect the trust the baby has with the world? I read a couple parenting books a while back. One suggested that sleep training shouldn't be done too early on but, I can't remember the timeline they gave.

@lauren8627 5 лет назад

Letting a newborn baby cry itself to sleep sounds awful if the child has literally just been born. Talk about a culture shock for the child.

@ashleyfarmer4911 5 лет назад

I am confused, just tell us the schedule and and what you do

@monicatorres594 3 года назад

Before you consider sleep training .. please listen Dr Gabor Mate because according to him we are teaching the baby that relationships are unreliable.

@vilenaantonova235 2 года назад

He’s the best human.

@lisagaeta4640 5 лет назад

Newborns and infants should get up in the night to eat and be changed, but she is saying don’t use sleep props that they become dependent on to fall asleep, they have to learn to to fall asleep on their own and put themselves back to sleep on their own unless their is a need to eat, etc.

@juns597 5 лет назад

Yep that pretty much summarizes the talk.

@BrenaeMcFarland 2 года назад

yes. and these things sometimes take more than a day. don’t be discouraged if your baby doenst sleep through the night on day one

@meshacaudle2551 3 года назад

She's seems so calm and sweet...aBaby Whisperer

@IngeniousBaby 3 года назад

She's fantastic with babies!

@lisamorris7491 5 лет назад

You can tell that lady is a good old fashioned mum ❤️ good discipline from the start makes a difference

@juns597 5 лет назад

ya of course it does but she doesn't give any concrete advice.

@ayaan8877 4 года назад

🙄 an innocent baby doesn't know anything about discipline you psycho. If you're too lazy to put in the work and sacrifice to raise a healthy and happy baby don't have kids!

@lisamorris7491 4 года назад

ayan Nuur it the discipline of a routine you idiot babies like routine specially at bedtime

@lisamorris7491 4 года назад

I have 3 children I’m sure I no how to raise babies

@missnazstylee 6 лет назад

thanks for the upload! great information!

@carlpoynton5231 4 года назад

I'm a dad, im smashing it, bringing up my second child...

@janinedear-barlow 4 года назад

Hope you don't mean smashing the baby lol Well done.

@sophs81 2 года назад

Yay, go daddy👏🏿👏🏿. Dad Power ✊🏿

@YaacovMyYaacov 5 лет назад

Amazing suggestions... I am Mr. MoM. Lol. Yaacov Israel. and I couldn’t agree more with her comprehensive ideas that makes complete and meaningful sense. ultimately lead towards a lifetime of healthy sleeping and development success for any newborn child and parent.

@IngeniousBaby 5 лет назад

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@ginnydavenport3303 5 лет назад

So are people's babies waking up "crying" through the night? Are the babies wanting to stay awake and not go back to sleep after you change and feed them? I don't like being woken up 2-3 times a night to feed and change baby, but he doesn't wake up crying. He just grunts and wiggles and I know he needs to drink milk. I nurse him for 5-10 mins then he goes right back to sleep. Maybe he's not super hungry, but maybe thirsty. Are other babies doing this and sleep training is to make them stay asleep for 10 hours without waking up for a drink and a clean diaper?

@sammig.8286 2 года назад

There is a type of crying that is less severe and then another type of crying that is heart-wrenching. I can let him fuss for a little bit if he is suppose to be asleep, but I couldn't and wouldn't leave him if I heard the heart-wrenching cry of desperation.

@gulshanamin5502 4 года назад

If something related to ur baby doesn't feel right. It is not right. Cry it out is no where near to right. It is better to have baby waking every 2 hrs than letting them cry on there own.

@minimenon5727 4 года назад

Good..one.Dedications ..to the Vaave ..,for a lovely sleep.Wish u take care...of your health .and wish we were together to drain..our emotions.Its..up to you..,am..healed..,ready..to receive. .all your feelings..Good...or bad .love..u..immensely

@maygunhance5494 5 лет назад

I did this with my first , she is a great sleeper still at 12. Ps she is 4 grades ahead. .... her techniques sound harsh but they work.

@rxmach 5 лет назад

Maygun Hance can you share any tips or method you used?

@maygunhance5494 5 лет назад

rxmach I just put her to sleep. And went about my business. I also read somewhere back in the day to keep the noice at a normal level. Self soothing is a cool technique. If my daughter would would be screaming bloody murder I knew something was up. Now about the 4 grade years ahead. Baby Einstein. Those videos r the best. Now they have baby Einstein everything. All I had was the videos. Education things were always in the background. When she was grabbing everything in site as babies do... I just put plastic flash cards in her path . And I worked with her.

@cuteXpuffy 3 года назад

Could u please mention ur methods

@truthchangelove8913 4 года назад

To think that she knows better than what babies naturally do. lol

@sirkeibner1270 5 лет назад

i just became a dad ! the thought to let this poor littel creature lay in his bed alone ! its screaming for the bottom of his littel body may be the dipper is full ,,, i cant imagen beeing so heartless ! well i truely beliefe my little girl needs to be close to our body to feel secure and watched over ! the real problem starts with the parents ! turn off your tv. eat healthy , sit down and spent time , respect the moon faces ! good luck !

@yulsbrumbeck4081 5 лет назад

Please more dads like you!!! a new born is not supposed to sleep through the night, and they will do it when they are ready, my baby girl has slept with me ( co sleeping ) ever since she was born, she wakes up at night? Sometimes she does, sometimes she doesn't, but she has never cried at night, she wakes up, eats and goes back to sleep no problem at all, we both sleep, and im not torturing my baby by letting her cry when she clearly needs me...

@soothetv2553 5 лет назад

Great advice.

@mrlin1687 5 лет назад

On the flipside of this Dr Gabor Matè would disagree with this point. Children need comfort. If not they begin to withhold feelings and learn that parents love is conditional. He states this will rear it's head later in life by illness / anxiety/ repression of feelings/ behavioural issues. Really we do this just to fit out own agenda/lifestyle. It's not about worrying, it's about being present. Being available until the child is comfortable. Doing it another way teaches the child you are not available to them emotionally. Babies brains are developing in ways we don't know so how can we say what will effect them or not. Just a separate point.

@mrlin1687 5 лет назад

Not factoring in colic and reflux. The babies is going to need comfort because they're in pain. You can't leave babies crying in pain.

@macskak 4 года назад

Rohan Lindo Exactly! And like Dr Mate says, your baby will lose your trust if you let her cry alone. Listen to your instinct and soothe her.

@Milen983 4 года назад

She is so right. Tight swaddling is not healthy as well.

@00kaasan50 5 лет назад

I’m so tempted to sleep train coz I’m tired of drinking gallons of coffee everyday 😂 but my gut is telling me that I should follow my baby’s lead and she will naturally sleep through the night at her own time. Which is working she only wakes up once now to dream feed, she’s 4 months old. She will wake up a few times if she didn’t get as much milk during the day. Also slowly making her get used to the crib, my baby loves smelling me when she’s sleeping 😂

@channellerodgers5145 5 лет назад

thank you so much. I really need this for my 9 month old...

@nyingtin8902 3 года назад

My baby is 6 weeks and she not sleeping until 3 am. I am so tired!!! But love her.❤

@IngeniousBaby 3 года назад

Parenthood is exhausting yet joyous at the same time!!

@ashaevamaria5029 3 года назад

I send you love and hugs ❤️🤗

@soothetv2553 5 лет назад

White noise does the trick!

@ninacuk 2 года назад

Me like this grandma.

@mintyminty1487 4 года назад

She is telling the truth

@fyl24 4 года назад

Yeah I mentioned to the doctor that my baby seems to need movement to fall asleep otherwise he keeps jumping and twitching. She told me it's me who has hom like this. Put him down to sleep. He won't like it for a couple days then he'll get used to it. See me putting Mr down that night. My boy screamed for half an hour and began to hyperventilate. 3 months old. At this point I wasnt willing to lose my baby over some sleep.

@vinnieselvon1797 3 года назад

I left mine for just five minutes as I was told by everybody your making a rod for your own back.well that was such a horrible experience, as after continuous crying for 5 mins I went in and he was covered from head to toe in his own vomit, from getting so upset that he had been abandoned, and I think it affected him mentally as after that incidence he started to get asthma attack’s and became very clingy. Well my son is 30 yrs old and us a scientist, so did extremely well he slept in our bed then I put a chair bed at the side of my side of the bed and he used to sleep very happily xx

@evelynvaliente 4 года назад

My baby is 3 months old .. last bottñe is at 9pm sometimes at 10 and she doesnt wake up until 7am

@jinialam 2 года назад

I never tried any schedule or any rule for my baby,but luckily he's sleeping through the night since 8weeks age.

@IngeniousBaby 2 года назад

You are one of the lucky ones! Perhaps you have consistency in your routine already! Congratulations!

@jinialam 2 года назад

@@IngeniousBaby thanks ☺️

@ana-kv7fs 3 года назад

she has some great tricks but If i let my 3 months old baby cry more than 1 minut he will go out of breath .we do the the 5 S method and we are doing great .

@ramoncardenas9326 3 года назад

How do I contact this old lady ?

@tinkbell2344 2 года назад

My second child was the easiest baby in existence, slept like an angel... my 3rd who is 7 weeks old right now, fights the night until she can't anymore.. I've done everything possible, nothing works. She is usually awake at 11pm from her nap and stays up until 7am.. I tried letting her cry but she cries until I finally pick her back up 5 minutes later.she doesn't know how to self sooth, and won't take a nookie or her thumb. I'm out of ideas I wish you'd come to milwaukee and help me. 😭😭

@barbra1942streisand 3 года назад

How u distinguish the cry that means nothing to the cry that means a baby need something?

@zetzeeful 4 года назад

Yawned and switched off halfway... Will continue with my routine

@priusa8113 4 года назад

Is it true that we should wake up the baby at night for nursing? My mom said that the sleep feeds the baby lol and he/she will wake up when there is actually hunger,so no need to wake them up? Please clarify it:) thanks

@IngeniousBaby 4 года назад

That's correct. They will wake up when they are hungry, and you can feed them then!

@asbservicesben3382 3 года назад

how much does she charge ?

@katelynlockwood8871 4 года назад

I heard that there was something called sleep training. It is supposed to help your baby to get on the right schedule when it comes to sleeping. I want to know if anyone has heard about this.

@IngeniousBaby 4 года назад

That is essentially what this video is about. I sleep trained both my children very quickly and they are both very happy, well adjusted and still sleep through the night years later!

@zenzone9603 5 лет назад

i have a 15days old baby. he sleep in our bed. he keeps on waiking up in the evning. and i feed him. and i check if his back is hot and wet.

@portigoza 5 лет назад

Zen Zone i wouldn’t recommend sleep training until like 4 months. Their tummies should be bigger to sleep through the night

@nelidakiss7773 5 лет назад

Great video

@abelincolndayze 5 лет назад

What about newborns, like 2 weeks?different than a baby. Where there are no other methods of stimulation, or play time. Where every moment awake, that is not eating, is crying.

@claudettemonty4077 4 года назад

A.T. what age does a kid had to stop making an afternoon nap? 3-4 or 5 y.o.?? Thanks!

@IngeniousBaby 4 года назад

Usually around 4 to 5 years old

@thelovebreeder 2 года назад

Depends on the child. Some of us like my daugter and me, stopped at 1 year old already. My sons did it with 3 and 4y

@PrincessOfTheUniverz 6 лет назад

Does she recommend the magic merlin suit?

@IngeniousBaby 6 лет назад

No! She seriously dislikes the magic Merlin suit. It is not healthy/natural for human babies to not be able to move and can potentially restrict their development. She also discourages tight swaddling. That way a baby is free to move around and stretch out, which is crucial to development.

@YaacovMyYaacov 5 лет назад

MaiLife I am sure that with any sleep-sack that promotes freedom of arm movement she approves

@IngeniousBaby 5 лет назад

That's correct! She does recommend a loose swaddle (so that arms can move!) or also a nice sleep sack with freedom of arm movement.

@ohawaiki 5 лет назад

MaiLife NOPE swaddle tight!! Arms straight down. Just massage & stretch baby after.

@gulrukh5423 4 года назад

Well. She said baby will always wake up at 5 clock but my baby is 3 month old and she sleep all night from 11 am to morning 8. 🙂

@juns597 5 лет назад

i wish they'd get to the point. -_- too much talk. i want tips and secrets like the title says.

@IngeniousBaby 5 лет назад

June Kirri we have another interview coming out in about 2-3 weeks that’s much better!! Stay tuned.

@citcitbelle2677 5 лет назад

@@IngeniousBaby do the continuation of this video available?

@IngeniousBaby 4 года назад

@@citcitbelle2677 ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-bK_AUQNyzYw.html

@BdeJJG 4 года назад

this interview has been solid, this pertains more to a new parent. Its guidance that helps. at least their not feeding bullshit like other vloggers just for money.

@gotemfishing2190 4 года назад

“I love babies a lot, so when I want to get them to sleep, I set them down and ignore them while the cry”

@previdTorres 4 года назад

... because one night of crying makes possible a future of healthy brain development and positive family relationships. It's really not quite as heartless as you make it out to be.

@juliemason860 4 года назад

HappilyBeardedAfter You spelled “teach them how to sleep” wrong

@helenelygren 4 года назад

@@previdTorres definitely not talking of one night of crying. And one rape is not enough to destroy someone? One night of crying in the end is a whole night of crying, sounds a lot to me. And it takes so much more than that. Its abandonment, so they stop crying for that reason...

@ashaevamaria5029 3 года назад

@@helenelygren so true ❤️🙏

@leafan85 4 года назад

Try this with a colic baby..sleep training is a no go.

@loisbarnett2546 5 лет назад

not a good 'teacher'...she didn't share anything with us but her ego... just a know it all, her way or the highway...classic disconnected authoritarian. Learn from your baby. Each baby is a unique sentient Being. that's my humble opinion based on my own experience

@previdTorres 4 года назад

She's not authoritarian, she's sharing from her experience. Experience by nature doesn't have the breadth and the nuance of scientific population level research... but I'll bet it works! ... ... except when it doesn't

@mrs.pitzinger9042 4 года назад

She says that if you keep a baby awake longer it will still wake up same time in the morning, not true. My 8 month old will sleep 12 hours. Wakes for nursing in the night, which I’m trying to break but if she goes to bed at 9pm she will sleep till 9am I have to wake her up sometimes.

@ninacuk 2 года назад

This is good to know.

@raelittle8438 3 года назад

I need youuuuuu how much 🤣🤣

@yulsbrumbeck4081 5 лет назад

a new born is not supposed to sleep through the night, and they will do it when they are ready, my baby girl has slept with me ( co sleeping ) ever since she was born, she wakes up at night? Sometimes she does, sometimes she doesn't, but she has never cried at night, she wakes up, eats and goes back to sleep no problem at all, we both sleep, and im not torturing my baby by letting her cry when she clearly needs me... also babies need to eat when they are hungry and get changed when they are wet... If lack of sleep bothers you that much, its easy, don't have a baby !!

@IngeniousBaby 5 лет назад

Many studies suggest that not getting enough sleep affects several aspects of a child’s mood, wellness, intelligence and growth. Bad habits start your: Half of all infants are sleep-deprived; they are getting less sleep than they should -- usually falling short by about one to two hours per 24-hour period. At a certain age and weight a baby does have the ability to sleep through the night. I agree with responding to babies needs - she would never advocate that a six week old, for example, can sleep through the night or that you should let your baby cry if they are hungry! But setting up healthy sleep habits early can greatly impact their future health and well being. Parents whose babies sleep better ultimately may have capacity to be better parents and more than say a parent overly stressed from lack of sleep.

@yulsbrumbeck4081 5 лет назад

Well im sorry to tell you that a baby is neither weight nor age, its a little person with it's own personality you can't determine how much a baby needs to sleep by numbers and statistics, some are more active than others, having the ability doesn't mean is the right thing for a particular baby, you have to get to know the baby and his/ her circumstances, healthy sleeping habits mean different things for different people, some people like me find co-sleeping a healthy sleeping habit, like i said, my baby sleeps, and so do I whereas if i tried to get her to sleep in her crib, she wouldn't sleep and neither would I, people could argue that it would just be a few nights, and they might be right, after a few nights my baby would probably learn to settle, settle for the for the fact that her mommy won't be there when she calls that no matter how much she needs to feel her mum or how scared she is, no one would come, and not only i don't want my baby to just settle, but i want my daughter to know that she can trust me, that i will be there that she won't wake up alone and scared, cuz i will be there, cuz there is a time to let go, but this is not it, and i can guarantee that more than half of the parents that call this lady are not thinking about their baby's development but about how much the want to sleep and don't, and it's fine sleeping its important, i just rather put my baby's needs above mine, but that's just me, maybe because this baby was what i most wanted in life and i had to wait so much for her, i was ready for anything, ready to make her happy and healthy what ever it took out of me, i would probably sleep more or better if she slept on her crib, but im fine with what i sleep cuz i know im doing the best thing for my baby.

@angelkaate 5 лет назад

What about a 2 year old? Who wakes up and won’t sleep in their own bed. Seems unhealthy

@yulsbrumbeck4081 5 лет назад

@@angelkaate well to me its not unhealthy its completely normal, its about that time for night terrors, and i imagine its really tough and scarry for them, i wouldn't sleep train a 2 year old either, but if you want to do it is definitely a more reasonable age, were you can actually explain to her that you are near and that she is not actually being abandoned...but i do believe there will come a time when for them sleeping in their own bed, comes more natural, cuz they will feel more secure and they will want more space, also y do believe that to teach something to kids or anyone really, you need to leave by example, thats also why usually getting them to sleep alone is so hard, cuz we don't, we have our partners with us... Any ways best of luck whatever you decide to do, ultimately its your choice as a mom 😉

@angelkaate 5 лет назад

Yuls Brumbeck I agree with waiting till they understand, I wouldn’t do this to a baby who can’t communicate. And night terrors of course I would have my baby sleep with me.

@remembergogmagog848 6 лет назад

Still don't understand how we let baby sleep through the night as they would have wet nappies?

@monikasieradzka9331 5 лет назад

How can you force 3 month old baby to sleep all night without feeds. They awake because they simply need food. This is nature. Parents should adjust their life to baby's needs no adjust baby to be able to go out for dinner etc. Sleep training is just cruel. If you want to have free time don't have babies.

@charliefrost9983 5 лет назад

It’s been successfully done with routine. I did sleep training with Vivian after a few days of crying the babies got into a pattern of putting themselves to sleep and both waking up happy 12 hours of sleep at 4 months old, if they do have accidents during the night they simply wake up (no crying) once changed babies put themselves to sleep within 5 minutes.

@previdTorres 4 года назад

@@monikasieradzka9331 You don't force the baby... when they've learned to self sooth they can just sleep. The book that she references explains that "sleeping through the night" may include waking up to breastfeed, or waking up and then just falling back to sleep on their own...

@SomeOne-bi9lh 5 лет назад

My baby made his own sleep time when he was about 2 months old and he doesnt need to put down to sleep bcz he has his own schdule which is amazing...we cosleep and i don’t understand the meaning of tough love and self soothe??how can such a small baby handle soo much mistrust??? Plus they dont need to sleep through the night....

@IngeniousBaby 5 лет назад

I am so happy that your wonderful baby is sleeping at 2 months! Not all parents are this lucky (I know I wasn't!) Again, she is NOT advocating to let a 2 month old lie in his/her crib crying all night. Yes, there’s no magic age when babies sleep through the night-every baby is different. But around the four-month mark, most experts agree important developmental milestones and provide capacity to sleep the whole night. This is typically when babies begin to self-soothe and put themselves back to sleep after waking up in the middle of the night. Setting up sleep habits early provides foundation for healthy brain development and can increase functions such as attentiveness, self-discipline and memorization. It is also healthy for parents who after months (sometimes can be a few years) of not sleeping can be overly exhausted, over sensitive and not able to provide the care they could otherwise.

@dincherremziev9436 4 года назад

My little girl never cried when she was born. The first two weeks we didn't even know how her cry sound is. Now she is 35 days old it cries just a little bit. No more than 2,3 seconds but it's hard to make her go to sleep. The only way we make her go to sleep is putting her in a trolley, putting her in my car and drive around. She gets calm when I pick her up on my hands but she never went to sleep when we put her in her bed we need to do one of those 3 thinks to make her go to sleep... I'm the father and my mom told me I was same till year 3 and we r kinda very scared about this cuz it make us so tired and pain in our backs I hope we will find a way to fix this. When i put her in her bed before she goes to sleep she cries a bit and starts making noises that shows that she is not happy and as soon as i pick her up she stops whiting 2,3 seconds that drives me crazy I know it's not her fault and it's our fault but I hope we fix this problem.

@laurenmorgan881 3 года назад

My first daughter was that way. We had 2 have her in certain positions, drive around, even let her sleep in her car seat. Any sound, or light would startle her and we'd have to start all over again. I hope things have gotten better for y'all. I Kno things didn't get better for us until over a year close 2 two years.

@dincherremziev9436 3 года назад

She is 1 years old now and sleeping its not her favourite time lol she wakes up every night and wants to play basically around 1am to 3am

@veredrahmilevich5584 4 года назад

Very interesting women :) like your tips

@millymaharani595 3 года назад

How can two weeks baby slept through the night isn’t a new born need to awake at night to eat ?

@IngeniousBaby 3 года назад

Milly, a two-week old baby does not sleep through the night and we would never recommend letting that baby cry. The ability to sleep through the night is 11 1/2 - 12 hours straight through and by around 12 pounds or 3-4 months many can definitely do that.

@AuroraValerie 5 лет назад

I don't know what to do, my 7 month old don't want to sleep. He was sleep trained just until last week. Any advices,

@hanisabata4771 5 лет назад

'baby sleep tea" has been a big help for a couple of weeks while baby had got fussy for some mild health issues, he has had severe colic and hard times pooping due constipation. this tea really came over with amazing effects.

@yulsbrumbeck4081 5 лет назад

Is not that he doesn't want to sleep, is that not only he is going through a development stage, but also his sleep cycles are changing, my daughter was the same, she started at six and what i feel worked for her was really getting her stimulated during the day, doing a lot of new things, playing games, going places, getting her into swimming lessons, and Gymboree or similar, sleeps like a...well a baby now, also you should check if something could be bothering him, like his teeth. Good luck

@yulsbrumbeck4081 5 лет назад

Oh! This was two months ago....how are you doing now?

@AuroraValerie 5 лет назад

@@yulsbrumbeck4081 swimming lessons? I'm talking about a baby. He's back to his sleeping schedule, we don't interrupt his schedule and we turn off all the lights in the house except in the room he's sleeping so he can realise it's not a play time.

@yulsbrumbeck4081 5 лет назад

@@AuroraValerie yeah there is swimming lessons for babies! And actually i think is not only super fun, but super important, they learn so much faster, not exactly how to swim, but how to keep a float and get to a safe place, so that if an accident should occur the baby has the tools to save his life 😉 im glad your baby is back sleeping normally keep in mind that he can still go through other episode like the ones before, its normal and it will pass, keeping the routines sure is important as well 😉

@laurenmorgan881 3 года назад

With my first I kept her in the crib at night and didn't swaddle her. (Big mistake, she screamed non stop and never slept would wake up very easy, very finicky child.) I've had my second 4.5 weeks ago and I co sleep, and swaddle her. She's the calmest baby, wouldn't even know there was a baby in the house. However, I am still waking up with her every two to three hours for bottle feedings and diapers changes. But at least she's right there in the bed. I'm doing it right this time I can actually chill and think. Plz tell me how do U get a 4.5 week year old to sleep thru the night, and is that even possible?! Also, my newbie sleeps a lot but is alert when awake. She sleeps like a lot a lot. How much sleeping is normal for a newbie at 4.5 weeks?!

@catpfeifer9121 4 года назад

Can u come help me plz how do I get my over tired 2 month old son to sleep with out flinching? Cause he fliches him self to wake him self up

@savannahpaige7862 4 года назад

Swaddle him

@catpfeifer9121 4 года назад

Savannah Paige I wish but he hates being swaddled or having a blanket on him

@previdTorres 4 года назад

@@catpfeifer9121 that sounds like it could be night terrors?? If so the answer in the book I'm reading (same one recommended in the video) is good napping and earlier bedtime. We're trying to work it through with or little girl right now too

@previdTorres 4 года назад

The book is really worth it: Healthy Keep Habits Happy Child Marc Weissbl

@catpfeifer9121 4 года назад

Mitchell Ahrens ok thanks I’ll go get it and read it

@sandramullikin5088 4 года назад

Wow, such mean comments on here! The lady actually gets Paid to teach parents how to get their babies to go to sleep and stay a sleep. Yet, I bet no one else on here commenting mean things does!!??!! Nobody said to let the babies cry so long that they're deeply stressed. Good grief, use adult common sense people. Geeze! Your putting words in her mouth. Btw, if anyone here was so great at this they wouldn't have come here to find out in the first place. Good show. Tyfs!

@crystalwahhab9594 3 года назад

Did she say "the only one that makes sense. But is a little confusing " 😕 I guess I have to read for myself

@nsanerydah 2 года назад

While I’m sure she’s had great success over time, none of what she is talking about is working with my son who is a premie, but 6weeks now. I wish there was a way to just knock them out since he refuses to sleep at a moments notice. Feeding, burping, diapers, swaddle/no swaddle, warm room cold room nothing works more than once.

@IngeniousBaby 2 года назад

He sounds too young to expect that! Usually, you want to wait until at least 12-13 weeks. But good to set up habits early

@vilenaantonova235 2 года назад

This is way too young to be expecting a consistent result, it’s been four months since your comment so I’m sure you’ve learned that by now:)

@malariezavala5587 4 года назад

I was doing the cry it out method and it was working wasn't so worried about the crying but now that she is 9 months and her cries are more stronger and I get anxious I won't be in the room but I get worried and come get her

@previdTorres 4 года назад

Are you sure you're using the method properly? Because the sleep training should have been finished within a few days at most... I don't think you should be facing the same tough bedtime more than a few days in.

@ranalakkis9820 4 года назад

I didnt get the point, what is the point?? :/

@thisbishawesome 4 года назад

Gets to the point at 7:24 if you're impatient

@et1545 5 лет назад

Is she talk about baby sleep or what ??plz just go to the point

@triluve 3 года назад

Can someone sum up what's Sonndenberg's principals for schedules? For a 6 week old. And does she reccomend to go in to the baby after 15 minutes of crying?

@IngeniousBaby 3 года назад

At this age, it's all about laying the groundwork for positive sleep habits with consistency and routine. You can start to teach your baby good sleep habits at birth. You want to start before the baby begins to develop their own sleep habits that are counterproductive. Start by creating a calming bedtime routine, such as a warm bath, followed by pajamas and a story. Do the routine consistently and end it by putting her in the crib while she’s drowsy, but still awake.

@triluve 3 года назад

@@IngeniousBaby Right now we are at a point where I can not put the baby down while she is drowsy, or else she will cry instantly. This is her 7th week. Her daytime naps are almost nonexistent, but at 9pm she falls asleep and will sleep till 2-3am. And then after a night feed and nappy change she would sleep again from 4am till 7:30 or 8:30am.

@IngeniousBaby 3 года назад

@@triluve It sounds like your baby is not getting enough sleep overall and is overtired, which causes more crying. At 7 weeks, they need around 15 hours of sleep. The first thing you need to do is get your baby on a more consistent schedule. Sleep begets sleep. If she is not taking naps, then the nighttime will be even more challenging. Keep your child on a consistent schedule throughout the day, including set times for bed and naps. If your baby naps, eats, plays, and gets ready for bed at about the same time every day, she’ll be much more likely to fall asleep easily. We have a course coming out soon.

@triluve 3 года назад

@@IngeniousBaby Thanks. I still have two major issues. Even with set sleeping times. One: I don't know how and when to transfer from rocking to putting to bed. Two: maybe she is too young for the "though love". And if I put her to bed and starts to cry, should I get her out of bed and start to rock a little and redo the putting her down calmy routine again?

@IngeniousBaby 3 года назад

Yes she is you need to get routines set. Be calm. Most important thing. No rocking.

@lisamorris7491 5 лет назад

There's certainly a lot of spoilt toddlers/ babies who scream because their parents keep picking them up through the night and they don't learn to soothe on their own

@layniebugg369 5 лет назад

Not true.

@lisamorris7491 5 лет назад

Laynie Bugg yes it is true

@layniebugg369 5 лет назад

Sleep is developmental. You cannot spoil a child with love. That's absurd.

@starfishtanner6286 4 года назад

@Laynie Bugg> I would argue your definition of love. Love is doing what is in the best interest of the other.. picking up your child when they cry, is actually so the parent feels better about their parenting. Teaching your new baby structure, routine and discipline is only in their best interest, although it doesn't always feel that way. In my opinion that is the crux of the problem with modern western parenting. The child is being the master, and the foundation the parents are building on is feelings. Of course a child smiles bigger at you when you give him a cookie, that does not mean that is in his best interest. I'm not trying to be condescending, just trying to find the logic in your statement. Every parent I talk to who parents like this is sleepless, frazzled and can't get anything done, and that's with 1 or 2 kids! Do tell.

@sofiabravo1994 2 года назад

@Starfishtanner a baby is a helpless little human being how do they need discipline??? I did CIO and has had a terrible sleep ever since. She’s 5 now and was a terrible sleeper until around 4. I’m pregnant with my 2nd and will co sleep and gradually put her/him in their own cot (next to me) gradually and will make sure he/she is well fed and isn’t suffering from colic. I was a very inexperienced mother first time around and CIO is inhuman after 5 minutes

@MJ31579 2 года назад

The question on the impact on cognitive function, was a bit stupid. Try waking up every 2 hours at night every day of the year and then see the effects on your thinking. Why would we think it is different for a toddler

@fatimahsini5110 Год назад

Why do we need guidance?

@IngeniousBaby Год назад

Not sure I understand your question?

@franzifrooo1 2 года назад

If a baby can’t sleep , there may be other reasons. Like tensions in family or other imbalances. She doesn’t even mention this

@BrenaeMcFarland 2 года назад

assuming that your baby is fed, changed and has no other on going needs then letting them self soothe back to sleep.

@franzifrooo1 2 года назад

@@BrenaeMcFarland that’s not what I was saying

@franzifrooo1 2 года назад

@@BrenaeMcFarland and who says crying is self soothing? Studies show the opposite. High stress levels for babies who are left to cry on their own. What scientific evidence is she basing her method on?

@BrenaeMcFarland 2 года назад

I appologize that I may have mis interpreted what you are saying. I agree with the crying to a degree because if you’re baby is crying for another reason other than to be held after you’ve put them down they WILL NOT self soothe and that’s all i was saying is that i think it’s okay to try to them cry a little before going back to sleep if all their needs are met but it really depends on the situation. 100 percent if you’re baby can’t sleep due to some sort of imbalance or being uncomfortable then you should tend to those needs, your tiny human needs you and they are communicating that through crying it’s the only way they know how!!

@YassmineWantsPeace 2 года назад

DO NOT LET YOUR BABY CRY WTF!!!

@glorialopez7176 4 года назад

NOT A SLEEP EXPERT. She was a nanny and employed CIO. That's it. As a mental health clinician, I'm appalled by sleep training culture. This is great for parents, but harmful to infants and young children who are actually sleeping NORMALLY, as infants and young children should. This "expert" has no background in developmental psychology and works off of myths perpetuated by this popular industry here in the West. Babies CANNOT SELF SOOTHE from a heightened state of stress and sleep is a biological function that CANNOT be taught!!! Infants require co-regulation with their caregivers. This is science, not opinion. PLEASE, do not follow this "tough love" or CIO method with your newborns, older infants, or toddlers. There are many ways in which you can make changes to infant sleep, how you soothe, etc. that is based on maintaining attachment and co-regulating with baby so that they're not flooded with cortisol to the point of passing out or what parents believe to be "learning to self-soothe and sleep". Some actual experts with credentials and helpful methods that do not harm babies: Dr. Tracy Cassels, Evolutinary Parenting; Dr. Deborah McNamara; Dr. Gorden Neufeld. If you're looking for extra support, www.islagrace.ca/ has a directory of sleep coaches that are trained by her using attachment based methods guided by Dr. Neufeld's work and sleep science. These sleep coaches DO NOT SLEEP TRAIN and still help parents gain knowledge, helpful tools, and get more rest too. If you need some support from a like minded community, check out The Beyond Sleep Training Project group on Facebook. And if you happen to be a parent reading this who has received the message that you are ruining your baby's future sleep by responding to them at night, soothing them in a way that feels good to you both, nursing them to sleep, etc....DOT NOT BUY INTO THE BS! You're doing an amazing job! Responsive parenting, both day AND night is key to healthy development and secure attachment. These are not bad habits! ALL CHILDREN if given time with no intervention with eventually reach the developmental milestone of connecting sleep cycles and sleep through the night. Ages for reaching this developmental milestone varies, as babies are all different and not robots. There are some specific cases where some underlying factors are present (oral restriction, apneas, allergies, etc) that would prevent this and can actually cause problems for your child's sleep. But sleep training is not the solution to this. Identifying and working on these specific factors is. Best Wishes!