02 Mistakes Being Done In Upbringing Of Daughters 

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I had c section for my child and my husband was doing dishes( in USA) and my mother in law kept telling him that he became a girl. There is no help in USA . She comes to visit us only some time and leaves her stupid mentality behind. Fast forward, 15 years, if I get sick my husband is clueless. I tell my son , if you don’t know how to do basics, no one will marry you.

Completely agree with your views on this.. for me, my mother didnt even allow me to change any arrangement in house even by an inch as per my wish...I was denied simple things and for every thing I was told.. do whatever you want in your in-laws' house after marriage... n obviously no MIL will allow their DIL to take control of a house... 😢

Dear sir,great video ! I have two daughters.i travelled with them all over the world and gave them best dresses and their favourite food everyday .I treated them like my princess ❤️.Now my elder daughter is working in Intel and she has so many stories to share with her colleagues about the fun-filled life I gave them and second one is pursuing chemical engineering.Thanks you sir for such thought provoking videos

Solution centric video on Controlled parenting or toxic parenting... Child's point of view how to get rid of mental stress in this type of situation thankyou for your videos sir

सन eighty ninety तक बोलते रहे थे दो दो महीने की छुट्टी पड़ती थी पैरेंट्स को बोलते थे कहीं तो घुमा फिरा लाओ बोलते थे शादी के बाद घूमना। सन तैयीस आ गया है आज तक नहीं हो पाया चूल्हे चोके में ठूँसे पड़े हैं ग़ुलामी अलग कर रहें हैं(u r true)

Although we didn't do this with our daughter. But I agree this happens most of the times mainly with daughter and with son too saying "ki tum apna kamao phir ghoomna firna maze karna" Very relevant topic🎉🎉

Excellent as always. Sir, I have one son + one Daughter. Now she is 24 in a corporate at a high position. Son is elder and just married. I have tried to fulfill all their desires like a foreign trip, india max places tour(for both), solo Goa trip with cousins, all with in reach jayaj gagdets etc . Kal kisney dekha hai . We are totally satisfied that we have done our duties at right time. 👌

My mother in law is like, humne apni puri jindegi pati parmeswar or saas ki seva karke bitayi to tumhe v wohi karni hogi. Unhe ye ahsaas hi nehi ki hum dono same generation k nehi hai

I completely agree with you..Mom always push me to study and become independent as she don't want me to housewife. .I am now very happy as I know it is very difficult to manage house and become housewife...it is really difficult job... Also she never allowed me to go outside before marriage much.. but got lucky that my husband loves traveling...

Don't keep your daughter's wishes/dreams/desire to wait till marriage. Don't teach your daughter to not serve her husband or don't teach your son to not server his wife. Let the couple figure out their terms of relationship.

Very true..... Housewife's contributes not only to their family but also to the society n their country. But all housewife should be financially independent.

Main kya likhoo main bhi yahi sochti hoon jee lo simrans hum khud five sis meri bhi beti hamare mummy papa ke vichaar bhi aapki hi Tarah stay blessed sir

Sir plz ladko k upbringing k lie b kuch video banaiye.. hmare parents ne hmko career oriented bhi banaya..lekin sath hi ghr ka sara kam b sikhaya. Magar on the other hand.. ladko k to maje hogye he.. unko pehle thoda paise kamane ka pressure hua karta tha kuki vo akele financial needs pure kia krte the..or aurate ghr sambhal ti thi.. magar ab aurate ghar b dekh leti he or job bhi..somewhere its guys who r lacking basic skills fir eg apne khud k chije sambhalna. Bura is bat ka lag ta he society ne job vali bahuye na sirf accept ki..magar ab khula khula ladke vale bolte he job vali chaiye ladki magar ladka unka do sal k bcho jese sb chijo k lie aurat pe depend hota he. Women are handling 2 things now..n Men se ek sambhal jae vahi bahut he.. Mard job krte the to unke ready kapde unke jute moje unka breakfast lunch dinnr sb kuch aurat kra krti thi.. aurat k kismat dekhiye aap.. mardo k barabar kamati he or fir b apna dhyan khud rkhti he apna saman khud sambhalti he.. or ladko k maa baap kabhi use ye nahi sikhate k unki bahu agr unk bete ko financial support kr rhi he to ladka b thoda ghr me haat bata dia kre.. tb unhe ye yaad ajata he k ghar sambhalna to aurat ka kaam.he.. us hisab se to financial needs puri karna mard ka kaam he..Aurate job kr hi ku rahi he fir?

The good memories actually create a balance account on which basis human being can cope up his/her lowest times. Brene Brown, the American author and psychologist who reaserched vulnerability as couragious thing proved it in her research. We Indian actually never try to create account of happy memories and thats why we succumb easily on unhappiness and bitterness.

Very true sir, i suffered a lot in my parents house,😢 but luckily my husband is the Gem person ❤😊

Sir most of the sensible audience fully agrees with you . But I feel women have always been at a disadvantage . GOD has not done justice to women . Today the girl has lots of challenges because building a career takes time and it directly is in conflict with the biological clock . So it is obvious one or the other will suffer either family planning or career . Because it is the woman who only can bear children . So a woman can’t have it all . The biggest advantage men have - they don’t have to bear the consequences of a uterus . So all in all women always are at a disadvantage . A woman’s biggest strength of child bearing is also her biggest weakness

Good info. Thanks Girl before marriage: i want this stuff or want to travel. Girl' mom: you dont know how much messy our budget is with all expenses, papa is under stress!😢 Girl after marriage: i want this thing for me or house but hubby keep delaying. Girl's mom: aise thodi hota hai, shaadi ki hai toh zimmedari nibhani padegi. Sab expense kisi bhi nature ke karne padenge. 😅😅

सर सब parents तो ऐसे नहीं है जो बेटियों को रोक टोक करें. लेकिन बेटियों ki safety कैसे करें. कुछ parents तो zamane को देख कर डरते हैं बेटियों की शादी से. 😢 😢😢😢😢 Please बताइए कि life partner का nature कैसे judge करेँ selection के वक़्त. आजकल के parents who are born after 70s 80s ये नहीं सोचते कि बच्चे arranged marriage करें या love, but ye zaroor सोचते हैं कि कैसे एक अच्छे nature का life partner mile. Kai parents बेटियों को घुमाना firaana चाहते हैं पर safety reasons se डरते हैं. Parents नहीं बेटे बेटी में फर्क़ करते , ब्लकि वो तो बहुत प्यार करते हैं बेटियों से पर फिर भी बेटा इसलिए चाहते हैं क्यूंकि उन्हें बेटियों के लिए हमेशा चिंता लगी रहती है. और शादी के बाद अपने जिगर के टुकड़े को किसी और घर में भेजते हुए bahaut डरते हैं. हर parent सिर्फ money नहीं देखता शादी में but specially आजकल जब बेटियां bhi independent होती हैं कमा सकती है तो माँ बाप की zyada चिंता लड़के और उसकी family के व्यवहार को लेकर होती. इसपर zaroor एक वीडियो बनाएं कि अच्छा लड़का in terms of व्यवहार nature behaviour कैसे select karein. कैसे intution itni बढायें कि धोका ना मिले, गलत behaviour ना मिले, ek शांतिपूर्ण वातावरण मिले बेटी को .

Good video. More examples can be used. But the idea was conveyed well.

So damn true , and when my parents say ki shadi k baad karne aisa kaam to mujhe lagta hai jaise pati na ho gya bhagwan ho gya 😢

Mai kv se padhi hu , mujhe papa ne sare Arman pure karne diye life me , meri behen ke bhi har Arman pure kiye papa ne , shadi ke baad ke liye kuch rakha hi ni , so meri expectations kuch high hai hi ni so life easy ho gai hai

R e guruji aapne to meri jivan ka dukh hi bol diya.... Mere parents pichle 6-7yrs se yehi bol rahe h ki ghumne jayenge puri fmly milke ghumne jayenge.....abhitak m kanhi nhi gyi ghumne except my college trip and town where I work..... Ab bolte h ki saadi Karlo use baad Pati k sath Jaana.......or wo bhi unke pasand k larke se m saadi karlu.....unhone na Jaana na pucha ki meri icccha kya h.....bas. unhone khud se decide kr liya ki saadi kr deni h meri within 1yr..... Jaabki m khud kamati hu... Independent hu..... Parents bolte h ki....tumhe sirf career ki ajjadi mili h.....baki sab hum decide karenge

Really true many girls were not allowed to wear or travel saying that this you can do in your husband s house. Here girls are taught that way but in reality nothing such happens. Than bitterness comes. And many more things are taught. Good👍👍

Ladko ki parvarish me kya kya galti karte hai parents...ye bhi to dekho uncle... Bs gyan batne ldkiyo ke hi mudde par hi kyu aate hai...!!! Purush stree ko jo dega stree uska 10 guna wapas karti hai... Ye apne hi ek video me kaha tha..!! To ye purush ko smjhao phle ki stree ko kya dena hai

No, 1990's married ladies are working. And even my mother was working. Though profession choice given to them was only teaching by her parents.. but still ladies tried to maintain balance between married life and job. They actually handled double burden.

I remember asking my mom that's let's go to kashmir together for a trip this was after my dad passed away and I was in my early 30s, my mothers reply was get married and go with your husband to kashmir, mind you my mother is a educated lady. This statement was so passing off, after that I started backpacking and solo travels because all I wanted to make memories with my mother, while her solution was get married as if it is some golden apple😅 Indian parents can really be regressive at times despite being educated. I am sure she wouldn't say the same if I was her son or a boy!

The topic was well covered. I would like to add that it is important for parents to tell their daughters that do not be dependent on your partner for money or happiness. Be independent and have confidence in one’s own abilities to raise up in life.

I am really thankful to my parents who made us travel and have fun and do whatever we wanted to and learn whatever we desired to.... no expectations from the future husband regarding my wishes

Mazze....pathi ko na lene athi he,na karane 😂😂😂😂😂 Your sense of humor🔥 All in all, very wholesome and informative!🙏

Mera to ek din jhgda hua tha pati se neeche me saas kudi thi to usdin maune gusse me subah ki chai ni bnaai.. Pati ne banaai to unki ma itna emotional hui boli mere bete ko pehli baar chai banana pad raha hai.. Mere raaj me akbhi aisa ni hua.. Maine tirant kaha k dekho ab seekh gye wo.. Kabhi aisa ho to bana k pi lenge.. 😂😂

My parents never said this to me but I have heard some people saying this to their daughters. Too many restrictions lead to too many expectations in future.

I am very grateful to my parents for taking us on tours, feeding us good food and also helping out for upsc exams. After marriage i struggled a lot for basic necessities and was taunted for basic things. So i can understand what he is saying.

While you are absolutely right on expectations and experiences of women married in late 80s and nineties or even earlier who have never had any horizon beyond imdt family life and their consequent frustrations- pl also do a video of why even a large proportion of girls who have had best of edn and degrees since 2010, have also not been able to pursue serious careers or even been able to take up appreciable jobs and continue with them for some length of time and prefer to opt for being 'homemakers' only?.Some one needs to do serious research on what has become of all the cl 10/12 topper girls between 2010 to 2015 of whose achievements we read in newspaper headlines May/ Jun every year? Overlap an excellent perspective!!

Can peopl like you encourage women that they should choose. They should be financially independent and live in manner what they like. B4 marrying they can spend reasonable time to understand if the person goes with compatibility or not.

Your clarity of mind is epic. People need to think that way. Life is too simple but I don't know why such straight thoughts don't strike people's minds.

Jab hmare parents bolte he ki shadi k bad Jana jaha Jana ho to Aisa lagta hei ki pehle to papa ki suno or shadi k bad husband ki. As if meri khud ki choice hi nhi hein.

Completed agree with you .Yes, these scenarios do exist in the middle class families.

I have a daughter, now she is at 3 and I'll remember these things.

thanks sir.

Capris tak pehne mein parents rokk-tokk lagaate hain..pressure aisa ki kya in-laws permit krenge..so dont wear that..dont do that

Daughters are now given free hand and marriages are not in their list at all and forget cultural knowledge parents don't care and happy to see their daughter embracibg western culture and live in relationship

Meri mother in law,to ek bar bata do ki mummi ye aise nahi aise hota h aajkal.... Vo agree ho jati hai.. Theek h kr lo, jese hota h tumhare jamane me... Parents jese hi h sasural wale..

Very true sir We must satisfied our daughters if they are happy they'll keep others happy

9:30...phir simran ka chakkar bhi to chal gya tha... 🤷‍♀️ Khair, 37 yrs after my parents finally agreed to the fact they wanted a son and therefore took 4 chances... Bad luck... 35 saal pehle tak tha -"tumhe beton ki tarah pala, azaadi di (gaadi dilayi, padhaya etc) Now they realize-"betiyan kbhi bete ho nhi sakti, Bade-budhhe theek kehte the ki ladkiyon ko jyada padhana nhi chahiye Aur naukari to bilkul nhi karani chahiye Main, 12-15 saal se question kar rahi hoon apne mann mein -"bete ki tarah palna kya hota hai? Agar aap frk nhi karte bete -beti mein to beti ko bete ki tarah palna kyun? Kya gaadi betiyon ko nhi mil sakti? Kya betiyan interest ka education and career pursue nhi kar sakti? Aur phir age beti bete equall hain to 4 kyun? Jb apke colleagues n friends ke 2 hi hain.. Jo apki tarah rural background se bhi aate hain! " 35 saal baad aisa kya jo gya ki parents bete beti ka frk accept kar paaye openly cz, beti ne unki expectations ek limit tk poori kar lene k baad khud k liye kuchh aisa chah liya jo unke preference se match nhi karta ya wo simply beti ki personal life ki choice k saath comfortable nhi hai. N the only reason - log kya kahenge! 🤷‍♀️

sir ko samajh aa gaya hai... ki ACHARYA PRASHANT se compete karne ke liye women ke upar badhiya badhiya bolna padega.... women ki ego massage karni padegi... aur comments dekho... sab ladkia khush ho gyi...........................subscriber count dekhna ab... koi to note karo.. sahi pakde sir.. haha pichli video mein rajat sharma ne gali di woman ko... lmao.. aur is video mein daughter upbringing.. subscriber badhane ke liye kuch bhi karega par ek baat bata dun.. feeling nahi aa rahi jo asal mein ati hai......forced lag raha hai saf saf... mariage pe focus rehta hai to original lagte ho.. par alag se girls pe focus karte ho to forced lagta hai... apna original subscriber bhi ganva doge.. khair uske liye to apke pas content hi nahi bacha.. to nayi audience ke liye banana hi padega.. hmmm ok got it.. lmao.

Sir sach bata rahi hu. Rona aa gaya. 🥲🥹 Yeh dono cheeze mere saath hoti h. Aur aapne kitna exactly bataya h. I wish meri mummy papa yeh smj paye. 😅

But who does n says these things in today' s times . We the 70' borns must have heard these things( but my parenrs also never said this to me ) . But today we fulfill all the desires of our kids n give them best of evwrything as per our capability ,irrespective of gender. Financial independence is very very imp esp for daughters .

Gulami nahi Co- operation hona chahiye ,but dekha gulami jaise hi jata hai,kisi ko bhi kisi ko granted nahi lena chahiye, wife husband ke liye kucchh karti hai to bus ye hamesha ke liye uski hi duty ho jati hai, jab vo na kar paye to irresponsible as if she has done a big blunder ,why all the things(so called duties )so tagged?Today we are expecting women to do great in the outer world but has she been given a freedom from household duties just like a boy was /is given.

Ye bhot accha btaya. I was also a product of ‘shaadi k bad krna ye sab apne ghar jaa k’ Thankfully, naukri lagi dur ghar se and bahar nikalne ka mauka mila… 4-5 sal saare armaan pure kie and now happily married.

Parents betiyon par koi paisa khrcha nhi chahte ha, sakuch shadi ke baad krne k kiye postpone krte ha, in unrealistic expectations ke sath pati ke sath jaate hain aur issue create hote h.

Sir can a wife hit husband as per your view

I am glad my mother didn't raise me like this...she is working yet runs the household like a superwoman. It should never be a either/or situation. Do you. And let the couple decide the internal arrangements.

I think girls today should expect men to help in the house .. because men expect women to work

Ye bilkul sahi bola parents ne bol dia kya humari tarah chulha choka karogi to aajkal ki ladkia Ghar hi nahi bethna chahti unhe kitchen ya Ghar ki taraf koi responsibility hi nahi reh gayi.. jab ki ladkio ki padhai ka matlab hota hai next generation yani apne bacho ko shikshit karna naki sirf job se paise kamana.. Karo job lekin Ghar ke regular cheezo ko bojh mat samzho na hi chota Ghar ka kaam bhi chota nahi hai logically ye Survival skills hi to hai.. aana to sab chahiye aur waqt aane par Karo bhi baki job Karo na karo tumhari marzi and same goes to men's also unhe bhi Ghar ke kaam sikhao.. aise itne hi cases hai ki Bahu Ghar ka koi kaam hi nahi karna chahti kyunki maa ne bola tha humari tarah chulha choka 😒 thik hai kitchen mei shayad interest na ho lekin Ghar ke aur kamo mei interest to ho lekin nahi kisi b kaam mei interest na hona matlab?

Yeh aap ne sahi kaha... Jab vo apne ladakiyonko pehela jyada kuch nahi dete ya unke arman poora nahi karte, baad me unko apni bahu agar aaram se rahe ya apni manpasand cheez khareede, toh unko sehen nahi hota.. tab har cheez beti ko bhi milni chahiye aise sochne lagte hai. Aur compare karne lagte hai.

Hi Sir. Can you make a video dedicated to married daughter parents who feel finances are males responsibility (because traditional thought) and also other homely duties like kitchen, maids, home care, etc are not female responsibilities (because modern thought). Can you please address this doglapanti in your way. Or if you feel this is correct then please explain that as well. Just in need of clarity life mei shi kya hai.. Thanks.

Beautiful. Thought provoking.Must watch for parents'

सच कहा आपने, बिना पैर पर खड़े हुए इस जहां में जिंदा रहना मुमकिन नहीं। एक बार जब उन्हें जो इच्छा हो करने देना चाहिए। मेरी भी एक बेटी है, एक 20का बेटा है। कभी भी सायकल, बाइक, और 18वर्ष तक गाड़ी भी चलाना आ गया था।अब जब कि उनके पास लाइसेंस, आई कार्ड सब कुछ ठीक हो गया तो , उसने इमरजेंसी होने पर हमें आराम देता है। मेरे पति एक अच्छे गार्जियन साबित हुए हैं। मैं बीच-बीच में टोकती भी थी। किन्तु स्कूल के तरफ़ से जब भी इन बच्चों का ट्रिप प्लान होता, हमारे दोनों बच्चे अवश्य जाते। और घर का खाना उन्हें बहुत ही पसंद आता। अभी भी दोनों भाई बहन अच्छे खाने के शौकीन हैं।🙏🤗

Sometimes parents can't allow to achieve her dreams forcing to get marriage please don't this with ur daughter please allow to achieve his dreams

Yes. True sir. Daughters deserve much more in life 🤩🤩👌👌👌

You are doing great job. I am sure. You will change our society.

Me who cant even go outside home(door)... 😐

1st vala pat ladko ko liye bhi applicable h

Sir, I request you to add English subtitles. Please. People like me who don't know HIndi would benefit a lot.

I was thinking about this just a few days ago... parents should fulfil the wishes if possible or just let their daughters have some fun... they shouldn't say "do this after marriage, with your husband"

Arrange marriage mai boy nai dokha diya boy has ERaction disfunction ,& BTech degree mai bhi complete nahi hai ,he has 4 backs.kya hamai divorce ka decision karna chahiyai.

Ladko ki parwarish ke bare me btaye

Sir u r amazing i watch all ur videos sir i kindly request u to make videos on 40 plus women who r at the threshold of old age how to keep themselves busy in making acarrer or in short regarding empty nest syndrome .🎉

Very interesting..and good advice 👍

I am happy that mere parents ne ye sare cheeze papa ne hi fulfill Kiya hai ,

Super Sir ji. DDLJ The crown and all.... kyA tareekha apnaaya aapnE! Kamaal hain Sir ji 😂👏👏👏👏👏

Sir, you have highlighted the realities that society is not at all comfortable talking about...leave alone thinking about...

I worked in walmart to support my husband who wad writing chief engineer exams and he was busy doing extra curricular activities. Lol.

👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻 great content sir😊❤

Acche parents apne baccho ko aise treat nahi karte

Bilkul sahi kaha aapne.

Saw full video. Wow what a video. You are playing role of father for us..true guide

Maza aa gya Mere papa ne bhi kaha tha ke apni maa jaisi mat banna aur main unke jaisi nikli 🤣🤣

Agar thodi bahot Gulami Wife ki hi karli toh, Wife lookdown nahi karegi kya? Jaise ki "are pichle sunday toh isne ye saara kaam karaaya tha toh aaj bhi time hoga iske paas, bolti hu isse" And once we drop the weapon down it will always be a Danger to our Throat? Please some1 talk about this with me.

Next video same topic pe,Ladko ke liye banao

Sir u r always absolutely Right

Sir...also analyze gujarat...we have very serious issue of harassment by feminist women...since we are western state with relatively better situation compared to India....gujarati women are falling into feminist bollywood trap and they just do not want to think beyond individualism....

Sir kya bat GURUJI In true sense

Very well exact guidance

Spitting facts

Thank you sir for practical solutions.

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Sirjee hamare maa papa ne kapde aur padhaie ko lekar bhedbaav nhi kia hain... Yaar koi pagal hain jo apni bahu betiyo ko bologe ki tum chaddi mei neeche ghumke aao ? 🤯🥴 Hadd hain matlab

Not a surprise that Yeh rishta kya kehlata hai ran for more than a decade... where akshara mostly has to do cooking, be extremely sanskari and should be anytime ready for puja at home.

Such a beautiful video....i have grown up watching my sister sacrificing everything to support my family. Love her n now I will give all my time, love, care n happiness to my daughter.

Rotiyaan pelti reh jaogi 😂

Bilkul sach hai sir esa hi hua hai 🙏

Good

Very good advice ❣️

Jai ho GBU take care of yourself 🙏

Like it ❤

Thank you🙏

Mujhae maeree maa/mother nae kabhee bhee mahangae Shauq PAALNAE KEE SHIKSHAA NAHEEN DEE! In fact my parents never encouraged me to use perks and privileges that my parents got because of their jobs and rank! I never supported corruption after marriage hence I am my son kicked out the corrupt person(ex husband and father in that order)

Ladke ka bhi bata do sir , i have a son of 3 yr old boy