Namskar sir Really heart touching practical behaviour of parents. Their ambitions never end,the son who achieved better'position with hard work has to support till he alive,the nalayak other sons expects financial support. The reality in the society, explained well.The points are to be discussed and forwarded to families Thanks sir
I am female, working as Director in Govt. department. My in-laws and their other relatives never recognized me as an officer. Because they allwere group C . My father in law introduce me as 'she is assistant director' Why our society never admire strong woman as bahu. Now I am 54 . But still I get annoyed with their peculier attitude. All other female members of the family are housewives and although I am better in household duties and take male responsibilities , they admire mediocre bahus. What is this phenomena?? I wonder.
They are useless jealous people. Stay away from them and keep interactions to minimum. Many middle class people will not give any credit to working bahu but enjoy her income
Its jealousy ma'am ...........for happiness......ignore them.........don't give this thoughts place in memory.........ultimately life never promised it gone be fair...........
One point u missed here, sometimes parents dominate marriage decision of their good son completely in order to satisfy their ego in society. leading to tremendous sadness to son and calling it sons fate if son is unhappy after marriage
I strongly recommend to never reveal your entire salary to anyone, not even your spouse. If at all you wish to be honest, tell your monthly salary after tax deduction and EPF+VPF deduction and other tax savings methods you may use such as PPF or home/education loan. So if you get 1 lakh/month on paper, tell your salary as maybe 70,000 or 75,000 per month (after tax and tax saving deductions). Always underplay your salary. This becomes even more crucial when your parents have a habit of revealing your life to their relatives and friends.
It's very tough to hide income from wife as in digital age u get msg of every transaction but one thing you can do it invest your money in property gold sip stocks anywhere after keeping a lumsum money of at least 5 to 10 lakhs in bank for emergency, and always keep crying before your wife that you don't have money left after investment .
Yes I am a 35 year old female I am a chartered accountant I started working for good salary from the age of 25 My mom postponed my marriage till I was 32 with greed to swindle my income along with my younger brother While her son got married at 28 while he is 20% salary compared to me It is absolutely true
Are to aap love marriage kar lena tha. Par arrange marriage me to aapka shoshan hi hota. Job k sath bohot aur torture bhi bardaasht karna padta maa to phir bhi achhi hoti hai aap kanhi ja k dekho working women ki halat bhi bohot kharab hoti hai sasuraal mai torture zyada hota hai sasural ma compared to mauka. Kuch 10 %ko achhe family mile hai baaki ro rahe hai sab
There is not even a single person on internet who can talk on topics like this. Tremendous work sir... Ek ek baat sachhi hai in your every video. Please write a book sir on these kinds of teachings.
@@debaprasad9379 stop watching one kind of content, try everything even if you don't know what it is. I'm not saying to force yourself to watch something else but have a mindset of trying something new everyday.
This is my father ... my mother was also working ... Both did their best to uplift their respective families ... But it ruined our life ... My sister n me r extremely bitter with both sides of families n don't want to get married ever ... Relatives r the biggest burden
I can relate to this sir. But the problem is its too late now. I was on a same guilt trip and wanted to become provider for my family whatever I could. Now I am 38 and yet single. My parents didn't approve my relationship with my GF. Now everyone is settled in their lives, and I am alone and depressed, cursing my life everyday. And the fun part is my younger siblings don't care much and don't contribute much yet they are more close to my parents than me, because I could not deliver up to the expectations.
Expectations are endless. Stay away from them and start your life now. It is not too late. The more you are near them the more you will be living in guilt.
Bhai jb aap khud khush rahoge tabhi dusro ko kudh kr paoge , start your journey if it's giving you joyful & happy life . wish you a very happy life ❤️ & god gave you strength to overcome your problems
I can relate this to my father's life. He dedicated large chunk of his life for taking care of parents and siblings, and later was thrown out by same peoole.
Is comment section m ek v ladki Nhi dekhige yhi problem h Jb EQUALITY ki bat ati h SALA EK LADKI KO UKRAINE NA CHODNE KA PAVANDI NHI LAGA HALA KI LADKE KM H LADKIO S .... BEST H SHADI MY KRO.....
I found it very much relatable with that of my father's life. He was the good boy of the family and our uncles are earning way less salary and respect than him. But he never got close with our grandmother but our uncles did and ultimately because of the tension in family he suffered from serious illness which ultimately took his life. You were on point sir.
We all should understand parents r selfish. They don't care about future of their children. My sister is also falling in their trap n destroying her life.
My selfish cunning mom want me to work like serveht for her fav daughter she is brate now nothing no talent only fair and beautiful that everyone like. But i m dusky less beautiful but attractive highr iq level love studying highly ambitious and multi-talented. But got no support from faimly. She want me to be house wife stop being ambitious individuals and book warm . all those quality she want put in my young sister .i m happy and free from future responsibility i will never come home once i m succeed in life
@@shwetathakur4707 please try to stay away and keep some distance with her and don't leave your goal otherwise you'll lost yourself in her hands.. I'm also seeing these types of situations..
This video should be circulated to all Indian families. It's so important that lot of youngsters gets into the trap of Seva. The life becomes so miserable that so many losses the conference and dumped by their own family.
Yup, but after sharing with anyone, most people with narrow minded will make comments to me like I'm being brainwashed with this or I'm getting away from Indian tradition and been influenced by western one. It's too complex bro
@@ygp47 I don't understand after getting married what's the role of parents. They should be only be in advisory role. After having 2 children and 17 years of marriage my mother still made me emotionally black mail to leave everything and take care of her. I emotional fool did it and now regretting. The damage has happened and no way I can fixed it.
The video is amazing sir.. and great life lessons.. my life is also a very similar ...I am 45 and divorced now.. and my parents are no more..my advise to younger people , please take care of your life as a first priority.. don't be too good and try to make every one happy.. people will use you as a colour pencil to make their life colourful.. you must find a good paying career , a loving wife, have children , house and have connection with God.. you will find people who emotionally make you feel guilty , be very careful.. people you trust and love most will betray you..
@upworkprofileevideonoorula No loving wife in reality, girls simply select boy based on salary, property, height, professional status. Girls treat man ATM machine
👏👏👏👏 Nobody talks about these topics the way you do! I went through this scenario for around 20 years, got depressed, had many sessions for 10 months or so with a psychologist to learn to say “STOP I CANT DO MORE, I HAVE A PERSONAL AND FAMILY LIFE ALSO “ things got improved gradually…
I am from IIT and in the industry for 7 years. I can vouch that it's all true. Thanks to my father, he maintained a register. I used to hate him for that in the beginning but later that turned out to be a saviour from lot of disputes.
@@shrishri8898 bhai life ka koi hard and fast rule nahi hota aaj kal degree ki value nahi hai skills ki job hai.Mere sath ke pade hue bilkul low grade college se aaj 20 lakh ke package par hai
100% accurate.. I was that boy ( I don't know how much good) .. But I had done a lot of return after I started doing bit better in jobs.. I kept handling full families expenses.. However.. I had my eyes opened already due to God given wisdom, high justice loving nature and my wife's advice, I turned back at right time. Did investment on myself and my immediate family..Your advice is reassurance that I am on right track. You are doing very great service by giving advice in art of managing family and setting all expectations correctly. What a wonderful niche you selected.. Thank you so much for being like Guru.
Feeling lucky to be born in a good family. My father act harsh on me only to make me work more hard and become successful. He has already enough savings to live like king along with his govt. pension therefore he has no greed for money. Only thing he wants to see is me standing on my own feet.
My arranged marriage was the same. I belong to Rich family but got married to the below poverty line family bcoz my husband is Good, Simple and earning well. After marriage they forced me to leave my job as there was no need for such. And once I left the job, I found he was in debt 5 times of his salary. He cannot say No to his parents kyunki bahut takleef dekhi h un logo ne. I faced so many problems till I got another job. Still problems are there but at least I have some savings for my survival 😊
@saumyasrivastava If you are belonging to rich family it doesn't mean your father property belongs to you. Go check 100 houses ask hey girl did your parents give property to you. Answer is no. Then what is the point saying you are belonging to rich family. In reality men getting injustice
One thing i understood from this session is that never reveal your income , not even to your parents, if you're earning 30lakh pa tell them it's 20 and save the surplus.... As he said it all comes down to money, maintain a register for expenses of all sorts because only you are responsible for your future and happiness and no one else ....
especially not reveal to spouse, especially woman should take care of their finances, giving everything to husband landed my friend empty handed and divorced recently
This is why I isolated myself from everyone (family, friends, etc.) once I became rich and started maintaining a low profile and pretend like I am just making enough money to make ends meet. No parents, no siblings, no relatives, no friends, no wife, no partners, no children. I am enjoying everything myself as I earned it all by myself! ;)
I'm planning the same, don't want kids and wife, I'll just enjoy my life, travel, meet new people, try their culture, instead of being miserable with a boring sad life, investing all my money on kids.
I am 22 hailing from a small town in Bihar currently pursuing mbbs and brought up in lower middle class family..i hope I get the courage to send this video to my mother..your videos are such an eye opener
Same thing happened with my father who had started to earn at the age of 16 and made a house for the family . My other uncle's though haven't done much but they are taking equal shares in property and after doing so much he hasn't got anything other than criticism from all.
Bhai same mere dad ke saath hua hai my dad started and established gold silver jewellery business and he is gave many gold silver to my uncle and also gave to two elder brother of him and all three had never returned anything to my dad even uncle toh ghr ka kharcha bhi nhi uthate my dad had paid their kid's school fee upto 12th also and the properties my dad bought also my uncle's are demanding.. I'm seeing my dad's sacrifice for family and my both uncle are just enjoying life with my dad's Money
@millionaire bro then did you or your father tok cunsoltation or not? Exp and good Cunsoltants can change ur father life, do u know(sorry for that kind of english)
True insights 👌. Some parents are pressurising their good boys even after more than 10 or 15 years of marriage of their sibling for monetary helping them. And they themselves are fully supporting their nikkama child by all power and will. What about the life of good boy?
Very well explained. Mainly the closing remarks. Really appreciate you sharing your views with all of us. Respect from my heart. 🙏 I get to learn many practical things from you.
Sangwanji should be a guest lecturer at various universities all over the country to impart these precious life lessons to students so that they can make this country and society a better place to live in
Loved the topic sir ! Thouy i am not from a service class community, but can totally understand the complexity of this situation. As you always say - your topics are really interesting & true to life . They are preparing me for my future. Thank you so much.
This has blown my mind. Every sentence makes sence and is so practical. Yup in today's world, there are most of videos of about how to get successful.... How get to that last ladder of success but when people reach their, they have all knowledge about Professional stuff but never thought of what will happen to his social life when he gets along with it.
I have experienced the same. But whenever I have tried to convey/explain the same as a son, I was always be seen as mean by others including the parents. Thanks for sharing the video.
Uncle how can you be so right and to the point in all topics. I have seen my friend suffering as his wife who is also doctor and has no father, she is doing everything for her mother and siblings at the stake for her marriage. My friend doesn't ask her income but to start family as he is already 38 but she doesn't want to think of kids till she settles down her siblings and her family is emotionally controlling her. Another patient of mine is working 15 hours after domestic violence in marriage and divorce. But even after working so hard for mother and brother they dont care. So many times parents put emotions trap and the obedient kid suffers. Hopefully parents understand that kids are not their lottery.
Biggest irony is that in coperate 50 lpa package is 1 to 1.5 lakh in hand not 30 lakhs mnc package are calculated in so much vague that 4 year stocks are calculated in single year CTC and package is inflated
sir your videos are very insightful, you are only guru in my life so far, dint have anyone to give me advice or life lessons ever in life, you are the first person to provide these lessons, thanks to what you are doing, request to make a video guiding single persons in their life forward, we have no direction, no family for whom we need to earn, especially single woman have no security/support etc and life seems hell at times, but we want to find that one thing that keeeps going and gives motivation
Awesome video. I wish this eye opener video released like 10 years ago. For all young lower middle class good boys/girls, which are moving to higher middle class, this is a treasure.
Sir In your 3 rd Happiness course I during query time asked u one question. It is very similar to my situation. I am very relieved from this guilt trip now. I face emotional blackmail of my parents with logic and my comments are more articulate. I will watch it atleast 10 times more. Your effort is very visionary.. its benefits can be seen in long term when sukoon and stability comes in life. Relations remain entact by following ur advice. Your video why beta bahu should not live with in laws was legendary in my opinion. I am thankful I found u before I turn age 30. My pressure of doing good in sarkari naukari is also relieved. Ckakki peasing aaraam sai aur aanch ko kam kar do has given ultimate sukoon to me. Your advice is doing more good in society than all other reforms, as you are addressing issues which no one is discussing but where actually the root cause of problems lie. Regards
Hi sir, i follow ur insightful releases on and off. Ur viewpoints are relevant, realistic, and ofcourse the harsh truths! Thanks so much. Saving them all for my kid. I have gotten acces to them in my 30s, not too late, but young adults will definitely benefit more
You have the unique ability to make your deepest insight points with a sledgehammer yet making me split in laughter right through your discourse. Captain Shankar retd
Actually. And the demands doesn't end when a sibling especially daughter gets married. When this daughter comes to Mayka for 15-20 days, the food, fun, travel, gifts for all the her family etc. expenses are more than monthly expenditure.. 😢 The good son and the obedient Bahu has to make extra budget for that.. These parents want to go on trips, relatives in foreign countries invite them out of respect. Now they want their son to do all the expenses... Because they are dependent.. The good boy son doesn't take foreign trips himself as he wants to save for his own old age.. 🤦🏼♀️😂
Hi sir ..u logics are life changing material. Pls make a vedio where mother in law has done a job through out her whole life but now bahu she wants job less just to take care of child , her family n relatives. This is my real life issue ..now m having two kids but doing nothing. If I want to raise my life again on track then she again n again interferes my decision n tells my husband very humbly that my husband always belive his mother not me. Wahi ghisa pita excuse ki bache kon dekhega ..n she's very smart enough to cover her evil feelings for me.
If you desire to do job, work on getting it otherwise your life will be hell in regret and frustration ,Even can give you mental issues in future My sister had same situation but she resisted second child,and now his son is 10 and she has joined the job,it helps her socialise,and be happy otherwise life as housewife can be frustratingly boring for many
So relatable to my husband. My in laws did all things as you said. Dudh ka karz and all things set in my husband's mind. Even after doing so many things, these parents demanding to return son's degree. They threw us out of family. Never be too good to anyone.
Ma ke naam ki property ladki nhi le sakti, aur ladki apne naam ki hui property se nikal sakti hai sabko, so be careful. Not a sensible decision to take peoperty on girls name, buying property on girls name is not the gensture to show love
