I tried to accommodate with my in-laws a lot but they always treated me poorly nd humiliated me a lot so I decided to stop trying to please them after 10 yrs. I helped them financially many times but now they behave tu kaun main kaun so that un ko money return na karni pade. How smart they r
Sir Sunday ka matlab hi badal Diya aapne, ab na movie na sitcoms only aapki videos dekhte hai weekend pe. Clarity towards life is growing like compound interest. Thankyou guruji 🙏😊
Mera story diff hai.. they took money from me for my younger brothers expenses and gave the property to him too saying he is uneducated. I did not do any of the things u mentioned but still was treated differently by my parents.
सर अगर situation उल्टी हो ma bap hi kharab ho पास m rahne wale ज्यादातर बूरे ही लगते हैं दूसरा बेटा जो फॉरेन में रहता हो खूब money ho is karan vo hi अच्छे लगते हो उसको अपने तीन पोर्टिन में से नीचे वाला घर की रजिस्ट्री फॉरेन वाले बेटे के नाम करवा दी और जो पास मे रहता हैं उसको बोले हम tuge jite ji कुछ नही dege pahle hamara karna parega hamare marne ke bad upar wale le lena vo is karke dabate h kyoki pas m rahne wala beta financial weak h aur y bhi pata h pad m rahne wala beta bahu agar property chor kar unse dur ho jayege tab bhi forein wale ne कुछ नही करना फिजिकली
Chahe koi beta kaheen rahe , haq uska barabar hai. Aap ne kaha teen portion hai. Ek foreign waale ka, doosra aapka , aur teesra , maa baap ka. Foreign waale ka portion isliye registry karwa diya kyonki, warna local rehne waala , uska hissa kabza kar lega. Local rehne waala apni portion mein reh tou raha hai, poore kabze ke saath. Aur parents kyon teesra hissa usko abhi dein. Jab woh nahi rahenge tou, parents ka hissa usko mil tou raha hai. Foreign waala kya surf isliye pyaara hai ki uske paas money hai, ya woh parents ko , ghar ko, etc paisa diya bhi hai yeh aapne nahee bataya. Agar contribute kiya hai tou woh uske hisse ka yogdaan hai. Jab koi paisa deta hai tou ek tarah se apna samay deta hai jo usne uss paise ko kamane mein lagaya hai. Paas rehne waala bhai aur uska parivaar kai baar old parents par time to time financial benefit bhi lete hain , parents ke paise mein. Pension ya kiraye mein hissa.
Sir , Biased parents par video banayiye....story meri lelo.... Parents ek hi son se aur usike biwike favourite hai ....ghar me favouritism and groupism karte hai ....jis bete ke paas jyada paisa uske favore me rahte hai...I have whole story... please DM ...
Future mein hone wala hai abhi hua toh nahi hai isliye tumhare paas time hai to prevent it from happening. tum future badal sakte ho agar tum apna behaviour or action right rakho
Unfortunately the son who has made something of his life by studying, taking risk, getta job etc is the one who's denied his due share. If possible, take a long leave from your job, go to hometown and pretend you have lost your job. Take possession of your share of property, get it registered in your name. then either sell your share 1st option or if you can't then put a big lock on your portion and don't let the brother use your portion. This exercise might take a yr or 2. Be prepared to spend tgat time because tge value of your share you'll lose is much higher tgan what you can save in decades or your lifetime. Only then he'll be compelled to give you your share. Otherwise he'll not give half of a property which is in his possession in full.
😅same thing happening in my house guru gi we are living abroad but I must tell you that parents do get sympathetic towards the child who is merely making even if he is at fault. Parents think k yeh toh set ho gya apne app ab isko karna hai or us bache ko set karne mei vo sab kuch zok dete hai and dusre ko uske hak say vanchit kar daytay hai. Dusra b maa baap ko kahi nahi jane datya kyoki use unke zarurat hai. Or yeh sach hai k maa baap jiske sath waqt bitaye gay uske taraf zukav b rakhe gay, comfort zone B a jata hai. The deeds done by a far away son go unnoticed and deeds done by one being close is shown to society. This things might be coming up now in society but Punjab started seeing this 30 years back.
Sir ye case study to samajh me aayi. Ab ek aur case study. Bade bete ne bachpan se mehnat ki, mauj masti kam ki ar jaise taise engineering karke ek company me job li. Wahi chhote bete ne pura mauj masti kiya, forcefully padhai complete kiya. Ab bade bete ko bachpan se iss tarah se groom kiya gya ki family to tumhe hi sambhalna hai. To jab job laga to father ke support role me aa gya. 25k se career start ki ar jitna ho sakta tha ghar pe paise bheje, ghar ke chhote chhote kharch, fir aage jake ar items khareede. Jo ab jod ke dekha jaye to 11-12 lakhs ke hote hai, sab kuch mila ke. Sath hi sath chhote bhai ko support kiya, career guidance deta rha, apni company me referral de kar job lagwayi. Ye sab krte krte bade bete ke paas kabhi paise nhi bachte the ki wo apni family start kar sake. To unse socha ki sath me kuch business try kiya jaye, kabhi stock market kabhi kuch inn sab chizo me hi fasa rha. Dusri taraf chhota beta samajhdaar nikla. Job lagte hi usne almost bhaag ke shaadi kr li. Uss samay paise uske paas bhi nhi the to almost 3-4 lakh ka bank loan liya, jise wo chuka nhi paya to bank walo ne pareshan krna shuru kar diya. Fir parents ne wo paise chukaye. Uss samay chhote bete ne bola ki mai dheere dheere krke chuka dunga. To cut the story short, aaj ke date me bada beta single hai, 38 ka ho gya hai, still struggle kr rha hai apni life ar career ke beech. Kafi depressed hai. Ghar pe paise deta hai, ghar ke liye samaan lena, mata pita ko ghumana, ye sab kr rha hai. Dusri taraf chhote bete ne na wo paise lautaye, ar shadi ke baad apni wife ko bhi bhut kam time ke liye hi ghar pe lata hai taki uski wife ko ghar ka kaam na krna pade. Nahi ghar k liye kuch samaan lata hai, na hi parents ko montly kuch deta hai. Baat yaha tak bhi theek hai. Lekin problem ye hai ki itna sab krne ke bawajood, parents chhote bete ke jyada kareeb hai, ar ab bade bete ko lagne laga hai ki jab to wo logo ki khwahishen puri krta hai tab tak hi logo ko usse matlab hai. Ar upar se saara gyan, farz, duty, responsibilities ka lecture bade bete ho hi milta hai jabki chhote bete ko agar ko dena bhi chahte hai to wo sunta nhi hai, to fir wo dete bhi nhi hai. Ar bade bete ko iss sab se jyada problem bhi nhi hai, lekin ghar pe basic izzat, samman ar adhikar to mile jiska wo haqdaar hai. Ar unka ye behavior dekhkar bada beta ar depressed ho rha hai.Loneliness + Depression + Feeling of leftout + Not having enough money/power ye bhut hi deadly combination hota hai. Guruji, bade bete ke liye koi suggestion? Sorry, comment thoda lamba ho gya.
bade bete ko apni life aur priorities per focus kerna chaiyeh,bada bhai khudh apni priorities per focus nahin karta isliye uski koi izzat nahin karta.bada bhai need to respect his own life & time before even parents & get married ASAP.
@@dreamsdesires Thanks for your concern. Lekin ye khud ke liye sochte kaise hai. I mean bachpan se mai aisa hi hu, so I think and behave accordingly. I actually don't know ki khud k liye sochte kaise hai. Please elaborate.
@@dreamsdesires ye bolna aasan hai...par jab khud ke liye time mile tab to...inke comment me dikh rha hai ki zindagi nikal gayi khud ke liye time hi nahi nikal sake. Ghr ke bade bete ki kuch zimmedariya hoti hain agr use wo na nibhaye to wo khud ki nazaron me gir jaega. Or ghr ki problems jyada ho to khud pe focus karne ka time bhi nahi milega
Salute hai aapko Mera....aasan nahi aisi zindagi jee pana....log khud ke chakkar me apno ko bhul jaate hain ..aap apno ke chakkar me khud ko bhul gaye..meri umar jyda nahi 20s me hi hu pr ye kehna chahunga ki aap himmat rakhiye....aapke jaise logon ki kami hai samaj me.....tab nahi to ab sahi thoda khud ke liye paise bachaiye ab or ek acchi life partner dhundiye or settle hojaiye
@@aashishdevexactly meri story hai. . I am 38 year old female pehle govt job me thi I was star in front of my parents. Mujhe groom karte the to take lead role. I resigned frm job tabse parents badal gaye. They have sidelined me like a piece of rubbish. I was a fool to not realise their selfishness behind a mask of parenthood. Now my sister who is earning n my brother who is jobless but apple of their eyes coz hez male child are their star kids. I feel cheated, betrayed by my own parents
Ye chhote wla yedi beimani par aa ja ye aur vo sare kaam jesa ki ristedari mey sab etc bade Wale ne kiya ho aur bade Wale ki bahu ne Ghar mey aa kar samya samya par sare kaam kiye ho aur ab chhote wala aur maa ek ho gaye hai to ab bade wala kya kare sab ristedar mante h ki sab kuchh bade Wale ne kya ab bde Wale ko ghar mein bhi na ghusne na diya jata hai ab bade wala kaha jae
Nice video, same situation hamare ghar me hai, my dad it elder son, our meri dadi mere chacha ke pass raheti hai, hum ek hi gao me rehete hai but donoke ghar alag alag hai property dadi ke nam par hai our hamara ghar dadaji ke nam par tha, my chacha is also nilkkama and fraud person and my dad is hardworking person also my mother is 90,s complete sanskari women, both my mom and dad took care of all of them financially bhi aur monthly requirements jese kirana saman vagare all his life but my dadi give all property to my uncle (nikkama) beta kyuki use beta hai (vanshka dipak) hai and onthe other hand mere dad ki me single child hu and i am the eldest granddaughter then also my dadi dont consider nor me neither my dad Moral of the story - my mom is a good sanskari aghyakari bahu and my dad always give money to my dadi we live in same village but still we don,t get anything in land plot and also jo hamara ghar hai dadaji ke nam par usmebhi dadi aur chacha ladmarrahehai apne hak ke liye Not always galti hamari hoti hai , kabhi kabhi na log hi saale kamine hote hai aap kuch bhi karo pyaar paroso thalime par aapko badleme sirf dhoka hi milega
@@amu808 sach yahi hai. Pehle parents ke khilaf koi kuch bolta tha Mai gussa ho jati thi. But parents khud hi dhokha dete hai seedhe aur ache bacche ko
Sir this is exactly my situation right now...but the only difference is we are not connected with our family because they ask for money every time we go there..
Best thing is not have expectation to get property or money from parents unless its ancestral property. Like he said, the older brother who left his home and parents has no real legal basis to make any claims. He can "appeal, beg" to his mother's sense of kindness but has no right to the property. In such case better to forgo any "claims" and live with dignity on your own earnings and savings.
Agar uss chhote bete ne teem tyohar sath celebrate bhi kiye hote , fir bhi agar uske mataji ko lagta to fir bhi woh uske naam kuch karate but yeh mamla favourtism ka hota hai ... bahot baar .. Esiliye kabhi bhi parents se ummid mat rakho.. parents bhi swarthi hi hote hai bahot baar ...
@@amu808parents swarthi hi hothey hai. The reasons being they are selfish to have kids and then ruin their lives My mother in law left her husband and sponged off all my husbands savings , invested all money in businesses which eventually flopped. I was stranded in Canada unwell not able to change jobs. Maybe it's because of caste also. As my husband is lower caste converts and dmk people.
Biwi ko faltu me property k liye badnaam krte hai..gold digger bolte hai jabki asli gold diggers to bhai hote hai .paise k liye apas me lad mar jaate hai aur iljaam biwi ko de do
@@Bold-BeautifulMoney can never outweigh emotional support and care. And parents are right to be selfish, even if they are being selfish, because all 'seva' is being done by the one who lives nearby, they can't afford to offend him as who will take care of them? It's fine to be pragmatic specially for old people.
@@VaishaliTyagi-u7j How come one sibling becomes offended if parents are loving towards other child .How come parents great connection with the one they live is so insecure that parents have to behave in a certain way with the other kid.Even if the other kid doesn’t want that money only love still they are labelled as bad guys by the parents to make the one they are living with happy .This is ridiculous and fucked up .Well their loss .If they have to loose one of the kid to butter up the one they are living with .It can’t be a very good life and such siblings are losers who instead of being happy they are with their parents and getting larger chunk of money take their insecurity out on their own sibling .And idiots like you support this sickness .
Why should the son who enjoyed his life n family n kept away from his responsibilities be given anything? Can he give back the privacy lost by other son n wife ? Looking after parents or inlaws can never be compensated. Sorry to disagree .
Aageh jah kr voh Ghumi ghumivala Officer, ish chote Bhai ya uske Bacho ko Dhamkay gah ke maine Paisa lagakar yaha 2 majil banaya hai. Abb ye mera hai, aab ye Court case bhi kr sakega. Chota Bhai, inn Uncle ki baat meh aa kr bura fas-gya
Ram Ram ji. Seen too many of such cases. Even if a son is ‘nikkamma’ or not stable professionally and struggling financially with wife and kids, he must not live with parents. The mental pressure and on and off abuse the son, his wife in particular and children get is too much. Why to pay price for mental peace. Live with dignity separately from parents. But most importantly sons and daughters must take care of aging parents it’s not bahu’s or damad’s responsibility.
I think isliye ye ladka deserve karta property ka bada piece.. at the end mentally, physically parents ki madad to Kari hogi jyda bade bete ke comparison me.
In middle class families. Child who has done nothing and is a sponger is rewarded and the one who has worked so hard is punished for being successful. Specially in tamil nadu where government encourages all kinds of atrocities against hindus. So being a hindu is bad here. I want to do a second marriage with a north indian guy who is a nationalist
Sir i have seen old couples like 70+ are struggling to lead life, dependent onkids who hardly care, despite having 4-5 kids nobody cares during old age, everyone is busy in their life.. Aisa situation na ho toh kya karna padega 🙏🙏🙏🙏
If father bought it and it is not encestrial property and father did not write it in the name of mother, then all 3 (mother and 2 brothers) have equal right to the property. But good that father wrote it in mother's name to simplify things.
what if fav waala bhai was fav since bachpan.. aur bde waala bhai ko woh sab starting se hi nhe mila jo chote ko mila. Isliye bde waala door hota gya. aur usko andar se pta hai k parents chote bhai ko hi zada dengey and bda waala is trying to gulp khoon ka ghoot all his life. I think he still deserves property share. coz without his parents he is nothing.
If he's favourite from the beginning and you know it you can change that scenario if you are intelligent. First thing is since you already know he's favorite don't listen to parents on marriage don't marry unless they give u what you want because that is the only thing you have to negotiate what you want from them. if still they don't agree then you will get an idea that they will never help after your marriage when u need it most. Si you can then take decision of marriage based on theis scenario if to marry or not. In case you don't marry and he does who knows if your parents are able to adjust with his wife if yes fine if no then parents will come to u so u can turn the table around in your favour
@@sumitragoganio4383 sab parents ko bacche paida kare mein bahut maza aata hai baad mein chahe bacche bhikh mange ye chor ban Jaye par help nhi karni. tumne agar apne parents se kuch nhi liya toh mat do agey children ko. if you have been watching this channel Amit sir have been telling parents to help
@@sumitragoganio4383 kids paida hote he road ya mandir ke bahar kyu nhi fenk dete aise parents agar unke liye kuch kar nhi sakte selfish parents. Bad parents are responsible for poverty and crime in society
What if there is a scenario where younger brother is telling that other brother and wife still are having same behavior knowingly that everything will divided equally as society says so why take responsibilty , they are ghummi , ghummi , enjoying , not taking care of anything , they feel once mother will go/demise, everything will divide equally or they will fight , gather support of relative or society for equal share . As by Nature and behavior they are strong and shrewd. In such a case what should be done ? May be in this case also , just by saying sorry he got benefit of 4.5 crore and elder brother and wife family enjoyed entire life also
Please share more of such case studies on various topics. These kind of videos will improve people's emotional IQ. VERY REFRESHING AND KNOWLEDGEABLE VIDEO. 🎉👋👋👋
Thank you so much for sharing. Very useful and inspiring story. The best use of human intelligence is this. Making everyone happy is an art.👍 Looking forward to learn more from you .😊
What If elder son give all possible money every time they need and elder bahu done all seva help accomodation to all family etc. and both son live away from parents. But still they are biased.
No matter if it is only son or more than one!! Parents get very partial and selfish as they grow older …in fact they always choose one child for responsibility and others have rights !! That one should always give and others have only right to all things!!! That child will continue giving u order to prove that he is a good son!! To get that affection from parents which they never gave him but to the other kids!his whole life will go in bending backwards to prove he is a perfect son but always will get a kick on his back in the end!! His family /kids will suffer as he has been conditioned to take care for the extenddd family over his own family
yahan to jantaa bade kaabil kamau santaan ko ye updesh de rahi hai ki tum to well off ho , karodon mahine ke ----- sab parental makan dukan jaydaad , naalayak ke favour me chhod do --- aur tumhai kamayi ka jo karodon yumse maa baap ne hazam kar liya tha ya , tumahre pati ka jo karodon tumahare maa baap ko tumne apne shahar me tumahare naam par invest karne saump diya tha aur maa bap wo sara dhan hazam kar gaye wo dhan bhi us sharabi kababi shabaabi nikamme nalayak shaukeen ko saump diya to usko jane do
wrong advice --- younger duffer siblings are not like this -- they are covertly inimical envy and they are not doing it all to the elder meritorious brother for the sake money-wealth --- they are doing it for the sake of SADIST PLEASURES
Lekin kabhi kabhi chota bhai chalak hota hai aur badi bahu ko saas pasand nahi karti hai to usa faida utha kar kaan bhar bhar kar sab log milkar use badnaam kardete hai aur maa usi ke piche pagal rahati hai aur property ka malik chota ban jata hai N
I am 19 , there's a lot of resemble in it with my situation , there's something that I have learnt form this person is that whatever the case don't just go nd ruin your relationships with family , talking works, listening works but when there's right people to do it
You only told ...grih kalesh ka Asli villain kaun hai....n now you are saying us villain ko invite karke ghumi ghumi karaye.....magar ab basanti is villain ke samne nahi Nachegi....you mean to say we need to do in laws ki ego massage for property....inspite of they hurting bete aur grandchildren ke emotions 😑
Yes. If you want share in parents property you're obliged to treat them well and also "Massage their ego" if that's what you want to call caring of parents to be. Remember it's tgeir Property.
Sir good suggestion you give. But I will tell you one real fact which I saw. Elder brother use to pamper the second brother. They are five brothers. Elder brother what ever he said to the other brother he blankly followed Elder brother as Ram. Elder brother was so intelligent that whole seventy years of his life he fooled the second brother. After his death all brothers came to know that he made will on the last brother who was not educated. He made will without interacting any one. It was a shock.
Whatever the internal matters or conflict but father property should be equally divided between brothers as per ethical value. It doesn't matter elder brother was big govt officers. Maybe his younger brother or parents was telling lie against elder brother or son.
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Sir ne apni kafi video's mai kaha hai ki joint family mai saath maat raho but paas paas zaroor raho teej tyoharon karwachauth pe mother in law father in law sister in law brother in law se milne zarur jao
Pls make a video on how modern couples are going childfree (and its their choice) but how parents are so against the idea that they dont want to give them property. Having or not having children is a couple's choice alone as they know their situation best and parents or relatives shouldn't blackmail them for it!
@@JyotiTiwari-oq9jp i dont want their property and i work plus have enough savings of my own. but if they r doing favoritism based on who gave them grand kids and who didnt thats wrong...even the brother who had kids can also work...he too shouldnt expect property right? If u comment, stick to the point, else get the f out!
Sir bahut jagah pe parents hi jana nehi chahte. Job life me etna time nehi milta ki savko time de sake. Iska matlab ye nehii ki uska sab ancestral properties me kuch na dia jua. Es case me mujhe jo lagta he ki jo bhai bahar he unko bhi kuch dena chahiye. Jo bhai unki maa ko dekh rahe ho unko jada do. Auir jo bhai b bahar he unke families b jitna ho sake quality time dee. Bhai bhai me paiso ko lekar jhagda hoga to sabko lia achaa nehi hota he. Baithke solution nikalna chahiye.
Nice ,case study ... I would like you to discuss regarding 3 Brother property dispute and child who stay with single parent father is good for nothing so all father total resources going to make him Big shot...Putra Moha
True said door rehne walay kbi zindagi main na maa baap ki khidmat ki na kabhi kharcha dia baad main kehtay hain pass rehne wale ne haathon main lay k sb pr qabza kr lia lakin maa baap ko chortay khial nai ata
Sir please ans. My question Same case with few changes 1. Property me bade bete ne loan bhari takriban pona hissa 2. Age 35 -40 3. Ma gujar gaye 4. Pitaji kuch nahi dena chahte. 5. Ghar me chote bete ka naam add kar lo. 6. Chota unmarried
Sir ,mere susur ne mere naam flat lene k lie register amt mere bank account me transfer kie the, or mene voi transfer amt ka cheque builder ko dia mere bank account ka, or balance amt jo cash thi vo mene di he ,uska koi proof nai he, abhi hamare disput hore, to mere susur flat wali property vapas lene k lie claim kar sakte he?? Ki jo fund unhone transfer kia uska claim kar sakte he?? Me meri beti k sath akeli rehti hu, abhi tak koi demand mene kia nai he, but meri dauter k future k lie ye property mere name pe jaruri he ,to please bataye ki mere susur mere se vapas le sakte he?? Please bataye
Very Nice. Can you please make a video on husband who never works and spends all the money he has. if he gets some money from his wife then he will use it and say it is God's intention to give him money. and his wife takes care of everything . how should a wife deal with this husband.
Sir i liked your vedio. I need your assistance for our long family property dispute. We are two brothers having separate flat in delhi, one was in the name of mother and other was purchased in the name of both brothers. How to contact u. Suit is filed against elder brother.
I think in Islam 1/8 share goes to wife after husband`s death and the rest is divided equally for sons and if there also exit daughters they get half of whatever sons get
MORE - What about the case where both brothers are with parents, taking care of them (medical, food, ghummi ghummi) but everything is going to daughter. Parents think sons are doing great in life but daughter keeps on cribbing and crying for money. She only visits to collect stuff on festivals, some amount is deposited on monthly basis in her account by parents. Never visits parents if they are ill because she says that she has kids to take care. Parents are completely fine with this because they have 2 sons to take care. Ultimately, take care tho daughter in laws kartin hain aur unko koi poochta nhn.
M ID Sir ji, Aap tOh antaryAmi hain! But you see the same thing, wearing a south Indian families hat, that too, where in a consanguineous marriage has taken place and money related to it, you'll gain more ideas for your videos. 🙂🙏.
Such a great and eye opening video, being and eldest daughter in law in 3 brother's family set up I was extremely unable to make them understand to help each other and grow with each other
