#1 Lawyer: How To Deal With Narcissism, Gaslighting, Toxic People & High Conflict | Jefferson Fisher 

Gotta be strong to get out! I know it's hard but it can be done!!

They're all extremely emotionally stunned... I ALWAYS, ALWAYS say "I see things differently" "We're all entitled to our own opinions" "The way I see it is" ALWAYS!!!!!

Always amazing Jefferson and so respectful and compassionate thank you

People who haven't experienced narcisstic abuse and being targeted in all sorts of manipulative ways, have no real idea what a toxic and relentlessly bullying situation it is. And also, some people just don't feel comfortable at all around other people so body language is not definitive.There are many motivations and reasons for someone being socially awkward.

I agreee!!! The word gets thrown around way too much... but for the folks that are actually educated in this area and that are INDEED experiencing a partner that meets 9 out of the 9 DSM criteria your content has really helped me. I believe a covert narc is one of the most dangerous kinds to be...

A narcissist will walk away if you start a conversation with "I just want you to know...." My covert narc husband won't discuss anything that doesn't make him feel good. He'll just say, "I'm not listening to this, or "I'm not discussing this" then walks away. He doesn't care about others' feelings, thoughts or solutions. He worked with the same guys for over 40 years and was the boss. Now that they are all retired, they get together every month at different restaurants. He was invited when he first retired and they never invited him back again. That, to me speaks volumes because guys tend to be forgive and forget when it comes to their friends. The fact that they don't even want him in their presence tells me they think he is a know it all, never wrong, jerk to me.

It's a real word describing real people who use the legal system to destroy others.

When they were saying that, you never hear from the woman who has the nice ex-boyfriend. The reason why you never hear from her is because they don't have problems with their ex-boyfriend who was a good guy. You're going to hear from the men and women who are dealing with the difficult, toxic personalities. When you're dealing with kind people, even when you're breaking up, it's doable. When you're dealing with a highly toxic personality, it is not doable. They need the help.

A person doesn’t need to have been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder in order to be a narcissist or have narcissistic tendencies

The word narcissism comes from a combination of greek and latin. It was in use from the end of the nineteenth century so late 1800's and not two years ago. It can be a misused word but that excuse makes very difficult for those who have experienced and been assessed as subjected to this form of abuse. It is a very dehumanising experience and the abused person is not often believed because of the public verses private nature of this type of abuse, In the UK now the offenders can be prosecuted. Those who have not been at the receiving end of this form of abuse have no idea, none whatsoever. If a person is beaten up, bruise can be photographed, bones xrayed etc. If ones mind has been beaten up it is much more difficult for outsiders to understand. The victim often gets blamed thereby perpetuating the abuse. What the lawyers don't see or hear is the behaviour in privacy of the narc, the tone of voice used which can make a lot of difference. They only see the 'public' nice person as a rule. I have walked away , only to have them following me everywhere i went raging all the time. Walking away isn't always an option if you have other responsibilities in the home for example. You can do the quite approach and repeat may irate them so much they start a rage attack. Well, trying to rationalise with a narcissist shows to me that you do not know what this disorder is. This was an approach you suggested.

You are Very wise 😊

Top advice from our self composed and unflustered lawyer: You maintain that balance (your reality vs another's accusations) by understanding who you are and loving who you are-"I'm ok if you misunderstand me. I'm okay..." And, stay still and not be routed all over the place by a gaslighter, responding calmly and succinctly, "I remember things differently", even a few times just to stand your ground- "You have control over you!" The goal is to achieve this unflustered frame in our emotions and our words (internally and externally), adequately demonstrated in this interview. For those caught in toxicity and longterm abuse, self heal needs to happen first. Take care...

Narcissism is very much REAL.

Ten to fifteen years ago, calling someone a narcissistic was considered taboo.

I was in the military as a senior leader and got set up for controversy by my senior boss who had operatives in my organization. One new officer reported in and had a nice in brief with me and I welcomed him to the organization and told him to take whatever time he needs to get settled and that I was happy he was here. He went to see the guy he was replacing and despite me only being there for a few months where I had been on travel for much of the time, the new officer returned to my officer and called me a narcissist and told me he was going to make sure I was fired. They all did try that 18 months later when I retired after 30 years. I was targeted by the senior boss who set up an operation (it had a name even). She wanted me to be fired for whatever reason so that I could be a scapegoat. Despite that I stayed steady and and when she ran her investigation of me no ne cold really come up with anything I had done wrong. But like she said, "I dont have to find anything n my investigation because as you leave service people will think yo got fired anyway."

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Great advice on loving who you are.

The match!!!! I stated off just letting others be themselves and that worked out well for awhile, now I know what is happening and it’s so gross someone using you for an ego boost. I have strategies just catching it on the onset is the only one ne I need to get great at.

What if you dont still love them from all the stress they caused. Im actually just done.

I think that people who are calling their ex a narcissist are those who have been or continue to be abused by that person. Many people have narcissist tendencies and many are true narcissists.

You can aways tell when a narcissist is lying. They open their mouth.

IT'S WAY WORSE THAN YOU GUYS KNOW. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT REAL NARCISSISM IS.

Yeah the popularity of the word has been steadily climbing since the early/mid 2000’s (2004 and on) but hasn’t been spoken about/noticed till about 2010and on. Trying to be honest and detailed as possible. It climbed even more popular from then on. 2020 is when it became a RU-vid trending topic I think. Maybe as early as 2018. I noticed the online therapist have videos dating back to around that year. So as far as everyone labeling one another a narcissist it goes back to at least 2020.

Most narcissists either dont go to therapy or lie to the therapist, coverts in my life, at least

Sometimes l hard time loving myself little bit am doing way better than I was

I have to go but like you’re baseball theory like when someone throws you a ball and it’s ball. That was in the other video anyhow. I was playing baseball pretty hard for a while around people. No where was really comfortable and so stuck around with various narcissist until I could completely get out of it. Thanks. Work day! Sunday of course I work on a Sunday, but sure this is the last week I pressure myself to get things done. I’m already so happy with what I did and catch myself saying thank you to myself often. Take care.

Cluster B = Difficult Patient

Social media is a catalyst for The Big N. Duck lip selfies, look at me, likes, hearts, humble braggers

Discernment, yes - Always statements, nah.

GAWDDDDD!!! Im with a covert narc..... im planning my escape now!!!!!

Guys must be different from females. You have the luxery to be kind. There’s wolve packs out to devour the woman and being kind is not an option, it just looks like an invitation. Dealing with narcissists, otherwise life is civil.

Is there any good book to read about how to deal with narcissistic boss ? can anybody recommend one ? Thanks

Its a domino affect

Very meta.

Yeah them hard stuff

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