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by Kevin Samuels I think you may be more effective working with women, I hope this goes viral because this one of the realist things I’ve ever seen on the internet, poor lady had no clue. She just allowed a RU-vid personality to almost decimate her entire life. Keep up the good work!
Interesting. Miss Master's Degree said her husband had been married twice before in another country and needed marriage with her to get a green card. Wow!!! If a black man went to a foreign country and got a woman who has been divorced twice and she needed marriage to him to get a green card, would this great counseling session have gone the same way? Or would that black man get bashed and told he had better options than the one he chose? After all, black men like myself who have a foreign wife who was never married and no kids - many still claim we had better options here in America. There are many double standards in the "counseling" that men and women receive from society.
So far, biggest takeaway: she mentioned shera in the very beginning all I could do is smh. I thought getting married to a good man was the goal! Shera has a specific audience and outcome... but not what we are all looking for! It comes off as very spoiled, entitled and delusional to say you feel 'duped' after years of marriage to have not chosen a more 'successful' mate. Eta: My biggest problems at this point just involve suffering the consequence of previous poor relationship choices, focusing on self improvement and learning all I can in the meantime. Taking your advice to take a break and possibly rejoin the dating pool in my 40s once my girls are grown:/
What a beautiful statement, “he’s been in a homeless shelter with you, don’t you think he’ll be on the mountain top with you too!?” What a profound and beautiful sentiment
Kevin’s concern for seeing a family together and having those children grow up empowered and not be broken from dysfunction was touching, heartwarming, and Godly. Respect!
He is opening her eyes to how valuable her husband is to her family / she needs reality check/ 70% of AA homes don’t have a father/ KS is an intellectual warrior
@@KAM0327 you may be right!!! So I add that the science of a man within the concept of how he speaks into his/our woman is the key. Remember, when it comes to a woman we Men come from her internal therefore we must speak the language into her eternal to have a successful communication without ego. Women feel our words first then think about it, men we listen to her words then try to feel what she means. 😂
His sick mother is not the future of the human kind, his kids are, so he should have focused on working to support his children and wife, not to lose his job over some granny!
@@FreeAgent797 Or you are ignorant as hell and can't understand that aging of population is a path for gen*cide. I will chose for my money to go on feeding babies that will become next human generation, rather than wasting them to sustain old people alive that are sterile and useless!
Exactly. It's so hard to see things from others perspective but I think this man just gave her a great reality check. Hopefully she will be humble enough to take the great advice.
This was jaw dropping honestly and Kevin handled this superbly. I was legitimately impressed at how direct yet gentle he was with her. That's how you know someone actually wants to help vs. belittle and beat her up. Also, she took this like a champ. That was not an easy pill to swallow but it was clear she wanted the truth & wanted to improve. Seriously great content here!
This was a GREAT example of a man giving truthful, hard facts and advice to a woman with the intention of being received. Her whole demeanor changed by the end of the video due to Kevin’s delivery and honesty. Kevin, my respect for you increased tremendously.
This man saves lives!! Priceless!! Absolutely priceless! This short video has probably saved not only a wife but a whole family. Why is this guy not on prime TV instead of the garbage we have on TV? 😳😡
Anyone else go back to rewatch this just to hear the overall humanity? His cadence, stern yet influential approach draws me in every time. Kevin has many other impactful eye-opening videos, but give credit where credit is due, for me, this video is a masterpiece.
Keep your marriage life private. The friends and family who will push you to leave your husband or wife won't be there to help you pick up the slack or fill the void.
This episode damn near had me shed a tear. I’ve been with a woman who let the outside noise ruin our marriage. She has no entryway back into my life now but if she did what Kevin suggested back then it would have saved us. Smdh. We are so broken as black people man. I hope we get back to our village minded roots.
Brother you have hope, more hope than any 25-40 year old woman can hope to have. You’re gonna be making your moves and she’ll be right where she decided to jump off until she gets of the bullshit. It is what it is.
same here with two kids boy and girl, i moved on and had a boy child two months ago and happily married again but ex is single and lives with her parent...
He left his job to take care of his dying mother, and instead of enduring and overcoming with a man that is willing to go to such lengths for his family, she leaves him?! Marriage is about ups and downs, being there when it counts. She's for the streets. It's not like he wasted his money, or quit his job to study making pasta in Italy, he was taking care of the woman that gave him life before she died. Unbelievable...
This is a good example of what it's like to be a man; You can be an good husband, with great character, who takes care of his kids...but the moment you fall on hard times, a woman will be ready to leave you high and dry..... totally disregarding your character...
@Mr.Mayhem I'm glad I got a good man that doesn't think like that I got a good man and I thank the Lord every day I'm not miserable with somebody that feels all they have to do is pay bills and I have to suffer under them thank you Lord
@Mr.Mayhem y'all kill me y'all think everybody thinks like y'all and everybody acts like y'all I thank God my dude is awesome I thank God he don't think foolish like this. And me and my babe we do it together no kids and we look out for each other that's what it's about not this trade-off I get to do whatever I want as long as I pay for you never will no I have a vested interest in our future and so do you and you need to respect that
This video is POWERFUL, and it encapsulates the main message Kevin's been trying to get through many modern women's heads. And I'm impressed with how receptive and respectful this woman was throughout this dialogue. Taking critique is not easy, but it's necessary when the intent is to help you. RIP Kevin, you did your job well! Out of all of his content, this particular video should've gone viral. The man was out here saving families.
*After listening to this video, I came to my wife & hugged her & let her know all the reasons why I love & appreciate her. She makes 4 times the amount of money that I make... She's in MLM & she will double that within 2 years from now too... Yet, she still let's me be the (man) of the house & respects me as a (man). She knows that I helped her get to where she is. I paid for her education & helped guide her to make good decisions. She's always learning & trying to push me to be a better version of myself. Our marriage ain't perfect, but I have no complaints at all. Not saying that to brag, but I am saying that we have went through thick & thin together as we knew each other from the time that we had nothing. I wouldn't trade her for the world*
My sister had the same attitude. She was a teacher also with a masters and thought my brother in law was not doing enough. The man was a hard worker and had two jobs working alot of overtime. But that was not good enough. Her attitude changed when she could not take it anymore and wanted to leave her job. She left her job and became a driver to deliver medicine. She then humbled herself.
34 years old, 2 kids, 5'3 & 210 lbs. OMFG. I am at a loss for words. The husband hasn't cheated on her nor been abusive, and still wants to be married to her. I don't even need to see what she or her husband looks like she should be grateful to have a man that loves her for her. Unfogging believable
She sounds like she let alot of outside influences dictate her thoughts about her marriage. I think you humbled her and gave her alot to think about. I commend you on doing this type of video and her for taking constructive criticism without getting angry and defensive.
I was one of them. I'd hit 35 and decided (well it was happening over time) I was no longer happy and that I was just existing in my marriage. I wanted out!!! The elders in my family helped me get realistic. They said yeah you're still cute or whatever but baby its a dirty game out here. Your best bet is to stay right where you are. Your man is hardworking, he hustles, he loves God loves his family, all your kids are with him, no outside kids baby mamas or foolishness, yall have a nice life together home, luxuries, family, travel.. don't get caught up in the deception thinking there's more because you will come up short and even if you do land a good one trust me theres a new set of problems waiting for you. Take this time to grow your relationship and in a short time you will be welcoming grandchildren and then what? You gone be at the club dropping it like its hot? no cause that's not cute no more and it gets old quick. Get your mind right. And I did. Theres a bigger picture. Happiness is a choice.
I bet 'you' didn't decide you were no longer happy etc....you may still not have the ability to decide ,even after you were saved from destruction by the elders of your family. You were 'decided for' by bad company. Tell yourself and your kids about your life when they grow. You're lucky....thank goodness for that 😅
Oh man, I am a happily married woman and even I needed to hear this phone call... wow. Thank you for this common sense Mr. Samuels. Gonna go tell my husband that I love him! :)
Much love to both parties of this conversation! I applaud the young lady for her courage and willingness to actually listen to understand. As for Mr. Samuels you’re presence will never be forgotten King! Days like this I come back and watch old videos just to soak up game! Fly High!
I'm so glad that by the end of the day she had really humbled herself. He was able to break through to her. She does owe her husband an apology. She found something many women have lost, especially black women: Shame. I was honestly teary eyed. To get a family back together. That is awesome. Kevin is the G.O.A.T.
“What you’re not saying is, when he fell on hard times HE DID NOT LEAVE.” 16:01....Profound. That might be the best thing I’ve heard in awhile. Thank you.
I congratulate the sista for being strong enough to withstand the blatant truth about herself without bucking Kevin. Now, she'll be on her way to healing herself and her marriage. Good for her!
A very few women have wisdom in America on how to keep their Marital homes, that's why the divorce rate is way too much in America than anywhere in the world.
Many men like myself who were raised by a single mothers are now trying hard to play a role that we have never seen played out in our home. We are now getting married and being fathers to our children. No one has ever been bold enough to addressed the disfunction on the female side until you! Keep doing what you are doing. You are much appreciated!!
@@mercedes7811 95% of the experience with women SPOT ON you havent dated a woman as much as most guys attempt and if you did like women lesbian relationships are divorced higher then men and women
Watching these chicks makes me appreciate my wife who loves being feminine and always concerned for my happiness. Women like her and you are becoming extremely rare. If I didn't have my wife, I would just stay single. I'm very blessed to have the marriage that I do and your husband, I'm sure, feel the same way.
I am from trinidad and I have watching for the past 3 days straight. This by far was my most favorite episode. I am not emotional and I felt like crying because she recognized she was wrong and I love how you handled it and the advice.
Brotha, This is my first time viewing your platform. I will certainly say...I am DELIGHTED by the way you completely checked this lady. You TOLD her to be grateful for having a husband, because she is older, heavier& more jaded. I am truly a fan!
My guy is saving lives. Media and culture have women thinking they are leveling up while they are on a course to destroy thier lives,kids and man appears to be doing exactly what he should be.
The fact that her husband “STAYED”. Mr. Samuels, thank you for your contribution to the world. This is the truth and honesty we need. May your soul rest in paradise.
I'm glad this conversation has been placed in the spotlight. I'm 35 and I see more women with her mindset. Even if the man is educated she still has something to complain about. Me and my co parent have this exact same issue.
Kevin gave sound advice to this woman and my biggest takeaway was be happy with what you have in your relationship and build on it...and stay away from the "smoke and mirrors" thinking others have better
Had to revisit this one but this is what Kevin was all about keeping family's together and trying to match make, even though people took snippets of his stuff out of context to make him seem like a monster. RIP to a Great Brother.
This is NOT his typical tone. He usually is very belittling. He must be feeling the heat of all those people coming out to spill the tea on him lately. ☕️
This just shows that Kevin truly does care about the family unit ultimately. His delivery can seem harsh at times but I think it's also subjective. When a person is sincere and transparent he responds differently than when someone is combative and defensive.
Completely correct and i take note of this. Women who are gentle, listen attentively and are open to non-fake criticism or advice are treated well. The ones who come ready to "go at it" with Kevin get corrected harshly.
@@Maremare680 I agree. He directed the conversation exactly they way he wanted to. I've only watched a few videos & it seems like he wants to belittle the women.
@NO RETURN Hmmm, you may have a point there. Free counseling on the air=public humiliation/wind up more damaged than you already are. Pay for a private session and he might treat you with a bit more dignity. Lol
Mr. Samuels, you have touched me deeply with your humanistic consulting. Your comments about this woman who was in a shelter were strong and deeply kind at the same time. Bless your work.
My biggest takeaway: - understand desires in the beginning of the relationship - get honest about your true value in the dating marketplace - listen to and take criticism from valid sources Thank you Kevin for the enlightenment
Haha me too... I'm also 5'3 and 210 but dont have this attitude. Women like us have to be be humble and thankful a man will be good to us especially with her blaming attitude. This woman is acting fickle.
She said that she was taking your words with "a grain of salt". In other words she heard you but didnt hear you. God bless you Kevin Samuels. You were wise as Solomon and patient like Job.
I caught that too. Kevin already understands that at 34 and with two kids her imprint is already set in stone. She doesn't feel like she needs to improve on anything on her part. Her weight. Her college debt. Her debt to income ratio. Nothing. However, she still believes that she deserves an Idris Elba to walk into her life with looks, money and status and take her as is with no accountibilty on self improvement on her part. It sounds crazy but she honestly believes that she deserves that no matter what.
@@willieboyland3180 that’s how most women in general, black women in particular think. They think they deserve the very best men available but they can come in any form. They want 2021 Bugatti men with 1999 Dodge Stratus money.
@@sickofguysnamedtodd2293 It's mainly due to the goddess complex in African American women today. You can have 5 baby daddies. Up to your eyeballs in debt and a feminist ideology but as long as you have a WAP that you let countless bad boys and undeveloped men run through in your prime years that even a man with looks, money and status should fall at your feet and worship the ground that you stand on...
Tbh I don’t think she knows what that saying means lol listen to what she said after that. If she took it as a grain of salt she wouldn’t have said that lol
Perfect example of women wanting to be "Brides", and not "Wives". Vows aren't taken serious nowadays. It is just something that's said out of tradition and nothing more. I really think she just wanted something "New". She has lost interest in him and wants out. She's searching for a reason that would legitimize her departure, but now kids are involved. She doesn't want to be seen as the bad person. They need to sit down and talk. If this situation continues the way it's going; it will lead to resentment and misery on both parts. Great interview Kev. P.S. I was waiting for you to ask if she's still in love with her husband? Her answer to that would have said it all.
This is amazing! A whole family was just restored, and provided actionable insights for coming out of this challenger stronger and more united! I hope they’re thriving wherever they may be. ❤️
Wow! Excellent quote....”Move on at your own pace and the chatter will die down once they see they can not move you.” This is exactly what I’ve been telling myself... Point taken
Godfather you gave her a slice of humble pie, as well as pointed out things that she should be grateful for in her life, that she seems to be over looking! You handle her how she needed to be handled, and in turn she reciprocated your advice! Keep up the great work OG Kev!
This brother is truly missed! This was wonderful and fed my spirit and soul, her listening showed me that there is hope for us brothers who have always been providing strong men to our women despite the world lying to them to split our familes.
The whole American Society needs to hear a message like this. We have become a society filled with people being all about themselves, their happiness and selfishness.
I subscribed after this one. I see this same thing with so many of my female friends. They make chump change, have 100k in student loan debt, only marginally attractive. Yet the think their education makes them a dime.
