10 Common Negative Thoughts (& How to Avoid Them) | Pt 1 | LITTLE BY LITTLE | Fr Columba Jordan CFR 

God hear my prayers. I’m a single mom raising my two children with special needs. I’m overwhelmed at times because they are all I have. I recently started homeschooling my sons because they were having so many issues in school including bullying. So my hours to work are limited. Every month I’m struggling, struggling to pay rent, struggling buying groceries, struggling to do it all. Yet God gives me strength. He will provide I have faith. ❤️

I asked my catechism class of 5th graders, "How do you know it's God speaking to you as opposed to you speaking to you?" One of the boys said, " When it's me, I say things like 'that was stupid' or 'you're a dummy' but God never says that." He took my breath away! Beautiful young soul!

ST. JANE DE CHANTAL: “Should you fall even fifty times a day, never on any account should that surprise or worry you. Instead, ever so gently set your heart back in the right direction and practice the opposite virtue, all the time speaking words of love and trust to our Lord after you have committed a thousand faults, as much as if you had committed only one. Once we have humbled ourselves for the faults that God allows us to become aware of in ourselves, we must forget them and go forward.”

I’ve enjoyed more peace, since I became sympathetic to the idea, of delegating the job of “personally judging people (including myself)”, over to God. Hence I believe in being obedient and faithful to His way by letting go and letting God. Thanks and God bless.

Learned we are hard wired to be negative as a general defense to survival. So let’s forgive ourselves a bit as we embark on a positive posture.

this video is a speedrun and i need the 10 part series, lol. much love to all at ctm

Thanks Father. And yeah, do more video on this topic.

Thank you, Father! Exactly what I needed to hear this morning 🙏

Helpful points. Thanks for sharing.

You are a treasure, Father! God bless you too.

This is BRILLIANT! So much wisdom!I am going to write these points on a note in my phone and remind myself to have a look whenever I feel stuck.❤🙏👍

Thank you so much, good-hearted man! Tons of wisdom an love in what you've said! May God bless you and protect you always! 🙏🙏🙏

Thank you Father 🙏 🕊 ❤️ 🕯 🌹

Father, you really know human being nature!! You nailed it!!Your always deep analysis, plus your sense of humor are the best! 😊

Thank you. I beat myself up at least once a day. I really appreciated this.

Thank you for all your videos. I can't tell you how many times God has put your videos in my list at the exact time I needed to hear that message. God is much better than the old algorithm! I pray he continues to bless you and your ministry.

BEAUTIFUL FATHER...thank you for showing ME the truth...I am guilty of all of these.God Bless

Sooooo god💚, thank you! 🌿

Thank you. I struggle with those negative self issues ❤🙏🏻

Helpful!🙏 Thank you. I wonder if prayer is like lifting weights so we have the strength to capture our thoughts. Being vigilant takes strength and I appreciate how you made it so clear. I would love to hear your “part 2”! God bless you and all your brothers and all your good work.❤

I totally needed this! I would love for you to do a pt. 2 and flesh some of these out. I’ve struggled with this for nearly 50 years…….still struggle with it. One of the hardest things for me to understand is that Christ DID love me enough to die for me….. but im so unworthy and I believe all the bad about me.

Thank you for this. There is a lot to unpack here. I had to watch it several times. ❤

I just had a lesson 2 hrs ago about this! They are also known as cognitive distortions. Thank you Fr Columba for always sharing your knowledge in the most simple way. May the Holy Spirit always inspire you to continue helping us grow near the Lord. Blessings from Mexico!!

For me, a first step is noticing whenever I am personalizing, or instinctively and immediately blaming myself whenever something goes wrong. So the 1st step is to notice; that's where I am at present...

WOW! I really needed that today... Thanks 😇

Dear God. 8:51 and provide graces to fight negativity

hey hey! it's cognitive behavioral therapy!

Thank you! Indeed, we are love by God!

As always, right on time! Thank you

You are so needed. You are so amazing. Thank You for the great help. ❤

Beautiful ❤

You are so kind ❤

Thank you, Father! You have great advice!

Hi Father Columba, I have trouble in the moment of DISCERNMENT of sin, between humility and acknowledging the fault and self criticism, which offends His Love. It's hard when up against it. Thankyou for your help. God bless you and and all there.

Some of those points I learned also while studying Counselling.

I lllove this videooo!!!!!!!!! May God grant all your prayers fr Columba Jordan and respected team!!!!! 🙏🏻💙🙏🏻💙

This is so helpful. Trying to get my son to watch it again. Would love to have a sequel with more answers to each point. Thank you, Father!

Cheers pal

Thank you Father. God bless you.

So simple, yet so profound- how do you do that?! However you do it ..thank you. 🙏

Happy to have found your channel ☺️God bless you 🙏🏻🕊️♥️❤️🌺🌹

Thank you Father 🙏 please pray for me 🙏

yes more im depth please

So true!

Hypercriticism, pessimism, negativity, or hypersensitivity stem from judging yourself and others based on performance up against standards you value or others value whose opinions you value. If you or others fail to meet the standards, you judge yourself or them, or they judge you. Sometimes those standards are not good or right. Sometimes they are too high, perfectionistic, or unrealistic. Disregard wrong standards and reassess the unrealistic ones. Judging yourself and others based on beauty, brawn, sexual prowess, power, money, material possessions, etc, ie, things which moths and rust corrupt is wrong or unrealistic. Judge yourself and others based on the heavenly virtues which do not corrupt, ie, faith, hope, charity, justice, fortitude, prudence, temperance. High moral standards better than low moral standards, so be moral not immoral, but don't get moralistic and ungraciously and scrupulously judge yourself and others harshly. Be holy not profane, but don't become sanctimonious and look down on others. Be just not unjust, but don't become self righteous or exactingly just, ie, tit for tat, eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth. Grace tempers vengeance. Have as some of your high moral standards sympathetic understanding, forgiveness, mercy, and grace. If you act in good will, treat others in good faith, and put good effort into what you do, who can blame or judge or condemn you when you happen to fail? You can't be blamed for circumstances outside your control. Your good will, good faith, and good effort are in your control. Likewise, don't blame, judge, or condemn others who fail if they had good will, acted in good faith, and put good effort into what they did. The measure you use on others will be used on you, so treat others the way you would want to be treated. Forgive and be forgiven.

Very helpful. Thank you!

I need to listen to this a few more times. Ty

Father im struggling with this so much.its ruling my life. Please pray for me.

Look forwad to your posts so much thanks God Bless

Brilliant, thank you Father (once again, I’m sure you made this video for me:) I’ve started doing an examen in the evenings but this made me realize I’m still focussing on what I don’t get right instead of the fact that I’m loved beyond my wildest dreams.

That is some great advice. Thank you for letting yourself be moved to share it!

Thank you ❤

Major GameChanger and so helpful Fr. you are all that and a bag of chips

Wow, Father. It’s as if you read my mind and made this video just for me. Thank you!❤

Thank you!

Yes please to answering these thoughts! I’ve found that reading Gods word yo identify me, wipes away the lies I tell myself

Thanks be to God! 🙏🕊️

More on this topic please. Brilliant take! Very helpful.

Thank you🙏

This is Gold. I took note of all of these. Wonderful job summarizing this so well!

Thank you Fr 🙏🏻

Thank you for this well needed video 🙏🏽

Dear Fr, Thank you . ❤ You are a great help in this journey. Your videos are so valuable. Every week I wait and it has been part of my life. Thank you ❤

Stinking thinking is contagious - also spirals way too easily, which the father of lies loves. Exercise, prayer and meditation on JMJ is the only way out.

I would appreciate a more detailed episode

🌺☘💖 Excellent rundown, Father. Reminds me a bit of the cognitive behavior therapy approach. I do it all especially the all or nothing approach. Another word might be catastrophizing.Not really sure. Yes, please embellish some of those.

Thank you Father.❤❤❤❤

TOTALLY INSPIRING FATHER COLUMBA. GOD BLEESS YOU MY FRIEND x

Grew up looking for the other shoe to drop. Been working on negativity for awhile. Constant battle. Thanks

Very useful! Thanks a lot father!!!

I can focus on a few negatives in my life, while not accepting all of the gifts and graces that the LORD gives me each day.

Thank you so much Fr. Columba ❤ this was really helpful... But please do another video on the answers to these negative questions

I struggle with these because of narcissistic abuse I've experienced 😢

Father thank you so much for this video!!! What a blessing 🙏🏽. Can you do a more detailed video on mislabeling. Specially with a person that has had a conversion? Thank you.

Than you father..I am in the darkness of my soul now.Our Father used speak me thru signs and dreams. Then they stopped and my trials and tribulations started. Heavily. Heaps and the only signs were downward. Now, I was not all innocent in this, but the lack of his voice is overwhelming silence. It is more pain than I have ever had, even physical.I have been stuck in the middle of Mormons no matter where I live. They suck the soul out of me.I can feel it daily. I have thoughts like you describe. Please pray for me. When you talk to HIM ask HIM to remember or me.

Scored a 10 out of 10 on this one. Hmmm. I guess I need to score a zero on this one. Thank you Fr. Columba, you've hit me hard (in a good way) again.

Thank you for this 🙏 God bless ✝️

My sister felt really bad, scoring 75 out of 100 on an algebra test. I told her that when you are applying for a job. The employer is not going care about your test. But if you are a good employee.

Fr. Columba, this is so helpful that I wonder if you might elaborate in a second video?

Thank you I needed this video

Wow Fr Columba. I scored 9 out of 10 . I bring these negative thoughts, feelings daily to Our Lord. It’s truly a very difficult struggle. Hard to find a confessor to share this with.

🙏 💙🌷🕊️

Super helpful, thank you so much, Fr Columba! A great and much-needed reminder of how God sees me, and some really helpful tips that spoke directly into a situation I'm facing at the moment. May the Lord bless you and keep you, and everyone in this community! 🙏

Thanks!💯

I really liked this message. I still deal w/residual guilt from someone's violent suicide that was done on my b'day, and deliberately. Dunno if it'll ever go away, either, despite recent messaging from others.

Thank you for sharing your messages, they are very helpful and God bless you and your ministry ❤

Great channel love the content. God bless u

So helpful- thank you Father x

Thank you. God bless you too.

Love your videos in youtube

Thank you

Very Good!!! ❤❤❤ “You are worth more than the universe, and I love you very much!!!” Received- SO Beautiful! Ditto that back to Fr. Columba Jordan from God. ❤️‍🩹🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

Could you post more videos about the falling into the loop of sin video you made 2 months ago? I really resonate with that and I really need tips of what to do to change

I’m absolutely nobody’s type when it comes to dating. No one could possibly want to be with me and I’ve been told I’m not good enough

I have panic attacks a lot

Get out of my head Fr. Columba Lolol 😅

I never thought to ask God what he thinks of me,

Wonderful work Father, could you please share the name of the book you are referring to!!

Father, do you have any good resources for the negative thinking points you mentioned.. like books, etc.? This video was great.

Fr! How, practically can we accept that we are loved and accepted by God? I really struggle with this!