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10 Red Flags of Abuse 

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When people think of abuse they often equate it to physical violence but that isn’t where abuse starts or ends. Abuse can be physical, mental, or emotional and everything in between. Examples of abuse can include: 1. Extremely Controlling Behavior, 2. Humiliating You, 3. Guilt Trips etc. Watch the video to find out the rest. Share to help raise awareness about the red flags or signs of abuse.
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@AleTitan
@AleTitan 6 лет назад
"If you leave me, I'll kill myself" is so incredibly common, unfortunately.
@kittymewmewziscute4459
@kittymewmewziscute4459 6 лет назад
Ale Titan TWILIGHT LOL
@jannyestremos682
@jannyestremos682 6 лет назад
Agreed....
@sleepyote
@sleepyote 6 лет назад
Someones told me this before. It's scary and terrible.
@sayounara1232
@sayounara1232 6 лет назад
Doggoroo leave them you rather not be with a jerk like that
@sleepyote
@sleepyote 6 лет назад
sayounara1232 I did that was years ago
@Thefoxthatbecameawolf
@Thefoxthatbecameawolf 6 лет назад
What if the abuser is one of your parents? I mean you somehow need their help a littlebit at least
@IqraKhan-vc7lo
@IqraKhan-vc7lo 6 лет назад
wildfoxn95 my father is like that
@IqraKhan-vc7lo
@IqraKhan-vc7lo 6 лет назад
SUPER BRONZE BOY it easy to say but when you're Asian and have set standards and familial responbilities it's difficult to escape
@IqraKhan-vc7lo
@IqraKhan-vc7lo 6 лет назад
SUPER BRONZE BOY Thank you for your advice, I wish it was that easy for me. I have a younger brother and a mother. I'm extroverted and have depression and it sucks cause I can't do anything as my father is the financial head of the household and pays my tuition and I only work once a week because I'm a biogenrtics major
@Volkbrecht
@Volkbrecht 6 лет назад
wildfoxn95 Question is, is that really abuse or just responsible parent behaviour to supervise and protect a minor?
@Thefoxthatbecameawolf
@Thefoxthatbecameawolf 6 лет назад
@Iqra Khan My mother is like that, I personally believe that when you have an abusive parent you need to do sacrifices in order to escape them, for example stop studying or working on what you like in order to get a job that allows you to live on your own, or stop seeing friends, taking classes or doing things that you like in order to save money... At least that's what I try to do, it sucks, but I know I'm heading in the right direction to finally get my own house and live by myself and when that happens, I will be able to live free and do whatever I want! The problem is that during that path I sometimes need her financial help (My father is Homeless sadly). Also spend money on one thing that you really need and enjoy (I personally allow myself to pay Therapy with a Psychologist). That's the best advice I can give to you but I know is not easy at all, that's why people like us, need to be willing to sacrifice more things in order to survive and raise up.
@VELO_ALEX
@VELO_ALEX 6 лет назад
funny how my ex thought i was abusive when she did all of these things to me
@LolLol-yn8uv
@LolLol-yn8uv 6 лет назад
Alexander A oh my.. I feel so sorry for you! But you're not with her anymore.. So that's good
@starmaree
@starmaree 6 лет назад
Maybe you both were
@blakebelladonna9075
@blakebelladonna9075 6 лет назад
Marie eee not necessarily. One trait of abusive people, commonly sociopaths, project their own traits onto others.
@kdalessandro9895
@kdalessandro9895 6 лет назад
Maybe your ex was a narcissist.
@eggchomp
@eggchomp 6 лет назад
Kenny Collier You're pregnant? Congrats! It's not with your ex is out?
@MasculineMan
@MasculineMan 6 лет назад
It's crazy how common abuse is, I use to coach tennis and one of the FIRST things that we learned was about abuse, and how to recognize it. It was really scary how common it was. Love how much quality content you guys put out, keep it up!
@buttersddragon
@buttersddragon 6 лет назад
Masculine Man wh what does abuse have to do with tennis
@MasculineMan
@MasculineMan 6 лет назад
I coached kids tennis!
@Psych2go
@Psych2go 6 лет назад
Thanks man! You do a lot haha. Chat with you more through email!
@kaylaglazz
@kaylaglazz 6 лет назад
What in the hell did it do with tennis I'm so intrigued and confused
@cheesecakelasagna
@cheesecakelasagna 6 лет назад
Elaborate pls
@tylerhillman6446
@tylerhillman6446 6 лет назад
Most people are lucky to be able to even get away from the abuser. Some of us can't get away from them because we are forced to live with them, Like a sibling.
@fhamdani99
@fhamdani99 6 лет назад
Tyler Hillman or parent
@serenj7705
@serenj7705 4 года назад
AverageRU-vidr17 THIS
@randomsubscriber3578
@randomsubscriber3578 4 года назад
Or a child
@grapesofwrath361
@grapesofwrath361 4 года назад
So true!! It also brings and extra guilt card on the table
@Forever-iz2dv
@Forever-iz2dv 4 года назад
Im the ypungest of three siblings and my two older sisters are very abusives
@Psych2go
@Psych2go 6 лет назад
Happy Sunday everyone! Today's videos is to help you recognize the signs of abuse!
@ionrael
@ionrael 6 лет назад
Psych2Go great! Let's watch the video
@nathantheman5572
@nathantheman5572 6 лет назад
Psych2Go didn't you do this 6 months ago
@ionrael
@ionrael 6 лет назад
Oh, I've watched the video and I noticed that I'm suffering one type of abuse from a group of.my classmates: humiliation. That's really get me down I don't know what to do. That's my problem, I don't know how to deal with that people, if I fight, i am complaining him, they want to make me angry. If i don't fight, humiliation don't stop. If i talk to the teacher, uffff, they don't know how to do too, they don't care. What are the options?. But well, I've started taekwondo and that's give me more self esteem.
@nathanblackman6072
@nathanblackman6072 6 лет назад
VisraCraft I know you didn't necessarily ask ME but I used to have to deal with a similar situation. What you can do is keep up with your martial arts and anytime they touch you floor them and don't warn them. After that if they keep troubling you verbally which is often the case learn how to play mind games and psych them out of bullying you. And you should always have witty comebacks but I find it best to deliver an awesome comeback when they're trying to embarrass you in front of their friends. Disclaimer: Don't use mind games for the wrong reasons I. E. Anything other than getting them not to trouble you without a word. And pick your moments wisely. Hope at least a bit of this helps you and. Become a version of you that you're proud of so that nothing they say can really offend you because you know who you are. And I'm not saying to bully them back. I'm saying just discourage them from bullying you. That's it.
@ionrael
@ionrael 6 лет назад
Nathan Blackman yes! Thanks! That is what i am trying, but I think I am so patient. Once, twice, three times, a lot of times i forgive the person before stopping him, and it's because i don't feel really good when i have to get hard with someone. I used to believe that with LOVE, PATIENT, RESPECT AND Fairy dust, everything will change, people will see that I am a good person and they will feedback me with the same Treatment, But it does not always work. I know, i have to be harder, but I don't like to do it
@s.l.chakmakjianphillips9296
@s.l.chakmakjianphillips9296 6 лет назад
Why are most of these my parents?? 😂
@clairecollins4863
@clairecollins4863 6 лет назад
Dot Katherine Granger that's what I thought
@beefy9467
@beefy9467 6 лет назад
Same
@saga_db
@saga_db 6 лет назад
Dot Katherine Granger same
@Edgypoo
@Edgypoo 6 лет назад
sadly true
@yettispaghetti6784
@yettispaghetti6784 6 лет назад
Dot Katherine Granger Same here.
@Original_Tenshi_Chan
@Original_Tenshi_Chan 6 лет назад
I think the examples for "guilt trip are a bit vague". A statement beginning with "if you loved me, you wouldn't do this", isn't always abuse. For example, "if you loved me, you wouldn't beat me.", "if you loved me, you wouldn't belittle and bully me". I agree, it is a common tactic used by abusers, but it is too broad to say that abusive statements start with it.
@themifer6677
@themifer6677 6 лет назад
Yeah, I had a couple issues with how broad and lacking context some of these things were
@avehcado6097
@avehcado6097 6 лет назад
But I feel like we all have common sense to differentiate “if you love me you would stop doing crack” to “if you love me you would let me do this to you”
@carnuatus
@carnuatus 6 лет назад
There are many reasons to have ultimatums. They CAN be a sign of abuse, but not necessarily. They did pinpoint abusive ways of using ultimatums but I think there's more to it.
@andrewwilson7939
@andrewwilson7939 6 лет назад
If you loved me you wouldn't go out with your friends
@emilyrasputin
@emilyrasputin 6 лет назад
I think the idea was to keep the video from getting too dark or graphic by including the example of "if you loved me you'd let me have sex with you whenever I want to" etc. But you're right, it's sort of a gut feeling thing and the example was very vague
@nightsky3768
@nightsky3768 6 лет назад
Unfortunately, this sounds like my mother :(
@gashawkareem
@gashawkareem 6 лет назад
Night Sky same
@djudjux8374
@djudjux8374 6 лет назад
Can relate
@michelled1914
@michelled1914 6 лет назад
Same
@Mickey-os2my
@Mickey-os2my 6 лет назад
In my case , my father . Score. 8 out of 10.
@nyakorii
@nyakorii 6 лет назад
For me,it's both my parents and my younger sister ;"(
@avgonyma1
@avgonyma1 4 года назад
Abuse can be: phisical, emotional, mental. 10 red flags of abuse (not complete): 1. Controling behaviour 2. Humiliates you (often in front of other people). 3. Guilt trips 4. Forces you to take responsibilty for their feelings (meant to push the victim to keep the abuser happy at all times) 5. Ultimatums 6. Physical violence 7. A bad temper (short fuse) 8. Forces you to do things you don't want to do 9. Constantly checks up on you 10. Picking a fight
@tsubasa1885
@tsubasa1885 6 лет назад
I have lost my best friend because she is in an abusive relationship right now. This video only proves how bad her love interest is for her. My best friend has a depression because of the relationship and she has lost a lot of weight. I wanted to help her by telling her that she has to break up with her lover but she didn't listen to me because her lover talked about commiting suicide and stuff like that. Her "lover" told her that I (and other friends) were the "bad guys". Her partner created fake evidences to show how horrible I am and now my best friend won't even talk to me anymore. I can't do anything and I feel so helpless... I wrote her a "goodbye letter" where I talked about all the things that happened to her. I told her how important she was to me in the past and why her relationship is bad for her and that I hope that she will have a better future. After two long years of fighting for her and listening to all of her problems... that's all I could do in the end. And I hate it because we were friends for seven years and never got in an argument before. And I will never forgive her partner for destroying her.
@Shakabrassiere
@Shakabrassiere 6 лет назад
Reach out to her parents
@tsubasa1885
@tsubasa1885 6 лет назад
My best friend is bi and her partner is a girl. But yeah... pretty much controlling her. I mean my friend shows this typical behaviour of a victim and is all like "It's not my partners fault. She loves me! She doesn't want to hurt me and I just want to safe her!". But she risks her life and doesn't understand how bad this girl is for her.
@tsubasa1885
@tsubasa1885 6 лет назад
I would reach out for her parents but they already know whats going on. My best friend doesn't really like her parents anymore because they didn't accepted her partner and... well, since my friend is an adult, her parents can't really do anything either...
@Shakabrassiere
@Shakabrassiere 6 лет назад
Just Tsubasa that's terrible! I hope things work out in your friend's favor because it's hard to lose a good friend...
@prnsxsa
@prnsxsa 6 лет назад
Sit both of them down and talk; don't let anyone leave so easily. Call out the abuser for everything she's done. Don't hesitate; shove in their faces everything that is wrong with that abusing scum. If your friend's partner's fake evidence is truly fake, there's bound to be a loophole somewhere. Nobody is diabolical enough to create flawless fabrications. Present all the facts, and I mean ALL of them; let your friend think, then let her do what she will knowing everything. It's very likely at this point that your friend knows what's going on with her abuser but keeps going anyway because she's in denial and expects things to get better THIS time around. In my honest-to-goodness opinion, nobody should care if her partner kills herself. People like her deserve a fate worse than death, but I can't decide on one out of myriads so death it can only be. I wish I could help you help your friend, but I don't know half of what's happening, so this is all I can say. I feel so horrible for you and your best friend. It's hard losing somebody who was and probably still is very important to you. Keep trying though, don't give up on your friend; she's in a very bad place and if nobody's going to help her, who the fuck will? Seek help in all the places you can, various hotlines, probably the police, don't stop. I really, really want to help you both, but considering my lack of information, I don't think I can. If there's something I can do for you, tell me and I'd gladly do it.
@emilys.467
@emilys.467 6 лет назад
I just realized I'm being emotionally and mentally abused by peers and family...
@black-rose4014
@black-rose4014 6 лет назад
That One Midnight Gamer Yeah same
@sleepycryptid8275
@sleepycryptid8275 6 лет назад
Same. Three of these things my little brother does to me.
@telayajackson2.023
@telayajackson2.023 6 лет назад
Same. No wonder I seek approval. Now, I feel indifferent towards myself and hate my mom and my sister for ignoring my feelings.
@emilys.467
@emilys.467 6 лет назад
Pizza Freak I'm sorry to hear that. I'm like that with almost everyone I meet.
@deniseseminoff6847
@deniseseminoff6847 5 лет назад
Same for me and my parents :(
@smollillith4799
@smollillith4799 6 лет назад
This is really eye opening for me. I just thought my grandma was mean but, she does over half of the things on this list.
@chronicidiocracy
@chronicidiocracy 4 года назад
Smol Lillith yeah my grandma does most of the things on the list too
@kRVRKV
@kRVRKV 6 лет назад
There already has been a video like this before. With a different title, as far as I recall.
@Schokokuchenherz
@Schokokuchenherz 6 лет назад
It's the "10 Relationship Red Flags of Abuse" video. It's almost the exact same script too...
@stormhorse588
@stormhorse588 6 лет назад
yes, they've been remaking videos with the same script and I think a new animator. I like it tbh, the animation is very nice
@larenssx2710
@larenssx2710 6 лет назад
i play gomputer I miss the old art style
@galacticcultivator
@galacticcultivator 6 лет назад
The only problem is as long as they don't hurt you. The police won't do anything. An in some cases where it's your parents they can hit you and it's called "parental discipline"
@galacticcultivator
@galacticcultivator 6 лет назад
Timber :3 I'm not talking about one hit
@galacticcultivator
@galacticcultivator 6 лет назад
Timber :3 I don't know about others places but where I used to live it didn't count as abuse unless it was a mark to stay on their body for more then 24 hours. Mental abuse didn't count.
@emilyrasputin
@emilyrasputin 6 лет назад
Morgan Friedman Not sure if it's the law, but I always heard that myself growing up, as well.
@galacticcultivator
@galacticcultivator 6 лет назад
Emily Rasputin well that's was what the cops said. But I don't know if it was just where I lived or not
@emilyrasputin
@emilyrasputin 6 лет назад
Well, that's the word on the street in the suburban Midwest, anyway. My mom is a teacher and they have a very tough time getting enough evidence to even involve the police, nevermind succeed at helping the kid get out of that situation, so I'm sure you have to cross some serious lines to get in trouble for it.
@paradox9369
@paradox9369 6 лет назад
I just want to put this out here after reading some comments. These are NOT 100% signs of abuse. Everything shown here is highly dependent on the context, as some of these actions could be harmless to the other party. However, I do not disregard that these actions could be triggers, or red flags as stated, for people to be careful about and act upon it needed. A small recommendation to the team: try using more specific examples/scenarios so people won't misinterpret. Thank you for your work.
@purpleb3106
@purpleb3106 6 лет назад
Paradox파라독스 I found their broadness annoying as well.
@blakebelladonna9075
@blakebelladonna9075 6 лет назад
But the context is already established...
@paradox9369
@paradox9369 6 лет назад
Diana Moon The examples used are often not specific enough to portray the proper cases. That's all.
@blakebelladonna9075
@blakebelladonna9075 6 лет назад
And I'm disagreeing since the context is already established. I mean, abusive relationships have way more than just one red flag, and I think the wording they use is an attempt to not stir up negative emotions or emotional/psychological trauma from examples that'd be more... harsh.
@paradox9369
@paradox9369 6 лет назад
Diana Moon Of course, you are entitled to your own opinion on this and I do not wish to argue with it since our experiences are not the same. Indeed, using more specific examples can wake some dark feelings and memories in some people, but for others that are rather inexperienced in the field of relationship abuse, it can be a little confusing and they might react harshy even if it's not the case. All in all, I can see your point, I hope you also see mine. Have a good day/evening/night!
@huytranxuan9013
@huytranxuan9013 6 лет назад
What if that i have all 10 of those red flag sign, and even worse, they came from my closest of what i've known: my parents? And the end result.... i constantly on the edge, always see thing with negativity in it, always plans for the worst case scenario, and slowy have a mental break down that to the point, i almost only see thing through the scope of logic & order, not even care less on emotional aspect? I seriously broken down right now. I do sometime want to suicide... And i'm an introvert, but my parents want to seize control of every moment of my life. They blame me for not having any friend, yet they try to control my relationship around their way, which the way it head to NEVER end up well for me. When i want some peace in my life, they jump in and drag me around like somekind of... The only time i have my peace is when they left me alone and go out somewhere for more than 2 hrs without any care and ensure that either i have to follow them or sit home like a watchdog. They are dictative, sarcastic, Imposing and FORCE me do thing in their way. And at the end, when i fail or they fail, they all blame that on my head and use me as their stress relive... ... I swear if they find my comment here on RU-vid, my life is over. Please, help...
@undefinederror40404
@undefinederror40404 6 лет назад
I agree with what Timber said, try to find a help line on the internet using incognito mode. When I open the internet there is a settings option where you can turn incognito mode on, hope it works the same way with your phone! Also I'm really sorry that this is happening to you... Your parents don't seem to care that you are your own person and that this is your life, not theirs. It's probably very hard, but hold on to the hope that you could one day escape from your parents when you feel suicidal... Remember that regardless of what they say, they are wrong. They are the bad people, you are the innocent one. It's not your fault, you're not worthless or stupid, they are mean and don't deserve to have you around. Try to get away from them, but don't just trust any stranger. Sadly, there are lots of people who would take advantage from someone who fled from their family. I don't want you to go from one terrible situation to the other, you deserve a save home and loving friends. Getting help from an organisation is usually the savest option, but some organisations are really bad at their job.... Do some research if you can.
@user-bo6is7fv2d
@user-bo6is7fv2d 6 лет назад
You are brave enough to admit your problem and seek for help. I admire that treat in you. If you are willing to listen, I would like to give you a piece of advice: 1) read more materials on practical psychology. The key word here is practical. Not those theories by Freud, no, no, no. Practical. The one which gives advice about real life situations. There are a lot of books written on the subject, like Dale Carnegie's. They really helped me a lot with my anxiety problems. But you can try other ones, just remember about the practical part. I also recommend the so-called self-help books. Not everything in them may apply to your situation, but it's ok. Try various options, described in them, to change your life to see which one suits you. Why do you need to read such books? Because it is easier to recognise manipulation if you have been warned about how it looks like. For example, don't open the door to the strangers or you might get robbed or killed. The same thing about abuse. Recognise the red flags beforefand. You need to know exactly what techniques your parents are using against you so that not to be manipulated. I'll give you a link to free online books on the matter. I strongly advise you to finish reading them within the next six month: www.holistickamedicina.sk/kniznica/Dale%20Carnegie%20-%20How%20To%20Stop%20Worrying%20And%20Start%20Living%20.pdf images.kw.com/docs/2/1/2/212345/1285134779158_htwfaip.pdf 2) Educate yourself If you cannot earn a living for yourself, your parents may manipulate you with financial support. Try hard at school, if it is possible, go to university. With a degree you have better chances to find a job. Why does having a job matter? You will earn money and money = independence. Wish you luck and patience.
@sophiesometimessews
@sophiesometimessews 6 лет назад
Huy Trần Xuân talk to someone at school or at an after school activity. Most likely these people care about you, and will help you. I wish you the best of luck and stay strong.
@saritaevans3723
@saritaevans3723 6 лет назад
Do not commit suicide!! And get out of there, do not be afraid to call the police
@Snow-sx5ev
@Snow-sx5ev 6 лет назад
Huy Trần Xuân please don't do it, please, PLEASE DON'T COMMIT SUICIDE... trust me, I've tried, I've cut, just don't... Find a friend, call a helpline or child services, please don't be dead
@mi2n4
@mi2n4 6 лет назад
my mom does all of these things
@danimaru9714
@danimaru9714 6 лет назад
Same
@alienking3427
@alienking3427 6 лет назад
yoongi's wife I'm sorry you have to deal with her, you don't deserve to be treated like that. I bet your an amazing person. Let her be an example of what not to be. I hope someday you surround yourself with people who love you and support you. I believe in you, everything's going to be okay❤
@mi2n4
@mi2n4 6 лет назад
Alien King thank you💖
@hankwilliams431
@hankwilliams431 5 лет назад
Relatable
@sariahjames8331
@sariahjames8331 4 года назад
dumb bitch wow really your so being abused 😂 you really don’t know what real abuse is
@marvelouslymelrose3518
@marvelouslymelrose3518 6 лет назад
I have experienced this all forms of it starting with both my parents through to ex friends ex partner wonder why im weary of people. Not a trusting.
@pikachulove5468
@pikachulove5468 6 лет назад
The only person you can really truly trust is yourself.
@octopus1182
@octopus1182 5 лет назад
@@timber3110 maybe something happened in your early life?
@michellechristineday
@michellechristineday 6 лет назад
I was in an abusive room mate situation and its crazy how easy to stay in it and think you can handle it and shake it off but it really stays with you and damages you more than you think.
@PorgWitch
@PorgWitch 6 лет назад
My ex wouldn't let me leave a store until I tried on a dress I didn't want to wear, regardless of how uncomfortable I said he made me feel. When I did something he wasn't used to he would tell me it was weird and bring others into it saying "hey tell her this is weird! Look at this!" I'm a stay in kind of person, he would try to teach me how to do more outdoorsy things because he said he "wanted to make me an outdoor girl." This got to the point where I almost drowned after falling off a jet ski (I can't swim). Even though I was horrified, later that day he kept trying to make me go back into the lake so I could learn how to swim. I'm very glad emotional abuse gets acknowledged. I get worried that because I have not been physically threatened, I have no business speaking about my experiences.
@AlastorTheNPDemon
@AlastorTheNPDemon 6 лет назад
Penny Dreadful Too real, especially with the lack of clear and present physical danger. My brother is the same way - writes off concerns as "bellyaching" and tells me his anger problems are my fault. Even better, he tells me "not to listen to that voice in [my] head that says [he's] the problem, because it's defeatist and letting [my] misery take over." I hope he ends up in prison and gets that attitude slapped out of his mouth.
@LoLitaChatte13
@LoLitaChatte13 6 лет назад
What to do if you are the abuser but not consciously? I love my partner more that anything and support him and give him many love and security most of the times. But sometimes I find myself using some of these techniques on him. Usually bc I am not confident enough in myself.
@itaraaah
@itaraaah 6 лет назад
I think it's really great that your now concious of what you're doing. The best advice I can give us to try talking to your partner and ask if he's been having any issues with your relationship.
@beladona7685
@beladona7685 6 лет назад
Oh thank Jesus! I do some of these sometimes too amd reading these comments was making me feel like literal trash. Thank you.
@aenor-llelo
@aenor-llelo 6 лет назад
sit down with your partner and have an open, long talk about your behavior. make sure you dont blow up if they say something negative about you and make sure they know that their words wont mean retribution from you in the future. encourage them to be open if they feel you are pushing their boundaries or being overly controlling. its good you have the self awareness to see these potential patterns in your behavior and that is the biggest factor to improving.
@graquinn4058
@graquinn4058 6 лет назад
No you are not an abuser. Just talk with him like a healthy adult and don't immediately jump to assuming that either of you are the 100% black and white abuser, no shades of gray, no nothing. I did that after my toxic ex-best friend REPEATEDLY abused and hurt me (with ways that were NOT mentioned in the video, by the way), and I ended up saying things like "if you really loved me, you wouldn't do these things on purpose knowing it would hurt me" and "please stop doing this it hurts me" and giving her ultimatums because she kept absolutely REFUSING to talk and hear me out like a normal adult; she'd always leave and then block me and any attempts at trying to figure out the situation normally. And then she called ME toxic and abusive, and I believed her. Just talk to them normally. We're all trash sometimes. Doesn't mean we're sociopathic abusers. It probably just means we're hurting and were never taught how to handle these emotions right.
@smstarrynite6668
@smstarrynite6668 6 лет назад
I thought these behaviors were sort of normal, but after more knowledge of what abuse is, I found that it was too late to fight because my step-father knows people. He manipulated people and blackmails them into doing what he wants. He’s a sociopath, from my opinion and observation, but he does show the qualities because he can be charming to outsiders and evil behind closed doors. Since I was 2 years old, I’ve been mentally, emotionally, and physically abused by him. Starting from burning my ring finger with a lighter to making me go down in a squat form, toes up, and arms up for hours. It still haunts me up to today(4 years after moving away)... My mother is still in a custody battle that seems like it’s never ending. A “bible belt state”, the lawyers say. Because it’s a bible belt state, the judge won’t help the kids because they believe both parents deserve to be parents. They don’t seem like they care about the children. My siblings want out. My used-to-step-dad says they can leave to their mom, but he’ll fight for them... he doesn’t care how they feel. He just wants to hurt my mother. He doesn’t even watch or hang out with his kids. What’s the point in relying in the government when they won’t help defend those who can’t?! I wish I had a way out when I was younger. I wish I knew it was wrong. I wish I knew I had a choice to tell someone. But, he guilt tripped me. Made me think he loved me as his own, but also humiliating me to my siblings, his brothers and sisters, and to his friends. I was a joke to them. They called me donkey because of my thighs. I wasn’t even unhealthy looking to be called that. I was actually below weight and the doctor tried to help us by coming to court. But, nothing worked because it’s a bible belt state. I wish I could do something to protect my siblings and help them. I hate not helping and knowing that they want out, but can’t get out...
@jamesmcintosh2354
@jamesmcintosh2354 6 лет назад
SMStarryNite in this state minor emancipation can begin by age sixteen. Or used to be able. Laws may have changed.
@jasmineyoungblood
@jasmineyoungblood 6 лет назад
Thank you for referring to the abused as "the victim". I'm so tired of people normalizing and romanticizing these toxic behaviors.
@mamaceej632
@mamaceej632 6 лет назад
I’m sad
@janApen
@janApen 6 лет назад
0: ceej how come?
@darickaf2587
@darickaf2587 6 лет назад
you can talk to me if you want to and we will try to find a way to bring you some joy and comfort!! you are not alone, i promise you
@nathanblackman6072
@nathanblackman6072 6 лет назад
How come?
@naodigoumapalavra
@naodigoumapalavra 6 лет назад
0: ceej my toughts exactly
@saltee7
@saltee7 6 лет назад
Me too pal, me too.
@amen_thol
@amen_thol 6 лет назад
I just realized my "friend" does almost all of these...
@gaelvain
@gaelvain 6 лет назад
Jeon Taekook 95 get away then! I know it's hard but you'll be much happier I promise..
@tigerx36
@tigerx36 6 лет назад
Controlling is one of the best words to describe my dad. My mom suffered for years and I wasn't targeted most of the time. We knew he wouldn't take responsibility for his actions. Yeah, violence was one of the key factors. A bad temper just came with it. He only picked a fight with me one time when I unintentionally refused to give him control. I got really messed up. Years after that, he still tried to check in on us. But we're in a better position.
@shakahbrah7934
@shakahbrah7934 6 лет назад
Why does this sound like the type of parenting I see/have 24/7
@shannont7723
@shannont7723 6 лет назад
Could you make a video about jealousy? These videos have helped me understand mental illness and help others in ways I couldn't before, and jealousy is something that I see in myself that makes it harder to help those around me. I would love to have a better understanding of it and explanation for it. Thank you so much for making these videos.
@Psych2go
@Psych2go 6 лет назад
Sure thing! If you email in Catherine@psych2go.net with your request and why you want an article on it, she'd be more than happy to send you over resources!
@samscrimecorner457
@samscrimecorner457 6 лет назад
I love these videos. Its helped me get through a lot. Thank you
@Psych2go
@Psych2go 6 лет назад
Glad to hear Sam!
@kjtamf
@kjtamf 5 лет назад
Sam Sherman 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@LiterallyUnperfect
@LiterallyUnperfect 6 лет назад
Wow, it took me two years to realize that I was in an abusive relationship. I'm so thankful I'm out of it now!
@sherenifernando97
@sherenifernando97 6 лет назад
Wow relatable especially when I’m going through it right now. And it’s my own mother
@jamie91995
@jamie91995 6 лет назад
Same, except the police sided with my mother and treated me like shit and led to a suicide attempt
@sherenifernando97
@sherenifernando97 6 лет назад
The Jeffrey 27 I’m so sorry to hear that, you’ll get through it, I know we all can. Stay strong and don’t hurt yourself.❤️
@jamie91995
@jamie91995 6 лет назад
Shereni Fernando I’m already hurting myself mentally
@sherenifernando97
@sherenifernando97 6 лет назад
The Jeffrey 27 I know nothing helps when you’re stuck in this loophole. I’m going through the exact same thing. All we can do is to be with each other, even if it’s online. All I can say is to stay strong and not give up. AND DO NOT HURT YOURSELF PHYSICALLY!!! You can hurt your mind and it can be healed! ❤️
@jamie91995
@jamie91995 6 лет назад
Shereni Fernando no, I’m far beyond saving, do u have an Instagram so we can talk there?
@MoniQue1995sco
@MoniQue1995sco 6 лет назад
"Please don't make any sudden moves, you don't know the half of the abuse."
@jamesmcintosh2354
@jamesmcintosh2354 6 лет назад
I adore that song. Going to try and write more verses with more upside.
@MoniQue1995sco
@MoniQue1995sco 6 лет назад
Timber :3 I listen to type o negative version by ten second songs it's amazingly haunting
@excusemewhatthefuck386
@excusemewhatthefuck386 6 лет назад
Sulfuric Acid TØP
@avengedsvfdrcks
@avengedsvfdrcks 6 лет назад
My gf does a lot of these things. We’ve been on and off for 5 years because of it. Earlier this year she started taking medication for her mental illnesses and she was back to her loving self. However, she hasn’t taken her meds and things are getting bad again. It doesn’t matter what I say or do. It sucks because I wanna marry her and have kids and grow old but dealing with her constant ups and downs(even though it is just mental illness) is exhausting. I don’t know what to do
@Asigedge
@Asigedge 6 лет назад
Just another introverted kid either she gets back on her med or you leave. Im bipolar and I will say mental illness is no excuse to subject people to abuse of any form
@avengedsvfdrcks
@avengedsvfdrcks 6 лет назад
Asigedge thank you. I agree. It’s a really touchy subject though so how do I bring it up without offending her?
@purpleb3106
@purpleb3106 6 лет назад
Look at the goal of what you truly want from a partner and see if she meets that. Also if you want children take into account that she has had this behaviour for 5 years on and off, think if you would want your children to grow up with such a volatile parent. Also some mental illnesses are biologically passed on, so think if you would be able to deal with your children possibly being similar to her.
@avengedsvfdrcks
@avengedsvfdrcks 6 лет назад
Sabie XXX I never thought about it like that. Thank you for that.
@moniquesmeadow
@moniquesmeadow 6 лет назад
I always love the animations on your posts! They are a great way to communicate the ideas in a memorable and engaging way, especially for emotionally difficult subjects.
@D.O.R.E.I
@D.O.R.E.I 6 лет назад
Been through everything in this video both irl and online.. Wish I've had seen these videos many many years ago.
@devin8367
@devin8367 6 лет назад
DOREI I'm so sorry, is everything better now?
@D.O.R.E.I
@D.O.R.E.I 6 лет назад
No, stuff like this leaves traumatic marks..
@devin8367
@devin8367 6 лет назад
DOREI Yes I know, but I meant are you still going through the abuse, if so you need to find a way to get away from them
@FranticPixel
@FranticPixel 6 лет назад
Also there’s no links in the description except buy a bracelet.
@Edgypoo
@Edgypoo 6 лет назад
thats all you need to get help-
@FranticPixel
@FranticPixel 6 лет назад
Miles Edgeworth.Copy magic go go gadget bracelet where I push a button and Deadpool comes and kicks the person’s butt. Got it
@Psych2go
@Psych2go 6 лет назад
What are you looking for?
@FranticPixel
@FranticPixel 6 лет назад
Psych2Go in the video it mentioned that they would be links to resources in the video description for places to get help. And there are none.
@_elenaio_
@_elenaio_ 6 лет назад
You're right. I was just about to comment it as well
@Platymapuss
@Platymapuss 6 лет назад
I just got out of an abusive 8 year relationship... I wish I had recognized a lot of red flags in the beginning. It's amazing how skilled abusers are at psychologically destroying their victims. Even though I have a restraining order he still finds a way to get messages to me that he's going to kill me and himself if he don't come back. Usually through family members or friends...sometimes he uses a text now number. Alternately guilt tripping and threatening. And the sad thing is, I feel like I need to help him because he can't help himself... I don't know. I'm not the person I once was... I miss that girl.
@qj2003fall
@qj2003fall 8 месяцев назад
Don't help him. It's not your responsibility.
@cailynvries1788
@cailynvries1788 6 лет назад
My friend did most of these things. She was one year older then me. She made me feel so terrible and she was manipulative. Our friendship is now needed and I’m kinda glad it did because she made me feel like I was lost without her.
@taylorcooper9885
@taylorcooper9885 6 лет назад
I wish I would have seen this when I was being abused. I started to develop abusive tendencies after that period of my life and I'm trying so hard to make it stop. This resource is really amazing for victims, thank you. This would have helped me so much
@geoffreylynnegambrelljr.4132
@geoffreylynnegambrelljr.4132 6 лет назад
I've been guilty of some of these actions and didn't know until afterwards it was abusive. One namely, checking in on a girlfriend, I did have suspicions they were cheating on me and lied about where they were though. Unfortunately, I was right. However, any thoughts on how to decerne between good and bad relationships? So one doesn't become an abuser in the first place?
@MackenziiRivers
@MackenziiRivers 6 лет назад
in general, if any side is lying this isnt good. good communication is ky, giving some breathing space, but always ask if there is an issue, but if they lye, and you find out the truth descuss why they lyed. if they carry this on, they may be a compulsive lyer and talking to a therapist will help, or let them go.
@clarissarivera1472
@clarissarivera1472 6 лет назад
I've been through these red signs myself. my mother used to do this to me, and all I've ever had fault was being a kid and just growing up. unfortunately given I have a mental illness that involves depression and anxiety and I've ended up doing some of these things to a 4 year old relationship I had. I always felt bad about and I always came back to my partner, trying to apologize and make up for it. but given I'm trapped to a seeming never ending cycle, I just end up repeating the same mistakes again. and it would just get worse everytime it happened. to a certain point no matter how hard I tried to change it, i always came back to it. I was hurting so bad just as much as I was hurting my partner. I forced myself to break the relationship and I had to wait in the worst possible moment to attach myself to another person. only for the same things to happen again, only this time around I got repercussions and I'm still hurting to this day and I still hate this aspect of myself so freaking much. but as of lately I've just been accepting the fact that I'm just human, like everyone else is. you're bound to mess up big time. we just gotta draw the line to avoid further long-term damage and just shake ourselves from it
@geoffreylynnegambrelljr.4132
@geoffreylynnegambrelljr.4132 6 лет назад
Clarissa Rivera, I hear you, it's hard not to make someone the source of one's own self worth. I think you are on the right track with accepting where you are in your process. Consider that you are awesome for realizing that you can make mistakes and it be ok because, you'll learn from it. That attitude will give you the self worth you need to break your cycle, if that's what you define as being your problem. I prey you are successful. Thanks for sharing.
@kdrfjvehgrkegotf4912
@kdrfjvehgrkegotf4912 6 лет назад
It isn't abuse if you make it a not daily or weekly routine. Once a month or something would be good and if that is the type then you did nothing wrong with it. You has the right to be curious and you found the truth. In that case your partner was the one in the wrong
@clarissarivera1472
@clarissarivera1472 6 лет назад
Geoffrey G thank you so much for those words dude. You made my whole day
@kimsmith819
@kimsmith819 4 года назад
I definitely have one of these in my life. Its always my job to fix whatever is wrong with our relationship, but he has the anger and manipulative issues. Id instantly confess if I were in the wrong. Im not afraid to admit my wrongs
@vicksterinig9169
@vicksterinig9169 4 года назад
The scars from abuse can last a long time. Mid 40s and still struggling! Massive fear of abandonment. Insecure, anxious, depressed. My dad still finds ways to make sure he causes havoc in our families. I hold a lot of guilt for not being able to fix it. It’s a cycle! When he dies, we will all be able to breathe easy!
@haroldmoonwalkerharold3586
@haroldmoonwalkerharold3586 4 года назад
I didn’t know that some of these behaviors were abusive back then. Now I see why my ex broke up with me. I thought that having a bad temper, expressing your anger with words, telling her everything you think without prudence, checking up on your girlfriend, feeling jealousy and forcing other people to do things to get them out of their comfort zone, and kissing your loved one without warning; I thought those were normal behaviors in relationships. It’s hurts to admit that I was an abusive person, without meaning to. But now I know better and I have improved my beliefs about relationships, love and people.
@emmasakowicz3705
@emmasakowicz3705 2 года назад
7/10 of these from my last partner... this is so important educationally! it's way too common not to be talked about... it's also good to try and check yourself if you feel like you're doing any of these and talk to your partner about a healthy solution
@theartsynerd3979
@theartsynerd3979 6 лет назад
So..... parents?
@shanforshort8713
@shanforshort8713 6 лет назад
I got abused but I’ve changed so much . I’m so strong headed and self assured when it comes to the way people should treat me .
@docorwho1212
@docorwho1212 6 лет назад
Thank you for this. Honestly this came at the time I need it most
@rosenvitae
@rosenvitae 6 лет назад
I started watching trying to compare how unsupportive my upbringing had been, only to realize that I actually identify with the abuser on part 3 and 4. I'm glad that I'm now aware of it so I can make improvements.
@septemberwilson9989
@septemberwilson9989 6 лет назад
I get that these are symptoms of abuse but a few of them are also linked with mental disorders. Like the one where the abuser checks up on the victim, that could just be a girl worried about her friend. Same thing with the abuser wanting to know where the victim is a lot. I understand that these can be flags for abuse, but a few people might begin to think they’re being abused, when they’re actually just getting worried or thought about a lot. Just a thought. 😊
@blakebelladonna9075
@blakebelladonna9075 6 лет назад
Well, contextually, the examples make sense.
@lore9446
@lore9446 6 лет назад
And it was really nice from you to help people with it!
@Alo-gp7mk
@Alo-gp7mk 6 лет назад
I wish I knew these signs sooner, but thank you for helping me realize the abusive friendship I was in.
@adityapradhan2965
@adityapradhan2965 6 лет назад
The new art style is great!
@mynamejehhff1608
@mynamejehhff1608 6 лет назад
Thank you
@Buschgirl01
@Buschgirl01 6 лет назад
Everytime I watch these videos I realise more and more about my past and start to really feel awfull again. Maybe you should do a video on how to deal with things from your past that still haunt you? Letting go and stuff? That would be awesome!
@KyranisaurusRex
@KyranisaurusRex 6 лет назад
This was my life for 3 hellish years. I didn't even realize how bad it was until I was able to escape my abuser and I didn't even realize it was abuse until I watched this video. I had all 10 of these things happen to me on a daily basis for 3 years. But I'm very thankful that it is over. I wish I realized how bad it was and got help. It probably would have ended sooner. I hope people who are going through an abusive relationship but aren't aware that it's abuse watch this video so they can get help. It would have helped me a lot if I saw it ealier.
@user-sf5iq2fl1l
@user-sf5iq2fl1l 6 лет назад
I agree with all but still I won't take all of those signals literally every day. If I had someone telling me they would kill themselves I wouldn't abandon them right away even if I recognize that attitude as manipulation. George Carlin said: "between no freedom and total freedom I choose total freedom" well I rather have total equilibrium. Sometimes I feel obligated to help someone notice their own faults. Also we live in a economic system were so many people are abused constantly and nobody cares...I care and I choose what I tolerate from other people. Society will "rightfully" and "lawfully" ungodly mistreat some people just because they are poor for example. I think honestly if we recognize ever single of these signals as abuse and immediately proceed to abandon that person I'd say it's outright selfish. There are many degrees of abuse. Some people do not intend to abuse but they have no experience on expression or had insufficient parents so got a messed up personality. I think it's an asshole move to just abandon people that need help developing themselves. I agree with this video and I can recognize most signals, but I plan act on them by making the other person understand and not by demonizing without explain the reason.
@lauragadille3384
@lauragadille3384 6 лет назад
My ex was an emotional and sexual abuser. Glad I left him.
@natthebratster
@natthebratster 2 года назад
Breaking, ruining or even killing things the victim loves or cares about is a big one that needs mentioning
@pjdougherty6442
@pjdougherty6442 6 лет назад
A majority of these apply to someone I used to be friends with. He has a history of being abusive to his girlfriends, most of which end up cheating on him and leaving him, and he would always tell me about it and frame himself in a somewhat sympathetic light. It wasn’t until recently that I realized just how controlling and abusive he was, not just to his girlfriends, but to me as well. I’m honestly glad I stopped talking to him.
@theREALblackfeatherfox
@theREALblackfeatherfox 6 лет назад
The part about the cops always makes me cringe. I called and begged them to send me someone to take me to a shelter after having been choked and having my life threatened only moments before. When the cops got there, they arrested ME instead! Maybe it's because it was in a predominantly white neighborhood and my skin is brown while his is white. Or, maybe it was because he was waiting for them outside and gave them his lie of a sob story. Most likely, it was all of the above. Either way, depending on the situation and demographics involved - I would avoid calling the cops. Instead, I would do whatever it takes to get up, get out on your own two feet (literally) and just run. Run until you're someplace safe with your wallet and your phone and THEN call someplace for help. And think hard about whether or not calling the cops immidiately is going to do you any good. I do suggest that once you are safely far away from your abuser that you file for a restraining order if need be.
@marstin315
@marstin315 6 лет назад
Do these count for parents? ‘cause my parents do like half of these things.
@Psych2go
@Psych2go 6 лет назад
Of course. They are signs of abuse that applies to relationships of any sorts :)
@marstin315
@marstin315 6 лет назад
Psych2Go then what do I do?
@marmar6_688
@marmar6_688 6 лет назад
Psych2Go but the "making you do something you don't want to do" part doesn't count for parents because sometimes they have to do that for our well
@iidentifyasyourhighness9294
@iidentifyasyourhighness9294 6 лет назад
If you're underage, get a job and secretly save up for your own place. I HIGHLY recommend putting away your tax returns and take some money out of every paycheck and use all that money to get your own place when you turn 18. They can't keep you from leaving when you're 18. If you feel like they might hold you hostage, call a constable. They're supposed to keep the peace while you're moving out of there.
@hew2936
@hew2936 6 лет назад
I used to suffer from emotional abuse from a friend. I knew the friendship was toxic, and I don't talk with them anymore, but I never knew it was _abuse._ I never imagined that I would say "I used to suffer from abuse" at any point in my life. It's shocking. It explains my current behavior with friendships, my low self-esteem, it explains everything.
@nevaehhamilton3493
@nevaehhamilton3493 Год назад
Friendships are overrated. Being lonely is better
@rachelhardy2957
@rachelhardy2957 6 лет назад
I hate guilt tripping. SO MUCH. I used to have a friend who did that to me when I'd hang out with other friends instead, or when I tried to set up boundaries. He'd also get me things to hang over my head if I ever did anything to piss him off. Needless to say, I'm not friends with him anymore. It's important to know that it's not JUST romantic relationships that can be toxic. Your friends and family can be toxic and abusive too, in these exact ways.
@jailinecornejo3629
@jailinecornejo3629 4 года назад
I fight back!!!!!!! I'm tired of being in am un happy toxic relationship.
@euniro
@euniro 6 лет назад
I love the intro!
@Psych2go
@Psych2go 6 лет назад
Glad you like it! Credit goes to Surey!
@riverdeep399
@riverdeep399 6 лет назад
This needs to be taught in schools to help teens prevent being stuck in this cycle. Very informative, thank you. :)
@praisethesun69
@praisethesun69 6 лет назад
this new intro is 1000x better. super cute and no more scary slashies :D great work as always
@Psych2go
@Psych2go 6 лет назад
knight solaire we're glad you're enjoying the new intro! We love it too!
@beefstroganoff1774
@beefstroganoff1774 6 лет назад
Perfect timing :))))
@jovanaletic6077
@jovanaletic6077 3 года назад
My "father": **slaps me** Me: **tries to slap him back** My grandmother: **protects him from me**
@beyourself4996
@beyourself4996 6 лет назад
Thank you sharing this video!
@Lexi-hy4nr
@Lexi-hy4nr 6 лет назад
I had a best friend who did this to me for 3-4 years. I went into the friendship with my own personaility, always willing to stand up for myself and walked out of it feeling guilty, high-strung, worn down, and like i had no voice. I finally stood up for myself and confronted him for his controlling ways and he, of course, got angry, wouldn't be held accountable for anything he had done to me. I blocked him, and he, of course, tried to get to me in every way possible, by texting me off of his sisters phone to call him asap, turned my other friend against me, and reached out to every single family member asking if IM ok, of course trying to play the innocent hero. People like that are vampires and will suck the life, confidence, and energy right out of you. It has been a year since I cut him out of my life, and I still suffer from the back lash of it all. I am slowly, but surely finding myself and my confidence again. Mental and emotional abuse can be just as severe as physical. Be careful who you let into your life.
@johnnyforeigner1009
@johnnyforeigner1009 6 лет назад
But by this definition almost everyone I've ever known is abusive... and yet I haven't called the police.
@LordOSalt
@LordOSalt 6 лет назад
"If you leave me, I'll kill myself" Somehow I highly doubt that
@mayo_nnais3
@mayo_nnais3 2 года назад
I have a "friend" who fits almost all 10 of these signs. She uses me as a punching bag, sometimes when we're just walking and talking she randomly starts hitting me. Once, I told her to stop because it hurt me, and she refused to stop repeatedly, so I ran away from her and kicked less than 1cm of mud onto her pants. She started yelling that it looked like she pooped herself and did the same to me, and then said "now we're even". She blames everything on everyone but herself because everyone is evil and overreacting and she supposedly never did anything wrong. I don't know how to tell her to stop or whether I should talk to an adult about this.
@gertrude137
@gertrude137 6 лет назад
I was in a bad friendship. They'd get mad when I slept instead of talking to them even though I had class the next day. They'd talk shit behind my back when mad at me and then tell me what they said, and the specific insults. When I was mad, they didn't try to help anything they just called me names and even telling me that this is why my parents didn't love me (a fear that I had shared with them). After that they continued to use personal stuff I shared with them against me. Even my eating disorder. They'd pick at little things and then call me abusive for getting upset at that. I told them I was done with them and they threatened to kill themselves and blew up my number and social medias. It was terrible. Worst thing is I miss them. Not saying that to be edgy or whatever it's just. You become dependant on someone for so long. Centre your world around them and it's just empty feeling now that they're gone. at the end of the day I'm glad I left though.
@cherylduckworth8185
@cherylduckworth8185 3 года назад
Hope you're doing better now. I think that's called trauma Bond I had the same thing
@ariallaguing6524
@ariallaguing6524 6 лет назад
my childhood
@nonameneededd
@nonameneededd 6 лет назад
Happy Mental Awareness Month
@acutepatootie2677
@acutepatootie2677 4 года назад
I almost lost one of my closest friends to this guy I was friends with. He stayed emotionally manipulating me into doing things my normal self wouldn’t do, and my whole group of family and friends kept telling me to drop him. And I didn’t. I didn’t listen to them. And now I’m paying the horrible consequences.
@kilcitykitty
@kilcitykitty 2 года назад
Every time i watch any of these, they are always on point to the T and paints the pictures of my everyday current life...I watch them to show myself its not me..
@olivia.__.perez12
@olivia.__.perez12 6 лет назад
Hi!
@Psych2go
@Psych2go 6 лет назад
Hey there :)
@jermainehammer7672
@jermainehammer7672 6 лет назад
Top 3 comments?
@RubyRobbins88
@RubyRobbins88 6 лет назад
Been in two abusive relationships...it sucks. Im a recovering co-dependant which has a lot to do with how I grew up with an extremely co-dependant/controlling parent. I'm doing so much better now. I've gone to therapy and gained healthy friendships. I can enjoy my life without thinking everything wrong with the world and other people is my fault or responsibility. I'm much much happier now.
@allmight9646
@allmight9646 4 года назад
Things like this caused me to always have random angry outbursts. If you have it too, meditate and go do something you love.
@davidcastro4329
@davidcastro4329 6 лет назад
I don't care about myself.
@RoyalKingA73
@RoyalKingA73 6 лет назад
David Castro, try to because nobody else will. I have the same problem. It's hard to care about yourself when other people think your being selfish when you're not. Try to start caring for yourself. I'm trying to do the same.
@darickaf2587
@darickaf2587 6 лет назад
well maybe we can try to find a way, how about that? no matter who you are, what your story is, you're here, it means you exist, even if you don't feel like you do, so you matter, you just don't know it yet
@devin8367
@devin8367 6 лет назад
David Castro Well, other people care for you, even if it doesn't seem like it. The people who care may be ones you don't suspect of caring for you
@user-sf5iq2fl1l
@user-sf5iq2fl1l 6 лет назад
I care. I don't know why people are so focused in creating a selfish society.
@devin8367
@devin8367 6 лет назад
F. Teixeira This worlds a bad place these days
@parsafakhar
@parsafakhar 6 лет назад
don't say call 911 they are too many narcissists and idiots who are watching this and get delusional that they are being abused!!
@stuffz4040
@stuffz4040 6 лет назад
They aren’t really delusional it’s just these guidelines are vague asf
@draoidh6479
@draoidh6479 6 лет назад
yep
@leizylromero
@leizylromero 6 лет назад
Sounds like something an abuser would say
@zabelinextreme927
@zabelinextreme927 6 лет назад
But the ones in real danger never think about asking for help... sooooo to you is ok that somebody may put in risk his life if that helps you to keep "those narcissistic morons" quiet?
@trishwright986
@trishwright986 6 лет назад
Great point! 911/999 are for EMERGENCIES ONLY. learn the phone# of your local non-emergency police dispatch. ONLY call 911/999 in life threatening, urgent, or emergency situations where one needs assistance RIGHT AWAY. there's another helpful # in the U.S., *211,* which is "first call for help". It will point one in the direction of assistance in an abusive situation.
@mxmakintosh2951
@mxmakintosh2951 6 лет назад
I used to be in an abusive relationship, and he did all of these things to me. But now I'm okay, I'm out of that relationship and with someone who really cares, and who would never think of hurting me. I'm so glad I got out of my old relationship.
@noriaraya1415
@noriaraya1415 6 лет назад
I just got out of a toxic relationship, they were always blaming all there negative emotions on me and bringing me down. They also didn’t like when I hung out with my friend and got upset when I left her alone to do something. I finally ended our relationship, but she tried one last time texting me if “we could still talk” I just said something like “ I’m trying to get rid of negativity in my life to be happier” she got super mad and was interrogating me through texting and guilt tripping while doing so. I’m much happier now that I’m not with her, and I can finally have fun with my friends
@memesupreme905
@memesupreme905 6 лет назад
Don't blane OUR Red flag!!!
@SeanTurle
@SeanTurle 6 лет назад
My cat jizzed on my foot just now wtf
@_x3o_
@_x3o_ 6 лет назад
Boi
@thatrandomcrit5823
@thatrandomcrit5823 6 лет назад
Sean Navarro Wot?
@lore9446
@lore9446 6 лет назад
Excellent video!!! Congrats!!!
@mmymmy315
@mmymmy315 6 лет назад
This honestly hits home when it comes to my parents...
@richardking3680
@richardking3680 6 лет назад
I told my ex that if she loved me, she wouldn't be cheating on me. She continued to cheat causing me to become insecure, paranoid, controlling, manipulative, eventually leading to a mental breakdown and constantly being angry and abusive... But I'm the one in the wrong, right(?) This video is absolute nonsense, with no real thinking into what causes people to become "abusive". Oh, and typical. It's a woman behind these videos. There's absolutely no baised mentality behind this, is there(?)
@sarakrause4287
@sarakrause4287 6 лет назад
So I'm abused but I don't care anyway
@darickaf2587
@darickaf2587 6 лет назад
Sa ra you should because your well being matters, you deserve to be treated with respect, it's your right
@sarakrause4287
@sarakrause4287 6 лет назад
chlo edits Thank you but I don't, I deserve to be abused, it's my fault
@darickaf2587
@darickaf2587 6 лет назад
Sa ra trust me i know how you feel but let me tell you one thing : no matter who you are or what your story is, you're here, that means you exist, even if you don't feel like you do, so you matter, you just don't know it yet, besides, no one deserves to be abused in any way, maybe you hurt people in the past or did wrong in your life but honestly, who didn't? and guess what? even if you were the shittiest person ever (and you're not) it still doesn't make abuse okay, guilt is just the continuity of it so now what? well, i don't think me or my words are relevant enough to make a difference, but if you feel like you could use someone to talk to, that would be my pleasure!! i wish you the best for what's coming, you deserve to get better, remember that
@sarakrause4287
@sarakrause4287 6 лет назад
chlo edits Thank you so much !! That's so kind of you :) ♡
@janina1347
@janina1347 6 лет назад
Many of these are exactly like my brother. I'm glad he will move out in a few years
@tiannawataah
@tiannawataah 5 лет назад
That’s sad that people can resort to being abusive like that.
@sundude800
@sundude800 6 лет назад
Please people, don’t start lashing out on your parents because you took a RU-vid video as gospel.
@blakebelladonna9075
@blakebelladonna9075 6 лет назад
Well, victims of abuse already know that... But it is true an unfortunate number of parents are abusive.
@graquinn4058
@graquinn4058 6 лет назад
Thank you! An unsourced RU-vid video on a psychological concept that is still being researched, at that. Abuse is so badly defined and vague as a concept that there is no way that most of these generalized, vague assumptions can be definitively classed as abuse. Unfortunately, abuse is a matter that should be taken as a case-by-case basis, and unless it's something clear like hitting or threatening to kill, you can't just blanket-statement insist anyone who does something like give ultimatums and say "if you loved me you wouldn't do x" is a nasty 100% abuser with no shades of gray or anything good in them. These issues are more complicated than that. Like you can spin anything into abuse; ur partner says "Oh I like penguins :3" and you say "Oh I don't like penguins lol" some will say "oh THAT'S A RED FLAG THEY'RE SHOOTING DOWN UR OPINION". Yes, that's a stretch, but I hope my point is clear.
@Lion-Mutt
@Lion-Mutt 6 лет назад
I agree, though I still think the video's content should be taken seriously at face value. If someone believes they are in an abusive relationship with their parents because of this video, they should seek help regardless... I doubt they'd confront their abuser head on, anyway. That'd likely make things worse.
@sundude800
@sundude800 6 лет назад
I think that the youtube video is pretty good. It's just that some children and teenagers may watch it and think that there parents are abusers when in reality, they're simply strict, but nice parents.
@ScottGlifecoach
@ScottGlifecoach 6 лет назад
4 is wrong no one can make you feel something.
@thatrandomcrit5823
@thatrandomcrit5823 6 лет назад
Golden Opportunities Coaching: You don't have emotions, then
@ScottGlifecoach
@ScottGlifecoach 6 лет назад
Not true. Feelings are a matter of focus and perception of meaning therefore no person can MAKE you feel anything. Now if it was said if the wording was bring to the surface of your awareness emotion x or u THAT would be true. My issue with the word MAKE because it takes away the freedom of focus. I say this as an abuse survivor myself.
@fallingbaby
@fallingbaby 6 лет назад
Someone can attempt to make you feel bad.
@thatrandomcrit5823
@thatrandomcrit5823 6 лет назад
Golden Opportunities Coaching: so, are you saying that love isn't real?
@ScottGlifecoach
@ScottGlifecoach 6 лет назад
They can attempt to influence your emotional state but all beings have the choice of focus.
@chathurasandakelum7641
@chathurasandakelum7641 6 лет назад
Im in an abusive relationship for last three years, I tried so hard to get out of it, but I couldn't. I wish I have someone to talk to, someone to help me through this, someone who would listen to me... Thanks you for these vids it helps me a lot at least to understand what im going through
@mayagraphicart7077
@mayagraphicart7077 6 лет назад
This is very helpful, thank you, my friend would really need this video.
@Psych2go
@Psych2go 6 лет назад
Maya Graphicart glad we could help :)
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