Domestic Violence: Warning Signs that Your Partner Could Become Abusive 

I ran into a man who had some troubling signs and thankfully we only had one date and the rest of our interactions keep confirming my intuition. Pushy, pursuing me after I told him it wasn’t going to work (like it’s a game or challenge), a strong seductive energy, telling me about a troubled childhood, wanting to be a cop because he likes the “action,” and I don’t like his friend…. It’s tricky because I’m attracted to him but often we are attracted to dangerous things. Listen to your inner feelings. Too many red flags.

Actual video starts at 4:07 about the signs

Spot-on, every single point. Amazing! One small thing I would add. They test your tolerance for physical abuse very early on, usually either by calling it "joking" or and "accident". In my case, he threw an apple core at me and called it a game. I remember being hurt and confused, but I didn't say anything. He also "accidentally" elbowed me in the nose really hard. Again, it didn't seem like an accident, and I was confused, but let it go. Don't! If anyone tests your physical boundaries early in a relationship, let hellfire loose. If they have honest intentions, it will be ok. If they are looking for an abuse victim, you're better off without them.

I just met a guy a week ago and I am already seeing the red flags and then I listened to this video and saw all the flags again. Thank you for confirming my suspicions. ❤

This is so accurate. I dated a guy who would make jokes about physically hurting me like “haha if you snore id have to suffocate you with a pillow” 😳 BOY WHAT and this was like 3 weeks into dating...needles to say I got out very quickly

I’m 23 and recently left a 2 year relationship. My mom always said my ex had something she didn’t like. We get confused because they 10 or 20% of the time are loving and caring. My ex has all of these signs, he watched scary content, always had a knife on his head table, would always want to know where I was even if I just took 15 min to go talk to a friend before going to his house or to go shopping, he would get mad and say I was keeping things from him. He always dictated what I should and should not wear, I couldn’t wear a dress with a split let alone a crop top or a bikini. He always said I should be obedient, because that way the relationship would go better and I would be happier. He didn’t like much when I spent time with friends because all my time should be dedicated to him, because if I was his priority, he needed to be mine. I couldn’t go to the gym, so many things I privates myself from to make him secure of himself because he said he had thoughts to kill himself and that I was the only one who took those thoughts away when he was with me (this at the beginning, at the end he just said I wouldn’t go anywhere he didn’t go too). Also I heard rumors he beated up 2 ex girlfriends. I’m went to therapy and my psychologist said I was a victim of an abusive relationship and that it would certainly end in domestic violence sooner or later. That’s where I opened my eyes and got out of it. I recommend everyone in this situation to go to therapy, they will never change, why would you want to do so much good for someone who wants to cause you so much harm. I know it’s hard because we completely loose ourselves because of this person, but I hope everyone in this situation have the strength to get out of it and find something so much better ❤

I would also like to add if he loves to hurt animals (kicking dogs, beating cats etc.) it's one of the indicators he can be physically abusive.

Thanks for this video.. I just dodged a physically abusive relationship. He was showing many of the signs. Might have had more that I don't even know about coz I didn't spend a lot of time with him. Your video just made me trust my own intuition.. otherwise I was at a point where I was starting to doubt myself and feeling anxious. I am really grateful for this. I feel so light right now.

He has four felony arrests- regarding his past two ex wives- “assault on a family member” very very heavy drinker, but he has found God and is a “changed man.” I watched my niece marry this man last weekend and this is terrifying.

Not all physical abusers are emotionally abusive, sometimes its subtle and becomes physically abusive when they feel threatened and confronted, I'm talking about narcissistic rage. But it definitely comes from feelings of entitlement

This is so common and frightening. We must talk about it and start doing something about it. It rings so many bells with me. All of the signs you have talked about are really BIG RED flags and must not be overlooked. Often brutal and predatory people with those characteristics are supervisors or managers in companies and institutions and it is not always possible to get out off easily. We must break the silence and talk about violence openly and hope for the victims of abuse to find the strength to get out.

I’m sharing this with my teenage daughter. If I would’ve been aware of these signs I may not have gotten wrapped up in an abusive relationship. As parents we need to do better about teaching our children about toxic relationships and the warning signs.

Very valuable. My ex grew up under martial law in Pakistan and was bullied by siblings. He has family history of untreated mental illness and had a tyrant for a dad. He always made a point of saying he would never harm women yet was emotionally abusive to myself and our daughter. It was always someonr else's fault in every instance that soured. I am so glad to be out of his life...living with him felt like living in a powder keg, waiting for his ire to be turned my way. So to sum up: take note of all history you can gather from him or family members or even history books! As adults we have to trust so much of what we each disclose with no good effective means to verify that info. If following your gut is not working figure that out in less risky situations and develop trust in your instinct. I spent over 2 decades poo-pooing and standing up for this person who did not care for me (let alone love). Now I am working to have my own direction, goals, and agenda. Which is plenty for now. Thank you for sharing this video, I hope many will take it to heart and those stats can start to reverse. Be strong!

Thank you. My ex’s wife has all of these characteristics (minus the weapon, maybe?), plus, she has a degree in psychology and is a pathological liar. It’s not just men who are abusive. Financial, emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse using children against the bio mother is psychological terrorism, in my opinion.I’m hopeful we can neutralize this gender aspect in order to heal these toxic behaviors. There are mean girls/women who are bullies too, and can be some of the most manipulative, deceptive and abusive people in our sphere. Be love.🙏💕🦋

My life with this person. One year out. Living my best life now!!

Many years ago I was in an abusive relationship he choked me out plenty and even broke my ribs. Then I looked in the mirror and realized that this is not me. So one day I fought back broke his face (he was over twice my size) then I drugged him and went to another state. I have never felt that kind of fear again until with my current husband of 5 ears. His verbal abuse is insane and he will go off over almost nothing screaming he wants to snap my neck and then apologize profusely to make it all okay. Today I’ve realized what I’m feeling when this happens. He’s been clean off pills for two years now. I’m in a state where I know almost no one and have nowhere to go. I am going to try counseling. Btw he always says he will never hit a woman.

I am a victim of domestic violence. My husband cheated on me..drank and gambled and did not pay the bills. I had a beautiful daughter who had to endure this. Every time I approached him, He became violent. We are divorced and this has affected my daughter. Thank you for this video as it just validated why I got the divorce. Thank you so much. Your videos really help me in my life.

This video really hits home for me because a very dear friend of mine was murdered by her fiance-(Not me.. i would NEVER have dreamed of doing this to her!!).... I just pray that people getting abused GET OUT ASAP!!

I have read all of Gavin DeBecker’s books, and I credit them for saving my life. When I needed it most, I remembered and did the mosaic assessment. Even though it turned out that I was in imminent danger, I was able to make enough right decisions exactly when needed to stay alive. Now, 8 years later, I still have lingering ptsd symptoms, but I manage them efficiently without medication. I have a life I cherish, am at peace, and thriving. Everything you said was spot-on. Knowing these could save a life.

My abuser has the opposite traits she's mentioned, that's the scary part.

Valuable video Julia! the statistics are very worrying...so good that you are talking about this on RU-vid! xx

Yep. He had a very abusive mother always talk bad about her. Partied hard. Screamed at other drivers. Found out he stepped out of the Navy to avoid a dishonorable discharge. Accused me of “looking” when I totally never do that. (Still to this day catch myself not look at other drivers other people in store bc I had to learn not to to avoid a fight) But he didn’t physically abuse until I got pregnant and was “entrapped in his snar”. Hard lesson learned.

The only thing I have out of this list is that I was bullied in grade school. I've never been abusive and never will. Mama taught me how to treat women.

Not dealing well with stress is a symptom of emotional immaturity oftentimes coupled with a short fuse and fits of rage (high blood pressure is often present) Anything seemingly trivial sets them off They come across as childish and throw tantrums what feels like 24/7 Growing up in abusive, chaotic household can also potentially be a red flag as they never learnt healthy ways of relating to others and take out their life frustrations on you (misplaced anger) Lack of accountability on their part too Rigid, inflexible boundaries They are oftentimes pushy Make snide hurtful comments and then say "I was only joking. Why do you take everything so seriously?! You're oversensitive!" If you accidentally poke them at night while asleep while completely unaware of what you're doing they would use excessive force and poke you back so hard they'd wake you up from deep sleep in an instant and act like the biggest victim ever

This sounds like many of the kids I knew as a teenager. I really feel sorry for any partners or children they may have had.

This is exactly how my ex was. He literally hits every single mark.

He was very cruel to his dog. 😢 I felt it in my solar plexus😓

Such a great video and such an important topic! It´s so important to pay attention to the "red flags" (the gut feeling) and not justify or push it under the carpet. The gut feeling is always right. Thanks for sharing!

Dated a guy briefly but it turned into 2 years of back and forth and emotional drama because I was trauma bounded. The second I challenged him and said no, he spiraled into a monster. Lots of emotional manipulation, making me doubt my sanity, creating alternate realities, long pity stories about his abusive childhood, getting me back, only to treat me worse and punish me for the first time I said no and left him. He was extremely argumentative and said he enjoyed arguing with people. He could turn a compliment or a nice gesture into an argument. He was also a very bitter person and was extremely moody. I wouldn’t be surprised if he ends up on the news in an orange jumpsuit. He’s a college professor by the way and he has a PhD in Psychology which I think makes him even more dangerous and startling because many women may second guess the abuse considering his academic achievements and success. Happy that I’m no longer around him.

One I would add is a past assault record on a previous girlfriend or wife no matter how long ago it was if these traits are still apparent. Despite anger management by the courts, an ex still had these abusive ways and I was lucky to get out before I got broken in spirit and trapped in the relationship. Seeing his potential for violence was life saving. Public records exist and best to check them if these points start to appear.

Thank you so much for this video. It’s really important and clarifying. I’m just getting out of an intense relationship where there was physical roughness during fights (light choking, grabbing arms/wrists, blocking any exit ways, throwing me down and so on) but not enough to leave real marks or damages physically. There was a lot of lying and gaslighting too so I’ve been strongly questioning if I provoked behaviors here. I also grew up with an abusive mom who was sometimes physical and also gaslighting my reality so it starts to pile on and feel like maybe I am the common denominator with unhealed triggers. I’ve lost sense of my own reality and feel so confused and concerned and many mixed emotions. It’s literally too much to explain on a RU-vid comment but this video , so so so many things listed here are totally on point about this person. It was extra confusing because they are someone who once called me while drunk (before dating) crying about a woman who had been getting beat in the apartment complex where they lived, someone who stands up for women’s rights, so there are many aspects of it that have added denial and confusion to the reality. And yet this video is a kind of validation and clarity I’ve been searching for, like it takes a blindfold off, a clarity I haven’t found so, again, thank you. And for anyone who read this who is struggling or unsure , when the manipulation and deceit accompanies the abuse and hostility it can be so confusing and disorienting. I don’t have any wise words at the moment other than confusion in general, too much confusion and off feelings like she said in this video, is something to absolutely pay attention to. It’s simply not worth getting caught into a spiral like this with someone. We have to look out for ourselves.

Oh, so you've met my ex then...ticks literally every box you've mentioned from behavior, to community, to family violence, to mental illness. So glad I'm out and safe. I sensed it could escalate quickly.

In my last long distance relationship, I had small signs early on: he called himself "intense" from the start (a bit of a warning); he hung up on me when irritated (and then apologized and said he had never done that before in his life); kept calling me by a couple of silly/slightly demeaning names after I had said I didn't particularly enjoy them; trash-talked almost all of his friends and family members to me; seemed to be unusually upset by daily events and interactions; spoke in a very harsh voice when disapproving of a pet's behavior; had unusually aggressive joking behaviour, as if he were a parent talking down to a child. Then, in an argument about feelings in which I was very calm and low voiced and employed non-violent communication, he lost control and said "go to hell, woman, you're crazy and robotic" (he later said my voice was too calm and monotonous and that had irritated him, plus his sister had talked to him earlier, which had irritated him even more - although he did not send her to hell or insulted her). Again, he said he had never done that before in his life, but to me he seemed very comfortable saying those words. I was shocked. He apologized for most of these behaviours, but the thing is, most of them went on even when I was still reevaluating the relationship (he didn't really make an effort to curb them). Hung up on me again, said hurtful things etc. I'm out, but at least I got him into therapy and learned a few lessons myself. I am proud of my own behaviour at least, I believe I'm getting better and better at communication, empathy and questioning my narratives.

No one recognizes the fact that men can be the abused from women. I know, I seen emotional abuse from my mom as her Parkinson's progressed and I found myself in an emotionally abusive relationship for months before I couldn't take anymore...the walking on eggshells, the feeling that I was a fuck up, being accused of being controlling, undermining, jealousy until finally when she went off after getting shit-faced drunk I had enough .

Can we talk about women who commit domestic violence? This is also a dangerous issue

I want to post this list as a flier in HS bathrooms the world over. Props for posting this on a VDay 💗 I wish I read this list starting at 12 everyday until college graduation, and since.

Wow, this is so informational. It's so interesting to know how many women become a victim in a violent relationship. Thanks for sharing your message.

My boyfriend of a yr has shown some of these subtle signs recently. I told him some great news and we got into a 20 min disagreement and it never got out of hand just back and forth and at the end I sat back and was like wow all this was because I called him to tell him my great news. He also has rigid ideas of relationships and "jokes" about it is his way or no way. I think this is what I needed to see he has no other indicators. Thank you for this. I knew the obvious one's but I never considered these and it made me feel not so good when we were done talking about my good news and I was like what is this why do I feel this was serious.

I am no longer bound by this man or his abusive traits and emotional abusive words, I am finally free of being tied to this pain and I renounce myself under self love and healing, He does not have control over me or power.. I am defeating him with the power of Jesus and manifestation. I will live AGAIN and have a rewarding life away from him. He cannot harm me anymore and my value is uplifted with self esteem. I am strong, beautiful, wise and loved. I am free from the possession of narcissism and emotional and verbal abuse from "A" I will find pure love and respectful love, I am deserving of joy and peace and I shall get it because I believe

I have had many episodes of domestic violence, I didn't know about the hotlines hopefully they are more effective than law enforcement. I am all alone and living in isolation because I am afraid it could happen again, if it did I wouldn't have anyone to call to help me if I ever needed assistance. I will never call the police again, they just make everything worse.

You speak the words I can't seem to voice. I wish I heard this before the relationship I was in. You do have it down to a T. I hope others retain this information. Thank you.

I love your videos! You speak slowly and clearly so everyone can process what you are saying! My daughter’s boyfriend has so many of these signs-she’s been living off and on with him for two years. Two times he has gotten aggressive with her-I think she thinks, that she can save him or give him the mothering he didn’t get! Not a healthy relationship! She won’t listen to any videos I message her, so I shared this on Facebook, hoping she will get curious and listen to it! If not, I hope it helps somebody else!! Thank you!

I'm glad I've never been in such relationship

Many of these points are valuable, but I think it's also important to recognize that just because someone hits one or even several of these does not mean that they will automatically become abusive. A person could have ADD, have witnessed abuse as a child, have difficult relationships with his co-workers, and have struggled in school, and still be a fantastic and loving partner. Also, some of these warning signs are more important than others! Having a violent run-in with the police is a huge warning sign. Disliking a sibling? Not so much.

Everyone has the potential to become violent given the right circumstances.

I'm so glad you are talking about this. It's SO important. My video this week on my channel, is about why you get confused with sexual intimacy, what happens inside you and why, so I"m really in your lane about this and so glad you have put this out into the world. I want every one to see it ... Deep bow. ~Elizabeth

Julia!! Have seen so many videos trying to find some specific warning signs. By far one of the best videos! Thank you! 🙏🙏

Alright lady all I have heard you say is he he and more he ok. I actually as a man 6’7” 260 pound welder actually came on here due to my fiancée doing all those same little things you said to me. So do everyone a favor and acknowledge that men get mentally abused too ok. And men love there children too.

I'm a man who was in a violent domestic relationship with a woman who abused me and was a narcissist in the worst ways with the abuse using my own love against me the love that I had for her and the love that I have for my daughter. Poor excuse for a human being

Thank you so much for this video. The city I am from has very high rates of domestic violence so I appreciate your message. Also you have given me the power back to trust myself in relationships. As a person who has been a victim of domestic violence in a relationship and after having a violent father, I had stopped trusting myself to make appropriate decisions regarding men.

I will definitely keep this video handy to share with friends...you are awesome!

Wow good point with the probation & bullying history. Never thought of that but makes sense. Great video!

This is so true and highly valid. Thank you so much. Very helpful.

This is very powerful. Awsome information. Some one said to me . o when I get angry I have to leave. I just learn a lot today.

Your videos are golden free knowledge! Thanks for sharing :) Lots of mothers weren't reporting a violent father in the past because their children would have had a stigma for life. The law (in Italy) years ago previewed a higher chance of fault when registered as son of a violent father, reason why abused mothers preferred continuing to be abused than going to the police. It's a vicious circle that is fortunately improving with the genZ.

Thank you Julia this resonates with me very much… I think I ticked off a lot of boxes! I have just come out of a verbally abusive relationship and feel it could have turned physically violent! My ex has untreated bipolar and ADD which I wasn’t aware of initially but felt something wasn’t quite right. X

Watched a lot of these types of videos and this is dead on accurate. Thank you

Dear Julia Kristina, YOU can be victimized by your own parents AND still choose be a DECENT GOOD HEALTHY Human being.

Very useful tips in this video, thanks Julia sharing this video

I knew something wasn't right with my friend when I would leave her a message and she would rarely get back to me.. I couldn't put my finger on it until sadly she was murdered... I don't know if her family and friends were aware of what's going on....

Your absolutely right how can i allow someone squeeze my arm pushing my head with gis finger and pushing how did i think this was normal😪

Thank you for this information. Usually I save learning about domestic violence for certain days as that can easily turn my day grey. However, we should all learn about this as it happens in society all too often. Sometimes I wonder the person who went through hardship that caused them to be this way where is the root of the problem (could it be war, loss of a loved one, etc.)

thx for sharing this

it means I was with a monster and I dumped him months agooo thankkkkk god thank u my goodness

Perfect video!! Thank you!

I love all the videos I have seen! You are amazing!

I've been there and that's reason why I have PTSD

sharing to my friend, Thank you!

Yep. All but two or three of these signs, check check check. And then two nights ago he swung a bat at me, shoved me against a wall and choked me. I'm (hopefully) finishing the process of breaking things off now.

I got my butt whipped everyday when I was a kid....everyday! I had it coming to. I would never lay a hand on a woman, never. My ex came to stay with me twice after she was beaten. She knew she was safe with me and that I could protect her against her abusers with no weapons. She was so scared, it pisses me off extremely bad to see a human sooooo afraid of another human.

Fantastic video... especially with the categories, never heard about the categories specifically before, absolutely useful information, THANK YOU 🙏❤

You're very helpful.

Very powerful video but I think that classifying mental disorders as someone who is abusive is exasperating the problem. I was bullied as a kid and I am not abusive. Abusive people prey on the weak and vulnerable. The biggest organ in your body is the brain and just like any other organ can malfunction. Imagine that we all "informed" people to stay away from someone because they had bone cancer. You essentially blame the victim: "Stay away from people who are bullied". People in abusive (being bullied) situations are already so isolated.

You are literally describing my life right now. Wow 😳

Please, everyone share, share, share!! Someone I love is the victim of domestic violence and there is, sadly, nothing I can do about it ( I have tried almost everything). The more information like this is shared and the more awareness that is raised, then they will be less able to get away with it.

It’s a red flag that I keep watching this video and others throughout this relationship… something in me knows something is wrong but I’m in the “love bombing” stage, I guess. Whenever I bring up a concern like his irrational jealousy he smoothes it over and says it just means I’m important :(

Ew-im still being stalked 7 years later by a jerk who ticks off almost every box. He's been threatening to sue me after he assaulted me. I wont allow this crazy s.o.b. to bully me into silence. I finally reported him to the cops who did nothing. Found out the jerk, who appeared to have alot going for him, including a high paying job, several nice cars, was a successful musician and local hockey player, had a history of nepotism, drug and alcohol problems, friends with battery histories, narsicism, and peter pan syndrome. He was basicly the most fucked up person, just like he told me, which is probably why he lived all alone in this house he owned. IDGAF if your the rich popular king of the world, a batterer is a batterer.

She is right on!!

My (mostly psychologicallly abusive) ex fit all of these. Except he actually had very high academic achievement. He was part of Mensa, had a high IQ, got great grades, went to a top university, and made sure everyone knew. He was incredibly intelligent and that helped him manipulate people around him in a sadistic and Machiavellian way. He was the epitome of a narcissist, and probably a sociopath or psychopath.

I know this sounds extremely harsh but I think you should not date men who were abused or witnessed their father being abusive to their mother. Unfortunately I just think the risk is too high with men like this. I’ve dated a few men with troubled childhoods and they all were abusive. Not always physically but definitely emotionally. This is now a HARD boundary that I refuse to break. Men with troubled childhoods are an automatic “no” for me. Also men who didn’t grow up with fathers or good fathers. Automatically a no. I just can’t risk it anymore.

We need to start classes regarding this.

If someone is reaching out and tell you their partner I'd abusive please listen to them.i told family members and they told me he's just stressed out.

He punched me right in my jaw and then climbed on top of me and slapped me . For the first time I’m in pain for days

I know this video is geared more towards women, but I was just physically attacked by my girlfriend of 9 months for the first time last night. After watching this video, there were several warning signs mentioned in this video leading up to this. Most of these signs started showing in the last couple of months though ... around the same time she went off medication that was helping her with sleep and depression problems. After that, at first she was more joyful, but then came losing her job, arguments with he mom (i only heard the girlfriend's side of the story), and emotional instability. Before that, everything was great.

Thank you 🐢

So what's the connection of having low grades in academics to abusive behaviour? Because my ex is like that. he has a history of repeating in high school, low grades, been kicked out or dropped out. He's also a very slow guy. Like very slow. He can't even understand a movie we're watching even with subtitles. I need to explain everything to him, it kills the mood.. All of the signs you mentioned, he has them. He's very abusive. Verbally and physically. We now broke up, it's been 2weeks, I know he's no good for me but the pain is just unbearable. We live together for 2years

Great video... My ex was like this.

Bad gut feeling here...I dated him in 2019 then a lady caught his attention. We reconnected in 2022. I noticed he got irritated if I felt dizzy. I'd severe thyroid disease. My impression though I couldn't place why, he was tiny and demure was that he might hit people but he'd never done it. I thought I was imagining it. I wasn't. I'd felt a bit of fear as he got very irritated though he never yelled. The bad feeling got much worse yesterday. I thought it was just nerves as we'd made things official it felt off. Partner was acting differently smoking a lot, irritated. Hit me on the shoulder for saying I'd a pain in my head. I'd unfortunately tried again this year. I left. He'd asked me to move in with in with me though the relationship was new not even a month. No way. He Hit me I didn't stay.

Great video! Thank you. I'm curious, do these signs also tell a similar story for female domestic abusers? Do the signs differ ar all for women who are the oppressors in relationships?

Please add that women can be abusers as well.. i have been married to a woman that was an abuser...thank you

My ex checks nearly all of these boxes. He punched holes in walls while I was standing nearby; kicked down a door; threw things at me; poured coffee all over me; hit me over the head with a pillow over and over again while screaming at me….in every situation he would tell me that he was ‘provoked’ into these things. Then he would tell me how he would never hurt me….. These things were only the physical abuse, the emotional abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting were at least as bad. I married him thinking he was a nice Christian boy from a nice Christian family. Turns out this “nice” family had all kinds of skeletons in the closet, and my ex just carried on family traditions…I wish I had known the signs then to be able to recognize them.

@ Julia Kristina Counselling - You think these types of guys can change? As much as they say they will?

My ex once used knife to threaten me! I still being with him for another 4 years on egg shell ... luckily he ghosted me after getting angry with me..I was sad, but thought I was so lucky.

Thank you.

Great video. What are the stats for men that are the victims of domestic violence? Oh, lesbian relationships have the highest incidents of domestic violence, then hetro, and the lowest are gay men. This is why statistic have to be stated with care and the context. In Australia, yelling at the other person is domestic violence / abuse.

These stories very disturbing, This was absolutely terrible and Very difficult to watch Men keep your cool, Men mind your temper, Men breathe, relax, and whatever you are upset about... it is simply not that serious, Men DONT hurt your Lady, Never beat up your Woman, Never beat up your wife, girlfriend, or any woman, that’s NOT is what being a man is. Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man tough... Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man strong... Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man cool... Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man a man.... Beating a woman is Not masculine Beating Women is NOT sexy Beating Women is NOT manly Using abuse, and force for sexual gratification, intimidation, by harmful behavior for sexual intimacy with someone doesn’t make a man, strong, tough, cool, or, manly. I believe in the Safety and Well-being Women, Children, and Men WOMEN Have the RIGHT to FEEL SAFE and BE SAFE This is a reply post regarding a article on Assault Against Woman: For what is statistically true, or accurate, and even what is not included statistically, and all other crime such as this is what is ( violence against women) Always unacceptable... Women have the Right to Feel SAFE and be Safe... No woman..., or person....child...should ever have to experience this kind heinous personal intrusion in their lifetime, this seems to be occurring at least according to news reports more, and all to often. Actually this activity should be in a stage, or state of Reversal, and NOT Increasing, I am continually upset as well as greatly disturbed in hearing such stories, as I have always have been... My Heart Always... goes out to any person which have experienced any such similar experience of intrusion, attacks, and, or invasion of their personal well-being... due violence, and or violent behavior, I will continue Praying for the Safety and Well-Being of Others... Keep everyone SAFE PLEASE BE SAFE Your Life is important Advocate of Humanity, Author, Writer, Poet, Safety Advocate Jason Sandifer, Michigan MESSAGE REPOSTED 10/28/2021

WoosAh.. I’m trying to chill.❤️🙏🏿

50 of these things definitely apply to my ex. Glad I got out.

some bell did ring.

A friend’s husband sometimes throws things when angry - or pushes them away hard enough they cross a small room. Never at her or their kids directly - but around them. Usually small things like pits or pans - whatever’s close at hand. She knows he’d never intentionally hurt them, and this has only happened twice in a year or two. Nobody has gotten hurt yet but she said the last time the dog was walking toward him and barely missed the line of fire when a full suitcase flew across the living room. She talks to me about this and I think it’s at least yellow or orange flags. Should she be scared for them that he might fly off the handle and even mistakenly get somebody hurt?