I was 3 years without falling in love. This year, it happened again. It took me a few months to see it, but when I finally realized that I was falling in love someday at 3am, I couldn’t stop smiling, my cheeks automatically turned red and I felt so good with myself. Love is difficult, but the feeling is great while it lasts! ❤
I given up on love after my previous rejection. I thought it would happen but it's just further proof that maybe a love life was never meant to be. I just know I'm too late for it and just time to live my life in a depressing single/divorced guy apartment
@@elliotthefennekin6506 Don’t worry it’s never too late to fall in love even if you don’t think so if you actually want a real relationship just be patient and try to get rid of that negative attitude
Remember a lot of these could also be mistaken for platonic love. You could feel these things for your best friend that you're really close with or someone you're beginning to grow a good friendship with. It can be hard to tell the difference so watch out
True. I go through a lot of these when I first become friends with someone, or when I make a close friend. It’s not always romantic to think about someone else, people!
▪︎TIMESTAMPS ▪︎ 1. 0:37 You often find yourself thinking about them 2. 1:07 Your suddenly open to exploring new things 3. 1:40 They have made their way to your priority list 4. 2:12 You suddenly find their quirks extremely attractive 5. 2:47 They boost your self-image 6. 3:14 Their traits become your traits 7. 3:50 Your friends are noticing 8. 4:14 You feel positive about the future 9. 4:44 You cant stop smiling 10. 5:18 You feel more love for others
- It's hard to stop thinking about her. - Openness - Get on the priority list - Find something interesting in her - Start paying attention to appearance - Trait adjustment - Friends started saying her name in front of me on purpose - Feel when with him there will be a pleasant future - Often smile even laugh (when imagining) - Also feel happy for the happiness of others All of the above I have to admit that, I went through all of those phases. And it is very strong in my memory to this day. ❤ Do friends also experience the same thing as me?
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. I heard that lesbian relationships are healthier because they understand each other. If both partners understand each other, they won’t want to break up with each other. I also heard that women have higher rates of depression when married (in straight relationships). There is a very small percent of women that are happy in heterosexual relationships. So it's very hard for men and women to bond with each other and have a strong bond with each other. Both men and women think differently, behave differently, react in a different way. The more similar two people are, the easier it is to relate and understand each other, resulting in a better, more fulfilling connection. I also read somewhere that even with the divorce rates what they are, most heterosexual marriages that don't end in divorce are still unhappy, and can absolutely relate to experiencing significantly more depression while married than while single.
@@icysnow57cold64 The same way, by shared interest, hobbies, moral values, faith, similar upbringing. A lot fo thing can make people feel conected to others.
I’ve never been in love either, so I wouldn’t know anything about loving someone when it comes to romantically. I get a crush and love very confused, because sometimes they feel very similar, butterflies.
@@PokidotGamer898 I know how it is for me love is something deep that's why I wouldn't just tell anyone I love them crushes from my experience are just us romanticizing the person we have a crush on. It was before I met my girl I had a crush but when I found out my crushes personality I saw I have to be think with my mind not my heart.
@@siya___7776 that might be the same with me. For some reason, and idk why, I love my parents to death I do, but I sometimes struggle to say the words “I love you.” The “love” word gets stuck and can’t come out, but I know they know I love them because I show it in my actions. I do say I love you too when they say it to me but I think I’m order for me to say it first, I would have to really love someone. I guess when I say “I love you” I feel like I’m confessing I actually like someone. Because it’s rare for me to say “I love you” first. I see people say it to their parents so easily and I think, “Gosh, they make it look so easy.”
@@PokidotGamer898 I hope it gets better for you as time progresses I understand how you feel I'm usually a reserved person who doesn't express emotions I'm starting to learn how to express myself take some time it will become easier as time passes but dont force it Goodluck
8 years of being together with my boyfriend and I still go through these phases sometimes.... What's really weird though is the amount of times I remember experiencing that 6th point. I don't remember being stubborn or ambitious prior to meeting him... A lot of what I do or experience (whether the traits are good or not) just feels natural to me now, and I don't even question it sometimes 😄
@@gossipgirlonwheels We're not together anymore.... we're also not speaking or keeping any open lines of contact. I made a decision to put myself first over him because there were certain qualities he had that just didn't mesh well with what I wanted from the relationship. I don't want to be married to someone who would continuously make me feel less confident in myself simply because he can't handle having serious discussions.
This reinforces a lot the mutual feelings that my girlfriend and I have, I couldn't stop smiling throughout the whole video. today is our 3 month anniversary hihihihihihihi
I didn’t know I loved him until a year later, finally noticing it wasn’t normal to constantly think of someone 24/7 and about his life, worrying about him because of his family, and always thinking of whatever he tells me. And everytime I talked with him I felt so happy, I was so excited inside. He’s got a girlfriend though… so yeah. I don’t want to interfere with his relationship with her so I’ve just kind of stopped talking with him, because I’m afraid I’ll do something to ruin our friendship. I’ve never told him I loved him, not even till this day, basically two years later.
It's okay to feel for someone and realise it later than what was needed. It's sometimes not easy to understand ourselves given that there are hundreds of things going around you. Be aligned with yourself and God, I am sure everything will happen for the best.❤
@@Psych2go I hope we can both be bonded together and know each others wants and needs. I am waiting for marriage and I hope that day can be the most memorable moment of my life. 🙏🏽
I think a great tell is when you’re talking with that person and you don’t want the moment to end. Even when you have to (awkwardly) leave for something, there’s always the lingering feeling of “Is there any way I can extend our time together?”
Falling in love is so special and so much fun. As much as it hurts to have your feelings reciprocated, but I find that feeling just as lovely as it's highs as it means that I truly cared about them and that it means we could be something else than lovers, and It gives me the time and space to recollect myself to be in a spot where we both feel the happiest
For me it's a nightmare that ruins my days, when I get a crush on someone I just can't stop those annoying feelings. And before anyone tells me "Woah, why are you so harsh?", its bc I'm not straight, and I live in a very close minded country. 99% of the time my "loved" ones are str8 and don't even care for my existence, while the other see me as nothing more than a friend. And I can never tell my feelings to anyone, either bc I'll be made fun of by them and my minimal reputation gets destroyed due to rumors, or they'll just avoid and ignore me at all cost. This time, however, it's different. I'm VERY sure he's also gay, but he doesn't care for me at all, nor has even tried becoming friends, and that fact is destroying me from the inside.
@@frenchrevenge6406 I can very much understand that as I also live in a very close minded country, while my country doesn't actively discriminate against Queer people, they do see us as merely "Entertainment" and not actual people that are deserving of the same rights unless you're rich and famous enough. I've had a couple of close friends that gets a crush on me, and it utterly crushes me that I can't reciprocate their feelings as Eros is cruel like that. All I can do is let them down slowly and just hope our friendship lasts, even though I know it won't. I don't know your life or your experience, but I hope that you'll eventually find someone that'll care and love you the way you deserve!
I absolutely agree! Even though most of the time I don't find my feelings reciprocated, i like to think that at least I was able to see the beauty on the other person, i was able to care about them, and that is conforting for me in some way. I wish more people could see falling on love in that way, a way that gives more credit to the one who's feeling in love
So I’ve known this guy for 3 years, we started dating nearly a year and a half ago. I’m scared of love, but I’m deeply attached to this guy. He makes me a better me, and supports me. Thank you for the video
i am in same position but with a girl known her for 3 years we like start hanging out these past 4 month alot. Same as you im scared of love. so i just look at her as friend from now on and want to see her happy with or without me doesnt matter as loong she is happy.
This is true for me. Earlier I used to think I have an aversion to fashion, but after knowing him I realised I have always watched fashion shows since my childhood. I have started loving my own body and giving time to my various interests and hobbies. Most importantly I have become much more helpful and grateful in my life. He's now a big part of my life
„You feel more love for others“? When one of my friends fell in love one year ago, she seemed to forget me at the same time. We‘re even not at the same level of friendship today as before this boy… Hard, as I‘m actually in love with HER…
Scored a 10/10 so it confirms what I’ve known this past 2 months…but recently hit an obstacle with my partner because of emotional triggers that I have from betrayal trauma in me due to my previous relationship. Healing is not done in a month or year it seems but a constant vigil for it never fully erased but can be addressed in a positive healthy way when you notice it.
I think people rely too much on feelings to determine whether they are in love, but feelings are so fickle, they are like a flame, as bright as it can burn, it can also be extinguished pretty fast. I think falling in love at its most basic foundation is a choice, it must be a choice.
Love to me is knowing and accepting somebody completely and fully flaws and all and still loving them. Learning forgiveness. Wanting nothing more but their happiness and to see them succeed and grow. Not trying to change them in any way, shape or form
That was very well spoken. You nailed it when it comes to love. When you love someone it’s about giving and wanting the best for the person.. most importantly accepting them for who they truly are
1. You often find yourself thinking about them 2. You‘re suddenly open to exploring new things 3. They‘ve made their way to your priority list 4. You suddenly find their quirks extremely attractive 5. They boost your self-image 6. Their traits become your traits 7. Your friends are noticing 8. You feel positive about the future 9. You can’t stop laughing 10. You feel more love for others Make sure to watch the whole video still!
I like wording it as trying new things cause it doesn't sound like I'm just changing myself for someone. It just means I genuinely care about the persons interest and wanna open up for them. People refusing to look into something for there partner or even just friends is a red flag tbh
i fell in love when i was 12. even at that age i was surprised how similar it was to its portrayal in movies and stories. constant giddiness just because they exist and having them on your mind 24/7. finding a way to make every little thing you do about them. losing control of your emotions while being fully aware of it and feeling like an idiot. it really is like a drug. i miss that feeling.
so I like this short kid since we were in third grade, and I lost contact of him when we were in 6th grade, but even tho we haven't met or heard from each other for three years now I stilm have these slight feelings for him. Until one day, I was walking around with my bff when she pointed at one handsome guy and told me he's her cousin and he's super handsome and the fact that he has the same name as him made me wonder why he looked so familiar. As I kept on seeing him walking around our school campus, I decided to show my friend my childhood crush's photos and that's where she started screaming as hell. IT TURNS OUT THAT HE WAS MY (NEW)BFF'S COUSIN. I nearly died that time because I never expected things like this to happen, and as days pass by, I started to grow my feelings for him especially on the day where I had a blind dance with him. It's this smile of his that makes me smile and often gives me butterflies and I started to notice that I was slowly falling for him, even tho he no longer remembers me💀 . But it still makes me really happy that after waiting for three years, I finally got to meet him again, and this time he's taller than me.
I don't know if I've ever truly fallen in love with anyone, but I can say I love the thumbnail! I just wish the show could pick up where it left off on that cliffhanger
okay, this explains a lot. i didn't know why for the longest time but i had this one one girl where as soon as i got to know her everything just felt empty when i wasn't around her, i never really knew why but this explains a whole lot, i can relate to at least half of the signs on there
@@saraannette8212 Sorry to hear that, but sometimes old sparks might die. But that doesn't mean you won't get to meet someone new who gives you even greater feelings.
Same :) First love as a Highly Sensitive Person, so there's a lot of big feelings there. My Discover Weekly playlist decided to give me allll love songs too, so it's hard not to notice
I thought love was painful but your channel makes me feel that love is indeed something very beautiful. Love always stood as a hurtful and painful thing for me but after seeing how beautiful it is, it makes me question that if I am spending my time on the right person or not. Because usually the people I date hurts me a lot. And now I don't think love need to be painful or depressing. It's a feeling of happiness and joy!
I think i am falling for a friendship, is not the romantic love. I couldn't understand how could i love that dude so much, but he's a great friend. Love is love, it doesn't need to be romantic 💙
That would mean hiding your feelings and never acting upon love to begin with. I mean for starters, there is a possibility that you are demisexual. Everything you described makes you demisexual because it is someone you know the longest. Think about this. You 2 never became a couple but stayed being friends. You aren't falling in love with any other random stranger. There are tons of people who can fall in love but never act upon them. Not everybody gets into any romantic relationship despite falling in love. There are some who just admire from afar. You are a good example of admiring your friendship from afar. I can give an example. I began to pick up love feelings from my next door neighbor back in March 2020 however, I never build a single bond with her. I only watched miles away when she picks up her amazon package. I don't talk to her. I stay distant.
@@Psych2go i’m not sure, i’ve never had a crush before but lately i’ve been feeling more open and caring to someone, and that’s never happened before. it’s like i want to be near them all the time, and they’re the reason i’m excited to go to school now 💕
@@star-popIf you are watching videos to see if you like them, look forward to seeing them at school etc. Then you probably like them. Something I ask myself is often, would I enjoy holding their hand in a romantic way, would I enjoy being with them in a romantic way, do I want to cherish them romantically and be cherished by them?
all throught this video i have had a huge smile as i am knowing that boy i keep thinking about isnt just a thought and yes nearly all of them are connecting with me
Well I think I’ve fallen out of love with him now, but I was definitely in love. Everything about him made me smile. Even his “quirks”. He never returned my feeling buts it’s nice to know that it wasn’t just a little crush. I still love him, but in a different way now. How fitting 🥰
Love is the most natural thing someone can experience. it's so unexplainable how it just happens out of nowhere. That's also what makes it so sad at times, such as if they dont like you back or if you've never experienced it, it you can make you feel broken or something and worse off is experiencing it before and feeling like it may never happen again like me and so many others. I hope everyone will find something like it as it is so crazy complicated and strange, but it is also so fun, so natural, so real, so exciting, and life changing everybody needs it and cant live without it may God bless everyone and may there be peace in all.
I have to say how much I appreciate this channel Only a few months ago I was watching you guys to find a partner in my life Nowadays, I watch you all in order to keep this fresh relationship strong You all are so amazing and I hope you keep this channel up for many more people to see
And I still feel that way and I’m still working on myself it’s a journey for sure but I’m very proud of myself and if you want too attract better you first gotta do better ❤️💪🙏💯🌹
I havent never fallen in love before and I still havent found feeling romantic attraction to anyone, which is why I researched into aromantic and asexual sexualities. But i wish everyone is happy and healthy being whoever they are and with :)
As a cptsd surviver, falling in love can be hard and even harder when it gets real and you choose to go for a relationship. Insecurities, normal anxiety that is confused with traumatic, fear of abandonment, among other things that do not allow me to fully focus on being in love. Sometimes it even makes me question my feelings and intentions, but today I am happy to say that I am very much in love with my boyfriend. Thanks for and the extra help that keeps me grounded
I remember watching 5 minutes of this video back when I was in denial. It’s hilarious watching it and seeing how oblivious I was now that we’re together
I fell in love like 100% fell in that deep pit. I never stood up the courage to ask her if she feels the same way because I thought we were too young but. I feel like it’s fate that we are not meant to be together because I had to change schools. I don’t see, text or even look for her anymore. I liked that feeling, I liked hugging her as a-a friend. I wish I gain up the courage to atleast ask her to see if she feels the same way, or she rejects. Thinking about it just punches through my heart.
If you don't know about the term already, you are probably aro-ace. Aro-ace stands for people who are aromantic, (little to no romantic attraction to people) and asexual, (little to none sexual attraction to others)
I fell in love while going through heaps of trauma, dealing with ptsd and depression. Sadly a lot of these things do not apply to me... But I'm grateful for where we are now, almost 2 years later, and I couldn't be happier about my relationship!
This is actually true. I spent the last 3 years just staring at him and not even talking to him. I remember the first time we spoke and everything else. But...he dated one of my friends in the first year. They broke up a while later. Then in the lockdown I couldn't even see him for an year,but I couldn't stop thinking about him. In our final year,I told my best friends that I liked him and it was all fine, I even wanted to confess him about my feelings. But one my friends started dating him without even telling me again!! I felt completely devastated. I stayed strong and tried to get over him. Then on my birthday,he texted me!! Like I couldn't even believe it. Clearly I wasn't over him. Then he broke up. We only texted but never interacted in college. I told my friend that we've been texting a lot lately and she didn't care. And he moved away to a different city. He calls me atleast once a week and texts everyday and I don't even initiate the conversation. I don't know if he likes me or not but I really love him
Huh...then I guess I was never in love all along. Just felt shallow attraction and went into flights of fancy of the ideal relationship backed up by what ifs supported by what I knew about the person and how that can apply to the possibilities of a serious relationship. As I'm glad many of the folks here are realizing they're in love, I'm gonna be with the rare few who realized the opposite. But a new perspective is always welcome.
I like your mentality 😇of thinking that a new perspective is always welcome. Many people lack this and hence decides to only hear & stick to their perspective & shuns other right away.
You know, I genuinely am glad that not being able to stop smiling is normal. Because anytime she comes into the room, I can't stop smiling and I start laughing randomly in excitement.
@@Psych2go I’m not sure. Though it turns me off completely when people use another person to make me jealous. I think the best way is probably to focus on work and study. But in my current situation, once I’m done with my project… my thoughts fly to her again. And I’m afraid it’s not healthy. I am relentless, but I know when there’s zero chance. That’s not the same for her pretty boy, I think that’s the one she has a crush on. He’s a nice guy, good person. And good for her, and her family would approve too. I really want to see her happy and safe. I’m not him, and I don’t want to be. I’m nowhere near perfect, I have many flaws and thank god for that. But whenever I try to move on, it feels like there’s sth inherently wrong. Like it’s tearing my soul in half. But it’s also the only way to end this cycle of unrequited love. Both sides deserve to be happy, and to have the love that lasts for a lifetime. Thank you for responding to this. It helps lift the pressure of my heart a bit.)
Its so annoying falling in love with a celebrity because deep down you know that its not love and that in real life, you dont even KNOW them. No matter how kind or amazing they are, I've never even looked at them in real life before. I wish I could experience the feeling of having a crush on a real person that I actually talk to.
This is honestly more scary bc I’ve liked this person for six months and according to the millions of things on Pinterest apparently it’s love. I’ve now been in a relationship with him for only a few weeks but these are like too relatable maybe I’m pushing out the thought of love because I’m scared of it
Oh she's both the biggest pain in my backside and yet the pain I couldn't do without me and her royally joke at each other and I'm noticing she's getting way better at it and I love that
@@Psych2go I did after I realized she had a boyfriend. But I respected that and still confessed. She loved my confession and claimed that I can see her and that I see her light
After seeing her for the first time in so long, all the memories of being an awkward mess around her came flooding back. It only took one hug and her joking about falling into my arms that I knew. I'm still thinking about her, maybe one or two people have noticed, the only reason we were both smiling so much is we were just having fun.
I knew I fell in love already with a girl... I've already admitted that I like herrr. And I noticed something. I am thinking of her all the timee. .. And thanks for the video
I go like omg I might not like them anymore and then I find myself staring at them lovingly for literally anything they do. Everything here applies to me😭😭😭😭
This is Super accurate. Before i was with my girlfriend, i was scared to tell her what i feel and stuff, but i have watched all of your videos that you guys posted, and it maked me feel like a different person. When i finally got the courage to tell her that i loved her , she just jumped into my arms, and we huged for like 4 minutes. It was the best moment in my life for sure.❤
I once thought a girl I had a crush on also had a crush on me at one point in school. I would do research on what signs to look out for if a girl had a crush on you (she fit most of the criteria, which intensified by beliefs), I would try to impress her by dressing differently than usual and putting on different body sprays, and generally she was all that I cared during those couple of months. I would have trouble sleeping because I was thinking of her, I couldn’t stop talking about her with friends, and I couldn’t stop fantasizing about how life would be like with a girl. Those times were blissfully amazing! Though, I eventually got to the point where I saw no signs of her liking me, and I thought it may have been a coincidence! Surprise surprise, it was. She never felt any sort of way towards me, and I as just a blissful and happy little fool for some short amount of time. I gotta say though, being blissful and naive like that helped me through so much stress and negative moments, because I was always happy (thinking of her). Now I look back to all those years ago and really regret being like that! But that has helped me change for the better. Just a other Eire episode in my life.... *sigh* I hope she’s alright
From my experience there's a fine line between good friends and love. These are signs that you are close to someone though you don't have to love them just because you recognize certain behaviour
I've seen my friend go through these phase and he looks genuinely so happy, satisfied, cheerful and relaxed. I'm just sitting here wondering when I'll get to experience this feeling...❤
@@Psych2go because they have, it’s like inside your mind, you have this angelic romanticized image of them that they’re your source of happiness and that they aren’t bad people, they just make bad decisions, but when you look closely at it, all you remember are more bad times than good.
oof, i felt this so deep within myself. currently in love with someone i am well aware is not good for me, and yet i still hope. i know they will never change; not for me, at least. i know they never appreciated me. i know they used me and don't care about it. they don't care about me. but i have all this love for them nevertheless. i love them how i've never loved anyone else.
This happens to me all the time but I learned that it is only temporary so now I keep myself in check. Bad doggy has to stay in the dog house or else its gonna get outta control.
I know for sure I'm in love. She's the most incredible woman I've ever met and I've never felt more comfortable with another person, so willing to be vulnerable yet aware that I'm Totally safe in doing so with her. When we're together we're constantly laughing, to the point where our stomachs will start to hurt. When I hold her hand I feel at home, and when we kiss I swear I could rocket straight to the moon. At times I can hardly even believe my luck, that she loves *me* of all people almost feels like a dream.
I feel like it’s been so long since I felt this way about someone let alone have a love or care for myself, but one day while out hiking with them we had a falling out. I ran off to this little path that went off of the main trail bc of the little quarry that was filled with water had always brought me so much peace and helped clear my head. They found me there crying and upset with myself, and we almost fell out again until one of us made a joke. It shocked me so much I don’t even remember if I made the joke or they did. Then we just sat there, and I just instantly knew I had somehow fallen in love. A truly complex but lovely feeling
